Lurking seddit and applying techniques irl for a while now. So far so good. Used to not talk to any girls when out in bars. Things changed now, got it almost figured out but can't seem to get the last steps right.

Here's what I do;

1) talk with girl in bar when out with friends 2) get phone number 3) text smiley immediately 4) wait 1-2 days 5) text to meetup for coffee during the weekend (no questions, always 'let's do this at this place/time...' 6) drink coffee at small cafe, talk, a little bit of kino, no kiss 7) wait 3-4 days 8) text to meetup for a drink in the evening (this is the 3rd text, no texting in between, no questions, only statements) 9) meetup at lounge bar with live jazz music, more kino, rarely kiss 10) ...

This is where I'm stuck.

In the past month I've got 4 girls to drink coffee with me and go to this jazz place. But I can't get them to come to my place. I never know how to make the move between having a drink in a public place to going home together. When walking out of the bar I can't get myself to say 'my place?' for the fear of creating an awkward situation.

Advice on getting step 9/10 right??

update based on comments Girl 5: At jazz place tonight. Lot's of kino, so that's an improvement. But when trying to kiss, she refused. Saying 'no no no'. Kiss on cheek instead. When leaving the place again kiss on cheek. Can't seem to get in control in this kind of situations. Feedback welcome of course.