Hey all,

I don’t have any kind of game. I usually try to treat women how I want to be treated since when I’ve tried to flirt my friends have just said it’s cringe worthy at best.

My problem, well one of them, is that I treat people kindly. I want to be nice to people, I want people to be kind to me. I’m not out to date a lot of different women just one good one but how I’ve been myself just isn’t working.

A woman that I’ve been interested in for a long time told me that she wants me to tease her. To make fun of her. She said that for some reason there’s something she doesn’t trust about someone who is consistently kind or nice. While I do make fun of her when she’s clumsy or it’s too easy not to I tend to avoid it because I feel like I just come across as mean, not funny.

I’ve watched some of my more “successful” friends seemingly effortlessly flirt. Women come to them while I always approach. When I try to talk to my friends about it they’re vague and really don’t seem to understand why this is the case.

So, fundamentals, how do you tease a woman? And I mean woman, not a girl. I’ve watched her be pursued by so many different men. I don’t want to just be one of the long line of idiots.

Confidence, yes, I understand that. I have to work on it. To fake it a lot of the time, but still, there’s more to it than that. Being hot helps but that’s a crutch. I want to clear the hurdle of attraction and take every step after that.

The older I get, there are less and less women I find attractive. Finding one who does is like electricity pumping through my veins, and I don’t want to mess up anymore than I have. I’m kinda expecting a roast here but hey maybe I’ll still learn something.