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[–]dalen52 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Build yourself up. You're valuable. It's like standing in a long line at the grocery store. What's the point? Focus on people who want to focus on you. Sorry to say the best thing for your situation is to focus on you and increase your value.
I don't think she's showing you how valuable you are.
[–]MichaelMichael8[S] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that's my view on it now
[–]Love-Gun 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Had a similar thing happen.
Asked to talk Asked if I pissed her off somehow. Let her go
Called a week later to see me. Still has the spark in her eyes said she wants to go back to her ex.
I tried to kiss her and she pulled me back. I smiled and called her a tease. Hung out a little, kissed her on the cheek and let her go.
A little bummed but w/e.
Wondering how I should handle her on the interim as I'd like to date her. And I know the relationship with her ex will fail. Considering going for her interested friend.
[–]Jacob_961 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Too much drama. Not worth to have a relationship with this girl honestly. Relationship is different from pick up. Pick-up is a hobby, it is a game that is played as a sport. Relationships are based on values, loyalty is the number one criteria for any relationship. That is why I tell you this girl is not relationship material. If you want a relationship, find a girl who is willing to be serious with you. Otherwise, your goal is to fuck this girl which is going to be hard for you since you care about this girl. It's not impossible but your goal should be escalation and not connection. Connection will not get you laid. You can connect to any ugly girl as easily you can connect to a beautiful girl. Connection doesn't mean much, it just means she likes you as a human being. Sex needs intimacy. Perquisite is a sex location. If you don't have any idea where sex can happen, sex will not happen.
[–]MichaelMichael8[S] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok it was a close enough connection where we were doing other things (not sex) but other things and she said she is not into hookups and her previous relationships were all long she has been very loyal over the past month as have I and I infact trust her more than any other girl here
[–]Jacob_961 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Never trust emotional beings. Read her behavior, what she says and what she thinks will always be inaccurate at best. Women do exactly the opposite of what they firmly believe 99% of the time. They have crazy built in them. Your job is asking for compliance. You want a kiss, you ask for a kiss. You want to sleep with her, you bring her to a location where sex is possible and you escalate. Asking her for feelings and connection is you working backwards. You are hoping she will like you enough to automatically bring herself in the mood for sex and then you give it a slight nudge and it happens, this is how most guys work and it is very inefficient and the cause of all heartaches. Let me try to explain it to you in the simplest way I know how. If you wanted a guy to pass you the salt, you would just ask him to pass you the salt right? You don't try to make him WANT to give you the salt without asking for it by creating an emotional connection. It is a ticket to crazy town.
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