Shoot my shot on her ig

DaygameCode · 2024-08-26T16:14:48+00:00

I had wanted to ask you before I left but I fumbled tbh lol"

That part is not good. It shows you hesitated which is not good for girls to realize. If you wanted to do it and did not do it the girl thinks you are not confident. And that you only try to act confidence behind a screen so that's not gonna work very well for you.

but was wondering if you’re single cause I want to get to know you better

This also is not good because by saying this you are kinda pressuring to make a real quick decision about you which is generally gonna make most women feel rushed and say they are not interested because they don't want to commit by saying that htye are single to a question that implies that if they say they are they are therfore available for you no matter what.

It's like you are indirectly asking "are you interested in me" which makes the girl pressured to make a decision about their feelings before they have had a chance to meet you first. You need to understand that women make decisions based on how they feel about you, so if you have not given them first a chance to know you and evaluate your feelings after they get to know you, then their most likely answer is that even if they are single, that does not mean they would already be open to the idea of exploring romantic realtionship. ANd your questions seems too pressumtive as if you assume that her saying she is single means she has agreed to consider you in a romantic way.

So it's better to get to know her first, avoid asking whether she is single, and instead talk about how you like something about her and that you want to get to know her because of those qualities you like about her. Asking if she is single is pressuring and there is no need to do that to get laid rapidly with a woman or to date her and it can often be counterproductive because they are likley to feel defensive.

This does not mean that being direct does not work, you can hit on a girl directly and make your intentions known, but not in a way that forces them to make a long term decision, but rather make it about the present moment allowing her to feel intrigued without the pressure of making an immediate decision about a long-term outcome.

So rather than asking if she is interested in you right off the bat, you can express your interest in a way that feels ocnfident, but not pushy.

So rather than "Are you interested in me" say "i think you are interesting, and i'd love to ge to know you" to avoid creating a sense of urgency and expectation which only makes women feel pressured. First connect with her and then you may focus more about securing her interest.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2024-08-26T16:51:14+00:00

I had ended up asking my cousin if she was single (which she is) and got her Instagram from her which I then followed her and said “Hey it’s (my name), (cousins name) cousin, was nice meeting you the other night. I had wanted to ask you before I left but I fumbled tbh lol but was wondering if you’re single cause I want to get to know you better”

The message was not great. You basically told her you werent confident and immediately asked her out on a date when she probably has no clue who you really are outside of being her co-workers cousin. From your post Im not even sure if you talked to her (maybe you did). This text kind of makes things awkward for her and might even create awkward tension the next time you see her if she is not interested.

In my opinion I think this is you fumbled even harder and likely will get ghosted or a text just trying to be nice but that will not really warrant a response. No worries we've all been there. Just learn from this mistake for the next time. But I could also be wrogn adn it could be a nice story of how you were nervous when you met your GF. Who knows? it also dependso nthe girl.

What I think you should've done is use your tools to your advantage. The second you realize that you didnt get her IG, go to your cousin (like you did) and ask about her. Once you find out she is single through your cousin, tell your cousin that you are interested and have her serve as the "matchmaker" if she feels comfortable doing that. Basically I would've told your cousin to basically ask her coworker what she thought of you and tell her if she is interested to pass along your number or IG. Have your cousin talk you up for a bit because she trusts your cousin. Im not saying this is the best way but its the approach I would've taken. If she's interested than great if not then its fine no harm done and the next time you see the coworker there wont be awkward tension.

Title	Shoot my shot on her ig
Author	Good-Week-6131
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	August 26, 2024 12:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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