The problem with 'Be Yourself' advice...

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-07-07T19:18:56+00:00

The problem is a lot of AFCs come in here and say "Im socially awkward and shy what do I do?" A lot of these 'self-help gurus' say shit like "Just be confident and just be yourself, that's all there is to it."

That's where it gets annoying. The more experienced people say it like it's that easily and that's the key when a lot of people don't know "how" to be themselves. It's like a doctor telling you "You're unhealthy? Well just be healthy and take care of yourself and you'll feel better, I guarantee."

2013-07-07T07:04:43+00:00

Couldnt disagree more and im so tire of people sittig on this website bitching about nitpicky little shit and trying to tell us what their opinion is. Youre on seddit looking for advice because your opinions are mostly wrong and you are mostly clueless. Try to understand before you assume you know everything when the whole reason youre here is because you have admitted to yourself that you dont know everything.

Be yourself means be comfortable in your own skin, which doesnt mean "settle for whatever unimpressive version of yourself you might be right now" like a lot of people seem to assume. It means if you arent comfortable in your skin, you have to do the work to be whatever version of yourself you are happy and proud to be. You are you. Trying to change into someone else rather than be your best self is just kicking rocks down the road.

People think "be yourself" is wrong when they really just dont like themselves and dont understand that hard work toward getting what you want is something that you shouldnt even have to ask about.

People often modify it to say "be your best self," which i think is being a little pedantic, but thats ultimately what it means. Sometimes people dont need to worry about improving their daily lives so much as they need to accept who they are and stop trying to invent a persona they learned on the internet or in a book, and those are the people that "be yourself" really needs to reach

leodoestheopposite · 2013-07-07T11:47:38+00:00

Be your true self, you know the one without all the insecurities and the BS in your head? That one!

qoobies · 2013-07-07T17:07:37+00:00

Be your BEST self is also the better advice.

Title	The problem with 'Be Yourself' advice...
Author	2littlepigs
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	July 7, 2013 5:58 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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