Sticky Note Wisdom

Lately, when I'm reading or thinking, if an idea really strikes me I'll copy it onto one of those virtual sticky notes on my desktop. Said sticky note is now full, so I figured I would transfer the list here and start fresh. I understand Reddit isn't necessarily the best place for me to store a list like this, but there's always the chance somebody might find this valuable. So here's one more drop into the vast pool of collective man-knowledge that is Seddit.

• seek input, form independent conclusions

• don't change yourself. master yourself.

• 4 ways to build relationships: Ask/offer/trade/collaborate

• in conversation: Question/Challenge/Qualify

• Have a currency that's worth a lot to other people and that's cheap for you to give away. <-- the most valuable is human emotion

• A confident man actually has nothing to prove. An arrogant man is always trying to prove that he is confident.

• Always leave women better than you found them.

• Generic info gathering - bad. Finding out what kind of person - good.

• Make no apology, take responsibility.

• Need to be in control of overall situation and know where it's going, but don't always need to be in charge.

• exercise

• don't give a fuck

• honesty

• diplomacy & situational awareness

• spend time like money

• your confidence is well-founded

• find time to nurture inner self

• appreciate beauty in the world

• apprecite & understand the great patterns

• study for the love of knowledge, not grades

• think until it becomes instinct

• assume nothing & embrace what you don't know

• know what you're going to say, say it, shut the hell up

• stay in touch

• avoid use of the word no

• don't qualify yourself to people <-- ?

• don't sacrifice eloquent speech to blend in

• body stance

• What is the ideal lifestyle and who are the people you want in it?

• Shit testing means she's interested, needs to send you through the filter.

• "She will start asking you lots of questions. This is what chicks do when they suddenly find themselves attractred to a man they know nothing about.

• Repeat their words

• Voice tone: Go for neutral or breaking rapport; avoid building rapport (end sentences as statements, not approval-seeking).

• number closes mean nothing in and of themselves

• everybody needs to work out their own personal style

• If I don't feel nervous about the prospect of asking a girl out, she isn't right for me.

• Very few people are, in fact, really compatible.

• “There’s only one thing that will make them stop hating you. And that’s being so good at what you do that they can’t ignore you.” – Orson Scott Card, Ender’s Game

• The one thing these badasses shared was the source of their power: influence rather than authority.

• End on a high note.

• you're surrounded by timid, scared, small people and if you just ACT, you'll be in front of most of them.

• Never make someone a priority for whom you are only an alternative. | The only thing stopping me from having anything I want is my willingness to do whatever it takes. | Working within the rules is a slow process designed to profit others.

• dialated pupils = attraction

• most NLP is rubbish, but it has a few potentially helpful ideas

• anchoring (NLP)

• thought binding (NLP)

• trance words (NLP)

• presuppositions

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• minimize non-face-to-face conversation

• everything comes down to sales

• don't blatantly use (girl)friends as props

• opener: "I've had a crush ever since we met" (you just met her)

• open-finger hi-5

• spin

David Wygant:

• talk to EVERYBODY in line

• it's not about being part of someone else's party, it's about creating your own party

• fear is all in your head

• when you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything

• women are looking for a serendipidous moment

• women love you to be present

• they want to be yours

• don't give your power away - that means no pick up material!

• you don't want to be seen as a pua

• observe.

• it doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it

• don't ever doubt the power of fantasy

• always be the one to leave - when the conversation gets good, walk away

• call women by nicknames

• never wait. forget about not showing neediness. use momentum.

• dates are adventures. take her to target, give her $1.39 to spend.

• it's about creating memories

/David Wygant

• people tend to step up when they have a fear of losing something - Neil Strauss

• Just take your pants off. It works. : )

• All that has happened is that you flatlined when you were in seduction and now she interprets that act as comfort. This is almost fucking impossible to break out of (you'd have to seduce her without reverting to the step she is comfortable with) so don't do it.

• If you're not buying, then you're the one getting sold.

• (So my sisters always told me that if I see a pretty girl, I should tell her how pretty she is because it will probably make her day.")[http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pvbas/fr_a_three_day_experience_bad_to_good/]

• When she makes a guess in a guessing game: "Oh my god! ....no."

• "If you can say something in 10 words, say it in 3; if you can say it in 3 words, say it with your eyes." - James Marshall

• "Make no apology, take full responsibility" - Marshall