Suggestion on improving self-love, self-respect, groundedness

HomelessMilkman · 2024-09-04T16:37:26+00:00

Meditation is a good practice for processing situations you've been in after the fact.

A more 'active' approach is being self-aware of involuntary tension. You should be limp and loose, as if you were going to fall asleep. Now embody that in your daily life with all of the stimulus around you - do it in the club, do it while infront of a girl, do it in situations that unsettle you.

Again, the goal is to be relaxed. Knowing what 'triggers' you, allows you to go against the convention of tensing up and shutting down.

Being able to do that, be relaxed in any situation, allows you to have fun in any situation. It allows you to enjoy any situation, it allows you to open your eyes and see what's happening beyond your internal problems. From there, dating is an afterthought - you don't need anything at that point. You need approval for what? To relax and enjoy yourself?

Born-Gap9125 · 2024-09-04T18:30:15+00:00

Metta meditation, thank me later

Alphagreen_97 · 2024-09-04T04:08:24+00:00

There is a spiritual couch on YouTube, I think her name was something like Teal Swan or something. Anyway, her definition is essentially: Self love depends on the moment. Self love right now might mean eating that piece of cake even tho you're trying to lose weight. Or it might mean taking a rest day even tho you're trying to gain muscle.

I personally believe Self love is essentially doing what's good for you LONG-TERM. BUT you should also find time simply enjoy yourself. Even more importantly, true self love is NOT loving yourself only under conditions but ALL THE TIME. Balance is key.

Additional-Soil-3661 · 2024-09-04T04:09:21+00:00

affirmations and discovering the law of assumption tbh.. in general you can rewire your brain with affirmations. tell yourself you're amazing constantly and you'll start to think it

97_Analyst · 2024-09-04T04:32:37+00:00

Subtle art of not giving a fuck has some advice that I found helpful

I think not taking yourself too seriously, being present, and accepting that you will suffer but can choose your suffering are useful for staying grounded and developing self-appreciation.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-09-04T05:37:55+00:00

Assume that you are already good enough. That's the default baseline assumption.
Whenever you don't feel good enough, identify the specific insecurity that bubbled to the surface. Work on that insecurity.

If the insecurity is related to your skills, work on improving those skills by practicing or reading.

If it's related to your looks - work on the part of your looks you can change and try to own what you can't change.

If it's related to some beliefs about yourself or about other people: work with a therapist or do some cognitive therapy exercises to reframe those beliefs.

If it's not an insecurity, but you're just being mean to yourself with bad language, argue with that devil on your shoulder. Don't let him win.

333gtz · 2024-09-04T06:46:15+00:00

Do things that actually matter to you and work towards your goal, not gaming or any of the degenerate shit. The more you show up for yourself, the more you build respect for yourself. Self-affirmations also work, I didnt believe in it until I started treating myself kinder.

Dandys3107 · 2024-09-04T09:29:36+00:00

Treat yourself with care, protect yourself from unpleasant situations, don’t put others higher than yourself, nurture and exercise your body, clean and pay attention to your mind. Be your own best friend, but not only in mind space, prove it by real actions and decisions.

Title	Suggestion on improving self-love, self-respect, groundedness
Author	BrandsonVirgin
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Date	September 4, 2024 3:58 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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