From "rookies" to experts, we are all humans. We all fall in a pitfall.

The difference is, how quick will you recognize if you do fall in a trap and get up.

Whatever the reason might be, if you are validating yourself "by" talking to her, you are not talking to her.

You are not having a conversation.

What you are doing is validating yourself.

Have a conversation.

The act of Conversation is the staple of every human interaction.

The act of conversation is an act itself. It's its own seperate entity. An action.

Have a conversation lads. Open your eyes and ears. You are engaging in one of the most beautiful doings of man kind.