Starting to get desperate

Geauxinue · 2016-06-15T21:55:17+00:00

First I would think of ways you would approach a women at the gym, store, work, ect. I usually pick up women when I go shopping. I like to open with a subtle compliment like "Nice tattoo or I like your nail." What are you making for dinner? Then I'll say I'm making whatever I am making for the night. Do you cook a lot? Maybe I'll cook for you one night. And go on from there.

Play it out in your head if someone asked you your question would you be weirded out by it? Would you have a short answer? Where can you go from there? Have a game plan and execute it. It's okay if you get turned down it happens.

Second get a hobby which involves people. Start to meet new friends that way. Join a community art class, do something that gets you out the house and around people.

Spend time with your family mom, dad, sister. I personally have a 7 year old sister we are 20 years apart and I take her everywhere. Women adore her always coming up to me saying how beautiful she is. Personally my mom is a really good wingman she is always like oh you are so beautiful my son should take you out.

Lastly have fun. The more fun and creative you get to approaching and talking with women the better for you.

YeahNahfuckOptus · 2016-06-15T14:05:12+00:00

How long have you been going gym for? Depending on your starting point, you'd need at least 6 months of good work to get results that you can be proud of. A well built physique is the first status symbol and it is a very easy way for girls to see that you value and take care of yourself. If you didn't, you wouldn't have spent so much effort on yourself.

As for the video games bit, I don't know if playing games are hurting your chances as much as the lack of a productive hobby is. Other than games, what else do you enjoy? Training? Writing songs? Poems? Reading books? Making music? Things like this are very general and can be used in conversation with almost anyone. You need to have one or more up your sleeve.

Now about the "real" you - do you have a core set of values that you hold yourself to? Do you have an identity for yourself? If so, are you familiar with it to the point where you know when you're not acting in congruence with your values? Everyone likes to say "Im a man who works for what he wants"... Except they don't. For example, he may want that girl but he's not working for it. This is not congruent with his values but people overlook it because it's convenient that way. Having a core set of values and having an identity will mean you don't need other peoples' opinions. Or more importantly, you won't be deterred by their opinions. Not even by the hottest girls.

Have you acknowledged your stronger and weaker points? Some people are great listeners. Others are great comedians. Some can talk forever and keep people engaged but they can't initiate physical contact and don't know what's appropriate. Figure out what you're good at, and what you're not. Once you do, learn how to use your strengths to your advantage and work of improving your weaknesses.

For example, I can make almost anyone laugh but I can't hold eye contact with people. So at the moment, I'm focused on just eye contact - I don't need to worry about what I say because I trust my ability to keep a conversation engaging. If I'm talking to a girl and making her laugh, looking at her in the eye will allow me to read her better and get the gist of how she's finding the interaction. It's a work in progress, but it's progress.

To be honest I've been known to say some weird shit at weird times but I have never worried about being "creepy". Not to say that I havent been called that - I have, many times. But it just doesn't bother me. No matter how smooth you are, some girls will find you creepy. That's alright - that's just like, their opinion man.

For me, it seems like you're unsure of yourself. Build a solid base for yourself by working on yourself physically and psychologically. Treat yourself well and respect yourself. Don't drift away from your core values and your identity. A strong base means even when you are getting rejected and you're feeling "low", even at your lowest, you will still respect yourself and stay congruent with your values.

And lastly, read "Models". Everything I've written above is either from that book or just me taking out of my ass. Not the most informational comment out there but hopefully it gives you a starting point.

Title	Starting to get desperate
Author	Try_232
Upvotes	4
Comments	4
Date	June 15, 2016 1:29 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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