Rejected - I don't know what I did wrong.

nfg91 · 2013-05-04T17:20:15+00:00

Girls are fucking weird sometimes thats just the way it is. Happens to everyone - you, me, my best friend who gets girls by the dozens. But thinking about the million reasons why is never going to help. Just keep doing you, find another girl there are millions of them.

kingcal · 2013-05-05T02:02:01+00:00

First of all, unless you ask her, you can't know why she said no, and perhaps even though you wouldn't get a straight answer. Maybe she just had other plans and was busy. You can't always find a suitable time to meet up with someone right away.

Secondly, the whole "let me know" text after the rejection was awful. The only response you ever need to a rejection is "okay". Drop it and stop talking. Let her cool off for a couple days. Then text and start a new conversation. Don't remind her that she rejected you before. Just be fun and show it doesn't bother you, then invite her to something.

Third, the whole "I don't know what I did wrong" mindset will kill you. It's just a subtle way of asking "How can I impress this girl?" Your goal in seduction is not to impress any single girl, or any group of girls, for that matter. Your goal in seduction should always be building yourself up to be a better person. As I said before, you have no idea why she said no. It could be for any number of factors out of your control. Don't get bent out of shape over it. It just shows a massive lack of inner game.

The best way to work on inner game is to find out what kind of person you want to be and to make tangible steps towards becoming that person. Find a role model you want to emulate. It could be fucking anybody -- your dad, your successful friend, James Bond. It doesn't matter. Ask yourself what they would do in any given situation and do it. Find hobbies that you enjoy. Having an activity that you can do alone and enjoy will make you a much happier person. Once you've got that happiness from within, so many other parts of the game -- DHV, social value, losing AA, etc... just fall into place on their own.

2013-05-04T17:50:15+00:00

just roll with the "punches". Get back on the horse. It sucks if you liked her and she stopped showing interested in you cold turkey style. But nothing you can do.

Be true to yourself and the right girl comes along.

sagelydrunk_sedditor · 2013-05-05T05:53:03+00:00

You have way harder lessons to learn in the future, but once you get the hang of them they will be easier. What all the FRs and LRs and big talk in here don't mention is the fact that even if you have a good interaction, you might not get a number. Even if you have a good number she might not still feel it a day or two later. Even if you get a hang out she might totally flake (happens ALL the time). Even if you get a hang out the chemistry might not be there. Even if the chemistry is there the logistics may be awful. Even if the logistics are great and you get a lay she might completely ignore you after.

So rejection? Fuck it. Try setting up 3 dates at the same time and see how many of them actually pan out. 1/3 and you'd be batting a pretty good average.

Title	Rejected - I don't know what I did wrong.
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Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	May 4, 2013 4:06 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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