Here's a surprising reason why women don't feel comfortable enough to text guys back after exchanging contact details.

A lack of vulnerability

As you may know, there are typically two feelings you need to build to have a woman want to meet for a date.

SEXUAL ATTRACTION + COMFORT

Once they’ve got the hang of cold-approaching women, a lot of pick-up guys become brilliant at sparking sexual attraction. They’ll use jokes, wit, charm or whatever clever lines they’ve learned, and that’ll often be enough for a woman to want to swap contact details.

However, these guys never tend to show any flaws or vulnerability. The woman never gets to see behind the iron curtain of this “pick-up persona”.

That means there’s never an opportunity to build an emotional connection - so there’s no comfort built. She doesn’t know the real you, so she has no reason to trust you, and that can be reason enough for her to ignore your text messages. After all, men can be dangerous creatures...

Here’s what I'll often do...

When a woman compliments me on being confident, I’ll tell her that I didn’t always used to be this way. I’ll explain that there was a time when I couldn’t speak to men or women. I used to feel lonely and isolated, until one day I decided to start a journey to develop the traits I was lacking at the time.

Often, she’ll be touched by the story, and share something about her social vulnerabilities. All of a sudden, there is a unique emotional bond created.

Hopefully you see how this would increase the odds of her wanting to meet up again!

So, rather than aiming to be smooth and sophisticated like James Bond, don’t be afraid to show your flaws.

I’ve co-launched WhatsApp and Telegram groups for men who want to be incredible with women. Hundreds of guys sharing their success stories and getting feedback on their sticking points. To join a group, drop me a private message with your phone number (for WhatsApp) and username (for Telegram).