tldr: F-close on first date. Huge thanks to things I've learned here on Seddit.

An LTR (6 years. AKA since high school) recently turned 'open' for me, so I've been thrust into the world of having to actually care about what girls think about me. First, I found Tinder. And it was fun and I'd chat sometimes, but never really got anywhere as lots of the girls on there were just kinda boring or wouldn't respond when a date was suggested. During the course of this I found Seddit and started applying some of the things I found here (such as being direct and not wishy-washy when suggesting dates, keeping open/confident posture and learning how to actually carry on a conversation). Obviously, you have to tailor all of this to yourself and there isn't just a magic formula that works for everyone. But anyways, here's my success story....

Started talking to an HB7 on Tinder. Probably an 8 looks-wise, but she smoked so dropped to a 7 in my book (just personal preference). 21, sorority girl vibe, turned out to actually be an inch or two taller than me (I'm 5'7", but 22).

We'd messaged some the day previous, but she ended up being "too tired to hang out" so we rescheduled for the next day (thank GOD for the 3-day Labor Day weekend....). I message her earlier in the day about some BS just trying to talk (I have a bad habit of just chatting girls up through text instead of focusing on dates) and got no reply. Waited 6 hours or so, said Fuckit. She wanted to last night so I'll risk a second message.

That turned out to be the right choice.

Hey, let's get drinks tonight!

Reply comes in a minute or two later

Yeah, definitely!

Short convo follows. It's 8:00ish at this point and I say I'll pick her up at 9

Pick her up, smalltalk on the way to the bar. I prefer driving because it gives me a reason to not drink as much which

a: saves money

b: helps performance in bed compared to drunk me

So, we get to the bar. She doesn't have her ID ready (which I probably should've mentioned to her) so ends up having to dig through her seemingly bottomless purse looking for it. Was a bit awkward (for both of us, I'm sure). Fortunately the bouncer was cool and made some convo with me so she had less pressure on her.

We grab drinks (apparently we both love Guinness) and I work the mouthpiece. It's no million dollar mouthpiece at this point, probably a thousand dollar mouthpiece, but it sure is better than the $12 mouthpiece I started with........I worked on just archiving what she said for later topics and also using each topic to its fullest (before it becoming overdone, at least) rather than jumping around.

The entire time, I listened and watched to get a gauge for her personality and how she responded to different things that I did (reading people is something I am very good at) so that I could adjust my reactions and responses accordingly.

I could've done better with kino, but we were sitting across from each other at a small bar table and I didn't really have any ways come to mind for how to actually make contact. Something to work on, I suppose. I did, however, get our faces pretty close to talk or react several times throughout. Which she didn't seem to mind at all.

There was a football game on TV for the home college team, so that ending (and us ending the second round of drinks) was a good opportunity to change scene. So we head out of the bar are walking down the street and she's digging in her purse for a cigarette. I'm looking at her while walking and a light pole comes out of nowhere. She doesn't quite walk straight into it, because I see it at the last second and say something. But she comes close enough that I establish some kino guiding her out of the way. It also built a small running joke that I used once or twice when we approached light poles.

At one point we were waiting to cross the street (I was on a path back to my vehicle) and I said

Oh shit...I completely forgot where I parked

Are we headed back to your car then?

If you wanna go to another bar we can, or we can go to the car

I think I'm about ready to head back to your place. Significant eye contact with a little eyebrow raise on her part

Sounds like a plan to me. insert devilish smile here

Hell yea

We get to my place. Head straight to bedroom. Small talk and remove shoes. Look/laugh out the window at the people nearby partying (college town...). Lay back on the bed.

Shit that ceiling light is bright. Mind if I turn it off? (there was some mood lighting)

Go for it.

click

Back to the bed

At this point she basically jumped me.

F-close. I'll spare the gory details. It was pretty good though.

I drive her home "Hell no I'm not gonna have you pay for an Uber!"

She said she'd like to do it again sometime.

I'd call it a success for my first new date in 6 years...