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i like it! What's yours?
/r/seduction20/06/17 07:09 PM
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Maybe like common shit tests and appropriate responses? Just throwing out ideas.
/r/seduction20/06/17 06:10 PM
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I'm 25. I've dated girls as young as 18 and as old as 35. It doesn't really bother me. There are pros and cons to dating older and younger women. Younger women tend to be more passionate, but with that passion comes craziness. Older women tend to be more level headed and depthful, but their clock is ticking. They need you to be absolutely sure of what you want and not just "seeing where it goes."
/r/seduction20/03/16 03:44 PM
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Sounds like a fun teen experience to have. I'd ride it out.
/r/seduction20/03/16 03:42 PM
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Friend-zoned. OR she's being manipulative and wants you to be jealous / give her attention
/r/seduction20/03/16 03:16 PM
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You honestly just have to put in a hell of a lot of work in the beginning. Think about your competition in your area. Can you say out of 100 or 1,000 guys in you're area, you're pushing harder than all of them. Once you obtain the skillsets to attract women, you can tone down more.
/r/seduction20/03/16 03:01 PM
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25 4 years Being able to go out any day of the week and get a date. There isn't one method to seducing a woman. Find what fits for you and your lifestyle.
/r/seduction20/03/16 02:54 PM
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How far have you gone with her
/r/seduction17/03/16 10:07 PM
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You need to be sure about what you think. If someone asks you what you're doing with your life, it doesn't matter what your job is. You should be able to answer with. I'm working towards ____ because... I'm not doing anything because... You should be able to answer those
/r/seduction17/03/16 05:16 PM
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That's awesome to hear man. I believe any piece of advice you get, you need to be able to hear it from 3 sources. A successful man An attractive woman Experiencing it for yourself
/r/seduction17/03/16 05:02 PM
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Have you ever been able to get it up with her? Or is it like a recent thing
/r/seduction17/03/16 05:01 PM
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It's your fault if you haven't presented the best version of yourself. If you have, then it could be a multitude of environmental factors. All we can really do is open the most alluring door possible. If she chooses not to walk through it, it's on her.
/r/seduction17/03/16 05:00 PM
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Has he ever initiated spending 1on1 time with you?
/r/seduction17/03/16 04:58 PM
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read it again...
/r/seduction14/03/16 04:19 AM
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She texted back... = close to sex... lol bro.
/r/seduction14/03/16 01:00 AM
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The key is to get a woman to hang out with you 1 on 1, it really doesn't matter what anyone says. IF you are able to seduce her, it won't matter.
/r/seduction14/03/16 12:59 AM
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Habit and consistency will help you way more in the long run. HOWEVER, those who are the hardest on themselves typically get better the quickest.
/r/seduction14/03/16 12:58 AM
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Think about experiences you can create with a woman vs just fucking them.
/r/seduction14/03/16 12:57 AM
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0 for 9... lemme know after you've hit 4,000 www.vimbasiwarrior.com/aaronyang
/r/seduction14/03/16 12:52 AM
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Men will approach a woman who looks available moreso than a woman who is just hot
/r/seduction14/03/16 12:51 AM
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Great post!
/r/seduction14/03/16 12:43 AM
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you'll probably get 25%- 35% of their numbers and maybe 1% will actually respond.
/r/seduction12/03/16 07:07 PM
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Creating a sustainable dating life is the goal. Do you feel like you're putting up a facade when you go out? Do you think in your head, "I'm going out now, time to put my game face on" and when you get back home "time to shut it off and relax"
/r/seduction12/03/16 07:05 PM
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You should be setting up the date beforehand. Texting should solely be used to confirm the date.
/r/seduction12/03/16 05:54 PM
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First of all, don't be callin girls bitches because they're not giving you the time of day. It's a cop-out answer for them not being attracted to you. Second of all, you're not going to learn anything from just 1 approach. Do a thousand and then see if you've actually found some kind of pattern. People are chaotic enough as it is.
/r/seduction06/03/16 11:58 PM
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Give yourself an ultimatum. I used to do this. I wouldn't go home until i approached 1 girl, then I wouldn't go home until i got 1 number, then I wouldn't go home until i got 1 date, then I wouldn't EAT until i got an instant date.
/r/seduction01/03/16 01:46 AM
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Think about it. A girl is difficult, because she doesn't want to look like just any guy can get her. Be the one that stands out.
/r/seduction27/02/16 11:38 PM
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Hey man, sounds like you did great. Only thing I would have changed was just the asking "are you sure, are you sure?" you could have definitely closed that night. Otherwise, your text was great, short and concise is my style. Don't text her while she's on her trip and just hit her up when she gets back.
/r/seduction27/02/16 02:27 AM
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You have to realize that each person has their own learning curve. Tbh, some people will improve faster than others. Some will have a genetic advantage, others will work harder.
/r/seduction27/02/16 02:23 AM
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It's definitely something you have to work at mentally. This is why the community came up with kino, because they think that you can physically show the girl that you want her instead of showing it through your eyes. However, kino is extremely awkward without showing your intent. That's what gives off the creepy vibe. It's the incongruency. BUT again, if you're just starting out. The "look" and intent may take a while to get. So start with kino, it's a lot more basic and concrete to understand.
/r/seduction15/02/16 01:05 AM
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No, I'm defining it as someone who is easily socially exhausted
/r/seduction13/02/16 05:47 PM
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"i really like talking to you"
/r/seduction12/02/16 11:59 PM
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you're good man. date/hangout, it's jus semantics. you're still hanging out with her 1 on 1, you can take it wherever you want
/r/seduction12/02/16 11:57 PM
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It's up to yourself man. I've had a lot of half-ass days where I just approached for the sake of approaching, sometimes I landed, sometimes I didn't. How hard have you been pushing yourself? Do you feel like you deserve a rest? There were days where I told myself I wouldn't eat until I got an instant-date.
/r/seduction12/02/16 11:46 PM
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It's not sustainable to be happy/positive 100% of the time. Those who are, are likely psychopaths. However, this shouldn't impede on your interactions with women. You should be real with them about not being in the mood to socialize and I guarantee you. They'll be able to relate.
/r/seduction12/02/16 06:02 PM
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Right now she's considering you as just friends, but if you play your cards right when you go out with her and show her your true intentions and you're not beating around the bush. It could definitely work out.
/r/seduction12/02/16 05:59 PM
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Continual growth is perfection.
/r/seduction12/02/16 05:57 PM
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You just have to be real with the girl. Don't be another guy that bullshits around and has no idea what he thinks. This doesn't mean you need to have your life figured out, but if you don't, you should be firm in the fact that you don't and that you're completely fine with it. "I haven't a clue where my life is going, BUT i think it's awesome because I'm open to so many more opportunities vs if i had my life planned out." You should be confident in your ideals.
/r/seduction12/02/16 05:56 PM
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Great post man, i really respect it. Way too many younger guys are trying to play alpha, hard to get, just to get laid. They think oneitis is a bad thing and oftentimes are apprehensive towards telling a beautiful woman that she's in fact beautiful.
/r/seduction04/02/16 11:10 PM
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Asian, 4000+ approaches over 4 years. Gj bro.
/r/seduction03/02/16 04:20 PM
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you don't ask her what she's up to. you invite her into something fun you're already going to do.
/r/seduction03/02/16 04:24 AM
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25, co-founded a school, assistant coach for www.vimbasiwarrior.com Started when i was 20, extremely introverted, shy, lots of social anxiety. I've expanded my range of being and you have to realize that there's always more. From approaching, getting a number, getting laid, relationships, family, kids, etc... So many people are just looking for this short term fix.
/r/seduction23/01/16 08:18 PM
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I have the opposite problem, I hold more judgment towards most men than I do women. Once you understand that women are just broadcasters of emotion and what they do isn't always out of a logical mindset, you'll judge them far less.
/r/seduction28/11/15 05:11 AM
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There are a lot of core aspects, but there are subtle differences as well. Women in texas tend to be different than ones in California or the Northeast.
/r/seduction28/11/15 05:09 AM
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netflix and chill?
/r/seduction28/11/15 05:08 AM
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Why should a woman prefer you over another man?
/r/seduction28/11/15 05:03 AM
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One thing you realize as you continue to improve this area of your life is that you'll definitely be meeting some amazing women in your life, but you'll NEVER meet anyone that's perfect. BUT, you will meet women that you'll realize is really rare, not impossible to find another one, but still rare.
/r/seduction28/11/15 04:59 AM
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Dude. I was in your same shoes. Are you working on this area of your life harder than the guy next you? If not, then maybe you're not sick of it enough. I hit that point when i was your age too. Busted ass for 4 years. Now I can honestly say I'm in a state of abundance.
/r/seduction25/11/15 12:06 AM
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Introverted/socially anxious guys need to push it harder than any other person. You don't really know the extent of your introversion until you have spent 8 hours of your day talking to women 7 days a week. After you've pushed yourself to the extreme, you'll level out eventually and realize that you're not as introverted as you think. Personally, I've found I can sustain 3 hours of high social activity each day, then I need a while to recharge. That's me personally. I know guys who have just com…
/r/seduction25/11/15 12:05 AM
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Pretty sure I'm an hfa, extremely introverted, with a high degree of social anxiety. I enjoy time to myself a lot. Any more than 3 hours around people and i'll start shutting down. BUT i still have a rich dating life. Usually going 1-2 dates a week with my busy work schedule. It's a worthy investment to improve your skills with women. I may have to work harder than the average guy, but I'll learn a whole lot more than they well. Also, being hfa, we have a higher degree of focus and sensitivity t…
/r/seduction22/11/15 04:45 PM
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I agree that being white does make it easier. Same with height, clear skin, mesomorph body type, etc. Who cares. Life's not fair, doesn't mean you can't still improve yourself. I'm 5'5 skinny and Asian, yet I get asked for advice every day. Of course i get jealous when a client/friend gets laid on his 10th approach, when it took me 100. There is one thing I have that they don't. I'm not afraid of rejection or failure. I've learned more in my 3,000+ interactions than a lucky white guy would learn…
/r/seduction22/11/15 04:35 PM
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How many women have you approached?
/r/seduction16/11/15 09:03 PM
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Agreed, but you don't have to sharpen it through pickup. It could be sharpening through the way you lead and handle the relationship. I know i get lazy in relationships and therefore have other focuses in my life like fitness or business.
/r/seduction16/11/15 03:13 PM
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not bad, i actually agree with most of what he's saying. You're saying all these things out of insecurity, because you know there will be better guys than you out there that will swoop your girl away.
/r/seduction16/11/15 03:11 PM
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Once you get better, you'll be more selective with who you date and therefore more selective with who's number you get. As you are still in the beginning phase of your journey, I suggest asking for the number EVERY time. This serves several purposes, it feels good to get a number when you're first starting out. This will keep your momentum up more chances to land dates and to practice texting counterproductively to #2, you should be setting the date before even leaving the interaction. BUT you'r…
/r/seduction16/11/15 03:08 PM
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Stop making women make all the decisions.
/r/seduction16/11/15 02:58 PM
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You're being silly lol... What's more attractive, a guy confident enough to approach her in person vs. a guy who needs to go on fb to type up a message
/r/seduction16/11/15 02:57 PM
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Coffee shops, bookstores. Hundreds of dates?
/r/seduction16/11/15 02:54 PM
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lol please stop...
/r/seduction16/11/15 02:48 PM
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Twilight
/r/seduction16/11/15 02:46 PM
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What sets you apart from them. What qualities do you have that they don't have.
/r/seduction15/11/15 05:26 PM
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Why would you be a better option for her than all your other friends? Why would you be a better option for any woman? Think you should answer those questions first.
/r/seduction15/11/15 05:25 PM
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A lot of times this community misconstrues alpha with being outgoing. Being confident comes from being comfortable with yourself. For example, I KNOW, that I am not a social butterfuly. I hate going to parties, drinking, clubbing, concerts, etc. Doesn't mean I'm not confident. The way I see it is most guys are trying to be the dude that fucks like fast and furious 10. I give women a deep fuck.
/r/seduction15/11/15 05:19 PM
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"drinking"
/r/seduction15/11/15 05:16 PM
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If you genuinely feel like you are what you say you are, then it's just women being women. Even me sometimes, I'll set plans with friends and when the day comes, I may be under the weather or I've had way too much social interaction for that day and I'll need a night to myself. Women will often feel that when the day comes for a hangout or whatever. They feel no obligation to you, so if they bail, who cares. Only you. If they're dates, they don't know you that well so who cares. If they're frien…
/r/seduction15/11/15 05:15 PM
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Damn. Sounds like she was holding the reigns on that relationship.
/r/seduction14/11/15 10:21 PM
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When your skills aren't that great yet, you should be approaching everything. Once you're able to become a lot more consistent, personally, I feel it's okay to diverge focus from dating and onto something more productive. But if you're not working on yourself and you're just making excuses while sitting on a bench doing nothing, then that's not good.
/r/seduction14/11/15 10:13 PM
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Meet better women? Or find qualities in them that are unique to them.
/r/seduction14/11/15 10:11 PM
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So... what are your results? You may feel like you have that power, but have you actually reaped the fruits of that power? Personally don't feel like you can claim any of that until you are getting consistent dates, gfs, something tangible.
/r/seduction14/11/15 09:53 PM
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Confident people don't need to prove that they're confident. Same thing with maturity in people. I've dated younger women that claim they're mature, but constantly try to validate their maturity. Mature confident people don't need to validate or prove that they are confident and mature.
/r/seduction13/11/15 04:24 PM
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Why do you feel the need to tell her? If she asks, be honest. Maybe you had a lot of other focuses in your life before her. Have you had sex yet? lol
/r/seduction13/11/15 03:31 PM
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Couple things in my opinion. You should have made your intentions a lot more clear either verbally or nonverbally during that date. I've had experiences in the past where my intentions were never made clear and the women lost interest because they had no idea where it's headed. Women want at least 1 person in the interaction to be sure of where it's going and most often than not, it's not going to be them.
/r/seduction13/11/15 02:47 PM
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just the month of june. ireland, england, france, italy, austria, germany, amsterdam Check this out before you go. http://vimbasiwarrior.com/travelers-curiosity/
/r/seduction13/11/15 03:31 AM
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Agreed, don't be ashamed of working on this area of your life.
/r/seduction13/11/15 12:44 AM
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Agreed, sometimes I feel like you deserve to feel like you're better than other if you've put in the work and reaped the results of that hard work compared to others who don't.
/r/seduction13/11/15 12:41 AM
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lol what are these games guys play......
/r/seduction12/11/15 04:15 PM
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I love this story man. Feel for you so much. Crazy how much our lives can change when we open our eyes and strive to live a life greater than most.
/r/seduction12/11/15 04:09 PM
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Just message her dude. She's probably come back into a place of scarcity and is looking for more attention. Side note, stop focusing on specific individual scenarios, think about more big picture changes to your life that will increase your attractiveness to women.
/r/seduction12/11/15 04:07 PM
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Confidence = being comfortable.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:29 AM
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Agree with ickolas, you should move on and invite her into things you're already going to do anyways. Don't go out of your way to ask this chick out. Additionally, the date should have been set up when you first met.
/r/seduction11/11/15 10:12 PM
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Be sure to read Neil Strauss's new book where he discredits everything from The Game...
/r/seduction11/11/15 05:10 PM
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Scarcity? Field tested, this is a rare woman? I don't typically date women that are "conventionally attractive". If nothing sticks out to me about them, not interesting, not interested.
/r/seduction11/11/15 04:20 PM
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I don't undestand what you want to accomplish. Sounds like you don't really care much for women right now. Which is okay. Just don't have regrets with whatever you do. Personally, it sounds like you're trying to go from A to B in a crazy convoluted time wasting route.
/r/seduction11/11/15 04:00 PM
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She's gonna break up with you sooner or later if you've got nothing else going for you except her, or cheat on you with some other guy who does. That's just the reality of humans.
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:55 PM
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Okay, one of my BIG realizations on this journey is that you discover that confidence comes not from being alpha/dominant. Confidence comes from being comfortable with yourself. You become less apologetic and less bothered by little things like "shit tests". There are no "bitchy" women either. There are just women that have gone through a ton of boys trying to pick them up, when they just want a man who is sure of what's going on and to lead them. They're tired of wearing the pants in their ever…
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:54 PM
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I don't think it's wrong if it continues to bother you. Maybe bother is the wrong word you should be using. It could definitely be a driving force to not go back to how things were in the past. I agree with many of the other comments that as you get older, you can more confidently say that you have the skills, ability, and experience to take care of a woman better than those 19yr old freshman.
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:46 PM
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They're all the same... they're all women with women issues and desires
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:34 PM
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To answer this question, you have to realize WHY these women are feminists or considered "bitchy". Think about it. What kind of men are they typically around?
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:32 PM
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i did that 2 summers ago, it was amazing. you'll have a blast.
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:29 PM
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holy shit. lol THAT'S why you don't meet women online/tinder
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:29 PM
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You're focusing on all the wrong questions. Why focus on fixing 1 text with 1 girl, when you could be working on yourself to improve your skills with all women. However, I'll still give you my advice. Get off the computer.
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:24 PM
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You're focusing on all the wrong questions. Why focus on fixing 1 text with 1 girl, when you could be working on yourself to improve your skills with all women.
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:23 PM
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Lol this post is completely irrelevant to improving yourself or your dating life
/r/seduction11/11/15 03:20 PM
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I'm completely for that. Glad you brought that up. However, I would tread carefully when you say "abundance has never been about going on loads of dates or fucking lots of people." This can sometimes be a cop-out for not taking care of this area of your life IF you desire that. Abundance for me is all about having the freedom/skill to attract women.
/r/seduction11/11/15 02:48 PM
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Are you getting results?
/r/seduction11/11/15 12:14 AM
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I love doing it solo. You learn to push yourself instead of depending on other people. That's far more valuable. Dependence in a relationship is bad anyways. Don't start getting in that habit.
/r/seduction11/11/15 12:11 AM
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Attractive women have options, as do attractive men. Let her know you'd be excited to see her when you do, but in the mean time do your own shit and invite her into anything that you think she'd enjoy. Dates for me are just a chance for women to enter in to how i live my life.
/r/seduction10/11/15 10:26 PM
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Cultural difference are definitely a factor. For example, people in the u.s. are far more apprehensive towards sexuality than european countries. Asian countries are even worse.
/r/seduction10/11/15 09:37 PM
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She's nervous
/r/seduction10/11/15 09:35 PM
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she's most likely not interested in anything romantic with you bro, sorry
/r/seduction10/11/15 09:15 PM
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Are you continuing to pursue her out of scarcity? OR do you truly believe she is worth pursuing. That's typically how I date. I'll have a whole bunch of women in my phone. Some women I'll want to spend time with maybe once or twice a month. Other women I'll want to see when I want a lazy day or maybe I want to go on a spontaneous trip and I know she'll definitely be down. This might be detering from your original question. There are definitely women that I enjoy spending more time with than othe…
/r/seduction10/11/15 09:14 PM
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http://vimbasiwarrior.com/travelers-curiosity/
/r/seduction10/11/15 07:16 PM
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People need to stop thinking in terms of nice guys and bad guys. What women really yearn for is a man who is certain and unapologetic. He makes decisions for the betterment of himself and those around him. Feel free to PM me for a more extensive explanation
/r/seduction10/11/15 07:02 PM
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Agreed, what I was trying to say is that thatabundance mentality changes.
/r/seduction10/11/15 05:53 PM
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maybe she wants to be with someone more educated?
/r/seduction10/11/15 04:05 PM
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are you 16?
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:38 PM
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No, if you're confident and leading, it's fine. I consider myself a nice guy, but I know what I want and don't want. If a girl is being whiny, I'm dropping her ass off. If a girl is trying to ask my to do everything for her, fuck no. I'm a nice guy cause i'll take care of her on my own terms.
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:37 PM
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usually if a girl is interested, they'll offer another day.
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:36 PM
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be yourself
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:35 PM
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You don't need to be displaying interest through your words. You should be displaying your interest and sexuality through your actions and tonality. Women can tell if you're into them without even talking.
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:35 PM
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Isn't that good? It's good to know nothing about her. Let your curiosity lead your date.
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:29 PM
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There's notthing wrong with confessing. There's a right way, and wrong way to do it. You're just playing games dude. Sounds like you're 16?
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:28 PM
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congrats
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:19 PM
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Why? Personally, it's not my thing. I don't like drinking, it impedes the mind. I'd much rather have a clear head when I'm taking a girl home.
/r/seduction10/11/15 03:16 PM
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just tell her the time and place
/r/seduction10/11/15 02:59 AM
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What have you been doing for your dates?
/r/seduction10/11/15 01:43 AM
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Is that something you would actually do? I hate drinking and clubbing. I do things like go to art events and spend my evenings at coffe shops or slacklinging or indoor surfing. I'm going to be doing that shit anyways. I dont care if she comes or not, I'm offering her to come into something fun. It's her loss if she decides to refrain.
/r/seduction09/11/15 10:15 PM
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too slow.
/r/seduction09/11/15 09:29 PM
1

That's bad ass man. I play piano/violin and powerlift as well. Saxophone has always appealed to me. Love learning. Most recent thing i've picked up is drawing. Used to be terrible at it, now I'm rather decent. Drawing the female figure is pretty remarkable especially when you start getting dates to model live for you.
/r/seduction09/11/15 09:19 PM
2

What have you spent the last 4 years doing? What could you speak effortlessly about?
/r/seduction09/11/15 08:47 PM
4

You should be inviting her into something that you're doing regardles of whether she comes or not
/r/seduction09/11/15 08:46 PM
1

Nice job brother! Keep it up
/r/seduction09/11/15 08:45 PM
2

yes, it feels like a lot of this relationship is on her terms, not yours.
/r/seduction09/11/15 06:49 PM
3

No girl wants stable, and a pushover. What women care the most about are feeling emotions.
/r/seduction09/11/15 06:24 PM
2

We like to call this the traveler's curiosity. When you're out in a new city or country, everything is new and exciting. You're curious about everything around you and your authenticity to new things is a lot more congruent. Whereas oftentimes when you're in your normal city, you don't have that "glow" anymore.
/r/seduction09/11/15 05:45 PM
3

What do you provide that her ex doesn't? What does he provide that you don't?
/r/seduction09/11/15 05:43 PM
1

Being perceptive to women in general will help a lot. You can't be using the same "tactics" with every woman.
/r/seduction09/11/15 05:34 PM
2

This happens to me quit often too. Confidence comes from being able to be present with your emotions. I've cried with some girls, I've been in absolute bliss with other. If you want a woman to open herself to you physically and emotionally, you need to be able to enter into it first.
/r/seduction09/11/15 05:32 PM
2

If only quick fixes were real eh? :p
/r/seduction03/11/15 10:05 PM
1

Stop waiting so long. Don't be ashamed of what your'e working on.
/r/seduction03/11/15 09:57 PM
1

You're not playing hard to get. You're playing, "If i get her, cool. If i dont, i have other options"
/r/seduction02/11/15 05:43 PM
3

Lol the other people commenting don't seem like they really know what they're talking about... You're logistics oriented, good, make a plan. BUT you don't need to tell them exactly what's going on every single step of the way. Most women in my experience like men who are leading and spontaneous. They're exhausted from their daily lives of being asked a shit ton of questions and asking what they like to eat where they want to go. Most women just want to go on a fun ride. Being logistical will wor…
/r/seduction02/11/15 05:38 PM
1

lol well there you go. that 10 minutes helps a lot
/r/seduction31/10/15 02:12 PM
2

Read his new book
/r/seduction29/10/15 08:16 PM
1

On the contrary, first impressions are incredibly important.
/r/seduction29/10/15 08:13 PM
2

I have 100,000 where i currently live... How bad do you want it?
/r/seduction29/10/15 12:38 AM
6

It gets better brother. 170? I've approached almost 3,000 women. You just have to want it more than other guys. True, other men may have "looks" and genetics, but there is a lot hard work and skill will compensate for.
/r/seduction28/10/15 07:35 PM
1

It does. You're just looking to hook up with women? Why?
/r/seduction28/10/15 06:19 PM
1

You can be straight up with her.
/r/seduction28/10/15 05:56 PM
2

Work on finding something about them that you would enjoy being around. You'll be losing out on a lot of experiences if you're nitpicky with every woman you come across.
/r/seduction28/10/15 05:52 PM
2

Get in the mindframe that you're just a social guy. It's not out of the ordinary in your world to do what you do.
/r/seduction28/10/15 05:50 PM
1

Don't put them on a pedastol.
/r/seduction28/10/15 05:49 PM
2

Is that your end goal? Or you actually want to take it in a sexual direction?
/r/seduction28/10/15 05:47 PM
1

She's playing games dude.
/r/seduction09/10/15 03:09 PM
3

You should be inviting women into things you're doing regardless if they show up or not.
/r/seduction09/10/15 03:07 PM
1

A boy who falls in love and does nothing is extremely unattractive.
/r/seduction09/10/15 03:05 PM
1

No use complaining. Do you understand how hard some of us men work to attract a woman. I'm not going to say shedding pounds is easier, but forcing yourself to talk to 3,000 women just for the sake of improving your social skills and dating life is not easy either.
/r/seduction09/10/15 02:29 PM
2

I'm not saying they don't matter. I'm saying they matter to a degree and its just one of many things that affect your attracting with women.
/r/seduction05/10/15 07:19 PM
1

You clearly have not met enough women. Read your post about being a virgin.
/r/seduction05/10/15 07:05 PM
1

bullshit.
/r/seduction04/10/15 03:30 PM
1

awesome post brother, I've been working so much on dating women that relationships are an area I'm struggling on tbh.
/r/seduction04/10/15 03:26 PM
1

Why don't you talk about something you're interested in? You don't have to wait to ask them a question.
/r/seduction02/10/15 04:33 PM
2

For sure, they already have the comfort level down, they just need to add the sexuality.
/r/seduction02/10/15 03:00 PM
3

Yeah for sure brother. How long did it take you. I've been on this journey for about 4-5 years.
/r/seduction02/10/15 02:59 PM
2

lie? no.
/r/seduction02/10/15 02:58 PM
1

you know what you should have done better
/r/seduction30/09/15 03:23 PM
1

comfort is good, but keep it like a rollercoaster. don't fall into just staying in and watching movies every single time you hang out with her.
/r/seduction30/09/15 03:00 PM
2

It does depend. Some women catch on faster than others, sometimes it takes women practice and experience to express their wants through their nonverbals more.
/r/seduction30/09/15 02:59 PM
1

hearing a lot of actions, but I'd need more about your words/emotions going on
/r/seduction30/09/15 02:57 PM
2

your house
/r/seduction30/09/15 02:53 PM
1

I agree. BUT, in order to improve your skills with women. You have to practice. In order to practice, you need reps. ONCE you get good enough with women, that's when I'd suggest integrating it more into your lifestyle. If you enjoy parties, do that. If you enjoy rockclimbing, meet women through there. However, when you're first starting out, consistent practice with women is the way to go.
/r/seduction29/09/15 10:49 PM
1

Cute story :p
/r/seduction26/09/15 06:58 PM
1

I would mention it the first or second date. Also, why are you wanting to date other people? Some people date around for numerous reasons, what's yours?
/r/seduction26/09/15 06:55 PM
1

OR you could establish the tone in the beginning that you feel this way. You don't want to hold back, because people spend too much time wading through b.s. and you are a man who wants to live life passionately.
/r/seduction26/09/15 06:54 PM
2

How specificly do you establish your dates? It should be taken care of before you even leave the interaction.
/r/seduction26/09/15 06:40 PM
1

qualities in terms of personality traits, ideologies, outlloks on life, not hobbies
/r/seduction23/09/15 05:26 PM
1

yeah. just don't try and move your lips around like crazy. Just leave them as they are naturally. none of that perking up nonsense
/r/seduction23/09/15 03:36 PM
1

Gotta get out bro.
/r/seduction23/09/15 03:02 PM
1

Can you give a brief synopsis of the steps?
/r/seduction23/09/15 03:00 PM
3

don't open your mouth. how old are you?
/r/seduction23/09/15 02:55 PM
4

nay
/r/seduction22/09/15 08:50 PM
1

Have you ever talked to a woman and felt her being nervous, uncomfortable, or into you?
/r/seduction21/09/15 07:53 PM
1

Doing pretty well as well. Writing from my private school in Dallas. Lol i see us introverts tend to gravitate towards coffee shops. One of my favorite places to meet women.
/r/seduction21/09/15 05:11 PM
1

soundsm like you're not leading it anywhere, you're beating around the bush too much. usually by the first date, she knows whats up
/r/seduction21/09/15 05:07 PM
2

You'll just have more and more experiences, and eventually you'll be in the same position as this past one and you'll better understand how to respond
/r/seduction21/09/15 05:05 PM
1

cool posts, where are you at now?
/r/seduction21/09/15 05:00 PM
2

sorry that happened to you brother, glad you realized your mistakes though.
/r/seduction21/09/15 04:48 PM
1

for sure bro. that's why a lot of us men enjoy the outdoors (mother nature) or smoke to relax (nurtured) in replacement of women.
/r/seduction16/09/15 01:06 AM
1

Yes, that's true. I've spent almost 4 years of my life improving this area. I've talked to over 3000 women. Yes. It took me a lot of work. Some people may get it quicker than me, but at least I can say I worked a lot harder than most. Now, if I see a woman I want to approach I know I have the ability to.
/r/seduction15/09/15 02:55 PM
1

Could be. We typically tend to do a lot better with women when we're traveling. We call it the traveler's curiosity. http://s000.tinyupload.com/index.php?file_id=95488136066784790032
/r/seduction15/09/15 02:52 PM
1

Fix it next time. Eventually you'll come to a point where you've done everything in your power to progress the interaction and it is completely on her shoulders for letting the ball drop. That's when rejection feels good. However, don't use it as a cop-out if you genuinely half-assed your approach. I think it's completely okay to be harsh on yourself as long as it propels you forward.
/r/seduction15/09/15 02:41 PM
1

Awesome post brother. Did it continue with the girl you slept with?
/r/seduction15/09/15 02:28 PM
1

It does. At first you reach a point where talking to a woman is crazy, then you start getting excited from getting a phone number, then dates, then sex, then relationships, then multiple relationship, then so on. Yes. Eventually it does get boring. There's more to life than women.
/r/seduction14/09/15 09:23 PM
2

I lean heavily towards the introversion scale, so I typically approach women extremely calmly and direct.
/r/seduction13/09/15 04:39 PM
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You hear about slut-shaming all the time and feminists fight for women's rights. No one ever considers male-shaming. Men these days don't feel like they have the right to love and appreciate women. They assume they'll automatically be seen as a "pig or player". Reframe that in your mind. You seem like a genuine guy. Don't be ashamed to express your desires for women. YOU will be a better person for that woman to be with than the real pigs/dicks. Would love to connect further brother.
/r/seduction13/09/15 02:00 PM
2

lol well then lets get you a woman!
/r/seduction12/09/15 06:24 PM
1

Go for it brother! Would love to hear some of your cool date ideas as well!
/r/seduction12/09/15 02:45 PM
1

Yup, first actual date.
/r/seduction12/09/15 02:44 PM
2

I fucking hate holding hands. lol
/r/seduction12/09/15 02:43 PM
1

I love going to museums as well! Right on brother!
/r/seduction12/09/15 02:43 PM
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Both. A lot of non verbals, a lot of leading.
/r/seduction11/09/15 02:07 PM
1

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/r/seduction10/09/15 02:09 AM
1

Awesome to hear you're starting off on the right foot! I've been dong this for 4 years, 2 years of which, i spent with all the "pickup" gimmicks. Ultimately what all of us (both men and women) want is connection and to be seduced in the right way. I probably started off much worse than you. When i was your age, I could hardly talk to people in general. Spent days in high school not even saying a word. Now I've talked to more than 3,000 women and dated some, many of my friends would say are out o…
/r/seduction10/09/15 12:14 AM
1

Awesome to hear you're starting off on the right foot! I've been dong this for 4 years, 2 years of which, i spent with all the "pickup" gimmicks. Ultimately what all of us (both men and women) want is connection and to be seduced in the right way. I probably started off much worse than you. When i was your age, I could hardly talk to people in general. Spent days in high school not even saying a word. Now I've talked to more than 3,000 women and dated some, many of my friends would say are out o…
/r/seduction10/09/15 12:09 AM
1

Awesome to hear you're starting off on the right foot! I've been dong this for 4 years, 2 years of which, i spent with all the "pickup" gimmicks. Ultimately what all of us (both men and women) want is connection and to be seduced in the right way. I probably started off much worse than you. When i was your age, I could hardly talk to people in general. Spent days in high school not even saying a word. Now I've talked to more than 3,000 women and dated some, many of my friends would say are out o…
/r/seduction10/09/15 12:08 AM
1

Personally, the people I want around me are operating through life with integrity. People who are open-minded. People who have found their purpose in life and are working towards it. People with a growth mindset. People who are positive.
/r/seduction10/09/15 12:08 AM
1

It's definitely a strong skill set to be able to empathize with women. What do you think she felt?
/r/seduction10/09/15 12:02 AM
2

http://vimbasiwarrior.com/
/r/seduction09/09/15 11:43 PM
1

Love the post brother. Keep it up!
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:46 PM
1

Having integrity with your seduction is the key to success. Whether you legitimately are an asshole, that's fine or you're just a nice guy, that's fine too. The attraction comes from your confidence in who you are. Truth and integrity brothers.
/r/seduction08/09/15 10:44 PM
2

are you very fun/outgoing?
/r/seduction07/09/15 09:15 PM
3

Are you an introvert? I've probably pushed myself harder than most guys. It's not something that will go away so easily. There is truth to expanding your social capabilities, and the amount of social energy you can expend in a day. However, you will do best with the opposite sex if you are truest to yourself.
/r/seduction07/09/15 07:53 PM
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Once you hit a state of abundance and girls aren't a constant worry then you can slowly calm down. Until then, I don't think it's wrong to want to improve this area of your life. Only the ones that obsess and push the hardest will truly be great.
/r/seduction07/09/15 05:21 PM
1

You will hopefully come to a point where you are just a man that loves women and isn't ashamed of it, so when you re-approach a woman you feel no shame in acknowledging that you thought she was attractive.
/r/seduction07/09/15 03:24 AM
1

A lot of women will understand your desires to become better with the opposite sex if you went about it in an integrable way. The fact that it's difficult for you to share that part of yourself with other people is perhaps there is a small portion of you inside that is ashamed of it.
/r/seduction07/09/15 03:23 AM
2

If any of you all want to connect, I love sharing my journey with people and hearing where you all are at as well! Shoot me a pm if you're interested. Much love to the brotherhood.
/r/seduction06/09/15 09:57 PM
2

Hey brother, the goal for most of us men is to integrate women into our lifestyle. Getting to a point where we are not ashamed to approach women. I remember one of my favorite moments was when i was visiting my sister and took her to a coffee shop. Brought this beautiful woman into our conversation and my sister thought it was so amazing how i created this comfortable bubble around everyone. Bringing your family into your lifestyle is probably one of my favorite parts of this journey.
/r/seduction06/09/15 02:50 PM
1

so... if you're calling them kids, you hitting on teenagers bro...?
/r/seduction06/09/15 02:42 PM
0

For sure bro, just smile.
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:37 PM
1

Well, how did you start off 2 months ago?
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:35 PM
3

The root of the majority of your issues lies in identifying who you are. Many men who begin this journey begin to wrap their lives around women and forget everything else. More importantly is becoming a man you desire, therefore women desire. I know many pickup videos tend to be extremely extroverted and outgoing. When i first started my journey 4 years ago, I felt like I had to be that person. In the past year, I've learned that I can attract women by just being the strongest version of myself.…
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:26 PM
2

As of right now, you are dependent on your clothes. Which is cool, many men start out this way. That's the reason many men start working out, or seek to make more money, get flashy cars, or stylish clothes. Each of these is definitely a factor. Looks do matter. Outside of this, there are other comfort factors. For me, I have a hard time meeting women in high energy environments like parties or clubs. But put me in a bookstore or coffee shop, I can definitely get an instant date right then and th…
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:21 PM
2

I hate going out for the sole purpose of meeting women. Sounds like a beach is a solid place. Just find areas where you frequent and have women that resonate better with you. Me, I'm quite introverted, so I tend to frequent coffee shops, book stores, and art shows. I meet many more women that I can relate better with. You could even hit up walmart or the grocery store if you want. The ultimate goal imo is to integrate women into your lifestyle.
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:17 PM
2

Seduction shouldn't be happening over text. Seduction occurs in person. You can definitely re-ignite what you had before with her. Right now, she may have different versions of you. You (in person) from 4 years ago, then your cyber persona. Women lose interest when each version of yourself is not in line. That's when you hear women say all the time, "You're not who i fell in love with." Be the man she wants to be seduced by. All the power to you brother.
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:13 PM
1

That's awesome man. What steps are you currently taking to improve this area of your life? Consistency is key
/r/seduction05/09/15 10:11 PM
1

Of course asking her out in person would be better, just don't dawdle too long on social media.
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:48 AM
6

You gotta have your shit going on and not always asking her what she's up to, how she's doing. All in all, it's easy to go into a control mindframe when you're long distance. That is unhealthy. Freedom is love. If you want this relationship to work, you should both be free together. Grow separately from each other, that way when you find a time when you can be together, you'll have a chance.
/r/seduction05/09/15 11:47 AM
7

It means that you never talked to her, so you'll never know what could have happened.
/r/seduction05/09/15 03:14 AM
1

That's taking an extremely long path towards your goals. You'll hit different thresholds. Talking to women, getting numbers, getting dates, sex, relationships. I remember being in your shoes when i was a freshman. I used the "study buddy" excuse all the time to meet women, but sadly they never went anywhere. After we both finished our classes, we went our separate ways. What you should be working on is creating a far greater version of yourself and to learn to seduce women naturally.
/r/seduction05/09/15 03:06 AM
2

The Way of the Superior Man Highly recommend it.
/r/seduction04/09/15 09:17 PM
1

Awesome brother! I'd love to hear your story sometime. How you got started, whether you were already good with women to begin with, or you had to work at it. Also, what's the next step for you now?
/r/seduction04/09/15 09:08 PM
1

Just to make this clear, your goal is just to have girls as friends?
/r/seduction04/09/15 09:06 PM
1

Hopefully the way you approached her is in-line with the energy of the date. A lot of times guys will come across super energetic and outgoing when they first meet a woman (because that's what the majority of pua videos preach), and during each consecutive date they become more and more comfortable, and become more and more like themselves. Then the woman discovers you're not the guy she initially met. Imo, coffee dates are always awesome if you can bounce from there to a near-by venue.
/r/seduction04/09/15 09:02 PM
1

The easiest way is to grab her hand to lead her in a direction. Say you want to go check something out, grab her hand to follow you. From there, if you feel that she's uncomfortable, no harm in letting go. If she seems okay with it, feel free to hold her hand longer. Personally, I hate holding hands, but there you go! Reach out if you need more brother.
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:48 PM
1

You sound like a pretty cool dude. Just shoot her a text tmrw or sunday telling her you're about to go do ___ at this coffee shop you frequent, she should come with
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:45 PM
5

I found that the reason working out helps with seduction is that it improves your posture you're more confident in yourself As a very short man, 5'5, posture has helped tremendously with attracting women. Often times people will assume i'm taller just by the way i carry myself. All in all, fitness is separate from seduction. Glad to hear your journey brother.
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:42 PM
1

If a woman or man is going to narrow their breadth of connection over smoking then you they aren't who you want to be around anyways.
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:40 PM
1

Brother, glad to hear your frustrations. I know in person, us men need to uphold a strong frame of being fearless, stoic, emotionless. What I've found to be of utmost importance when it comes to confidence is being comfortable with yourself. I waited until was 21 yrs old to work on this area of my life. 4 years later, hard work pays off :) Make that first step
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:39 PM
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You've already botched it if you don't know where you're going with the woman. What's the backstory? could be salvageable
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:35 PM
2

First of all, in her mind, you're the man she met with your friends. In no universe can you pretend to be someone else on social media and come up differently in person. At this point, there's not much you can do, imo. I've never been a fan of texting or talking online, seduction is wayyy more effective in person. But to help you out, what happened when you all hung out? If nothing, then hail marry it and ask her out over fb. I can help craft a message if you need.
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:34 PM
1

Hey man, not sure how old you are, but go out and do something. As lame/cliche as malls sound, there is sooo much to fuck around with at the mall, people watching, etc. DO NOT sit and watch a movie. I know it may sound easier, but there is 0 connection sitting watching a screen. PM me with more details, seems like there's a lot more going on underneath the surface
/r/seduction04/09/15 05:43 PM
3

Purposefully. Women are much more aware than men. Typically in society, men are the ones going after women. Women on the other hand can do so much, most of the time, a glance, positioning themselves closer to you, is as extensive as they'll go. Brushing against you is literally telling you, "NOTICE ME". Just my 2 cents
/r/seduction04/09/15 04:01 PM
4

Brother. That's one of the things that's hurting your progress. Don't compare yourself to other people. I'll give it to you straight right now. Looks matter. Size matters. Height matters. Money matters. However, ALL of the above can be overpowered with seduction. I'm 5'5, skinny, asian, but I have busted ass for 3.5 years to improve my dating life. I traveled to "high density" cities like San Francisco, Austin, and Seattle just to throw myself out of my comfort zone. I did Europe last summer for…
/r/seduction04/09/15 03:51 PM
2

You have already told her she's cute (making your intentions clear already). Now you have to avoid the study-friend zone. I know it's really easy to get into in college, but hanging out 1 on 1 with her is the best way to not be in the friend zone.
/r/seduction04/09/15 03:40 PM
1

Consistency is key.
/r/seduction04/09/15 03:30 PM
6

Dude. You have the entire campus to yourself. Just go out during the day and talk to women. I remember the first day i decided to go out to change my life. In high school, I was one of those wallflower kids that spent days without talking. It took me until my senior year of college to finally get sick enough to make a change. 3 hours, took me 3 hours of walking around, shaking, building up the courage to ask a woman for directions. When I do decide to go out for the sole purpose of working on my…
/r/seduction04/09/15 02:47 PM
1

Sometimes pressure helps you. When i first started going out to approach women, I remember walking around for 3 hours around my campus before finally asking a woman for directions to the nearest starbucks. Then I told myself I wouldn't go home until i got a number. Then i told myself I wouldn't go home until I got a hug. Nowadays when I want to go out to push myself, I won't even eat until I get an instant date. For some, coddling helps people, but in my experience, it's healthy to be hard on yo…
/r/seduction04/09/15 02:37 PM
3

That's awesome man! Doesn't it feel awesome to step out of the norm?! Making it habitual is what helps you lead the path to greatness.
/r/seduction04/09/15 02:27 PM
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