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[–]Gregarious_Dingo 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The above conversation can be ended immediately if you want, or just make up something that is relevant to the topic, but steer to the fun part. When I text with someone, I usually go along the tide, maybe change a bit. I suck at giving advice at this texting game, but just letting u know
[–]IBeSomebooty 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some girls get turned on by getting ignored for so long, Don't sweat that part man, usually that shows you have shit going on in your life to care too much about her. (alpha status) especially if you text her and she immediately responds is usually a good thing, usually one good Indicator of interest.
You want to seem like you're always fun, tell her what your up to. (even lie) and pretend like your hanging with some buddies drinking some beers or some shit. start talking about a movie you seen, and what you really enjoyed about it and why. whatever makes sense to the real you. then ask her questions about herself, or what she would rather be doing when she's off work. then ask "wanna grab a bite after work?"
take it slow, but slowly, make it dirty without being obvious. "ohh they must like you, you're the type of girl I'd want to work for me." jokingly. then she might ask or shitshame you, have something ready to answer her when she questions you with "what do you mean by that?" i'd say "I bet you can do all kinds of things." and if she questions you further about that, completely change the topic. go back to the movie you were talking about earlier. and then ask her to come back to your place to watch said movie. then you can put on whatever you want and make whatever excuse you want to watch a different one. but if you go this far with my advice you better not pussy out and not put your arm around her and go for a kiss during the movie at some point
[–]2dice1hand 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
its hard because you care, you care because you don't want to mess up...you don't want to mess up because you seek her validation and approval...you seek that because you gain your self worth from other peoples opinions of you instead of your self option of you...also know as self esteem. you boost your self esteem and you begin to not question your actions and instead just take action. you get to a place of high self esteem and confidence a thousand different ways and the person who goes down all thousand roads is the one with the most confidence because he keeps seeking out ways to control his mind instead of letting it control him. all you need is a little guidance and you'll start building some positive brain reinforcement from taking chances and seeing that nothing bad happened and in fact she responds positively.... but the point is to get to a point where she can either take you or leave you and it doesn't bother you because you have options. and a man with options is a man with power and a man with power is attractive to women. game is a thousand moving parts and there al interconnected making up the version of you that is presented to the world and you have to love that person because that is the backbone of true confidence, self love. from what i read in your message you have good social intelligence in person so you have a ton of potential, just relax when you get a text, let go of the pressure and tease her a bit.. push pull is the basis of flirting and its effective. although without you knowing it your no response gave the impression of you being high value because your attention was on other things and not focused on replying to her... so that's a plus but it would be more powerful if you actually had her craving more before you stopped replying. answer me this, what exactly is it you wish to gain with her? a relationship, casual hook up, or just continued slow building of flirting amongst coworkers? let me know if you have any questions for me, it got a little wordy there and down the rabbit hole of opening your mind but i believe people need to hear that so that they themselves can wake up and seek out true freedom
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