Hey just dropped there.. it's a subreddit I would use to read a lot. Had a tons of amazing experiences thanks to you guys, and the community of seduction.

I now hardly come there though. Guess why. I have a girlfriend.

Maybe we'll eventually break up. Maybe I'll come here more. Maybe I won't.

However I came to see what seddit was up to and what strucked me the is recurrence of topics. Nothing has changed. Seems like past AFCs became good, and are now (hopefully) giving good advices to new AFCs who replaced them. Some guys must have became really good. Others may have quitted. But where are most of the average guys that became really good? Seems like they moved on. They probably have a girlfriend too, or just went for something else than women. Now if you're a newbie, or someone who strongly believe in pick-up, you may think, indignated, that they "lost". Okay I've slept with 16 women now. That's not an impressive number. What is impressive to me is that out of these 16, there's 3 I would have spent my life with, one being my present girlfriend. I had others opportunities. If I'd go on I'd be really good I guess. But what's really good? What is the point of all this if it isn't to make you happy? And how's sleeping with 100 women supposed to make you more happy when you just need one?

And don't get me wrong; I've had my share of experiences. I've had a long term open relationship, and enjoyed it. I've had up to 4-5 fb at the same time. I went with younger girls, and way older. I've been all kind of person and all kind of lover. Did I had a lot of fun? FUCK yeah!

..Did it fullfiled me? Not really. I improved, as a person, and my whole life has benefited from it. But when you've orgasmed, no matter how hot the girl you hold in your arms is, you'll came to realize that it's worth nothing if you don't have a real connection with her.

I'm not here to kill the vibe, fuck no! You should go for your dreams, your dream girl(s), your dream girlfriend(s), go on, have fun, enjoy, experience. That's something that shouldn't be missed!

But don't think this will bring you happiness. Happiness is something you'll find in yourself. The worst advice in the community is said to be "Be yourself". Well you've heard Tyler (and if you don't, you should check him out), it should be "Be your BEST self". Well, I'd had : but don't do it for women. Don't get lost. Your goal is to be happy. Sleeping with a lot of girls just to prove something to yourself or to others, be it conscious or not, will only bring you sorrow.

Find a girl you like. Don't try to be something special. Just try to connect with her, on both emotional and physical level. Find out if you're a great fit. And if she is, take care of her. A girl you really like and can share depply on all level is rare, don't be fooled by numbers, don't be fooled by the "there's plenty of fish in the sea" kind of thinking, do what it takes to make you happy, and make her happy.

There's no perfect girlfriend. There's only flawed humans. We all are one of them. Learn to embrace and you'll be really happy, and you'll find girls you'll have a true connection and chemistry with.

Listen to your hearth, your guts and your inner voice. They're always right.

Peace.