Hi Seddit,

I'm a 25 year old newbie but been hitting the books/streets.

One of the sticking point I have been thinking about is, what Tyler Durden from 'RSD Blueprint' DVD calls "situational confidence" and it drives me nuts.

Basically, he says that any bartender in his bar or the Denny's manager could pull easily, flirt and hook up with the girls working in those environments because these guys have already a natural rapport given their situational status but as soon as they are put into a outside environment, like at another party, they become just another chode chugging their drink.

I think most guys can relate to this as I have had experiences in college as an RA addressing the impressionable freshmen, at work as a senior employee addressing the interns - you can feel the swagger just swimming in your veins or if you are at the club with some crazy female friend rubbing you up and down, and afterwards you somehow feel like you gotta the magical penny and now seems like every girl in the club got that glassy-eye look at you.

I think this is the reason why most guys want to be i-bankers/doctors, be in frat or be in some kind of high-society yuppie social circle evident in facebook newsfeed but this is not what I want! Because it's a golden-handcuff. I want to be able to walk into any situation, keep my cool, try my best and keep my cool after crash-n-burn and keep on trucking onto the next set/day/routine and get better.

This is what I want is to get better in unstructured environments because I find it so easy to talk to people when you are associated by work, alumni association or some kind of meetup interest group but it's so much harder when it's out on the street or just in the club. You guys have any tips on approaching women sarging solo, out on the street? Do you think of something observational about your mutual environment to say to start the conversation or do you just go for the direct opener and say "hey, I saw you and you look like a pretty cool person and want to talk to you" and what is your mindset before and after a crash n' burn because lines aren't important, it's how you come across that matters.