Night clubs reopened last weekend in my country, so I went out twice with my buddies to spend a good moment and also try to play the field.

I'm somewhat attractive and tall, so I get a fair share of choosing signals. Also, since we have girls with us and usually pay for some kind of bottle service, we tend to get some bonus attention. I'm also fairly popular in some places we go to.

I'm usually on the introvert side personality-wise, but a bit of alcohol usually loosens me up enough.

So I managed to talk to a good number of girls, get them to be reciprocative, have a good laugh, be touchy-feely on the dancefloor... But I could never bring myself to a REAL escalation. There was always either a bit of overthinking on my part leading to "missing the moment", or the girl's friends coming back and her then pulling away a bit.

Also, since club girls (and I) often smoke, I like to take them outside to the smoker's corner to make some conversation without losing our eardrums. This is sometimes good to build rapport, but with the downside of smelling like damn tobacco lol.

My friends are always like "Damn bro she seemed so into you", and this night out only confirmed further what has happened to me for months : I'm the king of "almosts", I'm the perfect initiator for flirting but the worst finisher lmao. Exception : the only time I get a girl is usually when her drunk self initiates everything.

So, how do I solve this first-world problem?

TL;DR night club game is like blue balls for me, I am good at recognizing IOI's and am never afraid to talk/dance with girls, but escalating somehow makes me nervous