Texts between me and HB9

stewsky · 2012-02-14T07:58:01+00:00

me: Hey I forgot whose turn it was to text. So if it's mine... Hi

Her: Hi there

me: Hellooo. Enjoying this crazy day?

Her: Today has been a good day, just enjoying life. Hows your day going?

me: My mind is currently a swirling vortex of chem and math. Total clusterfuck. I'm scared for our math test

Her: I'm also currently experiencing that too but for some reason im not freaking out for calc yet

me: Teach me your ways... Wanna review together tomorrow? I'll grab a table at the [place]

Her: Lol sorry, i keep my secrets to myself. I might be studying with some other ppl tomorrow but i'll let you knoww

me: Note to self: don't ask popular people to study with you

Her: Why do you think/say im "popular"?

me: I meant poplar. Like the tree. You know, cuz you're tall (she's as tall as me, 6')

long delay

Her: Yeah good one.

me: You smiled. It's okay. Gonna take a practice test, talk to me tomorrow

Ill just leave this here.

Chakosa · 2012-02-14T05:50:22+00:00

Note to self: don't ask popular people to study with you

Not sure how I feel about that one...

frogma · 2012-02-14T08:07:01+00:00

You're too invested, she's on-and-off (not much you could've done about that since you initiated and didn't get much feedback).

Some of your lines (the first one, probably the second one, the one about her being popular, and both of the ones after that) were coming from a place of lower value.

In the first one, you initiated, and then kinda obviously tried to hide the fact that you felt like talking to her (I probably would've just said "hey" and left it at that).
I used to ask girls how their day was going all the time, but I stopped doing that for the most part because it's boring and the answers are usually shitty. Your choice though- it's not a big deal, just kinda typical (and don't get me wrong- I still do it, I just avoid it when I can or when I'm trying to set something up).
The one about "popular people" was especially bad because you're just being self-depecrating, and not exactly in a humorous way- which just makes it worse.
The next line was a defensive tactic, probably because you didn't really know how to respond. The joke was decent I guess, but it sounds like it fell flat.
I would've phrased your last line to be a bit more blatantly teasey, because at first I didn't know what you were saying exactly (at least use a ;-), or rephrase it). Then you cut off the convo, which is usually good, but I don't think the timing was right. Should've cut it off either before "popular" line, or talked for a bit more so you could end on a high note.

There's a lot of things about how you handled her line about studying that were a bit off. A couple of better options:

Just say "Alright. I'm gonna take a practice test, I'll check with you about tomorrow" or something along those lines. That way you're not showing any disappointment, and it's almost like you're assuming you'll be hanging out- which is good because you have no idea how serious she is about studying with other people (she could easily be bullshitting you). So you're kinda forcing her to just go along with your mindset, and then you're sorta pressuring her into studying with you tomorrow unless she's dead-set on doing it with the other people. At the same time, you're not actually making her commit to anything- you're just getting your foot in the door.
You could've said "Alright, let's have a study orgy then."
Don't respond at all. Besides the other 2 options (or anything similar), there's not much you can say in that context. Unless you just change subjects, which could've worked.

When she asked why you thought she's popular, (like I said, the joke was alright, but meh) I probably would've responded directly to her question. It's basically just a shit-test, so you can agree and amplify ("Aren't you the head cheerleader?" or something like "Well you get people to study with you like it's no big deal, while McLovin over here has to study by himself like some sort of freak"- which is kinda self-deprecating, but clearly a joke. Then you still wanna push it in the right direction afterward).

It's not too useful to overanalyze like I'm doing right now- just trying to show how the mindset should work. I'm usually more cocky/blunt over texts, and more to-the-point. So I would've said "Hey," then probably just straight-up told her to come study with me tomorrow. Then when she says she might be studying with other people but she'd let me know, I might say "those other people are jerks, just come study with me," or just said "alright" like what I said above and left it at that. Keep it simple, and don't be texting on-and-off like this all the time. Ideally (just my opinion) you should be meeting her for the first time and then fucking her asap instead of dicking around. Then you don't have to worry about bullshit conversations like this in the first place.

If you end up studying, only be half-focused on it (there's absolutely no point in studying with a girl unless you're gonna be doing some other shit too). You wanna be talking and laughing about other shit in between. There's also no reason to do it at [place] when you can just do it in one of your rooms.

If you don't end up getting together, and especially if it seems like she's blowing you off, cut off the contact for a while even if you don't think it's a good idea. I have a feeling the on-and-off (but consistent) texting is a big part of the reason you haven't put your dick in her vagina yet and it's definitely why she's not jumping at the opportunity to come study with you instead of the other chodes.

Edit: In the future, instead of just asking about how their day's going (which is ok but nothing special), use some callback humor instead. Start off with some sort of tease, or ask about something specific (hopefully humorous) dealing with the last time you talked- or dealing with basically anything more personal. A decent one is "I just saw your twin at [place]!" then after she responds you say something like "Yeah, she even had the same crazy/dorky [some aspect pertaining to her]." It lets you open up a convo in a nonchalant/funny way and gives you a reason to start the convo in the first place (and try to have it be something that actually happened instead of just making shit up, if you can). Or sometimes I just randomly quote songs/movies for no reason (though I try to use something that seems relevant to her)- then you got a convo going and you already have a conversation thread. Just something to think about for those times where it's been a while and you feel weird about randomly starting up a convo.

cdank · 2012-02-14T09:51:07+00:00

You failed this. Bad. Then you posted it on reddit for all to see.

You give away value like Oprah gives away cars.

"And YOU are better than me, and YOU'RE better than me, and YOU'RE BETTER THAN ME!"

seggy · 2012-02-14T07:34:36+00:00

Imo, shouldn't of asked her to teach you her ways. I would have told her that I am pretty sure I'm going to ace the tests and am getting some extra studying in at [place] at a specific time, offered my help and left it at that. This way, it doesn't make her feel that she is the reason for your plans. The whole popular tree thing i felt was just too much of a desperate attempt at recovery and probably confused her if anything. Hopefully you get with her though, if not...you live and you learn.

Title	Texts between me and HB9
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Date	February 14, 2012 4:28 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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