Sex chatting (My experiences)

abrahvo0 · 2018-12-26T12:27:17+00:00

Rule #1 of dating, girls don’t want to feel like a slut.

hunterpua · 2018-12-26T13:17:23+00:00

Why does directly telling a girl that I want to fuck her put her off

Because this doesn't turn girls on anywhere near as much as this turns us on.

For women sex is pretty much guaranteed. Why is just another guy telling them that they want to fuck them sexy in any way?

Its different for men. We have to hope and generally work for sex so when a girl says something like, "I'm gonna give you the best blowjob of your life." it makes us bust out of our pants.

You'll do a lot better by describing in great detail how you would fuck a girl over text.

Saying things like...

"I'll pin you against the wall with both hands overhead, hold piercing eye contact while being so painfully close that you can feel the warmth of my breath envelop your face and neck, my scent so intoxicating, but no matter how you strain you can't reach my lips that become more and more tantalizing with every passing moment."

...will turn girls on way more than saying,"I'm gonna fuck you so fucking hard."

Try opening a romance novel at a random page and you'll see that the descriptions are very similar to the example I gave.

Besides the differences in availability of sex for us, men and women are also aroused differently.

For men, nice tits, a tight waist and a big ass are enough to do the trick.

For women, its more about the experience and the ambiance.

This is why the kind of porn that women like generally opens with some lovely dovey shit in a really fancy looking location and you see the performers being very sweet and flirty, making out and caressing each other before getting down and dirty.

Porn men like on the other hand is like Fake Taxi where the guy just bargains with a girl and they get straight to the fucking.

In fact just seeing the girl in the taxi is usually enough to get some guys ready to fuck like crazy.

If you understand how to properly arouse a woman then you will be able to get way more sex just texting girls than going on dates with them.

When I text girls like the example I gave we don't go on a date, they just come over to my place usually on the same day/night and attack me.

When you seduce a girl in this way you'll find that you don't even need to do any foreplay when she shows up because in most cases describing foreplay gets them as wet as actual foreplay does.

But when I don't say anything sexual (maybe extremely light flirting), I actually get the cookie. Could anybody explain this theory?

Because this creates the same kind of tension described in romance novels and proper sexual texting.

If you read the first chapters of a romance novel you'll realize all the main characters are doing is looking at each other and talking and the content of those conversations are usually not overtly sexual.

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In conclusion you can turn a girl on in any meduim, its only a matter of knowing how.

You seem to be better at doing that IRL so if you're happy with the way you're getting it done now just keep doing what you're doing but if you want to be able to seduce a girl from the comfort of your home then learn the proper way to do it over text.

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kathys1500 · 2018-12-26T21:10:46+00:00

From my perspective a man talking about sex can be attractive IF we are both in the mood.

However, I've met men who bring it up too early, killing the spark, because in my head I'm thinking, "he is thinking about sex already? Now? I want to get to know him more first. Is he this way all the time with women?"

I have to get to know the man first because we, women, have to be protective of ourselves as the man is typically stronger than us and if we get him upset he can do real damage to us. We have to weed out ANY sign of instability so we can try to tell if we will be safe being alone with him and not end up in bed with a psycho.

Case in point, recently, I met a man walking the same direction as me and we had random conversation until I got to the front door of my apartment complex. He asked to help me clean my drain(it was clogged), he asked for my number, he asked if I had a boyfriend, he asked again if he could help my with my drain, and finally he said he "is good at one-night stands. It creeped me out that he didn't notice my body language or listen to me saying "No" repeatedly. I walked away from him feeling irritated and grossed out.

My advice is to only have sex talk once you are in person with the girl never through messenger because in person you can gauge her reaction and back off the topic if she seems uncomfortable. Maybe that sounds boring because it's exciting to "set the mood" online but in my experience, too, it kills the spark.

2018-12-26T12:20:53+00:00

Yes, when they know they will get it there is no incentive anymore. When you don't mention it you don't sound desperate and when you meet it 'just happend'.

Alkat7007 · 2018-12-26T19:11:43+00:00

Girls also don’t like feeling there’s an “expectation” of sex. It can be a lot of pressure especially when we don’t really know the guy that well.

MBSCinsight · 2019-04-30T18:47:28+00:00

It all comes down to you. If you make sex this big deal it will be to her too! if you make it seem like it's whatever she'll be more relaxed and turned out by the fact that it's not a big deal to you. Women go off of a guys vibe. Don't talk about sex if you aren't going to do it in a confident way it will backfire on you. If you are hesitant she will notice it and it will make her question your abilities.

Title	Sex chatting (My experiences)
Author	AfricanAgent47
Upvotes	13
Comments	6
Date	December 26, 2018 12:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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