Getting of your head and into the present is common advice given in self-improvement spheres. This is what is called mindfulness: all the logic disappears and connection with your environment gets amplified. You feel a calmness and a sense of happiness brewing at your inner core. You can build connections with girls effortlessly.

Why is that though? Why is it important to focus on the now? It comes down to brain chemicals. The brain is divided into parts that are oriented for the future/past and a totally different section that is oriented for the so called "here and now".

The biggest difference is towards neurochemicals: the "here and now" engage all happy chemicals, however the past/future section engages only dopamine. The calmness and satisfaction felt in the moment stems from oxytocin, while the restlessness of logic stems from dopamine.

Make the switch, learn to engage in the now in order to think and build connections based on oxytocin, that is the natural way for humans. Dopamine can bring excitement but never true satisfaction, it is inherently a trap!

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