Just a brief observation from a beginner who never posts! I have just got back from a trip around Europe and after reflecting on my time, something just struck me. Rightly or wrongly, my envrionment played such a big role in how my intreractions went.

So for example I met a girl while hiking in some stunning natural surroundings. Nature has an incredible effect on me, I just feel so calm. My speech was slow and deliberate, my eye-contact was powerful and I had no anxiety over when and how to touch her- I just did it. Even though she was with her friends, I made out with her. It didn't go any further as they heading to another place that evening but something had really clicked for me. This was me in my element, I was just so grateful and content to be in such a beautiful place and I think this clear-mindedness really came across.

Fast forward a week and I'm in a nightclub in a city. I'm having fun but it's not really my scene. The guy I was out with was telling me I was getting a lot of attention from women and I could see it myself. But I couldn't hold a conversation. I only approached two girls all night and I completely froze up both times with my thoughts running wild.

Now I don't want to blame the fact that I don't like clubbing for how badly the latter interactions went. I want to improve regardless of where I am. But for me it was a good lesson in where my strengths are and also what kind of women I am attracted to.

So for anyone struggling a bit right now, maybe reflect on where you are meeting women/taking girls out. Can you help yourself a little more by going to places where you feel more at ease?

Thanks for your input and a big thank you to the sub in general!