There’s a girl that lives in my apartment complex that I’ve been talking to on and off. A little preface, I became single about a year ago after a very long relationship and have been getting back into my game/rizz. I’ve been hooking up with a lot of girls, traveling the world, basically doing things that I was not able to do when I was taken.

I met this girl a while back, and after going back and forth about making plans we finally hung out. We chilled the first time and after getting to know her better, I became extremely nervous… we clicked right away, had a very good interaction, and I put her in the “potential” girl friend category. (I became nervous because I was not sure if I wanted to hop into another relationship after being in one for so long). After we both got back to our apartments, she texted me later that night saying that she was glad we finally hung out and was talking about other things (obviously a good sign). I sort of ignored what she sent and then she sent another text message asking if she could borrow some tools for one of her home projects she was working on… I also ignored that text message that night (I know I’m a dumbass). I texted her the next morning (we chilled during the day that day cuz she had a friends birthday to go to that night) telling her that I was sorry for not getting back to her right away and if she wanted to do something the following weekend. She basically said no worries, and that she was able to get the tools from someone else. She completely ignored the part about hanging out…

I tried to text her a bit after that, but either her text messages were very dry, short talked, or she would not even see them.

I got busy with work and some other stuff, and stopped talking her for a good while.

After getting back from my most recent international trip, I saw her walking around the apartment complex and we caught up and went for a quick walk. I asked if she was down to get lunch or something sometime, and she agreed (we both work remote). We got lunch, and sort of re-clicked.

A couple of days later, she asked me to go grocery shopping with her. We had a good convo and teased each other in a flirty way. When we got back, I did the cheesiest thing I could have possibly done lol. I gave her some chocolates that I had gotten from my most recent trips, and gave them to her with a postcard attached saying that one day she’ll also visit that country.

She kept texting me that day after we got back from the grocery store, and once again, I got nervous and stopped replying back to her.

I talked to one of my friends about the situation (he’s not that experienced) and he said that what I did may look good because I looked like I was playing hard to get. But after that I sort of decided that I would finally fully pursue this girl and if she became my GF, so be it.

I texted her a couple days after that, and once again, her text messages became very dry, short talked, or she would not even see them to reply.

I’ve been watching some Todd V videos, and other videos about how to text girls (I’m currently terrible at this) in one of the videos Todd talked about looking back at the text messages with the girl to figure out her blueprint.

I did this and figured out why she would start ghosting me all of a sudden; our text messages were good, our interactions in person were good, but when things started to escalate, I would ignore her(I had not realized this until I went back and saw the messages).

I’m wondering if I should try to ping value into the void, to try to restart the interaction again, or if I should apologize about ignoring her? (Obviously tell her that I just got very busy with stuff and never meant for it to look like I was ignoring her) with the apology, I’m just afraid I’ll be giving my power away and present my self in a low frame if I apologize