Sharing weaknesses

ChristopherPlank · 2013-12-02T20:41:29+00:00

Yes, if you're getting comments like that, it's likely you're communicating in a way that makes you come off as insecure.

One thing you can do is stop thinking about it in terms of "weaknesses." Everyone has things that they want to change about themselves, and you are actually taking steps to make that happen! And it sounds like you're excited about it, too! Good job! You aren't "weak"... but on the same note, realize that having a goal and accomplishing a goal are often viewed very differently. You may not want to talk too much about stuff you haven't actually succeeded at yet.

Let's say you met a girl who is morbidly obese. Like, easily 200 pounds overweight. She starts telling you all about how she's been getting into diet and exercise and making lifestyle changes to get healthy. Hey, good for her; that's admirable and awesome that she's taking those steps... but we may have a hard time feeling the same way about it because we only see her from our perspective, and from our perspective it looks like she still has a long way to go before she's achieved anything close to what we could call "success."

For some people (not me), being social and in-shape and dressed moderately well is easy and not a big deal. For those people, bringing up my interest in working out, fashion, or communication and behaviorism isn't going to seem very congruent unless they already have evidence that I have accomplished something in those areas.

Well, maybe I got off on a bit of a tangent there, but I would think a bit about the words and tone you use when expressing vulnerability or talking about improving yourself. What would be an example of something you said that got an unwanted response?

XionGuard · 2013-12-03T02:50:44+00:00

What exactly are you trying to gain? A girlfriend? Vagina? Or what else? Personally, I think there are a lot of other tools you can use instead of 'vunerability' to get girls ultimately attracted to you. Vunerability is something you shouldn't be talking about with a girl when you've only met her recently or on a first date. I don't know the length of your relationship with this girl but it sounds like it may be short. This girl may barely know who you are and you want to talk to her about your life struggles, that reeks of the friendzone. I would say that if you have known her for a longer period of time and multiple dates then sure, but maybe you put too much emphasis on your vunerabilities and solely talk about that only in hopes to get girls. It doesn't work like that. You will come off negative. Establish yourself as a confident and positive person to this girl first, because if you don't and you start talking about your problems right away it comes off as negative and needy, she will leave you instantly.

You need to read the thread in this subreddit about the guy who talks about being "OWED" shit in this world. It will definitely help you get a better understanding of yourself.

Title	Sharing weaknesses
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	December 2, 2013 8:25 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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