Intro:

Game has several layers. One is the process to from meeting to sex. The following is a blueprint, based on how a spontaneous daytime meeting would occur, for how to run daygame in a broadly effective way.

Body:

For the longest time, I was beating my head against the wall that is 'natural game.'

I was trying to follow axioms like 'have fun,' 'be dominant,' and 'be present.'

But trying is different than doing.

Is easy for questions like 'am I being present' to get in the way of actually being present. Similarly, the last question a confident person would ask themselves is 'do I look confident?'

Don't get me wrong - good mindsets are helpful. They are part of the puzzle, but not the whole puzzle.

After a while, I realized that game has different layers to it.

You know how some guys claim that looks, money, and status are crucial? And how other guys will claim that behavior in the moment is ultimately what matters? Even others will say logistics matters the most...

They're all true to some degree.

Each one of those aspects is a layer to the interaction. And there are at least 6 layers in every interaction. I'm not going to get into each one now.

Today, I just want to tell you about one of these layers.

It's the one that gets talked about the least.

It's the PROCESS. What are the steps involved in meeting and pulling chicks? What does that entail, how is it done, and in what order (Obviously, there's always variation, but what's the general route?)

For me, I started noticing a pattern in the phases of my successful daygame interactions.

When you stop and think about it, these phases match what you'd expect from a spontaneous meeting during the day which naturally develops into more.

These phases are simple: the open, screening, the date, pulling.

Open

  • Assess. Take a moment to observe and notice things about her. What's she doing, how's she feeling, who's she with, etc. This is all valuable info which will help you calibrate before you open. It can also give you material for the open and transition.

  • Open strong, not weak (don't sound afraid or sneaky). When you open strong, you more easily capture attention, thus saving yourself effort down the road. Strong doesn't mean forceful. Instead, it's more unapologetic and unashamed.

  • Get her focus. Make sure she's actually paying attention to you before you try to communicate with her.

  • Statement of empathy. Mention that you know it's strange that you started talking to her, or otherwise demonstrate a bit of social intelligence.

  • Statement of intent. Offer her a reason while you are talking to her.

  • Takeaway and transition to other content. Change the topic. Stack different contextually relevant conversation topics until something hooks. Don't dwell on any one topic for too long.

Screen

  • Check compliance and comfort. Do something to force compliance. This could be as small as moving the set a few feet.

  • Qualify. Let her know why she's cool enough to hang out with you. Use this only as a reward for her complying.

  • Get her logistics. Figure out what she's doing and if she's available for an instadate. Bounce or seed the idea of a date, and messenger close with plans to meet.

Date

  • Assume familiarity. If meeting for a day 2, give her a hug as soon as you meet. If an instadate, hold her hand or do a side hug. Establish a fun flirty 'we' vibe.

  • Give her room to chase. After you assume initial familiarity, back off.

  • Create sexual tension. Your job is to spark the feeling of arousal. Present yourself as a high value man with whom sex would be a pleasure. Sexualize conversation topics. Use non-verbals.

  • Demonstrate value and non-neediness. She's evaluating you to see what sort of partner you would be. Have a non-judgemental and relaxed attitude about sex and relationships. You can even indirectly present yourself and an authority on relationships and sex.

  • Cycle between warm and cool. Sexualize and disqualify.

  • Seed the pull. Throughout the conversation, mention a few things at your place.

Pull

  • Allow for plausible deniability. You have to give her a logical reason to come back so she doesn't look like a slut or feel pressure to have sex with you.

  • Assume success and lead. The more confident and comfort you are on the pull, the easier it will go. Just assume it will work. If it doesn't, bail, or have a backup place to bounce to.

  • Flip the script. If she seems nervous, jokingly flip the script. Tell her that you're on your period, so she can't have sex with you (or say something similar which disqualifies the idea of sex while framing her as the one chasing).

  • Chill out. When you get back, don't immediately start to escalate. Make a drink, put on some music, talk. Let her get a bit comfortable.

  • Escalate. Pull the trigger, escalate, seal the deal.

That's the basic gist of it. It looks complicated, but it's actually quite simple. Follow these steps, quit sleepwalking through your interactions, and you'll start to gain a degree of awareness of interactions - you'll be able to guide them effectively toward a close, without using pressure, surrendering frame, or lowering your value.

As I mentioned, this is just one layer of game. But it is an important one. Due to the fad of natural game, it's often forgotten that successful interactions typically follow a pattern. Thus, once you know and start following a process, you'll not only be more conscious of what's happening, you'll have a huge advantage over guys (even other PUSs) who don't.

Tldr:

Open, screen, date, pull.

Outro:

This isn't the only processional roadmap. There are different steps one could plausibly follow, especially under different circumstances. Nonetheless, this model is useful for normal girls you'll meet during the day, on the street, and at cafes.

BTW

I tweet a bunch about game and intersexual dynamics. DMs are open @khanthecad