Hello everyone,

Just to explain my story, I'm gonna try make it short.

I'm a male, 22 years old

I come from eight years were I entirely cutted off any contact with females regarding m-f relationships. Since A year and a half I used several dating app in order to improve my social skills and becoming less awkward and more confident with women. I got some breakthroughs, had some discussions, some flirt, and my game became better and better and more natural as it developed.

I had my first date a few weeks ago and it went really well. (Not to brag about, it was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen or even talked to, and her personnality was just perfect for me, we shared a lot in common) We were both really confident, we had a great time, we were flirting, having some physical contact, we talked about life, said some jokes, we really had a great time, and we ended the evening making out before I took her home with my car.

The morning after the date I received a message from the girl thanking me and saying she had a great time.

But the next weeks I started to see some issues I am now dealing with.

I started to work on myself a few years ago and I like to improve myself through self development. So I start to know how I should deal with my insecurities and my bad behavior to become a better person...

Today I see that my issue is that I take too much care of the responses of the girls whom I'm speaking with. It led me into "social thurst" as I try too much to get responses from girls on social media, sms, etc.

It was my problem with this girl, and I think I messed it up because of my neediness.

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My question are the following one :

How could I improve myself in this area and stop getting impacted by the silence of the women I'm speaking with + How could I stand out of the other guys, knowing that the girls I am speaking to, are speaking to plenty of other guys on social medias and are living in abundance of men ? How could I stand out, be at peace while talking with girls or while not talking with them ? How could I stop seeking validation or attention and just be confident of the girl or in myself ?

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Thanks for your help

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Sorry if I made some grammar mistakes, english is not my primary language.