Hi everyone - first post so be kind.

I came out of a long term relationship about two years ago and have been dating pretty constantly ever since. I feel like I’m relatively attractive. I have an interesting career and I can hold a good conversation. I tend to have lots of first dates that are fun but the spark isn’t there. I guess it cannot be manufactured, and often when they’re not feeling it it’s because I’ve already decided they’re not for me. I think I do struggle to take things to the next level though. Any tips for going in for a kiss etc on a first date? I realise it can’t be forced but there must be things which can move things in the right direction.

Background: relationship was 8 years. I’m a 30 year man from a small city 2 hours from London. I work for one of the most famous architecture practices in the world and live in London. I’m 5’9” and I have a degree in political studies. Brown eyes, brown hair, olive skin. Most people say I look Italian. Or Mediterranean.