I'm new here and married.

Life ain't bad I'm pretty fit, good looking enough, good enough job, decent dad.... Above average for my age all in all.

I'm looking to eginte more passion in and for my wife (she is pretty damn dope too).

In looking at the fundamentals I think a bad self perception kinda throws me.

How does one address this... Just have more confidence bro doesn't seem to work or hasn't yet.

I've led with fake confidence borderline arrogance and it is so/so, mostly exhausting.

Anyways if this isn't the place no worries if so help an old(?) dude out and let me know how y'all have improved this without going down the road of external validation seeking