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[–]Gazela1997 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No magic formula, no magic shortcut
Literally
just fucking do it
[–]throwawayaccountoke 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey man, it’s a big mind set thing, you’ll try, you’ll fail and you’ll repeat. Think about what you want to say, go over to her and say it, remember it is more about the motive behind what you’re saying and the emotions you convey as opposed to what you say. For example if you approach a girl with the mind set of “I hope she likes me, I crave positive feed back” she will see right through it. Have a mind set where you think “this girl looks cool, I hope we could have a fun experience together.” And remember failure only truest sets in when you give up.
[–]bluespin542 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This works for me, when you didn’t take action and after you have gone home, you think about how wasted it could be, how that wonderful lady could have been a Friend or even more.
You beat yourself up and realise there’s no worse feeling than living in the present of “what ifs”, and you tell yourself whilst remembering, this is the feeling you want to avoid for life.
As Long as you don’t eat where you shit, literally the worst thing that could happen is knowing you approached and got rejected that’s all. Also the 3 second rule, the longer you think, the harder it gets
[–]WiseGene 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There's two psychological "tricks" that I use:
#1) Depersonalise the situtation. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depersonalization) Basically, treat the interaction as a dream or a simulation. If you're in a dream and see a beautiful woman and there are no consequences, what would you do? Within reason, of course.
#2) Sometimes I like to think that I've died, and am reliving my past, except I now have the opportunity to change it. What would I change? Be more daring? Stop being so scared?
[–]dailymanup 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Read this article called fuck it. You have to just do it. I promise that after you do it 10 times, it will suddenly start to feel easier. Then do it more and it will get even easier.
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