25 M, never had a serious girlfriend, the few girls I’ve ever hooked up with came as a result of them being putting in all the effort and me following. It’s been a long time since I’ve done anything at all though, including getting laid, hell even making out with a girl, and I’m kind of clueless as to what to do. Most of my friends and even my family are surprised I don’t date anyone because they claim I’m a decent looking guy with a good personality. A lot have asked me to try online dating which I have attempted but I am also completely clueless about.

I am not sure if I am overanalyzing things or I am missing out on something. I have many female friends (probably more than guy friends) who I have never had any intention of getting with. My problem is that I treat everyone no matter who equally and in such a platonic way but expect absolutely nothing out of it.

But to my point, tried online dating. Got a couple meetups but to me it was again just another social meetup and nothing more. I have no idea what to do to build tension, get the other person attracted, flirt at all, etc. Date goes by, we go home, we follow up, convo dies because I have no idea what to say after a while. I want to experience what it means to be in a relationship or dating someone because I feel this is the right time to do so and sometimes I feel that I’m missing out on something that should be normal for someone my age. What am I doing wrong, how do I do literally anything that’s beyond platonic?