I am Indian and going to be 19 next month and I've been learning about seduction since a few years. There are definitely cultural differences, since what would work in America or Europe will not be the most efficient way to go about here, in India. So I try to tweak stuff I read and see on these forums and use it. Tbh all of it boils down to:

Building and breaking Sexual tension and having attractive characteristics. I am going to copy paste a note I made some time ago here:

  • Attractiveness - Make the most of what you have. Look the part.

  • Assertiveness - It's better to be hated. The more you Do to the environment, the less it does to you. Acts of audacity can be forgiven by more audacious acts.

  • Assuredness - Stop being apologetic. Wrong thing with assurance is better than unassuredness. You can always apologise later.

  • Attentiveness - They want the person they don't deserve, but somehow chooses them. Be present in the interaction instead of being outcome dependent.

  • Aliveness - Being willing to do something crazy sometimes. Stop being serious. Give her the emotional rollercoaster. You can always say sorry, if you go too far. Have fun.

  • Status - Make it feel like it's a win for them, instead of loss. Be authoritative, be centre of the party.

  • Smooth escalation - Subtle moves, make it a romance novel, like the wattpad stories. It just happened vibe is great to have.

Well, I am working on being better looking by going to the gym, grooming, fashion etc. My vibe is always chill and this is what I'm reframing my views as:

women don’t think of us in terms of black and white.

Sometimes they like you more and sometimes they like you less, their attraction depends on the emotional state they are feeling, at any given moment.

Think of their interest as a traffic light that can temporarily go from green, to yellow, to red continuously.

  • Green means you can escalate because she is a favorable emotional state
  • Yellow means you can escalate with caution
  • Red means you can’t escalate and need to stop for now until it changes again to green.

Your goal is to make her go from red light to green light, by making her feel positive emotions.

Your goal when talking to her, like I said is to make her feel positive intense emotion like laughter, joy, surprise, sexual tension, curiosity, desire, amazement,…

You need to forget about analysing if she likes you or not, or if she is interested in you or not, because that’s not how girls work.

You need to begin thinking: Is she feeling a favorable emotional state right now? Is what I am saying gonna make her go from red light to green light?

Sexualising the conversation isn’t about talking of your favourite sex positions, or talking about the Kamasutra book or porn or sex or anything like that.

Sexualising a conversation refers to making the conversation vibe go from a platonic energy into a sexual energy. The goal of sexualising is to create sexual tension with the girl.

Sexual tension is an emotional state that women experience when they are attracted to a guy. Talking about sex doesn’t necessarily create sexual tension, in fact girls talk about sex with their female friends or male gay friends all the time and they don’t feel that sexual tension at all while doing it because the vibe is still platonic between them even if they talk about sex.

Sexual tension in the point of view of a guy for example would be when a hot girl starts touching your thigh dangerously close to your private parts, and tells you that you are kinda cute while she bites her lips suggestively and looks into your mouth.

She would not be touching your balls, but the fact that she says you are cute like that, combined with the suggestive gestures and the dangerous touch in your thigh, you would probably get a boner cuz she is creating sexual tension by sexualising, which is turning you on.

That’s what’s sexual tension feels like, and her highly suggestive behaviour is what sexualising is, which is expressing your desire for her both with body language gestures, touch and words.

Now this requires skills and social intelligence, because doing this with a girl at the wrong time or in the moment can make things too uncomfortable.

You first need to create comfort with the girl, she needs to feel comfortable enough around you.

Then you need to qualify her, qualifying her means that you show her that you are seeing positive traits in her that justify your interest in her other than just her looks. Doing this sets you apart and makes sexualising far easier because she will feel good enough to let you do it.

Then comes sexual flirting or sexualisation, that is talking and behaving like a guy who wants to turn her on and is turn on by her, so you start telling her things like:

  • “That smile of yours is so cute is making me crazy girl”
  • “Can you repeat that again? I was distracted with your eyes"
  • “Girl, may I tell you something? (You proceed to look at her body and down shamelessly and you add) you looking like a snack”

You say things like this while also, using gestures such as the ones I mentioned above with the hot woman, like:

  • “biting your lips suggestively”
  • “looking into her eyes, and mouth while you bite your lips, as if hinting that you want to kiss her”
  • “Caressing the palm of her hands, her fingers, her forearms and her wrists, while you look into her eyes with smile”

This all requires you to do it smoothly, and it’s easier said than done if you don’t have experience doing it.

Like I said: Doing it wrong and anti-smooth can backfire at any moment. But to learn you just gotta practice with different girls until you get good at it. Doing this stuff makes the girl feel the sexual tension without having to talk about sex positions.