How to talk more...sexually?

guy14 · 2013-04-22T20:23:20+00:00

ITT: guys who aren't good at this try to answer this question.

kamatres · 2013-04-22T13:44:30+00:00

You need to get more sexual. What helps me massively with that, is always assuming attraction. Once i start talking to her, in my head i'm already going "This girl wants me so much" then i start watching her body language and watch how her body turns towards me, which reinforces my frame. Before i know it i'm saying things like "You can't imagine what i'd to you if those people weren't here" to a woman i met 15 minutes earlier. By now she is usually eye fucking me so hard that if fuels me to god-like state. I think you get the idea.

Quizmaster119 · 2013-04-22T05:33:51+00:00

Check the comments. These guys are getting the right idea. Body language and kino can speak much louder than sexual innuendo, though verbally you can let her know what the possibilities for the night. Use her first name more than normal, breathe noticeably slower and make sure at least some part of your body is making contact with her. Hands, knees, footsie, whatever. Once you k-close you're good.

If you are grasping at straws just straight up talk about sex. Do you have a weird fetish? Any unfulfilled fantasies? As long as they're not too creepy... And avoid actual, specific sexual experiences, I've found they just create distracting thoughts for both of you.

Example night in a nutshell: Bring a girl to a party at my place. Start conversation about cuddling. Get her alone and tell her about my slight foot fetish. Start playing footsie with her. F-close.

pheonixignition · 2013-04-22T04:28:31+00:00

I am also not very good at escalation. This could be a great resource if anyone knew how to help out.

HorseLifer · 2013-04-23T14:24:47+00:00

My advice OP, is don't force yourself to talk about certain topics because you think it would be arousing to the woman. Especially if you don't FEEL like talking about them. Lower your criteria for humor, say things that make yourself laugh and your amusement will be projected onto the girl

If you're actually talking about taking things SEXUALLY with a girl, the right way to do it

laser eye contact
sexual tonality

Squidward_On_Drugs · 2013-04-22T12:06:04+00:00

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sillymallard · 2013-04-22T17:47:32+00:00

This is a really good question, and I'm interested to see the responses. David Wygant is probably your man for talking sexually in a mature, classy way.

n1cey · 2013-04-25T03:56:18+00:00

Indirect appoach:

I allways talk about travel. Leading that to my trips to the Alpes. And finish the story by saying "next time, you're invited to join. And we'll find an apartment with a fireplace to cozy up to in the evenings".

This brings romance to the date/meetup.

Sometimes, I'm more direct if the vibe is good(positive response to KINO). And just say, with a jokingly tone:

"Before I take you home, do you have any fetishes I need to know about, say like foot-fetish or tingle-fetish?"

vuxanov · 2013-04-22T13:18:06+00:00

Don't use curse words but use regular words instead. You can describe every disturbing sexual act without ever using a "inappropriate language". Bonus points for using archaic terms and expressions.

kingcal · 2013-04-22T04:31:00+00:00

Any easy way to break into sexual talk is to find literally anything that could be even remotely construed as innuendo.

Her: I play volleyball --

You: So, you like playing with balls, eh?

After that, it's an instant in-joke. Great for starting up a text conversation later. Once you've broken the sexual talk barrier, then it's totally easy to continue to do it. Often in bars, once I'm dancing with a girl, after a couple minutes and I've gotten some good kino going, I'll just tell her she's really sexy. I've never had a negative reaction.

pjgpv · 2013-04-22T15:31:09+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFlFqjweuBU Everything you need to know, from an international sex symbol.

Title	How to talk more...sexually?
Author	Jake_STi-RA
Upvotes	81
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Date	April 22, 2013 3:39 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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