Reading these books made me realize so many of the texts I send out and the things I do are simply so that the girl will like me as opposed to because I want to do them. For example, I find myself continuing to text a girl even after I get to know her better and realize we aren't a good fit. Or I will invite her to an event even though she hasn't responded to my last few messages.

How can I decrease my neediness, but really just become more aware of why I am doing things so that I can begin doing things for me rather than for approval?