I am going to be completely honest in my post. I never had any relationship so far. I have been on 5 dates in my entire life. I have kissed a girl when I was 23, boob play but did not F-close.

I am 30 yrs old now.

I was popular and smartest kid in my school and girls were all over me , but I didn't pay attention because study was main focus ( Indian parents ! hahaha ). In college also I continued with studies and achieved good grades. After working for 2 years in India , I came to US for masters. Then kept moving from east coast to west coast. I have lived in 5 states so far and finally trying to settle in California !

What changes I have done so far -

  1. I am vegetarian and care about calorie intake. I have lost about 30 lbs in 4 yrs and now look slim. I don't drink soda ( or any carbonated drink ) but drink coffee twice. I have been trying to cut coffee but so far no success.

  2. In last 4 months I have been going out a lot on weekends. I usually go to bars or clubs. I have great degree of AA and can barely speak to women.
    I have been practicing to talk to everyone ( men or women ). My AA is very high but I am noticing that its slightly less than what it was a year back.

My questions -

  1. I am getting lot of pressure from family to get married. I don't want to marry random girl. My parents are educated but in general , they are also feeling social pressure. All of my friends are married or engaged and some are popping kids.

  2. I am feeling that going to bars and clubs might land a one night stand for me some day. But, is it worth pursing if I want relationship and looking for marriage in year or two ?

  3. Call it luck or not, I am in Bay area , which is arguably toughest area to find date or relationship. Race, accent makes it more tough for me.
    I have been lurking on this sub and reading stories, advice, FRs more often.

  4. I am constantly thinking about getting a girlfriend or having a date 18 hours 7 days. I am not blessed with looks but improving wherever I can such as fit cloths, shaved head, nice shoes.

    Beyond reading books , what are tips and tricks to find women for relationship vs getting into one night stand ? I would love to have at least 1 ONS but I don't know given the competition here if it would ever be possible ?

    Beyond dance class, where do you find girlfriend/ wife type of girls?

  5. I need big help on carrying out conversation. I can say "hey, how is it going ?" once in a while but I can't hold intersting conversation. Can you tell me how to create attraction in small time window and what shall I say ? I read many times that you should say anything, but , unfortunately that does not lead to Number close or does not convert into date. If you don't mind , can any of you give practical run-down of how things progress ? Any videos ?

PS - I have finished reading Models, watching RSD videos ( got in trouble while pulling their style ) but I have not changed practically.