Silent Rejection

2017-12-17T01:46:58+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-17T08:46:43+00:00

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approaching random girls at bars/clubs

A couple things to check:

1.) Are you acclimating to the energy of the venue? RSD Tyler talks about how to get into the right mindset when you're going into a high energy place. You should be engaging in the fun of the place, which in clubs, would involve dancing to loud music. What you wouldn't do is go around trying to start up verbal conversations.
2.) The Gambler talks about how non-verbal communication is key in night game. He also gets into how non-verbal interactions give you a good sense of the girl's state and how open she is to you.

Overall, it sounds like you're going about this the wrong way if you're walking up to a girl with no idea about her state.

Not only that, but if you're walking up and opening verbally in a club, you're missing out on the most powerful ways to start out. (Actually, whether you're in a club or bar, paying attention and utilizing non-verbal interactions are the quickest way to get a feel for the girls in a room.)

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Just continue the conversation without them.

No. At this point, if you've walked up and been flat out rejected right off, you've already made mistakes by not pumping up your state before that, and by not utilizing all the non-verbal communication techniques at your disposal.

Standing there and awkwardly continuing to talk to them, is doubling down on all those mistakes.

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I'd speak up and say in a much more dominant voice, "I think you're rude to completely ignore me while I'm talking to you. I don't appreciate that."

Again, this leaves the original sources of the issue, completely unaddressed and recommends responding in a butt-hurt.

You're walking up people in a club or bar without acclimating to the energy level they're at, without partaking in the fun they're having, and when they ignore you as a result, simply protesting like this just doubles down in a REALLY awkward fashion.

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Imagine the following comparison: Going to a LAN party.

Say you show up without a computer.
You start trying to talk to people who are trying to play matches.
If they ignore you, do you then double down by raising your voice and giving them shit for ignoring you? Giving them shit doesn't change WHY they ignored you: you weren't joining in the fun, you were basically an awkward interruption.

You make up for it, not by chastising people, but by fixing the issue that led to being ignored. You get into a pumped up state before you go to a place like a club. And you utilize non-verbal communication to full effect.

2017-12-17T00:19:38+00:00

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Steve_Savage · 2017-12-17T09:31:45+00:00

Take the hint?

Lambdal7 · 2017-12-17T10:42:32+00:00

That's most of the time a shit test. Clearly, she isn't attracted to your looks much and since dozens of other guys have approached her with a generic opener, it doesn't seem like it's worth it to respond to you.

That's why

You need to have a better opener, a one that is personal, maybe a bit cocky funny
When she gives you the silent treatment, you are allowed to be a bit more cocky, since she has rejected you before and requires a bit more manliness for you to talk to her. You can say something like

Excuuuse me my princess purple (if she wears something purple)
Excuuuse me wonderful woman, I have a present for you (she asks what, you say me and keep going on why you are so great and that you talked to her because you think she is almost as wonderful as you)
Can I see you ID please, you have had a complaint and keep pretending that you're the owner. Most will give you the id.
Can I ask your advice on something? Do you think I look too cute in that outfit? Most day a man should look manly, but people tell me I'm too cute and handsome.

Title	Silent Rejection
Author	PhoenixFlameFire
Upvotes	12
Comments	10
Date	December 16, 2017 11:27 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7kad92/silent_rejection/
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