So this fb page i follow is 99% memes but sometimes it'll drop a wisdom bomb and the other day it dropped a big one and I feel like sharing it with you guys.

After multiple dates with multiple women from varying political and social backgrounds, here is the verdict:

If you're a young man just looking to casual date, you should not take a girl's listed politics literally; often it's social posturing because women survive socially and they don't want to be outcasts. Even the most publicly claiming far left/liberal women in person were actually pretty moderate. Of course you should recognize red flags if they are woke and prepared to take extra time and cause you grief, but you should generally just give them a chance to show their true colors in person if they don't seem too crazy. Even if you match with a girl that mirrors your politics 100%, that's no guarantee that her personality or charisma will match yours, most girls have a personality beyond their politics and after mentioning politics once they rarely bring it up again, so treat it like them talking about their favorite Disney movie.

First Date Ideas: -Coffee in the afternoon -Local farmers markets -A nice local park, and you can offer to bring coffees and walk and talk

The reason I discourage bars is because the first date is for you to vet her, not for you to prove anything to her. If she already matched with you, it means she made the conscious decision to meet you potentially so your first date should be a chance to talk and get to know her. The tropes like movie/bar dates should be avoided because there's no talking involved and therefore nothing is learned from each other, on top of how expensive it is.

To maintain frame, you'll want to generally save bigger dates for around after date 3, when you feel like she qualifies for it; because if you go too big too soon, even if your intentions are genuine because you think she's fun after first impressions, she can interpret it as eager/desperate; many girls I'm friends with have shared this sentiment regarding guys they date as well.

Most importantly, you've got to be comfortable taking a no, being ghosted, or flaked on with dignity; meaning if you get flaked, you don't message them the day of or after to see what happened, you just wait for them to reply and if they don't, you move on. The same goes for being ghosted; don't beg for attention and give up your dignity, take your ball and go to a different court.

If you're a high value guy who works out and takes care of himself, having multiple plates to spin should be easy for you, and that should mean that losing one plate shouldn't take a hit to your self esteem. If you're not taking care of yourself, and losing one girl's attention makes you feel like she was the "only chance left", you need to take a break from women and focus on yourself to lose weight, lift weights, stack money, and learn game.

You will lose money and gym time chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing the bag and your gains.

Ultimately as long as you know that high value women are the gatekeepers to intimacy, and high value men are the gatekeepers to relationships, you'll do well provided your arrogance and ego matches your power level. Don't write a check your self esteem can't cash.

Also if you're a guy in your mid to late twenties, and you work out, don't be surprised when college girls in their early twenties slide into your DM's. Girls get attracted to accomplishment and that will continue if you maintain that momentum through your thirties (I'm 27 and I've spoken to many men in their thirties about this.)

That concludes my research on dating.