'Starfish' sex

Canada_Ball · 2019-12-27T02:42:49+00:00

I would argue that talking about this is something to be done with your wife. I feel like transparency and conversation can lead to a better resolution then a stranger's advice on the internet. You might want to check with r/relationships.

Are you working out? Did you keep yourself in good shape?

Sorta just reminded me of this video https://youtu.be/ZiDfZLJZTGU

good luck

BurnablesOnMondays · 2019-12-27T02:37:18+00:00

I've had issues with this in the past. It isn't always "lost attraction." Since you mention that she has been getting chubbier, my bet would be she just doesn't feel sexy or have the sexual confidence she used to. Happened with my ex. Buying sexy lingerie/costumes, (nicely) telling her what you like, and (gently) man-handling her into positions/movements you like while telling her how hot she is while doing it fixed it for us.

aubounty · 2019-12-27T07:10:01+00:00

I tend to pull back slightly and hint what I want when I notice someone becoming sexually distant.

Once people feel like they have you, they tend to think they can do less to keep you around.

WIA20XX · 2019-12-27T08:04:58+00:00

R/deadbedrooms

axe122 · 2019-12-27T21:02:44+00:00

I can tell by what you said your to indecisive with her. Simple things like she asks what you wanna watch on tv and you throw it back on her her to be nice and make her happy while hen she wanted you to pick.

I can tell your doing weak and needy behaviors and a little bit timid in the bedroom. Your letting her past experiences dictate what your sex lifes like. So the girls in college were more wild do you think they were just like that? Some guys got them comfortable having that kinda sex by leading the interaction. Every single girl I sleep with and date (a lot of these girls you would never expect would be this way In the bedroom good,nicer,sweet,professionals) give head constantly,want their hair pulled and to be spanked. They all say crazy dirty things and have wild sec where they love being dominated by me. I lead them to this kind of sex though. They won’t just be totally submissive to you or be wild in the bedroom without you leading that kinda interaction and showing them this is the kind of guy you are. Your behaviors in your general life are turning her off and she’s not interested in sex because she’s basically friendzoning you in your marriage. It sounds like she’s sleeping with you out of obligation and not desire. The good news is she’s still with you so you can turn this around and change your behaviors to a more dominant male and she’ll be wet for you all the time but don’t wait as the longer you wait the harder it is to reverse. Don’t treat her like your mom treat her more like your daughter, this sounds weird but a boy seeks his moms approval and tries to do things to get her approval but their maternal instincts kick in when you act like this and it turns them off. Women seek the approval of their fathers and that’s the kind of energy they seek for sexual desire. Strong,masculine, leader, decisive. A dad might do nice things for his daughter because he loves her but he won’t kiss her ass to get her love as he already has it. She feels like she has to get his attention not the other way around and this dynamic carries over into adulthood as well.

Title	'Starfish' sex
Author	hiitsmeandimppd
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	December 27, 2019 2:24 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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