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No “bro” I don’t get you.
/r/seduction05/10/18 03:09 AM
57

This. Fuck HS. People can be so shallow and superficial. You can get laughed away just for having a zit on your nose.
/r/seduction02/10/18 11:31 AM
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Be careful with that one. When you start to use those phrases and ones like "I'm sorry you feel that way" some people can be so sensitive they think you're being patronizing.
/r/seduction01/09/16 04:50 AM
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I say no. Depending on how active a person is on FB (usually, it's quite active), you're likely going to be thrown in as another number in her friends list.
/r/seduction17/01/16 09:09 PM
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I think the difference is that the asshole seems more cocky, but perhaps your kindness doesn't change. I think you can seem more like an asshole but still kind, because kind people still bring value to the table such as bringing people up and praising them when they deserve it, rather than point out and laugh at people's short comings.
/r/seduction21/12/15 07:22 PM
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Alright, we'll call it the October Revolution. We need change!
/r/seduction13/10/15 01:10 AM
70

Has this subreddit gone to the point where the top voted content is a screenshot of an iPhone with poor grammar? Why not put a bunch of emojis around the edges while we're at it? Just like on Facebook.
/r/seduction12/10/15 01:46 AM
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It's a lot of work. And it's not very profitable if you plan on that being your income (but I assume not, hence the word 'hobby'). Source: My parents are wheat farmers. Not to discourage anyone here, it's just how it is. On the bright side, not many can say they literally pick the fruits of their labor, and seeing everything come together feels pretty rewarding.
/r/seduction12/10/15 01:44 AM
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I'd suggest either upping your game or separate yourself and go to a different part of the room and meet other people. I had this happen all the time. I'd go out with my brother or a friend and they'd mean well, by approaching some people. He'd be very excited, flirty, and the 'life of the party' if you will, then he'd introduce me. Well, being me, I wasn't on par with his level, so you can tell the girls were disappointed to just be passed on...to someone less exciting. It never turned out well…
/r/seduction23/05/15 06:42 PM
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Where are you at in your "journey" if you'd like to call it that? I'm not really sure. I've been in random troughs, so it's been up and down for me. I haven't been on a date in a while, but I would love to eventually if I keep working at my journal so I'd feel better about myself.
/r/seduction20/05/15 04:11 PM
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I used to browse a lot last year (I started about 2.5 years ago), but I stopped because some of the advice people gave around here became quite jading. It was as if people copy and pasted "dress better, be confident, work out, and pick up a hobby." No joke. Hardly anyone knew what they were talking about. If some sorry dude came around asking for honest advice, the person that just joined last week would copy and paste that line. In hindsight, I would say out of social pressure. Like any awkward…
/r/seduction20/05/15 02:39 AM
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It's a good question, really. Remembering some of the posts a while back, I questioned whether people wanted to improve themselves and have a better and more enjoyable life or if they wanted to just cave into social pressure that self-worth is measured by how many times one got laid. The philosophy of "hit it and quit" made a bit disappointed in some people.
/r/seduction20/05/15 01:57 AM
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Coke and VODKA? I don't blame you for not wanting to drink that.
/r/seduction04/09/14 09:54 PM
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Deadlift is great. It's great for me pulling all that weight when all the big guys see a skinny guy doing it all. I would like to start doing more bodyweight routines like muscle ups and 'convict' training to get me outside more but finding a park with all the bells and whistles is tough! Good job on your successes. This is what we need here. Solid live improving results and advice rather than the 'fake it until you make it' or the nauseating 'Field Reports' we see here.
/r/seduction02/09/14 06:12 AM
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I'm more comfortable in my own skin. I am always comfortable because comfort is a frame of mind. Comfort follows you wherever you go because it comes from within. It is not external. This is the important lesson in this post. Do what YOU think is right. OP prefers bodyweight fitness, while I prefer powerlifting. Subtle differences that work for different people.
/r/seduction02/09/14 05:20 AM
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I don't see how this is proof of 'faking it.' When you get into new hobbies and start to dress better, that's not exactly faking it. It's just doing something that feels good.
/r/seduction02/09/14 05:12 AM
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Why are you getting voted down? Oh yeah that's right, if you go against mainstream advice, the so called PUAs here will downvote you. I agree with you. Why would you want to waste time with someone that always tries to bust your balls? It's one thing to have some flirting but if you're always playing social tennis to come up with the most whitty line to each other, your net gain is very little. Shit tests are almost a myth. They're out there but this subreddit makes them seem like they're expect…
/r/seduction02/09/14 05:10 AM
1

Does this stuff make you happy? If I learned one thing from learning another language that can be applied here it's: If you enjoy the process, you'll definitely enjoy the outcome. HB 8.25 I removed this scale from my mind a long time ago. Debating whether to talk to a 9 or a 8.7 seems pretty petty.
/r/seduction02/09/14 05:06 AM
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Game is hard work That doesn't mean it can't be fun. You're turning this into a chore.
/r/seduction02/09/14 05:03 AM
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Read the sidebar and if nothing is clicking feel free to post a thread, brotha.
/r/seduction30/08/14 07:22 AM
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Well, I could sound picky but martial arts are badass in their own way and comedy is pretty neutral because EVERY demographic has a comedy. But I see what you mean, when was the last time an Asian was in something like a rom com or a law and order type of mystery?
/r/seduction30/08/14 07:19 AM
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This. However this REALLY is a lot easier said than done.
/r/seduction30/08/14 01:24 AM
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Asian culture values passiveness and humbleness. In the United States, we value to show it off and own up to whatever happens. When passive Asian culture and extroverted West collide, the West wins.
/r/seduction30/08/14 01:13 AM
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Asian guy here. I agree with what you're saying. That being said, how many times have you seen where the Asian is the leader or having a non stereotypical role? I've only seen three cases and I've watched a good amount of TV. -Daniel Dae Kim in LOST (the FIRST show i've seen with a romance scene involving an Asian couple) and Hawaii Five Oh (police officer). -Steven Yeun in Walking Dead I'm Asian, live in a very white neighborhood/area, and trust me, no matter what people say about American's no…
/r/seduction30/08/14 01:10 AM
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But she kept making clear every now and then that she wasn't going to bang. The way you're trying to manipulate the situation when she doesn't want to have sex sounds like a good intro for a rape case.
/r/seduction28/08/14 01:17 AM
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Fahrenheit 451 Russian Grammar for English Speakers Fundamentals of Physics Physics of the Future something I can brag about +1 for lol. Don't be a literature snob. In the wrong people you'll be viewed as a douchebag. It's the person wearing a cardigan that brags about his wine cooler at the tail gater. Be humble. Be like a duck, above the surface be calm and collected. Below, paddle like fucking crazy.
/r/seduction28/08/14 12:30 AM
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MY solution: Leave. I have certain atmospheres I feel comfortable in when hanging out or if I want to meet people (anyone really) and crowded never seems to work for me. It never works for other people I've found as well. When you're in a jam packed club and people are moving around, most of the time they're not doing it to approach you but to move around and find a better area to hang out. This mode puts people in the "I have to move" rather than the "I want to see what he/she is about". Unless…
/r/seduction28/08/14 12:25 AM
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A few weeks? That's like five years in girl time. It's one thing to contact her back in a week but a few is bad.
/r/seduction22/08/14 04:23 AM
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Trust me, when you put forth the effort and she puts effort on her part, you will feel invincible.
/r/seduction04/08/14 06:24 AM
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-Powerlifting -Piano -Watching documentaries -Working on cars -Philosophy -Reading about current world issues -Going to school for chemistry -Teaching myself a second language
/r/seduction27/07/14 06:47 PM
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Adderall definitely has its side effects. -Increased heart rate -Decreased hunger -Insomnia -Erectile dysfunction
/r/seduction25/07/14 01:36 AM
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The underlying principle to understand in this post is this should be a part time thing and not something that takes up a majority of your time. If I were to make a ∏ chart of time consumed for activities, seduction should be small. You should have most of your time dedicated to your job, family, and regular hobbies. Don't make seduction your life. As cheesy as it sounds, it should be vice versa.
/r/seduction16/07/14 06:54 PM
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I've feared a yes as well. Spending years of getting rejected, I was frustrated and the thrill of the game was the chase.
/r/seduction13/07/14 05:41 PM
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Maybe you should go to different venues.
/r/seduction03/07/14 07:47 PM
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"Solo game" has its ups and downs. Going out alone means you have to really self-motivated, learn to deal with people asking "why are you out by yourself?" and learn how to be independent. Going out with others, the down falls can be people cock blocking you, people having bad nights and destroying the mood, etc. etc.
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:56 AM
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Why are you getting teased? Because the face value of seduction is cheesy at best. Seriously, when people say "pick up" the first thing that pops into people's heads are cheesy pick up lines ("pick up lines" are part of pop culture), being a loud obnoxious asshole, or being a stereotypical frat boy. Obviously, from a lot of the articles and stories here, one can tell the ulterior motive is a good one. Besides, which sounds better "I'm learning to improve myself" or "I'm learning how to get women…
/r/seduction20/06/14 06:04 AM
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No. It's a novel. That's all it is. The only thing you should learn from this joke of a book is that women have fantasies and are horny just like men, but they're not as open about it.
/r/seduction27/05/14 02:21 AM
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*on alcohol. I know this from experience because I'm an INTJ. xD
/r/seduction25/05/14 02:55 AM
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It matters as much as clothing. Good clothing can make a jack shit of a difference or make you feel like a badass. Same thing with clean skin. I still struggle with acne but it hasn't bugged me.
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:57 AM
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We live in a pro-extrovert world. In Hollywood, the 'evil person' is the person that's alone in plotting something great, while the smiley extroverted womanizer comes in and saves the day, then everyone is happy. Anyone that prefers to be alone (like eating or watching a movie by themselves) is deemed as creepy and/or lonely. Schools and universities pride themselves in having pep rallies and loud ice breaker events and those who don't enjoy such activities are 'party poopers.' There are advanta…
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:55 AM
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That's just bad perception. Arrogant and douchey is all relative to each other and the term is a bit old hat.
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:49 AM
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Nope. But it's mostly true.
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:48 AM
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You dig? y'know? Great post and analogy. However, I felt like I was in the middle of a Martin Scorsese film.
/r/seduction14/05/14 02:19 AM
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Are you congruent with how you feel? Does it feel comfortable to you? I went to a college party and everyone was dressed casually but there had to be that ONE person that stood out looking like a chode. When you're at a party drinking beer, there's that person that dressed up with a cardigan, blazer, and khakis with a full portable cocktail set up. Talk about peacocking to the max. I digress. My conflicting thoughts also tell me that at least it's classier than what you see at frat parties.
/r/seduction04/05/14 09:17 PM
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Yo homies, Black Dragon here. Bwahahaha. Oh my...
/r/seduction02/05/14 05:36 AM
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These apps are pointless. You add your best [photoshopped/filtered] pictures and put them in a portfolio and add a short biography of yourself to make yourself look more attractive and fun than what is depicted in real life. It's based solely on first impressions. Swipe swipe swipe for hours in hopes of getting a mutual like. After that, then what? Spend another half hour to try and fabricate a good line in hopes she will respond "You're funny ;)" ? That's not how it works in the real world. God…
/r/seduction06/04/14 07:25 PM
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Well what do YOU think? Ask yourself what you think would be right. These simple questions are a bit old hat. People don't mind answering them, but the idea of self-improvement isn't to ask questions as you go along. If one has to ask and can't think for themselves, it's pretty much over. Use your instincts and take a risk in what you think is right. Isn't that the philosophy this subreddit these days? I don't go on here very often anymore.
/r/seduction02/04/14 02:39 AM
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It's a numbers game. I know this is the tried and true advice in the seduction community, but it's especially true for Tinder. The app is designed for the user to swipe through hundreds of people in minutes. Figuring you pick a few of your best photos and you have a few lines for a joke of a 'biography' the app is designed on first impressions only. If people put thought into the people they swipe through, they're wasting their time and should go to OKCupid instead or even barf Plenty of Fish. I…
/r/seduction26/03/14 06:06 AM
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As harsh as this is, this person is correct. No one 'deserves' anything. I could go more philosophical, but I'm too tired haha.
/r/seduction25/03/14 04:02 AM
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I was actually agreeing with you.
/r/seduction24/03/14 06:56 PM
2

Nowadays, people use complex algorithms and advanced linear algebra to figure out if the woman is a HB 8.25 vs. a 8.5 vs. a 9.0. It's laughable. "Nope. She's not a 9, she's a 8.25 because....." Do you know how laughable it is to see when people use the scale so analytically?
/r/seduction24/03/14 04:46 PM
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The context of your statement made it seem like it was the only way.
/r/seduction24/03/14 05:11 AM
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You're in high school. Take advantage of your social surroundings by being in school. Clubs. Sports. After school activities. AP classes. Cold approaching at a mall is cool too if that's your type of thing. Develop that life style that carries on to college (or after school if college isn't your thing) that is attractive to other women, guys, future employers, etc. and gives you something to distract you when shit hits the fan with women. Facebook has its uses. It is great for networking, but if…
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:33 AM
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In order to acquire an abundance mentality you have to: go outside and cold approach multiple girls until you have several of their numbers in your phone. No. Simply cold approaching isn't the only way to develop an abundance mentality. It's a good way to get out of your comfort zone, but cold approaching isn't the only way to meet people. I'm not sure why this subreddit is so set on that cold approaching is the staple of self-improvement.
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:21 AM
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Fake it until you make it. If you're talking about faking confidence by* telling yourself how supposedly 'awesome and confident' you are, then it isn't faking it because you are actively changing your own attitude about life itself. Think about it. If you're going tell yourself you're a badass, you'll find logical reasons rather than say "I'm the shit. I'm the fucking man." If you're going to say it's science, at least cite a source.
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:19 AM
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A lot of the people that spew out the same circulated advice (like the ones you mentioned) and the old hashed out advice of 'go to the gym and dress better' don't know what they're talking about. They figure going along the same grain like what 70% of people are saying, then it HAS to be true. It defeats the purpose of personality. There's no critical thinking. I know people that are out of shape and wear poor fitting Target polo shirts with more confident than the so-called PUAs here. Many peop…
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:08 AM
3

Is there anyone here with any experience in Slavic countries like Russia?
/r/seduction23/03/14 04:44 PM
1

Hey man, whatever works for you! I'm practicing a new language (Russian; not easy stuff!) right now and I can't wait to try it out on other speakers.
/r/seduction23/03/14 06:14 AM
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It all depends on what your scene is. If you are the more introverted intelligent type, it doesn't seem congruent of you to go out to the bars, as you'll very seldomly find someone as nerdy. It's possible, but your changes are more higher in other places. It sucks figuring at bars, alcohol is in the equation and things are lower risk and more relaxed.
/r/seduction15/03/14 04:20 AM
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I suppose you're right. Perhaps when it comes to the big picture, the big three (pick up hobbies, dress well, work out) shouldn't be taken at face value. Perhaps dressing well isn't that important, but why does this subreddit seem to stress that?
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:33 AM
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Not a lot of people are going to admit that their lifestyle is inferior to yours I admit nothing. I'm not here to say certain people are above or inferior to me.
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:23 AM
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It's not they don't want to learn, it's I'm having a hard time trying to collect thoughts and the logic behind dressing well and picking up hobbies so I can teach them about it. I guess because I'm not the best dresser myself, it's not much use.
/r/seduction12/03/14 05:22 AM
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Motivation to change comes from within I can't stress how true this is. All it takes for someone to hit rock bottom to rebound and obsess over changing.
/r/seduction12/03/14 05:18 AM
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Voice tonality Watch that. Now learn to speak with your abdomen. You need to project your voice without trying (voice tonality; don't pitch upwards like you are trying really hard).
/r/seduction08/03/14 07:17 PM
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They exist. You have to learn to differentiate between shit tests and 'I'm not interested.' People here take shit tests so seriously that get the mind set that all women are out to reject them, it's their mission to attack guys, and you always have to be on the defense. People waste their time chasing women that don't like the person back and guys take it as a 'shit test.' If a girl says "I have a boyfriend" it usually means...she has a boyfriend, or isn't interested. Why bother trying to come u…
/r/seduction05/03/14 05:03 AM
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Good Guy OP. I don't enjoy a lot of FRs in this subreddit any more, but I enjoyed this one for some reason.
/r/seduction04/03/14 05:42 AM
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To build their inner game and self-esteem to the point where they aren't damaged by fuckups. What you're describing is a catch-22. Essentially, you're saying gain experience to the point where you aren't damaged by fuck ups. The only way to become immune/stronger to the damage from mishaps is putting yourself out there and learning from experience. Learning from reading seddit posts and Mark Manson blogs won't prepare you at all. It's the tried and true balance of experience vs. knowledge/studyi…
/r/seduction04/03/14 05:27 AM
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Why people are willing to sacrifice their own health for a gamble of attracting women is beyond me.
/r/seduction03/03/14 04:39 PM
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Now you're rationalizing for not even trying. It's shitty getting rejected, finding that one person you click with but she isn't interested, or the likes, but it's all a numbers game. Look at scientists. They'll find a thousand ways an experiment doesn't work but eventually after deductive reasoning, they'll make the experiment work.
/r/seduction02/03/14 11:22 PM
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Quality is subjective. It's like being an introvert and going on here. They'll condone you to go to the bars, which is great, but finding an introverted girl that you want is slim when you can just browse book stores or something.
/r/seduction02/03/14 11:04 PM
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Because finding a quality girl on Tinder is a waste of time compared to a lot of outlets. The layout is designed for the best looking people to match. If you have good pictures, you're in. Then again, it's an option. If you're using it as another option rather than a primary one, it will help [slightly]. The way I've seen people do it isn't like OKC or online dating where there's a full bio to read. You can swipe through numbers of people within seconds. Some people have different standards. I d…
/r/seduction02/03/14 10:08 PM
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Nothing. If it wasn't for my fuck ups, then I wouldn't have hit [near] rock bottom to rediscover myself and set my path for the new me. That's how I see it. It seems illogical of me to think of the past when I just learn from it.
/r/seduction28/02/14 10:42 PM
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LOL! Real Social Dynamics? Bwahahaha.... At least you didn't have to pay for the information that is probably taught by any decent parent to kids at a young age. "Did you say something that offended someone? Here try this...genuinely apologize and show that you won't do it again."
/r/seduction28/02/14 07:51 AM
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Vulnerability. It's about putting yourself out there in a vulnerable position (not saying be weak) that has the potential of being laughable, sad, or embarrassing. It shows you're willing to trust her and make yourself look foolish because you're trying to relate to her. Instead of simple 'listening' like people say, you need to add input. Tell something about yourself. Emphasize. None of this "drag them allong" crap and stupid mind games this subreddit seems to have a boner about.
/r/seduction27/02/14 11:25 PM
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I'm not happy either. This forum warped my mind. It got me out of the hole but it's now whomever says the wittiest thing. Apparently, if you give advice of being yourself, or making yourself vulnerable by exposing your feelings and your sensitive side, people will shrug it off for being beta. Nowadays, PUA seems to go back to 2000; saying cheesy lines and expecting them to work.
/r/seduction19/02/14 10:31 PM
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Sounds like another social standard or media image that is thrown in our faces so we can feel insignificant and have to live up to that unrealistic standard.
/r/seduction16/02/14 11:45 PM
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What do you know? You're just some AFC beta virgin. That was tongue in cheek by the way. (Edit: I guess people don't understand my humor. Anything that goes against the grain in mainstream advice, the person is shunned as beta or crazy) What I'm saying is I agree with your rhetoric.
/r/seduction16/02/14 11:41 PM
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Unless you're able to detect emotions through a screen, my post has no evidence that I am angry. I'm simply throwing in my opinion and observations. You're right, that's all it is; a tool. It's like giving a mechanic a set of tweezers. It's not useless but sure as hell not as useful has a wrench set.
/r/seduction14/02/14 09:59 PM
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Depends. Some people are social introverts while others are isolated extroverts. It all depends on how you get your energy.
/r/seduction14/02/14 05:22 AM
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Why are you getting voted down? This subreddit baffles me every day. Tinder is a horrible app and the way it works is horrible as well. If you have good pictures and are reasonably attractive, people will swipe 'like.' Figuring there's only room for a small description and shows your mutual interests from FB, it's speed dating at the speed of light. You can swipe through profiles a high rate without thinking. Conventional online dating at least forces you to take more time on it. If you want to …
/r/seduction14/02/14 03:24 AM
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Wow, I'm impressed RSD. Julien is actually using something simple and good to work with versus their older stuff. The old stuff he was essentially rehashing old stuff and making it mental masturbation.
/r/seduction11/02/14 06:39 AM
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If that's your thing, go for it. I find talking about myself at a bar is a lot easier compared to a lot of places it seems like (at least less effort and not caring about what people think). I talked about the video game Kingdom Hearts with someone for a few minutes, it was great. If you show interest in the other party, talk about yourself, and combine the atmosphere of the bar, you have a winning recipe.
/r/seduction07/02/14 05:49 AM
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Alpha: Aggression Being aggressive is over compensating. Beta: Nerdy Nothing wrong with nerdy. You can be a diehard chemistry major like me and not care what people think. Everything else is spot on.
/r/seduction06/02/14 06:14 AM
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About a month. It's like a multi-vitamin for your diet. It doesn't necessarily work, but it helps a bit. Like anything, don't get attached. Because you're patient and you actually get a match after 100 swipes, you're tempted to think "She's the one!" Figuring I got 14 matches now (2 from last night) after about 100 swipes, that's about 14% mutual liking, and only 2 responding, that's 14.3% of your mutual likers responding, and that's about a 1-2% of people you swipe through reciprocating. TL;DR:…
/r/seduction02/02/14 09:03 PM
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I keep telling my friends not to rely on alcohol, and no one believes me. "No, I NEED alcohol to have fun, you don't understand!" Oh please...You're acting like you have a chronic illness and you need your medication. I'm going to tell you what everyone else is telling you. Alcohol is a crutch. Sorry, but it is. I won't point fingers and preach to you, because even I induldge in a couple of drinks, because it helps! This is the problem with being an adult is we've gained the privilege (or right?…
/r/seduction02/02/14 08:56 PM
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The app sucks. I get spam, pranks, etc. I got 12 matches in my area so far and only 1 or 2 actually respond back. It's a hook up app with no real value, unless you want some self-amusement. Figuring the way the app works, it's based on who has the best looks.
/r/seduction02/02/14 08:44 PM
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OP, are you me? This sounds exactly like what happened to me. Sorry man. I guess the lesson we've all learned here, is bail at the first red flags because after putting off with it one too many times, it snow balls and all of our lessons learned and instincts go out the window.
/r/seduction02/02/14 07:57 PM
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We need to standardize the term 'nice' guy. It seems people here are always confused that 'nice' guy is the one portrayed in No More Mr. Nice Guy whereas 'kind' or 'friendly' is what they are.
/r/seduction14/01/14 10:50 PM
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I see where you're coming from; my response to HappyJerk can be the same for you.
/r/seduction06/01/14 02:09 AM
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Well that's a good way to put it. Fortunately, I do get out when I can, and I don't mind meeting people with different interests. I do get where you are coming from because people use social conditions to define who they are rather than the other way around and use it as a self-limiting belief. For me it's, 'I like socializing but after a while I get drained, therefore I am introverted' rather than 'I'm introverted therefore I have eject after a while'
/r/seduction06/01/14 02:05 AM
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Holy crap...How do you base that introversion doesn't exist? That would also mean extroversion doesn't exist either. There is a difference. There is also a difference between people that are shy and 'introverted.' It annoys me when people tell you to flat out ignore something because something doesn't exist because you don't believe the scientists. These are the same extroverts that function well in society (neurotypicals) that say autism, ADD, and social anxiety don't exist because we're just t…
/r/seduction05/01/14 10:48 PM
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You are fine. Thanks for your mature response. I enjoy good discussion, so no need to apologize.
/r/seduction03/01/14 08:16 PM
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Clarify, do you mean they are teaching men to manipulate women or do you think they are manipulating men who pay for their stuff? Both. I think there is a time and place where this can be a good thing. To let loose and have fun. Yes, that is true. If you start to follow Jeffy or the likes, and take it by heart, you will start to become that asshole. Look at their demographics; desperate heart broken men that want to get better with women. They'll eat any content up because they don't know any be…
/r/seduction03/01/14 08:15 PM
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Morally, I can't justify forcing people to pay to see me fail or get rejected by a set. Then again, I'm a capitalist, so they can do as they want figuring it's their content.
/r/seduction03/01/14 04:09 AM
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Read my response to mhrdth
/r/seduction03/01/14 04:01 AM
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The core principles they teach are still valid though. In what way? Each their own. I see by my downvotes I'm preaching to the choir here, but I'll say it anyways. I know from my last post it's making it me sound like a white knight. They have a couple of nice videos I can agree with. I'll give them that. Look at their demographics though. There's a lot of people coming from messed up backgrounds. Their business market is just that. They'll prey on the desperate and lonely crowd and claim they h…
/r/seduction03/01/14 04:00 AM
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I'm going to warn you, RSD has no regards to social etiquette, respect towards women's feelings, or care that you are essentially manipulating people. If you're not careful, this stuff becomes habit. It will carry on with you in the day time in your life. I notice I was becoming too aggressive and a bit of an asshole during the day. This didn't help me in a professional setting. It's hard to separate the two conflicting personalities. It's not very authentic either if you're Rick Moranis during …
/r/seduction02/01/14 11:00 PM
1

Why is it that I run into these robot pua's on these sites? Robot? You mean I'm a robot for thinking logically and questioning/criticizing articles that come in and out of this subreddit? These include the RSD cult videos and articles of the "Guaranteed 10 ways to be manly to impress her." Pardon me for having room for critical thinking. What I don't like, however, is when someone makes accusations that can't be backed up with any evidence. In the nearly 5,000 women that I have approached in the…
/r/seduction02/01/14 08:03 PM
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Alright RSD, I hate your marketing and how you manipulate emotions, but this video isn't bad. This is one of the few inner game videos I like of them. Their infield is still a joke though. God forbid they post themselves failing, getting rejected, or a student doing an approach. Bad for business to show flaws!
/r/seduction02/01/14 06:49 PM
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You do realize that the way you stated that sentence evoked images of annoying, tween girls "being random", right? That's likely why people, including me, didn't find much value in that prior comment with more explanation. I suppose. I guess I assumed that people knew that fundamental difference between being fun and outgoing vs. ADHD and annoyingly random. But this seddit, we have go down to the bare bone basics here.
/r/seduction30/12/13 12:32 AM
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I'm entertaining, because I'm self-amused and i don't care what other people think. I would assume you're goofy because you're allowing yourself to be so, rather than being the dancing monkey there just for people's entertainment. It's like the difference between "laughing at you" vs. "laughing with you." This is one of the few things I actually learned from RSD than I can actually use. I want to show I have a sense of humor but at the same time I have to show i have something else to offer.
/r/seduction30/12/13 12:31 AM
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It's strange how in this subreddit the most random things get voted up and sometimes good advice gets voted down. What I'm saying is, in a high energy environment no one is going to notice what you're going to do, or lack thereof, so you can actually 'let loose' and show you're having a great time and don't need anyone else. Fundamentally, people are attracted to that type of energy. In a large club environment this is key because women are going to bump into random people all the time that will…
/r/seduction29/12/13 06:31 PM
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To be honest, conversation for me is easy. It's a matter of getting the group/person's attention and respect to listen to what I have to say. In terms of a club environment, I've found being high energy and random has got me success bwahaha!
/r/seduction29/12/13 07:01 AM
1

...Why would you feel the need to shut down someone's 'game'?
/r/seduction29/12/13 06:59 AM
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It's about developing true confidence. Imagine a person that has it all made for him. He will have no need to prove anyone wrong, put someone in his/her place, nor feel the need to assert dominance over people. They let their accomplishments speak for themselves. I make fun of my gym buddies in a joking matter. One friend has large biceps and I jokingly say, "Haha, you skip arm day!" He laughs along because he knows what he has and has no need to prove me wrong. There is a difficult line to trea…
/r/seduction29/12/13 06:25 AM
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If you go around telling girls they're cute but you come off as anxious/creepy, you're going to fail all the time Yep. However, good body language, eye contact, and voice tonality is universal (light calibration though like anything).
/r/seduction28/12/13 07:12 AM
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Yes. Think about. If you're direct at the bars, you're just going to seem like another drunk at a bar. It's not simple, there's more strategy. Daytime, the matter of 'tell her how you feel' is pretty much the key. The hardest part people (including myself) talk about is approach anxiety. That's why people think day game is harder than night.
/r/seduction28/12/13 07:07 AM
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There's nothing wrong with social media. To those that are completely anti-social media/'Facebook is complete evil' are the ones that had a social media addiction to begin with and went cold turkey. No use in throwing the baby out with the bath water. I'm a quiet introvert so I can't hear everything that is going on by just walking around campus. It's a good way for me to learn about social gatherings that are going on (school clubs and car clubs for me). It's also great for me to share pictures…
/r/seduction28/12/13 06:55 AM
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The fact that you said you got kicked out by the main bartender but left out any detail says something. You really have to do a number to people around you or to the bartender to get kicked out. Bartenders are your friends and will go out of your way to make your experience comfortable or the opposite.... Anyway, one of the uglier girls starts being a total bitch to me. I have learned that when a woman does this you have to put her in her place or she'll blow the whole set. Put her in your place…
/r/seduction28/12/13 06:48 AM
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So I've been a night time pua for about two years now. In the first year of pick up I never got kicked out of a bar. However, I have found that as my game has gotten better I have experienced a lot of kick outs lately. The first kick out happened three months ago. I was shocked, mad, and felt like a piece of dog meat. I went online and talked to other pua's and found that it's not so unusual. It really doesn't matter how good or bad a pua you are, there will always be a bouncer or bar tender som…
/r/seduction28/12/13 06:37 AM
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We're in seddit. Quite frankly my dear, I don't give a shit.
/r/seduction27/12/13 04:50 AM
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I don't like these articles, but they're better than a lot out there. The list wraps up seduction and enjoying life in a nut shell, but gives you nothing to work with. "Be confident and be sexy, that's it folks!" There's a lot of ambiguity but at the same time a lot to work with to mold to your own unique style. This advice posted in the article is for the hard case n00b. It should be basic instinct/intuition now that [true] confidence is attractive. To any intermediate, this is pretty elementar…
/r/seduction26/12/13 06:01 AM
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You're lucky to be that indepedent especially going out. I'm an INTJ and I can usually entertain myself without the need for others but going out is different. I don't need friends to go out but it takes a lot of activation energy to get me out of my head.
/r/seduction24/12/13 08:21 PM
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RSD and other stupid marketing cults gave me a false sense of confidence. They have a few videos that are good for discovering the basics of thinking and how to approach situations when socializing. In the end, their garbage is mental masturbation that doesn't help you. They perpetuate the same content and claim it to be new and improved material. What happens in their 'in-field' isn't what happens all the time like they want you to believe. The problem with accumulating all this wealth of knowl…
/r/seduction24/12/13 07:42 AM
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Great read, OP. We need more people like you. Now join me, and together we can bring order to the PUA community and destroy Real Social Dynamics. (Seriously though, have you seen the posts on there? Even worse than here. The advice is either 'continue being an asshole' or 'just ignore xxxxx')
/r/seduction24/12/13 07:23 AM
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I believe having people with you is crucial. Not to get you out of your head, but as social proof. Unless you're really independent and extroverted, get a wingman. Going out solo is tough. I'm introverted and it's a nice challenge but I've gone home from shitty nights many times.
/r/seduction21/12/13 07:16 AM
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Thank you. This is what I was saying. Looks are overall health and what you wear not the genetic kind. If it was just the conventional 6' athletic type that mattered, we'd still be stuck in the pre-Neil Strauss days.
/r/seduction20/12/13 07:09 PM
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Ughhh...RSD. I hate their philosophies. They don't address people's problems directly; they tell us to simply ignore it and push through via brute force. Looks DO matter. Even Brad Bradson the so called lifestyle expert of RSD says so. He endorses going to the gym, fueling it with good nutrition, and getting better fitting clothing. Those ARE looks. If by good looks you mean genetics of being blue eyed with a chiseled Abercrombie and Fitch model chin, then yes those looks don't matter. Listen RS…
/r/seduction20/12/13 07:02 PM
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Solution: Knock on random doors. Knock knock. You: "Hey is your daughter home? I want to ask her out." Seriously though. I lost as well. I'm introverted and the only places I can think of are coffee shops and the library. Once in a while though....I'll encounter someone different at the bars because she just happens to be with her friends. I'm confused on whether I want to meet another extrovert to force me out of my head or if I want someone that is on my level.
/r/seduction18/12/13 06:13 AM
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Seriously. Start lifting weights, sprints, and trying different forms of cardio. Get rid of this 'cardio bunny' commercialized garbage.
/r/seduction16/12/13 09:25 PM
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It's called being congruent. This thread is bad, and OP should feel bad. There's nothing wrong with canned openers, figuring you're congruent to what you are saying, meaning if you mean and feel what you say. It's about being genuine. The reason this thread is a bit misleading is it doesn't go further and explain what I was just talking about (congruency) and hard case n00bs won't know any better and repeat this line like a robot.
/r/seduction15/12/13 01:01 AM
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That's not the point. When you have something to say, people can detect if you're just saying it like you're reading it from a script or if you're legitimately telling them like you mean it.
/r/seduction14/12/13 11:02 PM
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There's no such thing as a 'best opener.' There are situational openers. Claiming there is an opener that works in 'any' situation is no different than the the bad marketing posted on the internet. "Learn this line to attract ANY woman."
/r/seduction14/12/13 06:48 PM
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It's really annoying how people use "I'm a virgin" as a self-limiting belief to not at least put yourself out there. This isn't a caste society where you're just doomed forever. It also annoys me when people that are extroverted naturals that lost their virginities at 15 or 16 without trying, saying that "it doesn't matter, just ignore the stigma." You have it right, but you're ignoring the hardships a lot of us on this subreddit have to overcome harder than others.
/r/seduction09/12/13 04:11 AM
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Thank you for seeing where I'm coming from. And I see where YOU are coming from as well. I accumulated a lot of information and it made me more stressed because I felt like I had to abide by all these rules.
/r/seduction04/12/13 01:11 AM
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Like I keep saying. You're not wrong but you're deviating and distracting people from my original complaint. You're arguing about something different than what I was originally arguing. It's a straw man. My grief was with posts like OPs where all the message you can get out of it was 'just be confident' rather than 'here are some points on HOW to be confident.' Like you were saying the idea is to get out and KEEP trying. Do you think a hard case n00b is going to know that? Without any sort of pr…
/r/seduction03/12/13 10:52 PM
2

Running the fastest that you've ever ran before then simply run a little faster.
/r/seduction03/12/13 09:19 PM
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Meh. You aren't wrong on saying get out and talk but your implication of just saying ending all this discussion is a bit red herring.
/r/seduction03/12/13 09:02 PM
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It's about inner game. Even the cliché advice of 'get a hobby, go to the gym, and get better clothes' would've sufficed. This whole notion of 'just be confident/don't be creepy' helps no one. That advice is for junior high schoolers. A lot of us here are graduated, in college, or in the work force and being confident about anything is simple intuition. The problem is is if you look at the demographics of this subreddit is none of us know HOW to be confident. We grasp basic ideas but never actual…
/r/seduction03/12/13 07:55 PM
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It's like watching the sports movie where they do bad at the end of 2nd quarter and all it took was a pep talk from the coach to go from 0-50 all the way to 51-50 with the team making the winning shot with only 1 second left on the clock. Does that really happen? Nah.
/r/seduction03/12/13 05:55 PM
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Be yourself. Be confident. Yet, that's really all there is. If I had a dollar for every time this advice is given.... People always shout out this advice everyday like it's the ultimate million dollar answer. It's like asking a doctor for health tips and he says "just be healthy." These pep talks are all fluff.
/r/seduction03/12/13 05:18 PM
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You should read his posts. He's not even ready but he's trying to give advice to the locals on pick up.
/r/seduction26/11/13 03:11 AM
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Haha, I had the problem too differentiating. "Wait Mark Manson...isn't he on RSD? Why did he break off and start his own blog that puts down conventional PUA? Oh that's Brad Branson."
/r/seduction25/11/13 12:28 AM
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So I guess now a days, to refute something you have to personally know the person. Gotcha.
/r/seduction25/11/13 12:20 AM
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This is a really generic question that can easily be answered with your own research. Try the side posts first.
/r/seduction24/11/13 10:24 PM
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From the reviews of people that went on their boot camps, it seems they're good at what they do. If you look at it, they recirculate a lot of the old material and rehash it as new stuff. I don't agree with their business model. They target the desperate and lonely crowd (they ALMOST convinced me to buy into a bootcamp) by claiming they "raise the bar on free content." The problem is they market these glorified vacation packages and say you can improve in only a few days with the intensity they p…
/r/seduction24/11/13 08:30 PM
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I hope I'm not a psychopath then. :( I was having a crappy night but I went out with some friends. I nervously approached someone and after the interaction went cold, I approached again and again without hesitation. Maybe my AA was still there but only for a brief moment? Can someone explain that or can relate? Having a good interaction, then it just snowballs into a good night.
/r/seduction24/11/13 05:25 AM
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That sounds very intriguing. I'll have to look more into that. There has to be some truth behind people always being on their phones, having headphones all the time in public and having an effect on your attention and peripherals. This probably explains the "sorry I didn't see you, I was off in my own world." I wonder if there's a correlation between me picking up video games again and my attention span.
/r/seduction24/11/13 02:33 AM
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I guess I'm the only person that sees the common advice of "just fucking do it" too frank and doesn't address the problem enough? Or am I just being too analytical, not living the moment, and being a pussy?
/r/seduction23/11/13 10:14 PM
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You are right. Their inner game philosophy, I enjoy. However, I feel my day game is a lot different than my night game. I'm more serious and less energetic during the day, but when I don't have college, I can be the life of the party (at times).
/r/seduction23/11/13 04:08 AM
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It's funny how you like Models, but also enjoy RSD as well. Ever since I started reading Models, I stopped watching RSD. Some of the stuff on RSD is great, but they recirculate the same content and make 30 minute videos out of them. Be careful with that stuff. It can be toxic. I started living by the RSD philosophy and not gave a fuck when I went out, but noticed I started to become a bit of an asshole.
/r/seduction22/11/13 04:24 PM
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I highly recommend reading the whole unprocessed version first. I have a very short attention and interest span and I haven't found a paragraph that I skipped because the whole book is great. Support an honest man by buying the book. If it was RSD or something go ahead and distribute away!
/r/seduction19/11/13 06:34 AM
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Ever see a random fight or crazy antic while just being in public? What did you think after a bit? Probably forgot all about it huh?
/r/seduction17/11/13 10:51 AM
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Don't. The gym is a stress reliever for a lot of people out there and the last thing an avid gym goer wants is to be disturbed. I know men are suppose to do the approaching but women on their part will make themselves more open to being approached. Examples are not being on the phone, non crossed arms, and not wearing headphones. There are women there (and men) that go to the gym and do jack shit just to be looked at or look at other people. Those people are there for the wrong reasons and are w…
/r/seduction14/11/13 07:21 PM
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I was just reading this very section on Mark manson's book Models. He sounds insecure. Flashing wealth is false confidence. "Hey I don't have anything I think is worth offering so I'm going to show off my wealth."
/r/seduction14/11/13 07:12 PM
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Ever try the pop culture pick up lines (you know, the really cheesy ones we all use to make fun of the so called "pick up artists") in a serious tone? It gets awkward pauses. I used a cheesy pick up line with the portrayal that I knew it was cheesy and JUST for fun, and I got some laughs and a good introduction. Body language and facial expressions are equally as important as the shit you say. It doesn't matter if the joke was obvious or implied, body language does most of the talking. Coming fr…
/r/seduction12/11/13 07:46 AM
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No, we're actually married. We just celebrated our 30th anniversary yesterday (when you're both obviously in your 20s). Say it with the feeling of self-amusement with a funny smirk on your face.
/r/seduction12/11/13 06:56 AM
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He's right you know. I was noticing that today when I was eating lunch. I saw a girl next to me that couldn't decide what to get, then I recommended what to get and she got it later and told me she enjoyed it. It was an off and on interaction. It wasn't bad, but wow, now that I'm a bit more experienced, I'm really starting to hate myself coming off as vanilla and average. It's true though. If you have an interaction, try to keep it moving. I didn't know what to say beyond my interaction. Small t…
/r/seduction12/11/13 02:28 AM
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I can't help you. I'm not experienced in online game. I don't use Facebook or the internet like I should to network.
/r/seduction10/11/13 02:42 AM
1

I asked the same thing a while back. The only canned routine I use is the opener. "Hey, how's it going? How's your night going?" That's canned. Things are routines/canned to a point, but if you don't put emotion, interest, or body language behind it, it's as good as reading a line off of a script. At least my canned opener is authentic and a bit personalized to how she will respond.
/r/seduction10/11/13 12:31 AM
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Parties suck. At least they did in my school. Occasionally, we heard and went to a large party and they were decent. If you go to a semi large school with chill cops, then you'll have a better experience than I did. The thing I've learned is, you have to be extremely extroverted to communicate well and come across as someone cool in parties. What I've noticed what RSD says and what I've noticed is, you have to be the life of the party (don't try too hard though; being a try hard is VERY noticeab…
/r/seduction09/11/13 08:25 PM
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How do you feel about the dating scene in college? I feel it's a lot different in ways due to the different maturity levels. I think a lot of dating advice here can't apply to college because I rarely hear about dates or any sort of the conventional methods used here.
/r/seduction08/11/13 12:14 AM
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I'm still questioning the ethics and authenticity of RSD.
/r/seduction07/11/13 06:54 AM
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Don't know why you're getting voted down. A fraternity despite popular belief is a great way to meet people. Apart from the bro fest and beer keggers that you hear about (stereotypes come from somewhere), the brotherhood and journey is a great way to network for the future. I rushed a couple of years ago, but turned it down because I had other plans. I wanted to save up for a project I was working on, and I declared my major to chemistry which consumes a lot of my time. Do I regret it? Not reall…
/r/seduction07/11/13 12:27 AM
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Join some clubs. Having social proof helps A LOT. Going out to the bars with friends you can relate with helps a lot and gives yourself a better image. It's a win win.
/r/seduction06/11/13 05:17 AM
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Rookie mistake for the n00b wingman: Don't pass on a girl to your friend. I'm saying, don't do what my friends do and what I did was have this great opener, get them laughing, while your friend is waiting for the introduction, and then say, "Oh, this is my friend, ....." It's never worked out for friends that are less enthusiastic than you are in the situation and not in state. And it's not fair for them either. Let your friend shine too.
/r/seduction06/11/13 12:53 AM
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This sounds very lame, cheesy, and faked. Taking up Palm reading just for the sake of picking up women? Good lord I guess taking 3 guitar lessons to learn one song to pick up women is archaic now. I suppose the stickies on the side condoning inner game, having an outside life on your own have fallen to deaf ears to the people posting here. If shit like this is going to continue popping up and neck beards thinking learning 5 minute crash courses in hobbies will result in a better dating life, I'm…
/r/seduction04/11/13 12:44 AM
1

Is it a blatant insult or a passive aggressive one?
/r/seduction03/11/13 09:49 PM
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I know how you feel. Fundamentally I have everything in order and right. When you have school, fighting depression, dealing with Asperger's, and you just don't have that feel of self-worth at times, the going is pretty tough here. Just keep marching on I guess. :/
/r/seduction02/11/13 10:14 PM
1

This is for people that have severe AA.
/r/seduction02/11/13 09:52 PM
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Do people set their standards too high? I feel a lot of people do. Don't be the guy that's never dated or kissed a girl but will only think about the ones that are conventionally hot.
/r/seduction01/11/13 07:06 AM
1

I guess this depends on how the interaction went.
/r/seduction01/11/13 05:23 AM
1

I'm having a bit of cognitive dissonance. I like them but at the same time I don't. They are one of a kind. I rarely see attitude and high energy PUA folk whenever I go to the bars like I see watching their infield footage. Either they're bat shit crazy or my city is just dead when it comes to cold approach pick up.
/r/seduction01/11/13 05:09 AM
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It's intimidating. They give good lessons (IE, being in state, how to always have something to say, how to deal with shit tests...) on inner game, but the way some of them act is crazy. Look at how RSD Jeffy deals with being stood up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFSBjjAu_s0 I could never do that. I'd be unpopular so quickly. Then again, it's not MY style. They are huge on emphasizing taking yourself and style and making it the best it can be. Watch more videos. Notice NONE of them say anythin…
/r/seduction01/11/13 01:50 AM
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I never really tell them in the first place unless they ask. Even then, I'm pretty blunt. "How was your night?" Me: "It was good. I went to the bars and met some women. I talked to two law school graduates and got their phone numbers." Them: "Oh...cool."
/r/seduction31/10/13 03:18 PM
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Nobody knows I read about seduction Same. Well...mostly. I don't tell anyone about it. I'm pretty closed off about telling about my experiences. You can say I try to be humble about it, but people think I'm a closed off a person. Then again, how does one share experiences of last night without sounding like a douchebag (rhetorical question)? "Yeah, I approached a 3 set, got a phone number, and then danced with the other, last night." I mean really, unless I suck at story telling or unless I'm sp…
/r/seduction31/10/13 03:15 PM
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There is no best time. There are better times, but I've been to places where the outing was packed full of great people but I couldn't find myself to approach. It was embarrassing (to myself). There have been times where the venue was dead but I managed to approach a 3 set of military women at the club without trouble. It all depends on you and getting into state. If you want the conventional answer, the answer is the weekends a bit after 10 are better, and 11 is when they peak.
/r/seduction30/10/13 06:11 AM
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Men fall into the category of nice guy all the time, get friend zoned, and screwed over and fail to realise the social norms they were taught are holding them back to what they REALLY want.
/r/seduction29/10/13 06:48 AM
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Yep. So true here. I broke free of the conservative religious norm after high school and parents didn't seem to mind, figuring I was anti-social a bit, struggling with my chemistry degree, and diagnosed with Asperger's. It's the best way to break free of dumb traditions to become a better you. Men today already have a hard time learning to be confident and comfortable with themselves without religion and traditional values breathing down our necks. I grew up in a small town where the rule of thu…
/r/seduction29/10/13 06:45 AM
1

Thanks. What would you consider deep conversation? I've never had a deep conversation with a girl before. I've tried to initiate one but she wasn't very responsive.
/r/seduction28/10/13 04:19 AM
1

How do you usually transition to deeper things?
/r/seduction28/10/13 12:01 AM
1

Tell that to the Okinawans, where the average height is below 5' 5".
/r/seduction27/10/13 01:12 AM
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Pinky finger. Make sure you tap with exactly 0.05 Newtons of force with the angle max at cosine 40 degrees. Those fine details are important for attraction you know.
/r/seduction26/10/13 07:49 PM
2

Girls hang out with guys all the time. Last actual date, she went with me because I was a bit persistent. And I bet it was just a pity date that she accepted....
/r/seduction26/10/13 04:35 PM
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I know how you feel (no pun intended). I appeal for logic and I'm a bit insensitive at times. It's probably why I reflect back that I was a bit of an asshole to a girl or a bit insensitive. According to the Briggs Myers personality test (they're not in stone, it is psychology...) I got INTJ. The T stands for thinking which means you don't lie feelings or emotions dictate your decision making. Explains why I'm good at giving advice but I come off as an asshole.
/r/seduction23/10/13 06:48 PM
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There was an article on here about the 9 most confident traits a man should have on business insider.com One of them was, if you're going to seek approval from others, make sure they're someone you can look up to, or something like that. We all look up to someone in our lives; those people we respect. If there's going to be people to seek approval from, it might as well be our role models.
/r/seduction23/10/13 06:15 AM
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The last few weeks, I haven't been dependent on alcohol. It's great. Sure my game isn't like the people's here but I don't like to use alcohol as a crutch. I want to be able to drive home, feel fine in the morning, and not spend a crap load of money. 2-3 drinks the whole night. The bartenders know me enough to give me unlimited club soda and cola for free. I like sober game now because I can remember finer details.
/r/seduction21/10/13 03:18 PM
1

I don't have a lot of women friends that like to go out. I know it seems like I'm making excuses here, but maybe I prematurely jumped into this board. I guess seduction is a board for people that have their shit together and a good social life but no sex/love life?
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:40 AM
1

act beta Da fuq? You're essentially saying winner takes all.
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:39 AM
2

If that's appropriate, then I should consider that next time. If I'm going out with one other person, usually not though...
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:37 AM
1

Going out with other people definitely makes it easier and is DHV because it shows I have friends, etc. (pretty obvious why this is a DHV). Going out solo improves my skills but it does seem a bit weird/creepy I came to the club by myself? Takes balls but it's not common. My problem is I have a hard time getting a group together that want the same goals as I do. No one wants to meet women how I want. It's not like the movies where the gang gets together to have fun primarily but to meet women ra…
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:37 AM
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Maybe this is you? Voice tonality. A difference if your voice goes down, up, or stays stationary can make you sound hostile, trying too hard, or normal. I need to work on it as well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VDslvC4_5w On a side note, what's with the condoning and trend of people posting essentially, "Be a loud asshole that's better than everyone"?
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:14 AM
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Thanks. He is my friend because he understands my situation with women and part of my history. He does make an effort to direct women my way but he's the polar one. The women are just attracted to him more. Nothing I can do about it because I'm just doing what I do best is just being me.
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:03 AM
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/u/TofuTofu can you give us some insight then on why you went to Japan for pick up? Is there some truth to this article?
/r/seduction21/10/13 12:22 AM
1

I never said I hated it. I don't want to be the center of attention all the time. I just want to know how I can deal with it, work with it, and still be able to meet and flirt with women when you're the least experienced person in the group. It's going to happen; you're going to have people better than you a lot of the times. Finding an equal is rare.
/r/seduction20/10/13 09:34 PM
2

Wow...Pressure on yourself much?
/r/seduction18/10/13 01:26 AM
1

Beautiful, a gorgeous smile, smart, incredible to talk too, great taste in music and many other things Oh geez, oneitis/pedestal much? A lot of people out there are pretty, have good dental work done, intelligent at what they care about, and have an interest in something outside of work and sleep.
/r/seduction16/10/13 05:54 AM
1

So OP literally had a fist fight with himself and his brain?
/r/seduction16/10/13 03:30 AM
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The problem is I always friendzoned and wrecked myself many times because I had oneitis and didn't pursue anyone else. Now it seems I think about no one because I reconditioned myself. Yay me?
/r/seduction16/10/13 03:28 AM
1

By dressing and being your age (I don't want to say 'act' your age, but I mean talking about mature adult things like jobs, sex, movies, music, etc.)
/r/seduction16/10/13 03:22 AM
2

Dude, no. Your definition of alpha is simply be loud.
/r/seduction14/10/13 06:15 PM
2

You came off as average. It's not awesome but you definitely didn't screw up.
/r/seduction13/10/13 11:47 PM
1

Can you elaborate on deep 'emotional stuff'? I've always wanted to have a connection with someone, but at the same time how do you differentiate that between the 'just the guy that listens to my problems'?
/r/seduction13/10/13 09:38 PM
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I never had a height issue thing. It never bugged me. I'm 5' 8" (average?) and I go to a small college town revolved around sports where nearly everyone is 6'+ and really athletic. Am I dismissing the problem too easily by advocating just ignoring it and not letting become an issue is better? I find the advice here of saying "being short is bad, but I don't care, I'm confident!" is about annoying as the people rationalizing other things like, "I'm proud of being fat and overweight!" I know they'…
/r/seduction13/10/13 09:06 PM
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Instead, you should listen to her problems, be nice, etc. Yeah...no. I went by this philosophy when I was in high school and got friend zoned every time. Don't be convenient for someone like a pack of tissues to be used and thrown away when done. You lose self-respect and become taken for granted. I'm not here to listen to a person's problems. I have a life and problems of my own. I'm here to bring someone up and show someone a good time. Not be the little bitch saying, "Awww it's going to be ok…
/r/seduction10/10/13 04:22 PM
3

Were you not hugged or physically picked up as a child? The reason parents touch their kids, play with them, or demonstrate with other people is to show it's perfectly natural and okay to touch people when meeting them. This is through a handshake, light punch to the shoulder, or even a waist grab.
/r/seduction09/10/13 06:11 AM
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Slap her in the ass. Actually, I just shake her hand and hold on for a few seconds when I ask her name.
/r/seduction09/10/13 06:08 AM
3

This article is just as bad as the Relationship World pictures I see on Facebook. It's just designed to make people feel insecure and feel not enough. People like this make dating hard. "Nope, I have to obey the article; you have to meet this standard, be this hot, and meet this criteria." The word 'man' is a very loose term.
/r/seduction09/10/13 06:07 AM
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What are you saying? Don't do pick up techniques because they don't apply to college? The only good read I've found that applies specifically for college is Conquer your Campus. I go to a small school. I know social proof is a big deal. The thing is the only way to do so is joining a frat or be in sports. Sounds just like high school. I'm not athletic and I don't have the money or the extroversion to join a frat. Am I making excuses for myself here? Forgive me for trying to be different I guess?
/r/seduction08/10/13 12:42 AM
3

That book is weird. It gives some good information, but there are a lot better things to read out there.
/r/seduction06/10/13 07:47 PM
1

well what if that 1 girl who gave you her number was actually interested? L O fucking L. Good luck finding that one person that's actually interested, mate. You can't simply read people as interested or not. You can't focus your attention on one person. It's detrimental and you're ignoring other people out there. Trust me, if you focus on one person, you're going to feel more pressure in making sure this one interaction goes well, and you'll get more nervous. I've learned this from experience. I…
/r/seduction06/10/13 07:09 PM
0

Crap, too bad I don't have a sister I can say what you did, or else, I couldn't revert a cockblock like that one.
/r/seduction03/10/13 12:52 AM
1

Smiling has become habit for me. I'm smiling more often than I have last year. You'll soon smile without even noticing.
/r/seduction02/10/13 02:59 PM
1

Read, "No More Mr. Nice Guy." It talks about men with the nice guy syndrome and one of the guys is a person who is only attracted to people that seek help.
/r/seduction01/10/13 08:53 PM
1

I feel you put too much pressure on yourself. Get rid of the idea of pick up from your mind, and get rid of the mentality that you have to gain something. That's called outcome dependence. If you feel there's something on the line, you will start to freeze up.
/r/seduction01/10/13 03:08 PM
3

Your advice is good, but not exactly relevant. If you're curious why, read my other post.
/r/seduction29/09/13 02:44 AM
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I know exactly how you feel. I'm a part of this. The advice here is good, "Be genuine, curious, interested, be honest, etc." but it won't make you part of the group. It isn't enough. It's not tackling the problem. The qualities listed are a great way to MEET people. They're what I call 'base units'/chemistry of socializing. They make up any relationship but they won't make you friends that you feel a part of. Friends are people I can give shit and we both can laugh about it. What it all comes do…
/r/seduction29/09/13 02:44 AM
1

Hey man, I know exactly how you feel. Either I overcompensate by seeming like a cocky guy that's full of myself or I'm shy and speechless so I can't get past small talk.
/r/seduction26/09/13 06:05 AM
1

He doesn't understand what not giving a fuck means, but if you really did not give a fuck completely, you'd be bat shit crazy. There are boundaries, but figuring the help is catered for the audience of insecure people that think to much, we don't have to worry about people going insane (for the most part).
/r/seduction26/09/13 03:49 AM
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I have yet to meet this person I have chemistry with. Time to keep pushing on, I guess. No point in complaining in something if the only solution is to try harder. :/
/r/seduction26/09/13 02:24 AM
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I've never had this problem. If people are giving you shit about what you drink, you're hanging around some shallow people. Usually, people don't care what others drink. Just get a Coke or do what achinator said and say you're the DD. I befriended the bartender and he said that the Cokes I ordered were bottomless! Whoop!
/r/seduction23/09/13 04:46 PM
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This is going to be very difficult for me, but I won't let that stop me. Not a lot of people I know like to go out with me to the bars and have the same goals and mindset like I do, and I tend to have a few drinks throughout the night. So my goal is combating that slight alcohol crutch and learning how to improve my solo game.
/r/seduction23/09/13 05:25 AM
1

Very difficult. The energy of day game is a lot less lower in the people your approach. If you approach someone, become energetic, and touchy like you do at a bar or club (night), you're going to be creepy.
/r/seduction20/09/13 01:40 AM
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Your inner game is good. The thing people here always forget is warming up. If I'm going out, I grab some gas and BS with the cashier, my car buddies, or any random stranger. These are within places of my comfort zone that are zero stress environments, but out of it enough to where I'm not afraid to approach strangers. Once you get into the rhythm, it becomes habit. I see plenty of the "look at yourself in the mirror, listen to a pod cast, listen to a badass track" threads but never of anything …
/r/seduction19/09/13 04:59 AM
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3 is where people fail not 1.
/r/seduction19/09/13 04:35 AM
2

May I ask if you've just gone through a major catastrophe like a heart break or deep humiliation? You sound just like me when I was in a slump. The stages usually go: 1. Slump 2. Major epiphany that you want to change for the good 3. Make or break (will you actually go out or eventually recover and revert to your old ways?) Is where people go wrong a lot. I'll advise you not to overdo it on the attempt to absorb all reading material. You'll get addicted to feeling good on the advice that relates…
/r/seduction19/09/13 04:34 AM
2

Don't be the guy that floods the friend with compliments. "This is my friend. He is like...the best dude ever. I'm not joking. You should sleep with him."
/r/seduction17/09/13 06:23 AM
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In some form or another. Try growing up in a small college town revolved around sports where the ideal male has to be athletic, on a sports team, or involved in Greek life. The ideal image is a tall dude that's athletic as well. This explains why we have so many try hards on campus. I'm at a fault. I'm neither, I'm Asian and I automatically get dismissed as the typical foreign exchange student we have around campus (making random people smile at you, approach you, etc. harder than your average s…
/r/seduction17/09/13 05:30 AM
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I try to drink a Coke to make it look like I drink. Plus, it gives me something to do because if I get nervous, I start drinking. Unfortunately, because I'm physically active, I drink a lot of fluids , so that plan goes out the window (I can't be buying 8 Cokes in one night) because drinking becomes habit. I saw this today: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvBKC_8TTao Try this if kindly refusing doesn't work and maybe you polo shirt wearing bro friends will understand.
/r/seduction15/09/13 02:35 AM
1

I notice when Im at my worst/lowest, I'm at my best and I'm the most determined. Keep your eyes on the prize. Good luck man
/r/seduction13/09/13 05:24 AM
2

I'm a scientist and I understand uncertainty. Too bad numbers can't exactly be applied to approaching and getting rejected or not. :/
/r/seduction12/09/13 04:27 AM
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I don't know why you're being downvoted but there is no rule to say you're not supposed to do it. As an avid exercise nut whom likes to do power lifting, the last thing I want is distractions when Im there to detox, relax, and take some 'me' time. I am sure both sexes feel this way. There are many more appropriate places to approach and make conversation. My philosophy is not to approach at the gym. It's not fair for people that use the gym as their only break. Approach the girls that I see that…
/r/seduction09/09/13 07:12 PM
1

Just don't be creepy No shit. People need to clarify what's 'not creepy.' For day game, it's a lot different than night game, so learn to calibrate for that. Creepy by the way, can be more than the old man at the bar with the toothy smile and state that yells, "You gonna get raped" It's the day time; people are not as relaxed, but their bitch shields aren't up, so cold approaching will get you better responses than night game. The energy level isn't as high either, so ease off on the kino and be…
/r/seduction09/09/13 06:39 PM
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Good luck. I got a bid from a fraternity but turned it down because of money issues. I'm starting to think Greek life in my small town is the only way to get high social status when you're not athletic enough to do sports.
/r/seduction09/09/13 06:01 PM
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College is huge on social proof I've learned.
/r/seduction09/09/13 03:10 AM
2

This happens to the best of us, and we don't realise it. I k closed a MILF at a club but she seemed interested in me, so I naturally relaxed and stopped trying because I thought I sealed the deal, but I came off as desperate. It happened to me and I didn't notice.
/r/seduction09/09/13 02:52 AM
1

You did everything I'm the 'agree and amplify' but you left out one important factor; the amplify part.
/r/seduction09/09/13 02:44 AM
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That is true. I try to have fun, but if I have too much fun I end up in my comfort zone of just BSing with my friends. I don't want that. There have been nights that stood out from others where I get a number or dance with someone and I have 'fun' without worrying about concepts, but other than that, nothing.
/r/seduction07/09/13 07:01 AM
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I've done ALL of this. And it has gone no where. I've put myself out there in being myself and learning to have a good time, but nothing. I guess, either I'm not trying hard enough, I'm not persistent enough, or there's one key thing I seem to be forgetting in interactions (I feel the conversations go no where, interview mode, blah blah). I'm a little down (and drunk) right now, but I won't tell you, OP that you're wrong, because you're not. Everything you say is spot on (even though they're gen…
/r/seduction07/09/13 05:06 AM
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Yes it is the point of this subreddit. Confidence is the physics of socializing, if you were to compare sciences, because it's the back bone. The point Im making is, that "being confident" is already well understood to 99% of this audience, so saying "just be confident" isn't teaching us anything we don't know. I only say "just be confident" if Im giving advice to a teenager. Look at the audience here. We come and post here because we don't know "how" to be confident. We come here because we wan…
/r/seduction06/09/13 04:35 PM
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Yeah, I agree with you. You may have remembered the thread I posted a while back about canned openers. The thing about canned phrases is they're situational. The conversation is authentic and improvisation and not scripted. So yes, I'd say, "Hello, how are you?" is canned.
/r/seduction06/09/13 05:41 AM
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The point is you had FUN with it, you saw the flaw in your conversation, and you're improving upon it for next time. That's what it's all about. Good job, OP for taking a jump, and feeling good about it. It's better than, "Oh, I'm so stupid! I messed up and should've done x and y. Now what?!"
/r/seduction06/09/13 05:24 AM
1

That's what I was saying in my response. How do you become patient and understanding vs. going straight for what you want?
/r/seduction06/09/13 02:57 AM
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Being patient and responding like you did is one thing (sympathetic/understanding), but how do you differentiate being understanding versus being persistent and not being walked over? I mean, sure there is that instance where someone is busy (a lot of us are busy, so being understanding and patient is an important virtue) but there are the regular AFC cases where you're not being persistent enough and not standing up for yourself?
/r/seduction06/09/13 02:54 AM
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If I had a dollar for every self-proclaimed help/PUA guru in this subreddit that said, "Just be yourself" "Just be confident" as their only foundation for advice....
/r/seduction06/09/13 02:19 AM
3

I read this in a 1930s/40s style voice. "I must say Doll, you're looking stunning tonight. I am swell by the way."
/r/seduction05/09/13 04:01 PM
1

By removing hanging out from your vocabulary and use kino.
/r/seduction05/09/13 04:22 AM
2

Im 90% positive that she likes me Good lord, get out of here with that. It's either she's interested or not. The fact she said she'd bring her friend with her on your 'date' means she's not interested.
/r/seduction05/09/13 04:16 AM
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Unless you're in a loud bar, the idea is to not forget in the first place. As David Wygant put it, if you can't remember her name, you're not paying attention and the fine important interactions will slip through the cracks. To not forget the name, say it out loud. Not mentally. Say it out loud. "John. It's nice to meet you John." If it's a foreign name I feel more awkward to repeat it because I bomb it every time and I end up forgetting it. :/ But that doesn't address the point for when it does…
/r/seduction05/09/13 04:03 AM
1

Thanks for the response. Care to describe how your night usual goes, if you have a routine (IE warming up, etc.)?
/r/seduction04/09/13 03:07 AM
1

What about social proof? The problem with going out solo is you aren't seen as higher value as say with a couple of other people? I am pretty good as an independent person but I feel trying to be fun and self-entertained is a bit harder.
/r/seduction04/09/13 03:06 AM
1

It's hard to pick people out to see if they're talking with their friends vs. actually approaching. :/
/r/seduction04/09/13 03:06 AM
1

Read No More Mr Nice Guy. It talks about how our relationships with our parents effect our dating and love life. Example is a guy named Jose that his mother was never there much (druggie) and the father was abusive so he was the problem solver. Therefore he found he always seemed to be attracted towards damaged women that were needy. Read it, it's a great read.
/r/seduction03/09/13 07:45 PM
1

There needs to be a different term than 'nice guy.' I criticize 'nice guys' all the time with the reasons listed in the article and 90% of the people out there think 'nice guys' are the good guys and I'm being the 'asshole' for criticizing 'nice guys.' Good lord, man! I'm saying be a gentleman, not a 'nice guy'! More philosophy I agree with: Don't Be Nice, Be Kind Side note, people here supporting the nice guys should read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' by Dr. Robert Glover.
/r/seduction03/09/13 01:59 AM
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Thank you for your great response. I wish I would've read this a few months ago when I was more insecure, needy, and a bit of an asshole when I had a thing for this girl I met. I developed oneitis. I tried not to put this person on a pedestal, but the chase made me kept persuing for some reason. But nope, dumb things on both sides costed me a friend, and I still get upset about it here and there. It wasn't a serious thing between us, but it definitely was an age of enlightenment and self-improve…
/r/seduction02/09/13 05:22 AM
1

Don't listen to Mr. Lemon. This whole advice of basing everything around confidence is getting really old and doesn't help anyone. Not that confidence isn't key, but telling people to "just be confident" helps no one. The whole one-sized fits all is insensitive to what you're asking or the person doesn't know what you've experienced. If you want people to be comfortable, you have to learn to be comfortable with yourself. People will begin to trust you the more vulnerable you put yourself in. Vul…
/r/seduction02/09/13 04:55 AM
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I really don't see how joking around with light banter with a girl makes me an asshole. If anything it makes me just a bit cocky. I'm being an asshole if I disregard her completely by constantly insulting her, bringing her down, or making her feel bad. Edit: Took out (not*) being an asshole I kind of fear for all the n00bs reading this thinking being a jerk is the ideal way to feel and be 'alpha' because it doesn't go into depth very well, because I don't see anything here as ground breaking adv…
/r/seduction30/08/13 05:14 AM
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Rockband? I guess it's better than Dance Dance Revolution.
/r/seduction30/08/13 03:20 AM
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I'll chime into before someone throws in the whole cliché "just be confident, bro" bullshit (not that it's not true, it's just annoying when people say 'just be confident'). I believe by going off of what you quoted, it means that your lifestyle is because of you and you only. It's called intrinsic motivation; doing the things you do for the beauty and joy for doing them themselves rather than thinking of the outcome of impressing a woman or in hopes of scoring with someone in the class. (This s…
/r/seduction30/08/13 03:14 AM
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This is a bit difficult to judge. Did she straight up say it or did she do it with a flirty tone and a smile?
/r/seduction29/08/13 04:18 AM
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Alpha is like confidence to me. It's a mindset that comes in all forms and sizes. All the n00bs on here perceive alpha as the loudmouthed bro with spiked hair, bowling ball biceps, and a polo t-shirt 1 size too small. Even the most literal quiet and sleeper type people out there are "alpha."
/r/seduction28/08/13 06:15 AM
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Can we stop with the use of the word 'Alpha'? People on here overuse and misuse it so much that the word and original meaning has no meaning anymore.
/r/seduction27/08/13 10:54 PM
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This is tough. People are giving different advice but it's hard to tell what to suggest without knowing your personality, interests, etc. I'm more on the introverted side (I like to do my own thing and avoid social situations at the end of the day because I'm wiped out), but in my days of the dorms, I made sure I went to the social events the campus put on. IE freshman orientation (uugghh, "alcohol is bad!"), 'icebreaker' social event, dorm floor activities, sporting events. Finding the right pe…
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:37 AM
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Not to mention "I think you look very beautiful tonight" is a very one sized fits all compliment that holds no regard to her specifically.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:25 AM
2

Confidence is a skill that must be developed over time.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:17 AM
1

Getting a hobby is not the cure all for neediness in my experience. I'm involved in the car scene, I play piano, I'm a full time college student, and I go to the gym 4+ times a wee. The thing is I've found out if I feel attraction is diminishing, she probably just isn't that into you. However, if you like her, you start responding back by attempting to build attraction more (beauty of the chase), which means sacrificing your self-respect and this shows to the woman. I read a few Mark Manson arti…
/r/seduction27/08/13 01:56 AM
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Hey guys, so say there's a girl I think is super hot when I go out. She seems like my perfect 11, she's intelligent, smart, evolved, obviously beautiful, sexy, and most likely abundant. [Has tons of other sausages approaching her, probably everywhere she goes.] It almost seems like you've put her on a pedestal already. You're not giving us enough information. Women don't flat out rudely tell you, "Go away" like in the movies, unless you're doing something stupid and flamboyant. Women like to be …
/r/seduction25/08/13 02:32 PM
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Your mental knowledge is exceeding real world applications. The bad part about accessing this information on the internet and books is you are so set on just reading away and not bothering going out which reinforces old habits (IE not going out because you think just reading is a justification of staying in). There's a balance between going out and learning through reading. If you're bent on following all these rules and routines, you'll be a slave to your own mind and too nervous to do anything…
/r/seduction25/08/13 04:54 AM
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It's also a generation thing. Some people are compulsive and absorbed about their phones and don't realise they're being rude because it's a habit. The last real date I went on, she NEVER picked up her phone. Maybe a couple of times throughout the entire date. And she's a person that likes to use her phone a lot.
/r/seduction24/08/13 06:21 AM
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And how many are like this? Not many. You'll encounter a lot of people that are obviously not as interested in you as you might think. Attraction isn't black and white. Some are slower to progress than others.
/r/seduction24/08/13 04:07 AM
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College is about social status. College maybe more mature than high school but some things don't change. If you follow the advice here of meeting EVERYONE by talking to everyone, joining organizations, and clubs, you'll have social status.
/r/seduction23/08/13 04:37 AM
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Easier said than done. I've had instances where SHE acts more awkward than I do for making a move, and it makes ME feel awkward as well. This spirals into something that you don't know what the hell to do. I'm still confused on how to handle that. People say "Just move on" which might be the best advice but I like to try to leave people in good terms, but I guess you can't please everyone right?
/r/seduction23/08/13 04:25 AM
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You're going about it all wrong. Don't expect. It's assume. The reason that philosophy exists is to neutralize the common approach anxiety reasoning, "She doesn't seem to be into me" "She's out of my league" "I don't think she's attracted to me" The idea of assuming attraction is get those thoughts out of your head to make approach anxiety not as bad. You'll never know if someone is attracted to you unless you approach. If you DID know her thoughts that she wasn't attracted to you, would you app…
/r/seduction23/08/13 04:12 AM
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I talked about penises (penii?) and vaginas with some girls within 2 minutes of introducing myself and a friend. It's possible, so don't doubt it. Yes, transition is hard and a bit awkward so I understand where you're coming from.
/r/seduction23/08/13 04:06 AM
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What do you mean? Give examples? Like talk about how guys and girls think different and the likes?
/r/seduction23/08/13 04:03 AM
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I talked about the chemistry of high fructose corn syrup with a barista. I then talked about marijuana and talked about the hundred different ways to spell her name (Caitlin/Caitlyn/Katelyn/etc. I can't remember, probably because she's engaged I found out).
/r/seduction23/08/13 04:02 AM
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Pretty much. You have to throw in your thoughts and opinions on her story (without fear of offending anyone) and ask interesting questions (different from questions that turn it into interview mode). You'll have to excuse me. I'd like to go into more detail, but I've had too much beer after a long day.
/r/seduction23/08/13 03:59 AM
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Obsessing over one women who gives you way too much resistance is self-destructive. But but but...It works in the romantic comedies and Disney movies!
/r/seduction22/08/13 04:22 AM
1

I know it should be that easy. You meant shouldN'T right, from the context of your post? I think not giving a fuck is a good universal advice for the 99% of the people that are caught up in caring what others think and afraid of rejection. Though, if people didn't give a fuck completely, you'd be bat shit crazy.
/r/seduction21/08/13 05:24 AM
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Well you have it right, but easier said than done. It's about as equivalent and helpful yet useless as telling a newbie "Just be confident."
/r/seduction21/08/13 03:58 AM
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That's called extrinsic motivation. Doing something because there's a potential reward. If you had the factor of women involved, it would prevent you from picking playing Magic: The Gathering over dance lessons due to the demographics involved. Do something because you WANT to do the hobby. If you removed the thought of picking up women from the hobby, you were never interested in the hobby in the first place or you're just lazy rather than just simply "never gotten into it." If you're intereste…
/r/seduction20/08/13 05:33 AM
1

Are you saying if you say it with humor like 'you know it's silly but you don't care' mentality, then the cheesy opener I used of "My friend has a 10 inch penis" is more appropriate than saying it like you're trying to obviously pick up a woman?
/r/seduction20/08/13 05:16 AM
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Do you know what I mean? Yes I do. I think there's a difference between the cheesy canned ones I mentioned and the other ones. The scripted ones you mentioned that are 'perfectly fine' I see are appropriate because it's how I react to the specific situation as you said, whereas the cheesy ones are "one size fits all" ones that don't address the specific person at all. You have to admit though the LOTR line is REALLY stupid, thought I laughed because I know I'll NEVER use it.
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:31 AM
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I guess "Hi, I'm ....., how are you?" won't sell the hotcakes on YouTube. This is ironic figuring I've used the simple "Hi" introduction and people thought of me as boring despite me doing everything right (good voice tonality, slight smile, eye contact, and hand shake). I was at a club with my friend and I used the same body language but I said, "This is my friend, he has a 10 inch penis" and got nothing but laughs and onward to sex talk.
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:22 AM
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You need to get rid of the 'strings attached' mentality. If you're doing a hobby for the sake of meeting women, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons. Find something you like and the social circle will be there. I'm telling and warning you that if you do a hobby standalone for the sake of doing something for yourself or for the hobby itself, it'll show more attraction and authenticity. I don't work on cars or study chemistry for women. I have these hobbies and a developed lifestyle that the …
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:11 AM
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I don't get it either. The cheesy pick up lines in those threads seem so non personal, I'm a bit skeptical.
/r/seduction19/08/13 02:30 AM
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There are hundreds of girls out there to pick from and you choose to be a home wrecker? Bro. Spoken like a true 'nice guy' beta.
/r/seduction18/08/13 03:13 AM
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You literally have the meaning of literally wrong.
/r/seduction18/08/13 02:04 AM
1

slaps forehead Oh duh. That guy is my hero.
/r/seduction17/08/13 02:18 PM
2

Well can it be figuratively perfect?
/r/seduction17/08/13 06:02 AM
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Nope. Asians have the short end of the stick when it comes to mainstream media in portrayal of sexiness. Not to bring up the good ol' stereotype, but when was the last time you've seen a movie or TV show featuring an Asian having a romance scene, a love story, or something not related to being a successful scientist? I saw this on LOST, where the Korean couple had a love story behind them and the directors pointed out the portrayals I pointed out. /Rant from another Asian
/r/seduction17/08/13 05:57 AM
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There are days I wish I lived in New York. The experience you listed of women getting hit on 8 times a day means the competition is demanding and you have to keep up with the Joneses. At least if I grew up there in the dating scene, I would get over my insecure 'nice guy' stage a lot faster haha. Imagine a New Yorker moving from the city to a smaller city. He'd be drowning in pussy with all that experience! Or would he be considered an alien figuring dating is different in different cities/cultu…
/r/seduction17/08/13 03:31 AM
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Well, kudos for having the confidence of doing that and another high five for it working. It seems dumb to use such pick up lines, but what do I know? I only have done it a couple of times. To each his own. The point I'm making is, you don't need cheesy pick up lines, but if you speak with confidence (that fucking word again!) and good body language, it'll get some laughs. I introduced my friend to some people by saying, "This is my friend, he has a 10 inch penis." Got some laughs and talked abo…
/r/seduction16/08/13 05:56 AM
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Try living in a city where the only Asians here are the first generation awkward types or are foreign exchange students. I like being different, but it really sucks when you're thrown into the stereotype of the 'awkward Asian with a huge language barrier.' I really don't get a fair change because I'm already preconceived unlike the majority so my changes of being approached myself are slimmer. I really try not to blame things I can't control. I really want to move to Seattle where I actually fit…
/r/seduction16/08/13 05:46 AM
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I'm going to sound real bitter here, but even though racism isn't a big deal anymore, figuring this is 2013 (the civil rights issue now is gay rights), it still exists. Going to college in a small town where 98% of the Asians here are foreign exchange students (different clothing, culture, that really bad language barrier, and different social experiences) I often get written off as one of them as well. I follow everything here. I dress well, I go to the gym 5 times a week, and I make sure I app…
/r/seduction16/08/13 05:40 AM
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Would you like me to prove you wrong You don't need to prove anything to anyone. This is one of the traits of a confident person is you don't need to tolerate this type of bullshit nor do you need to feel validated by proving someone wrong.
/r/seduction16/08/13 05:27 AM
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I've found that talking to people in my comfort environments (school, grocery store, and other zero pressure areas that I won't do approaches) with small talk prior to going out is fantastic for getting my energy up. Watching videos is fine, but if you're not warmed up, you're not going to be in the proper state. Do I watch sparring videos before I spar, or do I do light shadow boxing? It makes a difference warming up. Being an introvert I'm getting sick and annoyed of people using introvert whe…
/r/seduction14/08/13 05:43 AM
1

Fifth date after having sex: Guy: "You're fun to hang around with Jamie." Her: "It's Julie." Guy: "0_o"
/r/seduction13/08/13 03:26 AM
2

For some reason when I think chiropractor now, I think Alan Harper from Two and A Half Men haha
/r/seduction12/08/13 04:59 AM
2

He's the asshole of spectrum then. (You know nice guy --> gentlemen --> asshole) I'm Asian, so I can use this for my advantage. I also said to the girls, "Me, it's like throwing a hot dog down a hallway!" At least with assholes, they have confidence, but they're overbearing, annoying, and full of themselves.
/r/seduction12/08/13 02:28 AM
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I'm going to sound like a dick here and get downvoted, but if you forget her name, you're not paying attention. That's at least how David Wygant puts it. If you can't remember her name, you're going to have a hard time remembering fine details (oh, did she say she was a nurse or a nurse assistant? Is she from Philidelphia or Portand?) Seriously, remembering her name is a rookie mistake that can easily be fixed. When she introduces herself, repeat the name back. This helps a LOT. By repeating thi…
/r/seduction12/08/13 02:05 AM
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You have it spot on because it describes a situation I was in a while back. My friend and I were at a club, and saw some cute girls and I introduced myself and I said, "This is my friend, he has a 10 inch penis." They laughed and we BSd for a while. I really don't know why I said that now that I looked back, but it turned out well because I was in the state and displayed happiness and confidence. Probably because I really believed in what I said in was true which indirectly contributed to my goo…
/r/seduction12/08/13 01:44 AM
1

I'm at home with no ride. I would have a drink with you because I have a thing for blondes. xD This city you live in must be good. I see new cities as great opportunities for new experiences! (Unless it's Detroit)
/r/seduction11/08/13 05:20 AM
1

Thank you friend, I'm going to be drinking tonight too. Just got off a 12 hour work day, tired, and the feels are coming up.
/r/seduction11/08/13 04:30 AM
1

I know what you mean by perfectionist. The problem with me is I easily get discouraged because I want to do everything right the FIRST time. I know a lot of us here hold us to high expectations because we see a lot of FRs that are pretty intense and exciting (but fail to recongise the posters are pretty experienced)
/r/seduction11/08/13 03:46 AM
1

science of sex on netflix Noted for the future. I was just going to ask what your sources were too. Thanks, I'll check this out.
/r/seduction10/08/13 05:42 AM
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This. And no fapping (I'm 100% serious about this).
/r/seduction05/08/13 05:38 AM
2

It's more of a mental thing really. If we already have the presumption of "oh, she's not attracted to me, why bother?" would you approach? Maybe. Would you have a more difficult time approaching? Most definitely.
/r/seduction05/08/13 04:37 AM
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Great response, thank you. This might be splitting hairs here, but how do I prevent feeling awkward in a moment of silence? Like what you're saying, I don't really want a conversation as much as I want to build attraction. On a second note, how do you escalate to more sexual questions? I do just fine talking about boring school and work but I want to know how to transition further.......
/r/seduction05/08/13 04:05 AM
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If only it were that easy. The problem I have is I think I try to hard to not have nothing to say and when I run out of things to talk about, it's like hitting a mental wall of bricks.
/r/seduction04/08/13 04:48 AM
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I agree with what you're saying. The problem a lot of us have is we use conversation to try and fill in the gaps of silence to prevent awkwardness in the first place. Is the goal here to let her engage (IE ask questions, provoke thoughts, etc.) as much as you are talking?
/r/seduction04/08/13 04:41 AM
1

I really hate articles that have "8 points" or whatever number and each point has their own page.
/r/seduction04/08/13 04:30 AM
2

I talked to a girl at the bar (not the most attractive, but she was very kind and easy to talk to) and I complimented her intellect and drive to go get through graduate school. She took this as a genuine compliment and it earned me a number when she left. I still need to work on giving compliments that show I'm interested. It's difficult because I do apply myself by using the key points to follow: -Listen! Be interested in what she has to say! If you're worried about the outcome, you'll forgot k…
/r/seduction02/08/13 04:35 AM
2

Wow that's awesome. I wish I can think of games like this.
/r/seduction02/08/13 01:31 AM
2

How come there was never a guide on picking HBs in the gym? Because you don't need a specific "guide" for a particular "place." Other than calibrating to the social atmosphere, I don't see how your social skills and inner/outer game will change. "Guys, how do I approach people at the mall vs. at a symposium?" The gym is usually a bad idea because the gym is a place for many as a cloister for stress release and most people tend to want to stick to themselves because they are focused into their wo…
/r/seduction01/08/13 02:27 AM
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Thank you, that's what I was saying. Essentially, I'm not using the drink to buy her company. If I feel she's someone pretty cool, I'll simply offer to buy her a drink. At the end of the night, it's just the difference of having a few less dollars in my wallet.
/r/seduction31/07/13 05:12 AM
1

That's a bit silly to drive 1.5 hours to me, but I get your point though. Driving distance shouldn't matter.
/r/seduction31/07/13 02:26 AM
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+1. If it means expanding my social circle and then bringing my friends out to the big city, they'll be impressed the bartenders know me. xD
/r/seduction31/07/13 02:15 AM
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I don't mean to make excuses for myself, but if you go to the college bars then go to the bigger city, the crowd is a lot more fun and easy going. I don't get it? Is it me? I believe it is....
/r/seduction31/07/13 01:52 AM
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Now you're splitting hairs with the your choice vs my choice. The reason I brought up sharing my drink is simply drink conversation. I like to talk about alcohol a lot because it makes for great conversation.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:58 PM
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You're missing my point. People are saying NEVER buy her a drink. I'm simply saying there's nothing wrong to buy her a drink when you think she's earned it and to deny her a drink if she feels entitled/demands it. That is all.
/r/seduction30/07/13 02:49 PM
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I understand your point, but field test it. A bit off topic, but how do you analyze a field test? If I buy a girl a drink and she reacts positively or negatively how do I learn from this? It's hard to tell that what I just did worked or not because like people said, not everything works.
/r/seduction30/07/13 05:53 AM
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I'll only buy her a drink if I think she's worth it. People here are being so cautious they seem crazy. "NO, YOU MUST NEVER BUY HER A DRINK. IT WILL MAKE YOU LOOK BETA." Bullshit. Some people are judges of good company and I'll be more than happy to share and buy her my favorite drink she's curious about because I enjoy her company. I'm not basing all my attraction on this experience rather than dishing out a few extra bucks. It's not like at the end of the night she'll say, "I'm not sleeping wi…
/r/seduction30/07/13 05:36 AM
1

I completely understand you. I was at a club a couple of weeks ago and this MILF approached ME and we started dancing, chatting, got more physical, then I finally kissed her. It does seem awkward especially when you're not doing anything, but gradual escalation makes it easier it seems to me. When you touch her arm, grabbing her by the waist doesn't seem to bad. When you have her waist, touching her thigh doesn't seem too bad. Then the kiss should be cake.
/r/seduction29/07/13 02:05 AM
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No touching straight to sex. "Well that escalated quickly".jpg
/r/seduction28/07/13 08:28 PM
1

You sir are a sexy beast Nope All the girls know it Not really. I have a hard time being physical and more than plain vanilla. No girl has ever really seen me as a potential sexual partner because I lack that sex appeal because I have a difficult time expressing it. It's not that I'm nervous, is I feel nothing and don't know what to do. I want to feel like doing something [ie sexual jokes/innuendo from my own sense of humor and physical touching] but I'm also trying to adapt the philosophy of no…
/r/seduction28/07/13 12:14 AM
2

My eyes get dry for me then I get blurred vision like My mind is telling me to avoid eye contact. So it's hard to stay focused.
/r/seduction27/07/13 07:28 AM
3

How does one simply just 'relax'? Do I just command the paralysis to stop, the tremors to cease, and the sweat to disappear? Not to sound like an asshole but it's not as easily to simply just relax.
/r/seduction27/07/13 07:16 AM
2

I really want to learn Russian or learn my native tongue Korean. What do people think when they find out you can speak French? I think French is a very beautiful [sounding] language.
/r/seduction27/07/13 04:47 AM
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Being yourself is pretty advanced advice if you think about it. Think of an AFC beta that has plenty of hobbies and intellect but is socially awkward. Telling him to be himself is to say "Hey just be yourself by continuing to be socially weird. Everything will fall into place." Once you start getting out there and experimenting, you'll understand what your own confidence is and that's when saying "be yourself" is appropriate! Just my thought to the "be yourself" phrase.
/r/seduction27/07/13 02:29 AM
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I come off too strong. If I get nervous I talk to fast and seen to excited to where it looks like I try too hard. I take the philosophy "give off a good vibe and be an abundance of energy" too seriously.
/r/seduction27/07/13 12:38 AM
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These types of posts worry me because I've never been in a relationship and I worry I'll be needy when the time comes. I've had a history of showing neediness but I've been improving (sort of). Thank you OP for shedding light on this and warning us to never 'rest.' I'm just worried after all this practice, training, and experience I've gained, I'll just stop once someone good comes around. It's like hitting the gym. You can't just stop after becoming ripped and say "good enough." You have to kee…
/r/seduction25/07/13 11:43 PM
3

Sarcasm I guess? Will the 'agree and amplify' with a tone of sarcasm add to the fun?
/r/seduction25/07/13 09:51 PM
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Don't bother continuing to reply to him. He's on a spiral of depression and scarcity that it can only get worse unless he has a serious epiphany. When you have a person covering their ears spewing depressing nonsense "lalalalala I can't hear you" all the time, it's pretty useless to talk reason.
/r/seduction25/07/13 04:36 AM
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Why don't they try and seduce me, instead? If the mountain won't come to Muhammed, then Muhammed must go to the mountain. Something tells me you're not being honest with yourself completely. It is really difficult to tell and analyze how you socialize in a group setting around women. I don't need you to justify that you've tried this and that but still fall short. Just from reading your posts, it seems you are full of negativity and you probably try to use that in social settings to get pity in …
/r/seduction24/07/13 10:11 PM
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The bitterness is leaving a chip on your shoulder. Your generalizations make you sound like the 'nice guy' that blame women and others for your pitfalls but claim to 'understand' women. I recommend you read "No More Mr. Nice Guy."
/r/seduction24/07/13 09:16 PM
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Then how am I supposed to be my best if I can't try my best? There's a guy like this on our campus and I bet he's a kind guy but he has this poisoned reputation you guys are speaking of. Probably because he used this methods here?
/r/seduction24/07/13 03:51 AM
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As a chemist that works very analytically, you're being too analytical and critical. Percentages shouldn't belong anywhere in seddit.
/r/seduction24/07/13 03:49 AM
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I can't stress enough how important warm ups are. Even if you feel low of energy, small sets can change your time a complete 180. Even if you feel on top of the world, warm ups are important. Once you warm up, the momentum will make it feel 'unnatural' to NOT talk. I usually warm up by talking with people within my comfort zone. This is usually in places I normally commute to and from such as on campus, the library, or the grocery store. You don't have to be committed to a full conversation, but…
/r/seduction21/07/13 10:51 PM
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Sorry, that response wasn't for you. My bad!
/r/seduction20/07/13 06:18 AM
0

I'm watching the cock block from hell. Good shit. I need to learn to keep composure like that if something ever happens.
/r/seduction18/07/13 10:34 PM
0

Are Asians really that bad in the club? This sucks because I'm Asian and the Asian population here is very sparse so I rarely encounter them haha.
/r/seduction18/07/13 10:03 PM
2

Kudos for going out on a Tuesday night. Enjoy yourself!
/r/seduction17/07/13 04:37 AM
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Lol seriously....I fapped before going out a few hours later and it killed by energy and vibe. The night before I was the life of the party. I had plenty of sleep, food, and exercise both days too.
/r/seduction16/07/13 09:39 PM
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There is a time and place to having nothing to say. I have yet to figure that out. The thing about silence is, if you both have chemistry, you both can enjoy just the company of each other rather than having to worry about what to say next. If your conversation is forced then that's when the problem is, as you say when 'most people say something when they have nothing to say.' Just remember, as a person who respects themselves, it is not your job to be the entertainer. You make others laugh beca…
/r/seduction16/07/13 09:38 PM
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I should be asking too, how has your social life been? Have you had any hardships lately that might indirectly interfere with your socializing skills? When you say you're boring, what do you mean by that? Tell me more about your hobbies. I want to know what you do outside your work/school. And yes, what VMikeL said, how is your physical health? This is really an open ended question that may or may not be easily answered by a doctor. It's difficult to tell from this post. In reality, if you're co…
/r/seduction16/07/13 04:57 AM
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Be the prize. That girl should be after YOU!
/r/seduction16/07/13 04:23 AM
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Yep, you're definitely new here. Do you expect to just be directly nice without a little negging/rocking the boat to get what you want? Plain nice guys without a bit of flirting is boring and predictable. How do you know it won't work if you haven't tried it? If you're bit of a challenge, it makes for good conversation, banter, and attraction.
/r/seduction14/07/13 12:34 AM
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Is this a FR or a fictional novel? This whole post is sugar coated
/r/seduction11/07/13 01:57 PM
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Examples please? Thanks, just curious.
/r/seduction11/07/13 06:21 AM
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This guy gives good advice. I finally discovered why there are times that I have no game and when I'm the life of the party. It wasnt sleep, caffeine (though energy drinks have been helping me), or what I ate, it was warming up. If you warm up by BSing with your neighbors, the clerk at the store, or anybody present if your 'comfort area' you will fare better in the atmospheres that are less familiar/higher pressure.
/r/seduction11/07/13 02:58 AM
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The problem is a lot of AFCs come in here and say "Im socially awkward and shy what do I do?" A lot of these 'self-help gurus' say shit like "Just be confident and just be yourself, that's all there is to it." That's where it gets annoying. The more experienced people say it like it's that easily and that's the key when a lot of people don't know "how" to be themselves. It's like a doctor telling you "You're unhealthy? Well just be healthy and take care of yourself and you'll feel better, I guar…
/r/seduction07/07/13 07:18 PM
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No offense, but this thread is useless. Like others say, any event or place can be used for your advantage. I bet OP is a baseball fan which means he is in his natural habitat. I don't watch sports. So this thread doesn't really help people like me. If it was a whiskey bar or elsewhere, yes.
/r/seduction04/07/13 07:29 PM
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Yes details please. An AFC like myself would've gotten a bit frustrated and not bother setting up another date, as I would've saw it as a gamble. But you played it cool and escalated so you put the whole situation in your favor. Mad props....
/r/seduction04/07/13 07:23 AM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M4rn4YEKGT4 This is the best I can offer.
/r/seduction01/07/13 08:18 PM
2

It's called the beauty of the chase. It's a weird obsession I myself should learn to drop. If an outsider looks at the person trying to 'chase' this woman, you'd think he's nuts for going after someone that rejected him. It's like we enjoy the challenge of going after this person but in reality, you just got rejected instead haha.
/r/seduction18/06/13 06:59 PM
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A few of you are misinterpreting his message. To some, it comes off as arrogant and narcissistic, but becoming the prize means you are setting standards for yourself that you won't bend for others in terms of compromising your own values. This is where that cliché and stupid phrase "be yourself" actually comes into good use. The whole journey of self-improvement is about improving yourself and helping out others around you (if you bring up others, you'll make friends in the process, and you'll b…
/r/seduction18/06/13 05:15 AM
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You're going to have to take a risk and not care what people think. Either be the quiet guy that nobody hates but nobody remembers, or be the life of the party and you're loved, but hated by 5% of the crowd. Part of life: You can't please them all. :/
/r/seduction10/06/13 02:20 AM
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"Just be yourself." Any self-guru will say this. Yes, let me continue being myself having my normal social anxiety, approach anxiety, and mind going blank when trying to strike up an interesting conversation. I know you're trying to help, but saying "be yourself" is what really annoys me. People don't recognize some of the hardships us hardcore newbies go through, and giving advice of "just be yourself" is just a slap in the face. It doesn't give us anything to work off of. It's like a doctor te…
/r/seduction09/06/13 07:00 PM
1

That doesn't really sound bad. What it all comes down to, is you came off as a normal guy. This is good and bad. Essentially, unless you REALLY fuck up, the worst thing is you come off as average. C is the worst grade you'll get. I still have this problem. I don't want to come off as average or normal. It's fucking boring and predictable.
/r/seduction09/06/13 09:38 AM
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I guess there are many variables that would contribute to this, but like RSDJulien said, these variables are beyond your control, so you have to learn to not give a shit and have fun. Why do I feel nothing though?
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:39 PM
1

I'm an INTJ as well. I will tell you meeting people and trying to hit it off with others will be difficult and the odds will be against you. If someone is an extrovert, this is their recharging moment as all he/she has to do is be themselves and they're the life of the party. This is their relaxing moment. Conversely, as introverts, all we have to do is lie back on the couch by ourselves and we know what to do with our time. See how the opposite scenarios would make it hard for us? Proof how the…
/r/seduction08/06/13 08:26 PM
1

Well, that was about the 3rd time? Maybe I'm just trying too hard? I always see the guys out there and they're hardly doing anything and I think to myself "Wow I really suck then! :("
/r/seduction06/06/13 06:39 AM
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I feel dumb for asking but I don't know how to grind dance. Is there any how to videos out there? Last time I did this the girl walked away from me. I must be a bad dancer or just have no rhythm.
/r/seduction06/06/13 03:37 AM
5

That's like a doctor telling you, "Just don't be unhealthy, then I guarantee you'll feel much better."
/r/seduction05/06/13 05:05 AM
0

How did you think of the congratulations card? That's just crafty. I guess wittiness is something that comes naturally and on the spot?
/r/seduction03/06/13 06:53 AM
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Your head is in the right place but you're too worried about the outcome by putting all this pressure on yourself. If you do this, I have found you become even more nervous because everything is on the line. Don't put pressure on yourself that you have to do this and that by xx:30 pm or else you die. Edit: Essentially, the inner game lesson here is to live the moment. If you have a blast and show all who you are, that's the most you can really offer.
/r/seduction02/06/13 10:52 PM
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Facebook can be a tool but a burden at the same time. It's good for more introverted people like myself that don't really get out often. Don't let it fool you into thinking you have lots of friends because there's a good balance between having that Facebook network and real world network. I laugh at myself for this because I post a status of something whitty but thought provoking and I get tons of likes and comments. Then I post a status if someone wants to grab a beer at this joint downtown and…
/r/seduction02/06/13 06:28 PM
1

I think this video is very applicable to this thread. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_fzGoOv8Ho
/r/seduction02/06/13 12:06 AM
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That's awesome. Shows you should be nice a lot of people that you think are worth your time because you never know who that person is. For example: My bud was telling me his friend traveled a lot with this guy and had drinks with him all the time. Turns out he became Macklemore a year or two after they met. They still hang out to this day.
/r/seduction01/06/13 06:44 PM
8

I like this guy.
/r/seduction01/06/13 06:00 AM
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Wow, this is something anyone can do, it's brilliant. I'll have to try this sometime. First, to get a date.
/r/seduction01/06/13 05:56 AM
3

This. The advice shown seems and would feel really unnatural to me. It's not authentic. Am I supposed to practice these dumb corny lines in attempts to make me look 'alpha' and witty? It seems so rehearsed, that I can't even follow my own basic instincts and principles. Where's NickTDS to chime in on this? He'd be the one to tell you that you don't need dumb openers to meet people.
/r/seduction30/05/13 10:50 PM
0

That's the joke, broski.
/r/seduction26/05/13 03:25 AM
3

Arrows up for you. I think what you said was what I really needed right now for tonight. After watching David Wygant and RSD many times, something down to earth and simple of what you said is what I need to see more often especially for n00bs like me.
/r/seduction11/05/13 04:18 AM
3

^ This person understands. here
/r/seduction11/05/13 02:07 AM
8

Where do these people come from? -_-
/r/seduction11/05/13 01:50 AM
1

Thanks. The idea is to let it happen naturally? Be authentic. I bet the worse thing I can do is force it making it seem like I just memorized something.
/r/seduction23/04/13 02:59 PM
1

I love David Wygant. My favorite one is his video labeled 'Sincerity.' Maybe I should keep studying that? It's essentially not being yourself but being 'authentic.'
/r/seduction22/04/13 07:36 PM
0

Say whatever comes to mind? Thanks, but a lot of times nothing comes to mind. The old me would've been nervous and speechless, but figuring I'm more experienced now, I'm just speechless.
/r/seduction22/04/13 04:15 PM
4

Eye fuck her and let the rest happen naturally??
/r/seduction22/04/13 05:15 AM
3

Ahh okay. It's like the theory on touching: If you want to break the barrier, touch her in light way and it will be easier and she'll be more comfortable with you. But, I can't just wait for a volleyball joke. How can improvise on the spot and learn to adapt?
/r/seduction22/04/13 04:35 AM
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I bet OP is at least 50. Though the words 'in high school' rather than 'at a high school.' might suggest he is in HS. xD
/r/seduction22/04/13 03:46 AM
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I'd say trying to be mysterious is more for advanced people. This means I have a while to go. I already have a difficult time to converse with people and engaging in conversation without trying to make it an "interview." I can converse with people fine, but I'm still trying to learn to leave a good impression and get out of the boring zone of the typical "where are you from" or "what is your major". I was out last night and my friend next to me was already talking about dicks and vaginas with a …
/r/seduction22/04/13 12:28 AM
1

Not sure why you got voted down. Maybe it's the tone behind your message. Going to the gym is definitely at the top of the list of redefining yourself.
/r/seduction20/04/13 05:22 PM
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Giving the confidence speech is great, but honestly I find it to be pretty worthless advice. Nothing wrong with your post, but saying "just be confident" isn't helping and is equivalent to saying a sick person to "just get better." The problem is a lot of people here look for advice are socially inexperienced and don't know HOW to be confident.
/r/seduction20/04/13 03:29 AM
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Go ahead and vote this guy down, but if you cliff note the whole social experience, this is the ideal general statement to follow. There are hundreds of methods, and sub-methods to try out but this is meeting people in a nut shell.
/r/seduction20/04/13 03:10 AM
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Oh man, this has happened to me too many times. Like someone else said, if she is leaving, I don't think you've built enough attraction. You're better off letting her go and meeting up with her later on in the night. Don't follow her around because this can make you look clingy.
/r/seduction13/04/13 11:22 PM
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Awesome. Didn't even need a TL;DR because the story was worth the entire read.
/r/seduction07/04/13 05:52 PM
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I'd give you gold if I could. This is a great post.
/r/seduction07/04/13 03:49 AM
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Well, in my experience, that line of being that angry jackass trying to defend yourself or the chump that lets himself get picked on to look like the funny guy is pretty fine. My point is, it's hard to find that balance. I guess you'll get bullied by some and get angry at others.
/r/seduction06/04/13 03:21 AM
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I did the Ritz. Granted I was thinking the classic Superman, but I wanted to try something different.
/r/seduction26/03/13 05:01 PM
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Ahhh the naked man trick. Works 2/3 times.
/r/seduction26/03/13 05:32 AM
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Not sure why you got voted down. It's hard to detect your would-be sarcasm over the internet haha.
/r/seduction26/03/13 03:08 AM
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You must hang around some shallow people or assume the worst if you think people judge you if you don't drink. Ideally, when I scan body language, the last thing I observe is what people drink. I simply observe HOW they drink it. I can judge a nervous person from a confident person. It is easy to see someone is nervous when the person is constantly sipping from the glass. Like what other people said, get a coke and people will think you have a whiskey/coke.
/r/seduction24/03/13 04:48 PM
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I see your name is 'DDforlife.' In my college town, being the 'DD' actually gets you a lot of respect points and people will just leave it at that rather than give you grief for not drinking.
/r/seduction24/03/13 05:42 AM
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I believe the context of the story is saying if you have confidence like this guy after the embarrassing stuff he just did, you can definitely turn the tables on this type of situation. Sure peeing on a random girl won't get you a date, but this story proves OP was able to improvise and make best of a situation that would make less confident and suave guys like us depressed for a week. I guess he got more than what he bargained for.
/r/seduction22/03/13 07:06 PM
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Beat me to it. xD
/r/seduction22/03/13 07:03 PM
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Like I said there are guys out there that enjoy this type of trait, but a lot don't.
/r/seduction22/03/13 06:45 PM
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It's a bit of a turn off for me. I'll respect a woman's passion for fitness and health but when you are extremely flamboyant about it, it becomes not attractive to me. Mind you, I'm not saying it's douchey but no there's positives to it. When I see guys do this at the gym, it's douchey, which makes it a negative. There are men out there that enjoy this type of character, but the general consensus says that over masculine women are intimidating and seem to be harder to approach. I am curious now,…
/r/seduction22/03/13 06:22 PM
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This is a great book, but it should be taken with a grain of salt. Sure, it can give you better odds by learning to decipher body language and connect the dots, but correlation doesn't equal causation. My roommate is a psychology major. For example, because one crosses their arms in a tight fashion doesn't indicate the person is an uptight and uncomfortable person. The person could be cold or something else is on her mind.
/r/seduction22/03/13 06:07 PM
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When and how much is the appropriate time to enjoy your rewards though? To constantly try to improve is great and all, but when is the appropriate time to enjoy yourself?
/r/seduction21/03/13 06:51 PM
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As a pianist that is intrinsically motivated (playing for the sake of the hobby itself rather than the potential outcome), it insults me people use music to promote themselves just to score. It only floods the music culture with posers.
/r/seduction03/03/13 06:44 PM
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Use better language, spelling, and grammar, and list your goals of what you want to do on your part. Then we might take you more seriously.
/r/seduction02/03/13 02:54 AM
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I know this feel. It is frustrating because when you're with someone a lot more alpha it makes you feel weak and useless to enter in any conversation. It makes me think and observe, "Why would they talk to me when there's a more fun, confident, and energetic person right here?"
/r/seduction27/01/13 06:44 PM
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That book on the right looks very interesting. Maybe it's just the title alone of promising the world.
/r/seduction23/01/13 06:50 AM
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I just cried a little. Very touching and inspiring story indeed. Here's some points.
/r/seduction08/01/13 11:30 PM
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You can make anything be interesting. It's how you portray using the correct form of....wait for it....confidence. Cliché I'm saying confidence, but it's like physics is to the natural sciences (everything else; biology, chemistry, etc. is built off of physics). There are people out there with more boring and interesting jobs that are in the same situation but if you have a unique and interesting personality and embrace that you have a degree in a really hard science, people will look up to you.…
/r/seduction04/01/13 06:21 PM
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I believe it OP. The problem with Facebook is I'm too curious and there's too much knowledge/information available at the tip of your fingers. I will tell you it's a lot easier to talk and approach a stranger than an acquaintance of a friend because I know nothing of the stranger which allows me to leave my expectations at the door. If you can come into the idea of not expecting anything based from what you've read on someone's profile, it will make things easier. I'm trying not to use Facebook …
/r/seduction03/01/13 10:31 PM
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Which is the classic case of cognitive dissonance. Very good use of input of the Fox and Grapes fable. Never thought you could use it here.
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:35 AM
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"Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face." -Mike Tyson You're bet off trying to use verbal Judo to deescalate the situation. There are people that can react and fight under pressure and there are those that freeze up. Fight or flight. Which one are you? -Kyokushin black belt
/r/seduction01/01/13 02:34 AM
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SERIOUSLY?? Another, "New Years Resolutions" thread? As if the other subreddits didn't have enough of them?
/r/seduction01/01/13 12:06 AM
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Same here. I'm slowly getting up there. I feel amped because I'm glad to feel I want to change and to have a bright future ahead of me. Baby steps, friend!
/r/seduction29/12/12 07:25 AM
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As the tried and true cliché phrase goes: Confidence is key Confident sub-par guys will get more conversation than nervous good looking ones. Sorry, that's all I have to add.
/r/seduction29/12/12 07:13 AM
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Maybe go to the bars, that's about it. I got rejected but my rebound feels pretty good right now.
/r/seduction29/12/12 05:02 AM
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Maybe go to the bars, that's about it. I got rejected but my rebound feels pretty good right now.
/r/seduction29/12/12 05:02 AM
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Maybe go to the bars, that's about it. I got rejected but my rebound feels pretty good right now.
/r/seduction29/12/12 05:02 AM
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Oh man....This is gold. I've been told this many times but not the way you've said it. Essentially, like Nike says, Just Do It. What have you got to lose? You have everything to gain.
/r/seduction27/12/12 12:51 AM
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I have my ups and downs. Most days I struggle to stay social and be not awkward and shy, and sometimes I'm the life of the party. It's weird. I get this weird feeling that prevents me from being social sometimes. It's strange. It might be with the fact if I want to meet a woman, there's more pressure and i get tunnel vision and lose my other instincts/senses.
/r/seduction26/12/12 09:34 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRp_mVi969I
/r/seduction26/12/12 07:59 AM
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