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| 2 | 2 Months in But Appearing Butthurt"One month in, after she had turned my initiations about 5 days in a row, she asked what was going on, why I was acting so strange. I said I was just improving myself and pursing my goals. She asked me to stop initiating as much and I said no. She wants once a week, but if it was up to her it’d be once a month to never. I said I’ll initiate when I want to, and I’m totally fine with a no. She said I was being cocky, and was joking about her concerns, and not giving her enough attention. She said … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/01/18 03:39 PM |
| 26 | Is 'Game' Really Necessary? How To Pull Hotties By Being Yourself And Boring +INFIELDHe's also tall and very good looking. | /r/seduction | 16/09/16 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Being a Man, But Confused As FuckGirls already in relationships are usually too much work when there are much easier opportunities around. Don't be mean to her, but don't be nice to her. She may very well want to jump from one secure thing to the next without suffering any insecurity downtime. That's childish and wouldn't really work for my style. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Senior in college, feels like I'm running out of time, and how can I transfer my tinder luck to school luck?It sounds like you need a little introspection to build your self-esteem up. Seriously, just let the women worry about whether you are attractive or not. All you have to worry about is putting your best foot forward when you game. Play the cards life handed you and don't wish you had someone else's. I've got a funny clip for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ohbv6haI1aQ . It's going to get much better for you soon. You are setting yourself up for a solid, lucrative career and your 20's will b… | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Best way to sit on the table on a dateI know what you mean. It's MUCH better to sit side-by-side than directly in front of the person. So sitting at a bar, 4-person table where you are on their side, a booth, or a benihana type place is really way easier than looking at the person directly the whole time. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Guys, what's better when you go out with friends to practice game: To hang out with people who have way better game than you or way worse?Surround yourself with people who you want to become. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Dates touching themselves uncomfortably.Sounds like they were nervous. Instead of just noticing it do something next time to make them feel safe and comfortable. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 03:39 PM |
| 9 | Married PUAs of seddit: what's your story?Here's mine: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r381m/advice_from_an_experienced_natural_68_year_old/ I'm married now and have a house full of love. It's not all perfect, but no relationship is. Seduction sometimes gets cheapened to mean how to find girls and take them home, but where it's really needed is in relationships. I think women are women whether or not you are seeing them for the first time or have been married for decades. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Can't get over this girl at Uni.ONEITIS. Before you knew her, she was a stranger, and you were just fine without knowing her. It takes 21 days to break a habit. The first few days are rough, but mark 21 days on your calendar of doing something differently to get over this girl, and you will. | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Guys who got laid a lot after college, how did you commonly meet your lays?Walking on the street during the day, and opening in bars early in the night. | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Has playing an instrument ever helped you get laid?Yes. If you have a portable one, just walk around with it. It's the best peacocking that doesn't look like peacocking. You'll be surprised by how many people will ask you what you play. It's almost as good as a dog. | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 06:10 PM |
| 2 | What is a good place for a first date?Personally, I like something during the day and outside. Something about daylight puts humans at ease and gives a great context for having fun. | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Confused where I stand with my possible FWBYou're confused because you don't know what you want, for yourself, without her in the equation. First figure out what it is you want by going on tinder, and if she can offer you what you want, then go for it. Otherwise, just move on. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Should I ask her out for a coffee?Yes, ask her! | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 08:18 PM |
| 2 | She told me I sucked in bed.What a shitty person for critiquing you like that. Never take a woman's advice on how to seduce women, unless the woman is a lesbian. You should have responded with "I'd probably seduce you better if you look sexier. You suck at looking sexy." I really feel this person will not help you with your game or confidence and it sounds like you are about to get oneitis. Remember the good times, and thank her for the experience that you will carry into your future relationships. Cancel your meeting with… | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 08:15 PM |
| 1 | How to become a better conversationalist?"How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 08:08 PM |
| 2 | "I don't have sex on the first date" - how to handle in unreactive manner?Oh sweet, I don't have sex until the 20th. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 12:06 AM |
| 4 | How to deal with friends who pull away a girl I am talking/flirting with?This is pickup 101. Girls who aren't getting attention are jealous of their friends who are. They react by cockblocking. It's really simple to minimize this from happening. Just talk to her friends. Interject yourself when they try to pull her away taking all of your focus off the girl you're interested and engaging the friends. Once they like you, they might even help you with the girl you are interested in. BTW, guys cockblock too for a similar reason but usually react differently. Instead of … | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Balls dropped finallyWhat an awesome outcome! That didn't hurt too much. Be sure to say hi and be friendly to her in the future. She might pass the word onto her friends about you. | /r/seduction | 10/11/15 07:35 PM |
| 1 | JUST GO FOR IT: Using Nervousness to Your Advantage!Honesty is a form of confidence, perhaps it's best form. I used to post a lot about how to improve your attitude, be a better person, and be super confident no matter what. A lot of people loved these posts, but there was one person who strongly disagreed with me. He challenged me to realize that women don't want a happy, confident man, and you don't need to be in "state" to get them. You could show up to the bar with whatever attitude you were in and get girls as long as you put yourself out th… | /r/seduction | 10/11/15 07:31 PM |
| 1 | JUST GO FOR IT: Using Nervousness to Your Advantage!(Tap on the shoulder) Hey what's up. I wanted to ask you, have you ever been out and about and you see a really cool looking or attractive guy that you wished would give you eye contact or say something to you? Or you wanted to talk to him but didn't know how? Or maybe you did know what to say, but you were worried about if he had a girlfriend already or would flat out reject you? Yeah, it's kind of a predicament, right? Because sometimes you want to meet new people, and you are worried about ho… | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 07:14 PM |
| 1 | JUST GO FOR IT: Using Nervousness to Your Advantage!Telling the woman about approach anxiety as a part of your routine has worked for me. | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Group Situations: Whenever I speak I get ignored...Sounds like you are a quieter introvert type. Talk to the person next to you instead of the group. I think you might have more fun that way. | /r/seduction | 24/09/15 10:50 PM |
| 2 | [FR] where did I go wrong with this date?I'd agree with this. You were a stranger to her with whom she could talk frankly to about sex and do some sexual stuff, but you didn't connect on a non-sexual level. It sounds like you have a winner of a girl and I wouldn't give up. Plan a hangout during the middle of the day without alcohol and connect on a friends level. If it goes well, turn the day into the night and do what you did last time. | /r/seduction | 22/09/15 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Getting lots of dates but still no results"I did notice that she started to get noticeably uncomfortable after we sat down on a random park bench and I put my arm around her shoulder, but I kept it there instead of pulling back." That's your problem in all of these dates. Sometimes pulling back means ending the date, telling her you had a good time, and making plans to see her again. A LOT of girls will not kiss on the first date as a rule, and by not respecting their values and going for it anyway, you are guaranteeing that their anti-… | /r/seduction | 22/09/15 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Tips for "flying solo"Thanks man. Yes. Turn everything into baby steps. Make it easy for yourself! I always tell people who are trying to learn pickup to first practice talking to salespeople or old grandparent types...then move onto others..groups of guys, then groups of guys/girls, etc.... Hitting on hot girls should be the last step. Here are some tips I wrote for meeting people on the street a while ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/r7jgp/question_on_approaching_women/c43r0yn | /r/seduction | 21/09/15 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Tips for "flying solo"The best part of going out by yourself is that you can TRULY be yourself, exactly how you want to be. Here are a few tips from personal experience: Bars/Clubs: Go EARLY. Be one of the first people there, if not the first. Talk to the bartender. If you have the courage, talk to the few people who are there, especially if they are guys. Make them your wingmen or your "group" for the night. As more people come in, introduce yourself. Go back to your group and tell them how it went, if there were an… | /r/seduction | 21/09/15 06:13 PM |
| 9 | Is overdressing when going out good or bad?Always better to err on being overdressed than underdressed. One of my friends goes all out, but he does it to a T. That means perfectly trimmed hair, custom-fit designer suit, ironed shirt in the latest design, immaculate shoes, a slick watch, everything matching well, etc. He does it because he loves that shit, not because he's trying to get girls, and he looks damn good. I would encourage you to try it, for fun. If it's not you though, then it's not you. | /r/seduction | 03/09/15 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Picking up girls at a famers market.Look up David Wygant and his farmer's market videos. They're great! | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Most of the time you pick up girls on your own or with a friend on your back?Alone. Unless you are lucky enough to have a friend(s) who is in the know of exactly what you are up to and 100% supportive/encouraging of it, your friends will introduce inhibitions and complications into your game. | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Help neededOR: Go to the mall and approach salespeople. They're paid to talk to you. That's a good first step to getting comfortable with talking to strangers. | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 09:24 PM |
| 1 | I want to be over this and get myself laid!You are not sexually escalating. If you don't do this or don't know how to do this, then you have nothing. Building rapport and nothing else is the easiest thing to do and is not an accomplishment. Having your shit together is also meaningless. Just decide you will sexually escalate to the point where you can hold a girl's hand or kiss her, if you're too scared. Chances are if you get this far, you'll want to go further ;-) | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 09:23 PM |
| 1 | How to approach girls at parties?Gaming sober on drunk girls is like playing T-ball with 5-year olds. Honestly, one of the best confidence boosts I experienced when learning game. Note: Don't be a creep. | /r/seduction | 11/07/15 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Can`t get any girl that i wantHow do you know you like a girl? Sounds like you are taking their good looks and building a persona around this, i.e., putting them on a pedestal. | /r/seduction | 11/07/15 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Is directly asking a girl on a date a bad idea?Subtle improvement: "I'd like to take you out." | /r/seduction | 11/07/15 12:39 AM |
| 1 | What is your go to Whatzit? (Something you wear that gets people start a convo with you by asking "what is it?")It's just opening yet another channel to form a connection. It's a great thing to do. | /r/seduction | 11/07/15 12:37 AM |
| 2 | What is your go to Whatzit? (Something you wear that gets people start a convo with you by asking "what is it?")I play an instrument and noticed it was an easy one for people to comment on. It's almost as good as a dog. | /r/seduction | 11/07/15 12:36 AM |
| 2 | How to follow up after a date has been scheduled?Yep. Once I've made plans with a girl I NEVER text her. If we've planned to meet up, and if she flakes, then it's next. | /r/seduction | 11/07/15 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?Cool stuff madbreakfast. I agree with you. | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Is pick-up literally just about being completely honest?Give, don't take. That's a big part of pickup. What you want? Don't be selfish. | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?So, I think I agree with you, but not 100%. A large part of game is going to the gym to get in shape, taking some serious fashion advice, and improving your posture. I would say that these things do improve your level of attractiveness. Where you are correct is that game teaches you to be outcome independent, maintain the right attitude to protect yourself from getting butthurt from a blowout, and pressing the NEXT button really quickly instead of getting oneitis. I think another large part of t… | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 01:09 AM |
| 3 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?so the problem is another.However It's an issue that the pu community is still unwilling to face without censorship What is the issue you refer to that the PU community is unwilling to face? | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?Madbreakfast, can you PM me what you would like to say, but can't? | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 09:12 PM |
| 9 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?Yes, of course. This too! | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 09:11 PM |
| 52 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?In short, they have some game, and they learned it from their dads, uncles, cousins, friends, or coworkers. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Let a girl know i'm interestedIf you've been hanging out, just the two of you, then physically escalate. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 07:23 AM |
| 1 | How long do you talk to a girl before asking for her number?You can get a number in 30 seconds, but quality matters a lot for whether she will take time to speak to you again and take time to see you in person. Personally, about 5-15 minutes was good for me, anything longer would mean missing out on meeting other women, and anything shorter would mean a low quality interaction=less liklihood she will be down to call you back or hang out with you in the future. Go for the quality number closes. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 07:21 AM |
| 2 | Rule 1: Be Attractive. Rule 2: Don't be Unattractive.Interesting interpretation, but this meme is pure AFC shit, not anything related to PUA. I do like how you turned it around though. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 07:11 AM |
| 1 | Honestly guys, it's not working out. Thinking of giving up.Okay, well you should do two things to move forward: 1) Have more involved conversations with men and old people than just small talk. 2) Ask women aged 22-33 for directions or the time. Just do that. I used to do that when I was starting. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 07:02 AM |
| 1 | How to respond to "Why don't I get your number."LOL, tell her this: "No, because this is clearly a dead end because a girl will never take the initiative to text you first." You just said it here, now say it to their faces. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 05:51 AM |
| 0 | Honestly guys, it's not working out. Thinking of giving up.OMG, stop approaching girls, please. Start approaching dudes and old people. Seriously, I'm not kidding. You have to get used to approaching strangers first, in general. Then move onto ugly girls or groups of guys-girls. Then maybe you can move onto semi-attractive girls. Then, after you are confident with yourself, move onto the good-looking ones. Also, it sounds like you are trying to get something from girls, which is fucking creepy/irritating for girls. Give them something, a laugh, smile, h… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Quick advice needed"I will now be seeing her pretty much every day." Don't fuck it up. You want to still be at work and have it be chill. By fuck it up, I mean, don't make it awkward for both of you at work. If she's not into you that way, be 100% okay with it. Don't go into oneitis mode. In fact, you're asking the wrong question...or at least the wrong question when I used to be active here. You never ask seddit how to get a girl. You ask seddit how to get girls. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 05:38 AM |
| 1 | I need help. I think I'm fucked up inside. I've been browsing this sub for three years, and I've made zero progress.A creep is someone with sexual intent who lacks fun. Inject fun into your interactions, give women laughs/smiles/happiness, and you will not be a creep. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 05:33 AM |
| 24 | Guys who were never good at "talking" their whole life, how did you change/improve?Read the book "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. It has dozens of specific things you can do to become a better communicator, and they all work. It's a very good resource and covers the suggestions made by Blakbeanie, third-i, DeltaRecon, and DelightfulTexas among many others. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 05:30 AM |
| 1 | I can get the numbers, now what do I do? (17M)Good. Then be honest about that, first with yourselves, and then with anyone that you meet. If it seems like someone you meet is wanting a relationship, you need to tell them that you aren't looking for that, and with a good reason too...you just got out of one. Think about this: there are many girls out there who are in your exact situation as well...got out of a relationship but miss the physical stuff. Go out and find them. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone taken a deliberate break from the game?Yes, I stepped away. Found a girl, fell in love, and stopped gaming her. For the past few months, I've started to realize that I have been reverting to AFC, and am back here to bring myself back to the way I was. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 06:02 PM |
| 2 | I can get the numbers, now what do I do? (17M)Sounds like you don't know what you want. Do you want friends? Do you want dates? Do you want sex? Do you want another girlfriend? Do you just want a distraction for the next several weeks while you get over your breakup? That'll clarify what you should be doing instead of running around on the hamster wheel. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like king of the kiddie pool right now, how to massively expand social circles & have more options?Why are you intent on clubs? Clubs suck for getting girls. Clubs are great for practice. I always say make sure you are doing at least three things on a regular basis, something physical, something artistic, and something for the community. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Trying To Convince Her That You're Not GayLOL, you should have kino-escalated while continuing to affirm that you were 100% gay and not even bi. That shit would have been awesome. "Don't worry, I'm gay" as you continue to rub her back, etc. until she says, "I don't think you're gay!" and you laugh and keep running with it the gay thing until you kiss her. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:22 PM |
| 1 | I am not worried that I don't have a girlfriend.How did you pass/conquer this phase/mindset? I wanted sex! | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:19 PM |
| 0 | You need both male and female advice.No you don't. A woman couldn't hope to help you learn how to seduce and attract a woman because SHE'S NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE. Most AFCs can't either. PUAs know how to do this. An exception is that there are a few lesbian PUAs out there, and I would definitely take advice from these women. I'd maybe take things like fashion/style advice from women though, but only if they are good at it (e.g. are pro hairstylists or work in the fashion industry). | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Handsome guys of Seddit, can you easily get girls just by your looks?Yes. I have a friend who is strikingly handsome, tall, and smart. He does not chase women, even if they are 10s. He always waits for them to make a move, and pulls them with no problem at all. He got lucky with the cards he was dealt. Pickup, however, isn't about luck. It's about skill, and you can get 10s too, if you learn it well. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Older Girls: What Do I Do as a Young Guy?You're on vacation. Go talk to her. Who cares if she's older and has a boyfriend. You're on vacation and the only thing you should care about is the next step (having a short conversation), not whether or not she'll sleep with you or be your girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:11 PM |
| 2 | People over 30, what would you do different if you became 20 again ?Learn seduction as soon as possible (now) and use it to find a good girl to marry eventually. If you want to get married, go on this mission sooner rather than later, because the older the age bracket of men and women who are unmarried the more, on average, they are for being a bit "off" when it comes to being open to change, compromise, selflessness, and humility, and they harder to settle down with. I'm not saying all men and women are like this, but the proportion of them who are like this an… | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Seducing Celebrities?Too much work. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 10:16 PM |
| 1 | how did you personally get started with approaching / game - how would you suggest i go about it?Hey man. Take baby steps. Scared to talk to strangers? Go to a clothing store where people are payed to approach you and practice talking to them. That is how I started. Once you are okay with that, maybe move up to finding and approaching a salesperson instead of waiting for them to come to you. Instead of approaching hot girls, approach people who are easier to talk to: grandpas and grandmas, dudes at the bar, etc. You'll find it's not too difficult to do this. Then approach ugly girls and tal… | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Short, Lean, Indian: What can I do to improve my looksYou are doing great if it's the woman who looks away from you first. A lot of guys make the mistake of looking away before the woman, which is a sign of submission. It sounds like you are thinking about attraction as static and two-dimensional, which is understandable because this is closer to how men are wired when it comes to attraction and why pictures of naked girls are often enough to turn us on. However, for women, how you move, your presence, and your demeanor are way more important than … | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Any great guides to improving day game?Jeremy Soul has a book and videos on it. Might be a bit old now, but he's great. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 10:00 PM |
| 0 | Pro tip: One handed bra removal.Yes. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Hey, seddit. I'm an 18 year old cashier at a grocery store. What are some games/exercises I can use at work (dealing with hundreds of people a day) to improve my game?Awesome. Try a new opener/joke everyday. Say the same exact thing to everyone on the day making a note of how effective it was. Take the ones that seemed to work best into your everyday game. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 09:34 PM |
| 5 | Going to a club how should I go approaching women there?Do this exactly how I say: Take a little time to scan the room while walking around until you find someone that looks pretty to you. Tap her firmly on the shoulder, let her look at you, and say: "Hey, I saw you from over there and wanted to say hi." She will say something like, "Oh hi." "My name is kiler1111." Smile and stick your hand out for a handshake. If there are multiple people with her, introduce yourself to everyone. Then you can ask her/them any of the following boring questions/statem… | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 09:28 PM |
| 2 | How to lower my standards?I'm going to guess that you're being so judgmental because you are taking the standards of your friends and family, combining them, and placing them on these women. I say this because your post sounded exactly like my younger self. All that matters is if YOU like her enough to have sex with her or YOU like her enough to date her. If after sex and dates you're not becoming more into her, then move on. If you are becoming more into her, well then you might be on your way to discovering Ms. Perfect… | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 09:06 PM |
| 1 | how to be more interesting over text?Call | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Taking a solo vacation to work on this stuff: good or bad idea?It looks like you are searching for anonymity, which is understandable. There are much cheaper ways. You can take a "vacation" any day of the week. Just drive somewhere far and practice. Don't become a regular anywhere until you're confident enough to go out in your own neighborhood and go further than interacting and getting number and kiss closes. If you have the time and money, think about going to a boot camp. That would be much more fun and unique in my opinion than just vacationing solo. | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 03:18 PM |
| 18 | How to act at a college party where you know few/no people?Everyone is your friend, they just don't know it yet. Keep that mentality! | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 03:13 PM |
| 1 | INPUT NEEDED. I was very good at progressing through the checkpoints to getting laid and accomplishing one night stands. Any tips for how to be equally as successful with someone that I want to keep for more than a one night stand?You sound like a douchebag with an inability to read social cues naturally. I'm not saying you are a douchebag with said inability, but your post reads like that. Some of the best PUAs are people just like this, and it's not a bad thing if you're honest about it with yourself and others (it seems like you are). Anyway, here is the simple breakdown: Friend: Someone who you relate to, who you do fun things with, and who you enjoy hanging out with, and vice versa. Sex Partner: Someone who finds you… | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 10:51 PM |
| 3 | How to be more masculine without being a douchebag?The way to deal with bullies is to be 100% comfortable in your skin and to not react negatively or positively, but to go for the third option and just not react, and continue going on your business without an ounce of anger. By all means, do not use this mentality as an excuse to be oblivious to the world. Only be weird out of intention, not ignorance (or arrogance). And always look at yourself from the outside and see what part of you that you want to improve upon next. | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 10:37 PM |
| 3 | Alcohol and gameWhat is the point of this post? | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 08:40 PM |
| 6 | What seduction tricks have worked on you? (Girl looking for guy specific tips)I was once seduced by a woman who admitted that all her past hookups together would look like the united nations. But she wasn't a slut. She said something to me when I walked past her, but she didn't get up from the seat she was at. She just looked at me. I asked her, "what?" She said she just said hi. I said, I was going to get a drink, but I'd be back. Unlike girls, guys will try to game girls just because the girl showed a sign of interest, not because the girl was cute, "his type", or looke… | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Downfall, Fear and a Cry for HelpLive life truthfully, and this will make all your problems of anxiety, complexity, and worry go away. It sounds like seddit is the only place where you are being true. You never forget how to swim once you know. You might suck at again it initially if there's been a long time since you've gone swimming. However, you'll still be able to do it and get back to how good you were pretty quickly. The thing about most successful PUAs is that they have changed, permanently. But you can't change your hei… | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Girl just called me buddy.Don't worry about the friendzone. Just worry if you are gauging her interest accurately. You say she said these things, but from reading your post, it sounds like she texted them. A counteroffer or sounding sad about not being able to hang out means she still wants to and is interested. If she just gave you an excuse with nothing, then she's not interested. It sounds like she's interested, and you responded weakly by telling her it's fine. No it's not fucking fine, and don't leave it to "some ot… | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Time apart and keeping her maximally interestedIn short, keep the tempo, or adjust it, usually down. If she is messaging you a lot, that's a good thing, and if you don't want to be messaging back and forth every minute, just wait a little longer before replying. The same goes for a girl who doesn't text you too often. Don't text right away after she texts you. Wait about the same amount of time she texts you, or less. For this girl, every once in a while, you should just fucking call her as soon as she texts. | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Best way to handle/control negative emotionsI think your "problem" is that you're getting rejected a lot and letting your emotions take over instead of thinking about it rationally. Pickup is sometimes like the stock market. You can be on fire one week and then completely out of whack for two weeks after. We've all been there. Anyway, getting rejected sucks, but it's not really a problem, because when things go awry, it gives you a chance to figure out if you could do/say anything better in the future and improve. Approach women as a lear… | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 11:11 PM |
| 1 | I'm having trouble trying to hold a conversation with women. Any tips?I assume you mean basic conversation, and not attraction. Parroting, and looking for key words are two tricks you can use. Read "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes for further information. | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 09:06 PM |
| 1 | I keep making excuses about why I shouldn't talk to a girl. I need help.In short, you have to train your actions to move faster than your mind, just like a reflex. Try machine gunning. Just approach the first woman you see and talk to her. If she doesn't talk to you, just go to the next, and the next, and the next. Do this preferably in an area where you won't be recognized.... Also, David DeAngelo says to come up with a personal default move whenever you see a woman you want to meet. It could be some opener from Magic Bullets, or something similar to what the Simpl… | /r/seduction | 08/11/13 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Question about dance floors: Group of girls starts dancing near/in our dance circle. But not holding eye contact. OK to dance with them?You want eye contact? Tap her firmly a couple times on her shoulder. Make eye contact together, and then dance. Don't wait for her to look at you. | /r/seduction | 20/10/13 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Crippling GameAn "I'm gonna talk to the cutest girl there" attitude is setting yourself up to fail. Nobody becomes a marathon runner by waking up one morning and telling himself, "Yeah! I'm gonna do it!" The same thing with you trying to practice your game. Go and interact with people at least for the goal of practicing if not just for fun, and for fucks sake, stop committing the worst crime in pickup which is to get something from women, be it sex, validation, or just to make yourself feel good in front of o… | /r/seduction | 16/10/13 05:14 AM |
| 1 | The Brain Takes Rejection Like Physical PainI really am fascinated by studies like this. The fear of rejection IS hardwired into us. You can get over any fear "not with confidence, but with competence". Learn how to swim and you too can enjoy the ocean. | /r/seduction | 16/10/13 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Hi seddit I have a question, how do you desentisize fear while in a relanthioship to improve outcome independence ?Be okay to walk away, even if you've been with her for multiple years, been married, etc. Never ever lose that. | /r/seduction | 11/10/13 12:35 AM |
| 3 | If I have already had dealings with a person on several occassions, is it too late to just start flirting with them out of nowhere?Nope. Just don't don't don't say that you've been thinking about how cute she was for all these times. Don't be creepy like that. Just focus on the present moment. | /r/seduction | 11/10/13 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else have the problem with their standards being too high?One of the biggest obstacles I had was not that my standards were too high. I was always worried about whether or not other people thought the girls I was chasing were high quality or not. | /r/seduction | 11/10/13 12:30 AM |
| 1 | The Common Misconception - "Jerks" & "Nice Guys".I disagree with this post. Sexual relationships and platonic relationships are two separate things, and they aren't entirely related to each other. If you want to get laid, you need to understand how to form a sexual relationship, and if you want friends, then you need to know how to form platonic relationships. The only time these intersect is when you want a sexual relationship with a friend (i.e. a girlfriend or a wife). The majority of people on seddit (myself included) suck at getting with … | /r/seduction | 11/10/13 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Approaching women is not my problem, keeping up a conversation is the hardest part for me, any tips?Read the book called "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. The book is REALLY EASY to read. The chapters are like 2-5 pages long, and you don't have to read it all at once. Two tricks that I learned off the bat: 1) Parroting. Literally repeat the last few words a person says to you. The person will start talking again, probably more about what he/she was just saying. 2) Look for key words in people's sentences. For example, if someone says "We went out to the bars last night." The two things … | /r/seduction | 09/09/13 01:10 AM |
| 20 | How do I tell if a girl is genuinely interested in me?All these comments suck. Google IOIs if you need more, but the most telling ways I've found are: She touches her hair. She touches one wrist with her other hand. She plays with the straw in her drink. She squares her shoulders to you even if you are not square to her. She laughs at things that you say that aren't really that funny. She asks questions about you and your life. She is comfortable with you touching her in a playful/sexual way. | /r/seduction | 08/08/13 07:26 AM |
| 3 | Today I had an epiphanyAwesome man. It sounds like you have options or know that there are many options out there. Women are abundant. | /r/seduction | 13/07/13 12:57 AM |
| 2 | I am 21 years old. I have never kissed a woman, and to be honest, I am terrified of women.It's okay. Having sex with a woman might seem like a mountain to climb, and for you, it is. So make your goals easier for yourself. Try saying hi to strangers you walk past on the street. Go shopping and ask the sales clerks how their day is going. When you are comfortable with this, then try going a step further (e.g. Ask a second question to the sales clerk how they like working at that particular store). When you go to the bar, forget girls for the moment and approach guys and see if you can … | /r/seduction | 13/07/13 12:53 AM |
| 3 | How nice is too nice?I've found that in and out of relationships, you should just focus on what you feel comfortable with and don't worry too much about if a girl will or will not get upset about something. If everything you do is out of genuine good spirit, then you can't really mess up. Let her communicate to you what she likes or dislikes. If she throws a fit when you do something "wrong" explain to her what was going through your mind and if she doesn't calm down about it, she's not really a keeper. | /r/seduction | 03/07/13 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that my failures affect me the most and not my successes?Reference dependence. It's human psychology that losses hurt more than gains of equal magnitude. There is no explanation for why we are like this, just that we are like this. I wrote about this once, but it didn't get a lot of attention: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mfeb8/reference_dependence_making_the_highs_feel_even/ | /r/seduction | 24/06/13 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Many Asian men date pretty white girls. Don't believe the hype. A few honest tips.That is true when thinking about relationships logically. However, seduction has to do with forming an emotional connection with people. It's for this reason that gainfully employed, classy women will get into relationships with broke dirty assholes who live in vans. Logically, such women would never go for those men, but when they meet them and are seduced by them, it does happen. | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 04:20 PM |
| 2 | life after seduction: what problems have you encountered?Flirting is fun, and every girl and woman likes it. Crossing the line when you are in a relationship is kino-ing and overt sexual talk. If you aren't doing these things, and the woman is taking it to mean you are being sexual when all you are doing is flirting, then it's her problem, not yours. Most other women would love jokes and conversation from any man, taken or not taken. | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Does not paying for the date fuck things up somehow?I think 50-50 is the way but a better way to do it if you're going for a relationship is to alternate who pays rather than splitting the bill. | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Got a date set up for Sunday with a cute girl. What are the simplest pointers you can give, to keep me in the right frame of mind?You overthink things, which is exactly what I do. So simplify: Be positive and outcome independent. You are going to have fun no matter what happens, whether she's into you, just want to be friends, or is a complete cold bitch. If she turns out to be the ice queen, she will make for a great story with your friends after the date. You are going on a date because you found her interesting, want to know more about her, and are open to the possibility of a romantic relationship happening, but that's… | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 05:17 PM |
| 1 | My only way to get home is a 20-25 minute walk, how would you best make this work?I don't understand your post. Are you 20-25 minutes away from everything? If not, then I don't understand your problem. | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 05:09 PM |
| 1 | The Million Dollar MouthpieceThis is a great way to practice talking out loud. I would agree with most people here that once you have talking down, start working on listening. | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 05:07 PM |
| 1 | How to talk more...sexually?This is a really good question, and I'm interested to see the responses. David Wygant is probably your man for talking sexually in a mature, classy way. | /r/seduction | 22/04/13 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Is this a classic shit test?I don't think her friend would appreciate her sharing her picture with people she didn't explicitly send it to. Likewise you wouldn't want her sharing naked pictures of yourself with her friend. Tell her that. | /r/seduction | 20/04/13 08:23 PM |
| 3 | Before I spend a lot of cash, who's Day Game stuff is the best to look into?This question was asked before, and the person who helped me the most, who has written a whole guide on it, and has many in-field videos on youtube is Jeremy Soul from Love Systems. Krauser PUA has some good in-field videos as well. | /r/seduction | 16/04/13 01:29 AM |
| 1 | What's the deal with doing "cute" things in a relationship that you normally wouldn't do when trying to pickup girls?Just remember that your girlfriend is not just a person you have a sexual relationship with, but also a friend. You do nice things for your friends, and you can do nice things for your girlfriend. Just don't get too friendly or else you'll get friendzoned (she'll lose interest). You have to do both things, keep her sexually interested and maintain her friendship. If you pickup women and do the 100% honest what-you-see-is-what-you-get kind of game and it turns into a relationship, you really shou… | /r/seduction | 16/04/13 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Zero interest in making out with girls that I don't have an emotional connection with or that I had to work for?You should have made out with those girls. The reason is that I feel you're "need for an emotional connection" is an obstacle for improving your game. This is just the same as any obstacle (e.g. thinking you need a good body). I've kissed lots of girls randomly, and I don't regret doing it at all, because it's fun. Remember that. This is all supposed to be for fun. If, on the other hand, you have excellent game and experience with women, which I doubt you do, by all means look for that emotional… | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 09:10 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with little time and few reactions? Need help getting over a plateau.Hmmm, I know what you are talking about, but I disagree. If you meet a woman in broad daylight, outside, and sober, and she's willing to talk to you, your success rate of closing is far higher than at a club on a Saturday night. False time constraints are your friend if you feel she might be flighty. | /r/seduction | 28/03/13 07:35 PM |
| 2 | So, according to escalation ladder you shouldn't make out in a public place.My first kiss with a to-be girlfriend was in public. It was the "wrong" place, I know, but the timing was perfect. It was awkward because it was in public. But I kissed her nonetheless! We're still together. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 08:17 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with little time and few reactions? Need help getting over a plateau.You know how you set aside time in your week to work-out? Set aside time in your week to pick-up/date. It doesn't have to be everyday, but you have to make it work and you have to make time for it, otherwise it's not going to happen. For me, what worked was setting aside Friday and Saturday nights to game for 1 hour each night, and setting aside Sunday afternoons, and Tuesday/Wednesday nights to either go on dates, read more seduction material, watch PUA videos, work on my style, pick-up lines, … | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Some guy used that "phone trick" on my girlfriend and failed horribly a few days ago.Gah. It's not about the numbers. It's about the good numbers. You know, the ones where the girl will pick up wanting to talk to you and wanting to hang out with you. I'd rather get less numbers that are of good quality (low flake percentage) than a tonne of numbers. | /r/seduction | 27/02/13 10:51 PM |
| 1 | The girls I like are just not interested in meRight, but go to some forgotten place in the Brazilian amazon and ask them to game the girls there. They would look like old creeps. Unless you are Barack Obama or someone that famous where EVERYONE knows who you are, attractiveness is conext specific. | /r/seduction | 20/01/13 11:49 PM |
| 8 | The girls I like are just not interested in meI'm convinced that 99% of people are able to become better than average by fixing the things that are in their control, such as physical fitness, dress, and how you move. Attractiveness is also context-specific. A rockstar might be the most alpha man at his concert, but might be the most unnatractive man when it comes to something else like surfing if he's super awkward and uncoordinated. | /r/seduction | 20/01/13 12:44 AM |
| 5 | A reminder about TEXT GAME: YOU CAN'T READ MINDS. More inside.One thing that many don't realize is the amount of information that is stripped away through electronic communication. I could say this sentence one of many different ways. How I say it could convey confidence, aggression, sarcasm, indifference, humor, sillyness, happiness, shyness, beta-ness, horniness, creepiness, etc. Voice communication can convey much more information than simple electronic text, but even voice communication sucks compared to real life. I could say something as an aggressor… | /r/seduction | 20/01/13 12:37 AM |
| 5 | I am extremely confident, but extremely outgoing. That hurts me.I've written this before, but you are the classic entertainer guy. Here are your options: Pickup Artist/Gentleman/Cool Guy: Fun/Funny + Sexual Intent Entertainer Guy (i.e. you): Fun/Funny + No Sexual Intent Creep/Pervert : No Fun/Funny + Sexual Intent Wallflower/Forever Alone: No Fun/Funny + No Sexual Intent Most people start seduction as a wallflower, and the first step, before gaming girls, is to become a friendly outgoing person. The problem is that game doesn't end here. Being the happy, fun… | /r/seduction | 20/01/13 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How does seduction works for attractive guys?When you are the hot guy and already have higher value than the women you are gaming, yes, do not neg or misunderstand normal conversation from women as a shit test, because you've already bypassed this stuff on your own merit. Attractiveness and value aren't universal, they are contextual. I might be super attractive on stage, but put me in a basketball game and I'm a zero. Same thing applies to you unless you are someone universally valued (e.g. Barack Obama). | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 10:18 PM |
| 2 | How does seduction works for attractive guys?I'm not necessarily hot, but I play in a music trio regularly, and for a few nights a week I'm the hot guy. I think the key thing to remember is you don't need to neg or pass shit tests that much. If you do, you'll come across as an asshole. Imagine if a girl's favorite famous actor came up to her and started negging her. She already put her bitch shield down the minute he showed up and is getting punched for no real reason. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Sedditors, 2 Questions. 1) Do you call or text after number closing? 2) What is your first message/phone call after number closing?I never text until I've had a (good) date/Day 2. I call fairly soon, usually the next day or the day after, and if she doesn't pick up, I leave her a friendly voicemail reminding her who I am and telling her to call me when she's free. If I don't hear from her, then it's done. When I do get to talk to her the time I spend on the phone depends on how much I spoke to her when we first met. If it was only a minute, then I make it a point to build comfort on the phone for a good 15-20 minutes before… | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 07:10 PM |
| 3 | How does one "fix themselves" before they go looking for girls?"Why doesn't she think so" is the mentality that will bring on a bout of oneitis. Whichever girl you choose means pick the attributes you want in a girl from body type to personality to hobbies and interests. Go out and find these types of girls and game them, and you will get the girl you want. Improve your game and you will succeed faster. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 07:00 PM |
| 1 | How does one "fix themselves" before they go looking for girls?This reminds me of myself. The reason I felt ashamed about it or froze up is because I didn't know what to do or how it was supposed to play out. Also, my parents are pretty conservative and had expectations over the type of person I was going to end up with, and I had to have a long , but respectful conversation with them that I couldn't live up to both their standards and mine at the same time. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Why are girls not responding to attempted eye contact/glances?My honest opinion? Fuck waiting on them, and double down bro! Life is short. If they don't make eye contact, then say something to them somewhat loud like "Hey, how's it going." Or go even further, tap them on the shoulder twice, and say, "Hey, I noticed you over there, and I wanted to say hi. How's your day going so far?" Anyway, I took a month or so working on eye contact and small conversation with strangers on the street, sober and during the day, and here is what works for me: http://www.re… | /r/seduction | 14/01/13 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Holiday shopping is almost in full swing, can the Seddit veterans share some insight on pickup in the malls ?"How Christmas shopping going?" Then you talk about what you're shopping for and who it's for, or you could just approach them and ask them for advice for gifts for your sister or mom. | /r/seduction | 15/11/12 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Approaching girls at parties with parentsYou're young. Eventually you'll get to the point in your life where you can see yourself and your parents both as adults. The quicker you can get here, the better your game, self-confidence, maturity, and success in life will be. Remember this comment when you turn 28. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Approaching girls at parties with parentsTell your parents and relatives that you see a girl who is cute. If they're not super conservative stiff people, they should be thrilled that you, a wonderful person, in their opinion finds a girl attractive. If they care about you, they will start telling you to do something about it, telling you what to say, or even going up and talking to the girl for you. You go up, approach, and if you fail, they will still love you. Your family can be your best wingmen/wingwomen if you are honest with them… | /r/seduction | 04/11/12 10:59 PM |
| 2 | As a long time AFC, how do you permanently remove the "out of my league" mentality you experience when you see a very gorgeous girl?Sarge so much until you convince yourself that there are even lots of "gorgeous" girls. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 11:38 PM |
| 2 | How can a male acquire a trait known as "piercing eyes"?Pretend you're in a staring contest with the person you're interacting with. Go a little bit easy if with it if you're talking to another guy, because it can sometimes be taken as a sign of aggression. If you're not interacting with the person, you will come across as leery/creepy. Relevance: I have been told numerous times that I have "deep" or "intense" eyes. | /r/seduction | 31/10/12 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Race and SeductionYou're a fucking catch man. David DeAngelo has a great interview with a black PUA in his interview series. I don't know the name of the PUA off the top of my head, but find it if you can. It'll make you feel less self-conscious and more self-embraceable. I'm South Asian. I used to think that white girls in the U.S. didn't like South Asian men. The problem is that most South Asian men don't know how to be sexually attractive like their white American counterparts. This builds a negative stereotyp… | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 07:20 PM |
| 2 | FR[22]. Practicing game while in a relationship.From my experience, you can't unlearn what you've learned, just like riding a bicycle. However, you do get rusty. | /r/seduction | 17/10/12 07:48 PM |
| 2 | FR[22]. Practicing game while in a relationship.I agree with this. I've explained numerous times to her that I'm going to flirt with girls I encounter, and that I will never ever cheat on her. I've told her she's free to do the same. As long as she picks up when I call her and she comes home to me, there's really no problem. | /r/seduction | 17/10/12 07:47 PM |
| 4 | Embracing Introversion and “The Game”No. All the time, shy people prefer not to hang out in large groups, because introverts don't prefer to hang out in large groups. That doesn't mean they shouldn't learn to manage in big groups, or extroverts learn to manage with 1-on-1 interaction. | /r/seduction | 15/10/12 08:13 PM |
| 8 | Embracing Introversion and “The Game”No it's not. It's a difference in preferences. | /r/seduction | 15/10/12 07:59 PM |
| 1 | How to force myself to escalateBaby steps. Don't make your goal kissing a girl. Make it touching her arm. When you get comfortable with this, move onto hugging. When you get comfortable with this, make it touching her waist. Then holding hands. Etc. Use Vin Di Carlo's escalation ladder as a guide. | /r/seduction | 15/10/12 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Just got out of a 6 year relationship. Need advice for moving on.Solo sarging is great. Commit to doing it 10 times, not 1 time. The first time will probably suck. You might not even say hi to anyone. | /r/seduction | 15/10/12 06:44 PM |
| 9 | Embracing Introversion and “The Game”As an introvert myself, the only difference I really see between us and extroverts is the number of people we prefer to be around. For extroverts, the more the merrier, generally speaking. For introverts, being in a group of 1-4 people is prime, and more than this gets to be annoying/taxing. However, being an introvert is not an acceptable excuse for lacking of social and communication skills. | /r/seduction | 15/10/12 06:16 PM |
| 24 | "You've been hitting on every girl here" - Overdoing it?You're doing just fine. About a year ago I went on a bar crawl with a huge group of people and hit on like 50 sets over the night. One of the girls we were with went up to me, and says, wow, you don't seem to have any problem with getting the ladies. I grabbed her and we just started dancing right there. I think what she's saying is half a shit test and half an IOI. As long as you're not being a raging douchebag, I think it's great that you can go out and have fun no matter who you're with. | /r/seduction | 08/10/12 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on fear of rejectionIt's also good practice to get rejected a lot and be familiar with what it feels like. Recognizing a familiar outcome/emotion makes it much easier to deal with than when it's all new. I think there are many great field reports on seddit, but there is a distinct lack of material on how to handle blowouts and rejections, what you should say/do/think, and how to recover quickly. | /r/seduction | 07/10/12 10:32 PM |
| 1 | My permanent smile is hurting my game. Advice?Act like you're angry. Look angrier, but not too much. | /r/seduction | 07/10/12 10:27 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when you run into girls who have blown you off before?Try to forget who they are. Then try opening them again. I think at RSD bootcamps they sometimes make students re-open sets that blew them out initially. | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 01:50 AM |
| 0 | So, you have a date tonight. Simple text to confirm it's still on?Don't do that. If anything, send her a text that you're on your way. Honestly though, I like to see if a girl will keep her word or not, because I want to date someone who is as reliable as me. | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Sorry for the wall of text, but I am partly writing this for myself as well as for you: Well the answer, from what I know, is maybe not what you'd like to hear. You can't just turn any relationship into a yes-yes one. If a person truly likes you, then there is potential to become yes-yes. I'm by no means an expert on this, and I'm still figuring it out, but I'll give you my take, and tell you a story of how I applied this as recently as last night. How you get a yes-yes relationship is quite sim… | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 06:26 PM |
| 6 | The best way to hook her in for goodNo worries. Here's a little something for you: My current girlfriend of one year does this, even now, after one year. Today she said she wanted to hang out with her friends. I told her that it was okay, but that I really didn't feel like hanging with her friends too, and that I'd rather just chill at my apartment. She said she probably wouldn't come over, because it might be late (which is bullshit). She asked if I would just come over later, and I said I really just wanted to just keep it mello… | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:48 PM |
| 3 | The best way to hook her in for goodWhen it's on, you be on. When it's off, don't still be on. Turn yourself off to her and do something else. BTW, this is really fucking hard to do, and it never goes away, but declines in frequency as you start falling for each other. Basically, you have to let her know implicitly that you like her, and that you like hanging out with her. You have to also let her know that while you are down to be with her when she is, that you're not going to allow her on-off ways to mess with you having a good … | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut.No it doesn't. I believe the upvote button works, otherwise I wouldn't be on reddit and seddit. On amazon, the upvote button is stars. This book has no ratings, testimonials, or personal accounts of success. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 06:45 PM |
| 1 | help with depression ruining my gameThis is the stupidest thing I've read in a long time. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 09:36 PM |
| 1 | How do I step my apartment game up?Here's Lovedropp's video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEpr-MNOvfU | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 05:54 PM |
| 4 | help with depression ruining my gameIf it's a chemical imbalance, then it's a physical issue just like high blood pressure or cholesterol. There's nothing wrong about treating this in my opinion. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Where to meet women/people in general?You are trying to cross the Grand Canyon in one step when you've "seen a few attractive people before but...". Make it easy for yourself. Find the ugliest person you can and make a conversation with that person. Old people are particularly wonderful at making small talk with. Then when you get comfortable with this, move to the next level. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 03:42 PM |
| -1 | Enlighten me again, what are the key differences between cocky and confident?Semantics. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 07:06 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn everything about something and something about everything?It's really simple. Get a newspaper or periodical, a good one, not something cheesy like USA Today. Read it front to back every day for one year. What I've found is that it's impossible to recall stuff from only reading something once. With a newspaper, they continue writing about particular stories for several days after the story breaks out. Secondly, reading the newspaper "forces" you to be exposed to things that you normally wouldn't google or wikipedia on your own. Reading on the internet o… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 07:05 AM |
| 0 | How do I step my apartment game up?Lovedrop has a great video on this. Find it. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 06:59 AM |
| 9 | I crave, and it shows.You crave affection and it shows. Let me tell you something here, right now, that you should take to heart: Stop giving a fuck about other people and start giving a fuck about yourself. You're craving for affection is backwards, incorrect, and wrong. This is what little boys are made of, not men who get laid. Stop craving affection right now. Slap yourself a few times as hard as you can and tell yourself to stop. Everyone likes affection, but the difference between men and boys is that men don't… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Need advice: best friend is a cockblockerYou're friend is not very nice for doing this, and you should ask yourself why you need him to be around whenever you socialize. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 06:50 AM |
| 9 | Can't think of an opener? Go for high fives.I was doing this on the street yesterday when my girlfriend was talking to her friends. I was taking the amuse-myself approach to having fun as was recommended by some people here a few days ago: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/107ihr/seddit_im_in_a_relationship_and_my_games_in_a_rut/ . She was taken aback at how easily I was opening groups of people. Later as we were holding hands and walking back home telling me that I was being silly, I said to her that you can always start a conve… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 12:37 AM |
| 2 | The 2 Shampoo Bottles ChallengeThis is cool. I have used an alternative approach: Save your really awesome shirts, shampoo, cologne, shoes, etc. when you are feeling particularly down. Your mind and your body are connected on a two-way street. You can do things physically to alter your mental state. Similarly a good attitude improves your physical posture/movement. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 12:29 AM |
| 29 | Thoughts on going for girls you will see later/often?The problem with you is that you are making the whole thing about hitting on girls about starting a relationship with them and if they aren't into it you're going to worry about the ensuing awkwardness that will be present for at least a semester. You're blowing this whole thing out of proportion. Keep this attitude in your head and really believe it: "Hey, I think you're attractive and wanted to hang out. If we hit it off, cool, and if not, you seem like you'd make a nice friend." That means if… | /r/seduction | 23/09/12 01:32 AM |
| 4 | I hate bars/clubs...Do you think Daygame is a good method for an LTR?Any game is good for an LTR. Whatever works for you is what you should be doing. Some people say you should hit the gym in the morning, others say the afternoon, or whatever. Honestly, the correct answer is hit the gym at whatever time of day you can do it consistently and well. | /r/seduction | 23/09/12 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut.Well, it doesn't come right back. I know this, because I've taken breaks from sarging, and the longer the break, the longer it takes to get back into the game. Taking a year-long break from game means it'll take pretty long to get back into tip-top shape. Also, my gaminess is what made her attracted to me in the first place, and if I start becoming an AFC bitch boy, she will lose attraction, stop being happy, and eventually leave. | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut.I think the point about planning and organizing activities is something I need to do. I used to do this more often, but I have been leaning on my friends and her to have the activities to go to instead of seeking/planning them out myself. I'm really happy in my relationship, it's just that I'm still learning how to balance everything. Sarging is a cure-all, I'm convinced. I don't mean going out and trying to get girls' numbers and kiss, but just going out to meet people and converse with them. | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut.Why should I read your book? There is a lot of garbage out there. | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut.Honestly, I could care less if she goes out with her guy friends, but it might raise a couple red flags if she has a new guy she's starting to hang out with 1-on-1. An old buddy or a new group of friends that includes guys? Not a blip on my radar. I'm not sure if she'd feel the same way if the situation was reversed though. The reason I want to practice game is because I don't want to develop oneitis for my girl. AFCs get into relationships and hope to not mess up, because they think this is the… | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, I'm in a relationship, and my game's in a rut.Seriously? How does that even cross your mind? Hahaha! You're awesome man. Thanks for the comments, I appreciate them. I just took a walk and said hi to three different people. No conversation though, and I had approach anxiety which stopped me from talking to a cute girl studying, but that's okay. I feel so much more alive right now than I have all week. | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 08:19 PM |
| 4 | Friends hurting my game?8:30-10:30? Solo sarge. Honestly, this is the easiest time of night to solo sarge, when bars aren't all crowded, and people appreciate actual conversation. Tell anyone who asks you why you're by yourself exactly what you wrote: you're girlfriends always tell you to meet two hours before they're actually ready, fucking girls. Tell your friends to ring you when they're out and where to meet them. You'll bring value to the new people you've met by inviting them to join you where you're friends are … | /r/seduction | 15/09/12 01:07 AM |
| 1 | How effective is the way of Ross Jeffries ?It's effective. Too much thinking and work in my opinion, but he is a testament to it working. Some people think it's too contrived/creepy. | /r/seduction | 15/09/12 12:56 AM |
| 1 | I don't like kissing until I know the girl...is this weird?If she's attracted to you, she'll be willing to wait. Every girl is different, but I'd say generally don't push it more than a month. I've also learned that once you've kissed a girl, you can pretty much keep the relationship at kiss-level for however long you want to wait, and the girl will give you a signal if it's taking too long. With timing issues, it's usually about the guy moving too fast rather than too slow. | /r/seduction | 15/09/12 12:55 AM |
| 3 | How do I re-seduce my own girlfriend of 3 years?Your biggest problem is your anger and frustration. You're acting like a little boy whining about wanting to be treated like a man. Guess what? You're never going to be a man if you keep this shit up. Your woman will leave you if you don't change yourself, guaranteed. When you go to a bar and hit on a girl, you don't explain to her why she should find you attractive. You are simply just attractive (or you're not). Girls at the bar and girls in relationships have one thing in common: they're all … | /r/seduction | 15/09/12 12:43 AM |
| 2 | It seems to me that a lot of guys around me that are getting attention from girls do not smile very often. I've also noticed that guys seem to act more beta around guys that smile less. What's /r/seduction's opinion on smiling, and looking like you're having fun vs 'tough guy' macho guy look?Don't smile to get approval/show approval. Smile when you're genuinely happy. Don't smile too quickly. Make the whole thing 2-3 times slower than you think it should be. | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Recently single friendAwww, this is nice. Just invite her out to do something fun, just the two of you. Do this a few times and hopefully it goes where you want it to. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 06:36 PM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong? Help me seddit gods."Oh, that's nice. Thanks for letting me know." When she goes WTF at this response, tell her that it's nice for her to be honest and up front about this, that she's smart to know what you were after, and that her bf obviously means a lot to her if she brings him up so quickly. Tell her that you're just looking to meet new people, make new friends, and if it happens to happen, start hanging out with a cool girl. Then she'll talk a little, and then you tell her that you hope she has some cute cool … | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Here's an interesting one for you sedditors. I'll hear out any and all adviceI see social circle game and gaming in a bar as no different aside from the fact that bar game moves much quicker. You need to win her friend over, otherwise your interest will lose interest very quick. The way I see it, is that if you win over her friends, her friends will DHV you in your absence, which makes your life a LOT easier and makes your game much more effortless. Invite her and her roommate out to something and make it a point to win over her roommate, not the girl. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 06:25 PM |
| 4 | Just got first number since subscribing to Seddit, what do?Call her, and don't expect anything. When I started out I would use phone numbers I collected as opportunities to practice my game on the phone. I never thought about trying to get with the girl at hand, although if it went well, that would be an added bonus. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Height and seducing women?I'm around 5'5 and while height definitely helps, it's not essential. What I've learned is that women are more likely to talk to you if you're shorter. That's all you need! If you're conversations skills are honed, you shouldn't have any problem gaming them. Guys who are bigger/taller have an advantage when doing kino openers. Also, it's a stereotype that super short girls want super tall guys. A lot of short girls want guys who are just a little taller than them, not up in the clouds. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 06:17 PM |
| 1 | 27F says: My brother is in town, can he come [on our first date]?Honestly, I would have told her that she should just spend time with her brother when he's here and to give me a call when she didn't have other commitments. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 06:13 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.I wrote about this: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lui5z/getting_into_state_two_kinds_of_approaches/ . | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with Belarusian HB8 that doesn't like anythingAsk her what she likes to do. | /r/seduction | 16/08/12 04:48 PM |
| 1 | What do I do if I go in for a k-close and she's not having itBack off, smile, and go back to what you were talking about. This builds a lot of comfort, her knowing that you won't do anything she's not comfortable with yet. It also comfort-building because it demonstrates to her that you don't think of her as a slut, since her physical denial doesn't mean you're necessarily going to drop her right away. Don't wait around too long though. Make sure she is comfortable with holding hands, hugging, and back rubbing before you try to kiss her. Also, I wouldn't … | /r/seduction | 16/08/12 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Girl: "Hold my drink for me?"I think your move was great, but you killed it in the end. You should have ignored her retort and asked her what the drink was, and how tasty it was in an innocent way. Then ask her if she could by you another. When she refuses, you could ask if you could hold her purse next time so that you could get some money out of it instead of alcohol. Then when she gets super upset, smile and tell her to calm down and come to the bar. Ask her what she wants, and buy it for her. The conflict and tension is… | /r/seduction | 16/08/12 04:20 PM |
| 1 | How to use your day game to help improve your night game.No worries. | /r/seduction | 24/07/12 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Guide to having a hot girlfriendThank you so much. I'm going to try option b) for the bitchy/snarky thing. So far I've been just ignoring, but that doesn't always work for me. She is sometimes so snarky that she doesn't stop until she finds a way to get me to react. From what I know about pickup, this is probably going to work. It's just the relationship-version of a shit test. One of the hard things about being in a relationship is that there is not much information on how to be good in a relationship. There is a tonne of adv… | /r/seduction | 24/07/12 03:36 PM |
| 1 | How to use your day game to help improve your night game.Your title is misleading. I was hoping for techniques you use in day game to help night game. This is just social proof that you could acquire any way, not necessarily through day game. | /r/seduction | 12/07/12 09:20 PM |
| 3 | It seems like to me a lot of girls sexual personality can be very simply defined as passive-aggressive. Does anyone else agree?I was talking to my gf about times girls had hit on me overtly, and once I said a girl came up to me, looked me in the eyes and said I had nice hands, turned away and brushed her hair. She said, that it was strange/interesting that that was considered aggressive, since the most aggressive guys go much farther...literally walking up and grabbing asses. | /r/seduction | 12/07/12 09:16 PM |
| 2 | What to do when girls take a while to respond?Find more girls. It'll make waiting to hear from her less annoying, AND you might get another girl who texts/calls with a faster response time. No response? No worries. You have girls by the dozen. | /r/seduction | 12/07/12 09:12 PM |
| 3 | I have a hard time openly hitting on girls, not out of fear for rejections, but out of fear of looking like an idiot.Are you going out by yourself or with others? If you are going out with others, I HIGHLY suggest going out by yourself in a part of town where nobody will recognize you and nobody will remember you. This removes the penalty for "acting like an idiot". If your friends see you be an idiot, or you game in a place where your reputation is at stake, it will be much harder to practice game. | /r/seduction | 08/07/12 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit, What do you do that makes you an interesting person?Creative arts, travel/new experiences, working out, career goals, having friends, doing something for the community, and having plans for the weekend. Be passionate. | /r/seduction | 05/07/12 10:05 PM |
| 3 | a catch 22 I've found myself inHere is some relationship advice I've written: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r381m/advice_from_an_experienced_natural_68_year_old/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/sgswc/followup_advice_from_a_68yearold_natural_whose/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/t3ipf/advice_from_a_40yearold_vietnameseamerican/ I'll write some more in the future. | /r/seduction | 05/07/12 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Food delivery - picking up the chicks I deliver toDon't practice your game this way. Go out independently and sarge. Then, when you're better at game, try incorporating game into your work to increase your options, not practice. | /r/seduction | 05/07/12 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Night game: Sober or not sober?Try it again. Do it sober five more times, and then see how you feel. | /r/seduction | 05/07/12 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Are white knights overwhelming Seddit?AKA Keyboard Jockeys. | /r/seduction | 05/07/12 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Whats a good reply to "Im good, how are you?"Say this: I'm doing really great. 30 seconds of material of what you plan on doing for the night then ask a question: What are you planning on getting into tonight? If she comments on what you're doing or answers your question with more than a one word response, she's interested in talking to you, not fucking you. Not yet, anyway. Keep it up and sprinkle a little sexual intent, humor, and kino, and you might get lucky. Otherwise wish her well and move on. It's amazing how refreshing simple, norm… | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 06:14 AM |
| 3 | Limiting myself to one drink per venueProtip: Try not drinking anything but water, or maybe a tea/coffee to keep your attention up. Gaming drunk girls while sober is like playing dodgeball with 2nd graders. | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 06:10 AM |
| 1 | So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night?Answer this question please. | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 05:54 AM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for someone who is seemingly hopeless?You will. There are people of all levels here. Here is my first post: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/jpjiy/first_post_on_seddit_intro_and_my_field_report/ . You're man enough to admit you suck with women and want to fix this. Most guys aren't willing to swallow their pride and admit this, even though they should. Keep it up man. | /r/seduction | 27/06/12 06:29 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for someone who is seemingly hopeless?Got started about 6 years later than you. It doesn't take a long time to learn this stuff and have success. It takes a long time to become an expert, which I'm not yet. | /r/seduction | 27/06/12 06:08 AM |
| 14 | what signs have you noticed that means someone is definitely interested ?Smiling; laughing at banter; touching hair; playing with the straw in the drink; copying body language/motions; touching wrist with the other hand; asking for a name; aking followup questions. | /r/seduction | 27/06/12 06:05 AM |
| 9 | 10 Things every guy can do to become more attractiveThis comment sounds like something a typical redditor AFC would say. Seduction is simple, but not that simple. | /r/seduction | 20/06/12 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Wingman for your text game (crowd sourced seduction)This is pretty badass. Haha. It would also clear a lot of the "how should I respond to this text?" posts on seddit. | /r/seduction | 16/06/12 02:05 AM |
| 3 | What Do You Do To Improve Your Game? Exercise? Healthy Eating? Diet? Supplements? Prescription Pills? Alcohol? Certain Routines? Dress to Impress? 3 Our Fathers and 4 Holy Marys?Physical fitness is one of the most important parts of game. | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 05:01 PM |
| 16 | Girls with boyfriends. How to deal with them... It seems all the cute girls are takenFrom my experience, I used to get annoyed when people mentioned they had a boyfriend. That's because I was trying to get something from the people I was gaming. Nowadays, I don't really care if someone has a boyfriend. If she's cute, odds are she has cute friends who are looking. Think bigger man. Make new friends. Meet more people. You even said that Summer was slow, so pick up the pace by firing up a new Summer social life. Plan some parties with your new friends, and tell them to invite their… | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else feel as if they've regressed?Nice read. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 04:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you increase the likelihood that she will be receptive to your kino?Kino escalate when she is laughing/smiling preferably after some joke/story that you just told. | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else feel as if they've regressed?In one word: Practice. Practice this everyday, and you certainly won't regress. You might not improve if you go through the motions, but practice will maintain your level of game. I am regressing too, because I am in a LTR currently. I've stopped saying hi to people on the street. I've stopped flirting with random girls. I've stopped making new friends and casual chit chat. This Summer I've sworn to keep my edge up, even though I'm in an LTR. I'm not going to cheat, but I'm going to maintain my … | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Would you guys be interested in a sophistication subreddit?Agree. I just create a username and subscribe to all the relevant subreddits related to seduction. No need to reinvent the wheel. | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 07:28 AM |
| 4 | My god, when you finally get it, its like seeing lines of code in the matrix. Just sitting here marveling it at all.Just remember, being in a relationship doesn't change the fact that the girl you are with is a girl. She will do all the stupid shit that bar girls do albeit in a different context. Watch out for it and don't try to jump through her hoops. Take her hoops and throw them across the street if you want happiness. Be okay 100% if she walks away from you right now. If there is anything valuable between you two, this mentality will keep you together so much stronger than trying to rationalize your rela… | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 07:25 AM |
| 6 | How do you guys show that you are the alpha male? I guess in a way, how do you seduce the men around you?Honestly? Go make new friends and establish this from the get-go. It's harder to change your role with existing friends. | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 07:19 AM |
| 2 | How do you successfully ignore your own appearance focusing only on your confidence?Here is one trick that works: Your mind influences your body and your body influences your mind. If you sense that you aren't as confident as you want to be, make your body influence your mind: Stand up straight, shoulders relaxed, eyes fixated on anything you look at, loosen your voice box, hands at the side, relax your facial muscles, keep a warm slight grin. This will help convince your mind that there's nothing to worry about. A related note: When you are confident as fuck, your body exudes … | /r/seduction | 14/06/12 07:16 AM |
| 1 | My theory on the BEST way to stimulate almost guaranteed emotional investment from a girl....Agree or Disagree?Disagree. That seems gimmicky and a bit dark. Like, you're supposed to get her to hand you a skeleton out of her closet so that you now have her by the emotional hooks? That seems a bit antagonistic for a fun, loving, healthy relationship. My take is that you're supposed to be just the same way you were when you picked her up: A giver, outcome independence, and completely okay (non-needy) if she walks away. The only difference is that with a girlfriend, she's also you're friend. You do fun stuff… | /r/seduction | 12/06/12 10:16 PM |
| 5 | How Do You Prevent Girls From "Marking Their Territory" On Your Facebook?Exactly. Unless you're trying to hide something. In that case, it's probably better to deactivate your Facebook account. | /r/seduction | 12/06/12 10:11 PM |
| 2 | I cheated on my ex-girlfriend. How do I approach this with girls I could potentially date?The past is the past. You are already becoming a man by admitting your mistakes and feeling bad about them. You only have done permanent damage to all your future relationships with women if you refuse to change yourself. There are a lot of forgiving women out there who will not judge you in the present moment for mistakes you've made in the past. Just don't fucking cheat on them. | /r/seduction | 12/06/12 10:09 PM |
| 2 | How would I get over my shyness and introverted personality?Try an opener like this: Do you ever get shy when you want to try and meet new people? I really get shy. I'm worried that the new person might not like me, and that makes me a little nervous to go and meet people that look interesting. Like right now, you might be totally repulsed by me, and the thought of this and what it might do to my self-confidence scares me. But at the same time, I wanted to meet you and have to accept that I can't control how you react. I.E. Talk about approach anxiety as… | /r/seduction | 10/06/12 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Haha, I like that. | /r/seduction | 06/06/12 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Well done. It's seduction in a relationship. There is no difference between a girl you're trying to pickup and a girl you're in a LTR with. They're both girls in either case, and react exactly the same way. I've learned that you can be emotional both in pickup and in a LTR. Like, you don't have to be super happy fun guy or even have to get into 'state' to pickup girls, as long as you don't let your emotions control yourself, you can pickup girls even if you've had a rotten day. | /r/seduction | 04/06/12 08:41 PM |
| 1 | we all know practice makes perfect, so how long does it take to master the art of seduction? How long did it take you?It took me 20 field reports to go from super shyness to easy number closing. However, I do feel that I'm losing my edge due to being in a relationship for several months. I'm going to make light gaming and winging a priority this Summer (no cheating). Also, I want to work on cultivating new friendships. | /r/seduction | 04/06/12 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I'll tell you if you ask politely. | /r/seduction | 04/06/12 07:10 AM |
| 16 | Seddit, I'm about to have sex with the girl of my dreams. I'm going to go for a relationship. I have one thing to say to you.Congratulations. But she isn't the girl of your dreams. She's a girl you really like at the moment. She might walk out on you tomorrow, and you should be 100% okay with that; you won't chase her and fawn over her. Keep this attitude and she will go even crazier for you, and the dream will never end. Source: My own experience. | /r/seduction | 03/06/12 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on gaming other girls while in a LTR?I am in love with my current girlfriend. You can game all you want verbally. Do not kino anything more than a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek. It sounds like you've established that kissing other people is okay, so that's your line. You can get a license to game more if you wing for your guys and tell your girlfriend that you are out on a mission to find your buddies some girls. Hell, you can even invite her along if you like. | /r/seduction | 30/05/12 03:19 PM |
| 1 | is trying to pickup girls in my small ish town a bad idea?If you are practicing, it might be a bad idea. Try sarging somewhere else, I'd say. | /r/seduction | 29/05/12 06:38 PM |
| 1 | [VFR]: I guess you would call this super direct verbalsThat was ballsy. His body language at the end was a bit too dominating, and you could tell she was getting a little uncomfortable by not being able to think a little and spit out a time. There was also not a lot of fun/humor, but he got her number and closing is what matters in the end. | /r/seduction | 23/05/12 04:21 AM |
| 1 | What's Mystery been up to lately?He's going the way of Ross Jeffries. | /r/seduction | 22/05/12 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Confidence in bedTwo things: 1) Stop masturbating and looking at porn. Starve yourself sexually for a little while, and you should be fine. 2) Get some viagra. It works even for young, virile men. Take it and slowly reduce the dose over time and you'll get over the psychological problems you're having. | /r/seduction | 22/05/12 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Women's relationship advice: How to Spot a Pickup ArtistLOL | /r/seduction | 22/05/12 11:07 PM |
| 1 | I need your advice on how to proceed with this girl, and more generally, how to deal with over-availability on facebookI disagree. She might be looking to get out of an unhappy relationship. I'm against enabling cheating, but you can make it known that you're into her, and you're also not into her cheating on her boyfriend. She can either break up with her boyfriend and go for you or stay with her bf. Either way there is nothing ungentlemanly about the outcome. However, it's probably easier to find some single women. | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 11:03 PM |
| 1 | A discussion on "naturals."Naturals are men who are good with women and are generally unread and unaware of the seduction material that's out there. | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 10:58 PM |
| 4 | [Anti-FR] Blown out by woman I was not even hitting on. The Story of the Meddlesome Ex-gf Playing Wingman: A Cautionary TaleIn some time you'll laugh about this. Your girlfriend was being super ridiculous, and you can tell all your friends about how your ex got a girl to reject you when you weren't even hitting on her. I know you're pissed, but your story cracked me up. It seems like your game is good enough to not let this bother you too much. I'd even dare you to use this story in future nights out, telling other girls how ridiculous your ex was. | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 09:03 PM |
| 2 | so seddit, i'm in college and need help meeting people, specifically girls. what are some ways to go about that in classes, clubs, etc?Day sarge on the quad. | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 08:24 PM |
| 3 | What are some tips on not mixing up girls' names?Imagine their name written across their foreheads when the tell you their names. It's much easier to remember faces than names. FDR used this trick. Also, repeat their names a few times during the initial conversation, making sure you've got it. It's okay to mess up a little, especially if there are multiple people you are meeting at once. Sometimes they give me shit for not getting it right, and then I'll flat out ask them if they remember my name. Often they can't, and I give their shit right … | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Does all this stuff become natural after a while?Yes. You can change your personality permanently if you spend enough time working on changing. This is awesome, because you can't change many other things in life, e.g. looks, height, etc. | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 08:22 PM |
| 6 | This is one of the best articles I've ever read. Women WANT YOU to approach them, even cold approaches.I used to take women's advice about getting hit on. The would complain about how creepy a guy was or how they just wished guys would leave them alone so that they could enjoy their night. As a whiteknighty AFC I used to chime in and say, "Oh yeah, you girls have it really tough. I can't imagine what that's like. Guys can be so creepy sometimes." BULLSHIT. That is just girls being girls connecting with each other. Nowadays if I'm caught in such a situation, which I usually try to avoid, I just li… | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 08:18 PM |
| 1 | What's a classy, cool way to handle rejection?Be innocent and don't be ignorant. A simple "Oh cool, thanks for telling me." Then you can keep talking to her and her friends if you want some company for the night, and use them as social proof to open new sets. You can also just straight up ask her if she has any friends that are looking to date. You could just wish her a good night and be on your way. I take quick rejections as a good thing. The girl is nice enough to tell you so that you don't waste your time. That is thousands of times bet… | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Are there still crazy parties after college?After college you have $$$ if you start working. You get to do a ton more things that will make college parties seem childish. People willingly choose to leave college and have careers for a reason: it's different, but better in a whole lot of ways. | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 08:09 PM |
| 1 | A word of cautionFor what it's worth, I'm here because I want to find a nice girl to be my girlfriend, eventually marry, and have children with. I just want the skills to attract women so I can find a good one and keep her happy. | /r/seduction | 15/05/12 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Here we go guys, a lesson in handling rejecting....No. This is exactly how to NOT handle rejection, at least, if you care about getting laid anyway. | /r/seduction | 15/05/12 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, the girl I like is leaving in two days and I need to convince her that even though we only have two days left to at least start a relationship.Leaving for good or is she coming back? | /r/seduction | 15/05/12 03:43 PM |
| 1 | What are some good ways to transistion after the opener?Boring interview questions: How do you know each other. Are you from here or visiting? Are you in school or working? What are your plans for the rest of the night? I also just spew info about what I'm getting into and how I like to keep myself busy. If they're interested, they'll ask a question. If not, I just wish them well and move on, maybe coming back to them again later in the night and trying again. | /r/seduction | 15/05/12 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, please help me expand my social network!! Has anyone here started from nothing?I have started from scratch several times. The first time was nerve-wracking. Now, I almost crave it. It's exhilarating. Here is some advice: Get involved in three regular activities: something artistic, something physical, and something for the community. Make an effort to meet the people in these activities. They don't all have to be your friend, but you'll start to feel at home if you make a few environments your personal spaces where people know your name. Sarge at bars alone. This is one of… | /r/seduction | 06/05/12 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Texting trick that has never failed meI would be skeptical of this from just reading it, BUT it seems like you and many others have had success with this one. AWESOME! | /r/seduction | 04/05/12 06:31 AM |
| 1 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.Well I've been with him at the bars, and he is intense and energetic, but not frenetic, if that makes any sense. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.Haha! In my opinion, sleep is the first thing you need, before eating and exercising. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.Sarging. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 09:58 PM |
| 0 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.I still don't agree with you, but that's okay. Thank you for the comments. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.No, he's not always right. I disagree with him this time. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.Yes. I wish this stuff was stressed more in pickup. I just recently learned about it. | /r/seduction | 02/05/12 09:44 PM |
| 17 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.I don't think you're correct. Being high frequency all the time is annoying, draining, and unattractive. It comes in the form of the one-upper, the guy who has a nervous tick, the guy who constantly smiles, the guy who is a slave to his emotions, the guy who won't shut up and listen, the guy who doesn't pay attention to how others are perceiving him, etc. | /r/seduction | 02/05/12 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I'm glad you enjoyed the post. Here is a followup from the same man: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/sgswc/followup_advice_from_a_68yearold_natural_whose/ There is a lot of good advice on how to pickup women. There isn't much good advice on how to maintain a sexy long-term-relationship or marriage. This guy is one of the few sources of this advice. | /r/seduction | 02/05/12 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Club BitchesDude, thank you for writing out the dialogue. This is beautiful stuff. Thank you! | /r/seduction | 01/05/12 10:24 PM |
| 3 | In passing, eye contact then she looks away and smiles.In any "staring contest" between guys and girls who are strangers, the guy will almost always win. This is how it is. If she glances back after breaking, that's a definite IOI. If she smiles, that's either an IOI or just shyness. | /r/seduction | 01/05/12 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Over Apologetic - good or bad sign?She sounds like a decent person if she apologized, but she's not super into you. Keep her on the back burner while you go out and get more girls' phone numbers, and don't lose hope on this one, but be realistic. | /r/seduction | 01/05/12 09:52 PM |
| 6 | Seddit is the big brother I never had.Awesome man. For me, one thing about going out aren't just the women you meet, but good guy friends you can make in the field. I've met a couple of good naturals this way who have helped me improve immeasurably. | /r/seduction | 01/05/12 05:34 PM |
| 5 | How do I segue into playing a guitar to turn on a girl?Leave your guitar out on the couch. Go sit on the couch at some point and pick up the guitar and play some random chords softly while talking. She'll ask you about guitar-playing if she's into you. Then you go. | /r/seduction | 29/04/12 10:27 PM |
| 6 | Oxytocin: The Trust MoleculeLet me clarify my point: They could have used the words submissive, compromising, or gentle instead of "nice". They could have also used the words spendthrift, squandering, or wasteful instead of "generous". Realizing that many mainstream outlets quite readily paint women in a good light and men in a bad one is part of the reason why I got into pickup. I'll call bullshit when I see it to remind myself that the mainstream, from romantic comedies to Dr. Phil, to feminism, and the popular press oft… | /r/seduction | 29/04/12 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Why Women lose the dating game (or: AFgirl?)There are a few points that this article doesn't capture well: Women are choosing this option, and it's not as much of a surprise as the article would like you to think. High quality women will only have babies with high quality men or just not have babies. The number of high quality women is going up while the number of high quality men is going down. Men have and always will like younger girls over older girls. Youth is attractive to men. Women get uglier as they age, and men get more attracti… | /r/seduction | 29/04/12 07:20 PM |
| 14 | Oxytocin: The Trust Moleculeand why women tend to be nicer and more generous than men This phrase is a load of crap. | /r/seduction | 29/04/12 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Unexpected observations on the road to becoming alpha...1) It never ends. You can always keep finding issues to improve, which is why it is important to understand your accomplishments are not you. This is probably the most important thing to realize, not just for pickup, but for life. It's easy to say to yourself, "Look at all the stuff I've done," and stop. But the reality is there is a whole lot more that you could do to further improve. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 10:54 PM |
| 2 | How long does it take on average to get into the friendzone?The most common way is humor and teasing her. As we're making out she'll say something like, "Oh I've been wanting to hook up with you all day." And I'll say something like, "What makes you think we're hooking up?" Smile, and then I go and kiss her even more (and hook up). I'll say, keep Saturday afternoon free. She'll ask why. And I'll tell her it's a surprise, and she's going to love it. I don't set expectations with her unless we've made explicit plans. If she's out with her friends and I don… | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 06:39 PM |
| 3 | going out with low-state, low-energy friendsTalk to them about it at a time when you're not out or even getting ready to go out. Tell them about some of your funny success stories at the bar, and tell them you'd like to do this together sometime. I'm trying to get on of my best friends to see the light, but you can't change anyone that doesn't want to change. Another one of my friends saw me gaming one night, and flat out asked me to help him, and you can't say no to such a humble request from a friend. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Any good resources on building social proof?I've realized that you don't need social proof. You just need to give anyone you interact with the feeling that you have social proof. You can be totally alone at a bar and exude social proof by demonstrating you don't need their validation to be 100% happy and having a good time. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 06:18 AM |
| 3 | Moving from dating to committed relationshipYou know the sexual escalation that you are able to build quickly to hook up? Stretch that over a longer period of time, maybe a few weeks or even a couple months, and let it develop alongside a new friendship. Girlfriend means friend+sex. Be honest, determine if she has some similar interests/background, and see if watch for how well your personalities vibe. I think a lot of relationships fail, because sex was introduced too soon and there isn't any friendship. I also know a lot of relationship… | /r/seduction | 23/04/12 10:05 PM |
| 4 | A cute girl who works at Verizon put her number in my phone. Is this standard practice or something more?Call her at least for practice with talking to girls, if nothing more. | /r/seduction | 23/04/12 06:24 AM |
| 13 | Start saying thanks to anyone who rejects you...I once got a phone number for telling a girl thank you when she told me she had a boyfriend. She was shocked, and thought I was joking because apparently most other guys she told this to would get angry/upset/annoyed. I told her I wasn't there to ruin a good thing, and asked if she had any cool single friends with her. After a bit, one of her friends came to us and, she introduced me and DHVed me a couple times. Pretty awesome. Her friend never called me back though. Ahh well! | /r/seduction | 23/04/12 06:21 AM |
| 3 | I've always been clueless with relationships.Your problem is you're waiting for an "organic" situation. Fuck that. You will piss away your life waiting for life to come to you. Learn to make pickup "organic", and it won't seem like you're doing anything out of the ordinary. So here's my advice to you. You found two cool girls? That's great. Leave them alone for a little while and work on yourself. The whole point of sarging by yourself in a part of town where you won't know anybody is to minimize the pain and embarrassment of getting rejec… | /r/seduction | 22/04/12 11:30 PM |
| 4 | Building seddit smartphone app, any content you guys would like included?I'm going to go against the flow and say this is a bad idea. Firstly, many people have already made PUA apps, but maybe not for seddit itself, but none, as far as I know, have gotten any traction. Secondly, having a pickup app on your phone is a little creepy. Thirdly, if you're learning pickup, the best way is to focus on improving one thing at a time, such as eye contact, body language, dress, opening, kino, humor, storytelling, sexual communication, getting a phone number, getting a kiss, etc… | /r/seduction | 22/04/12 11:17 PM |
| 19 | Why are women attracted to guys already in relationships?Easy: Preselection. | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's good to see the light, right? Even though breakups suck, what's even worse is not knowing why it didn't work out. | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.You're welcome man. | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's amazing, right? | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Ahh cool! I think it differs slightly from Buddhism though, in that I allow my desires and emotion to influence my behavior over what I want. I just try not to lose my self-control to desires and emotions, if that makes any sense. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.No, actually my friend told me to NOT tell my girlfriend about most of the stuff he was telling me. Other women might be able to understand it, but he said the woman you are with might get confused and hurt by it all. I can see why. Telling a woman that she is yes-no, but could become yes-yes, can hurt. The girl is already sleeping with you and is emotionally invested, probably thinking about the future, etc. Saying that you want to take this yes-no relationship to a yes-yes might even piss her … | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Haha | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.So, he married her when he was poor. In fact there was a time in his life when he was virtually bankrupt. He built his wealth by himself; he didn't inherit it. Anyway, if you know anything about attraction and pickup, girls might settle for a rich, attractive guy, but long-term attraction isn't based on what makes you great, but what makes you a man. That's why bad boys who have rotten personalities, living in vans who are super poor can still get girls, and even get girls to be their sugarmoms. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Why are you so upset? I don't really get bothered by trolls who don't follow reddiquette. Regarding my friend, I don't think you read the original post: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r381m/advice_from_an_experienced_natural_68_year_old/ . The man spent a couple decades with tonnes of women. He's only married once, and never been divorced. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:29 PM |
| 4 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Okay, but even going by the facts, you're only going off of the few facts I've told you. I know more facts than you, and the things I've listed are a small minority of experiences I've had. She doesn't constantly bitch to me. I brought up these points firstly to document them for myself, and secondly to give guys advice on a good course of action when a relationship has a hiccup. I know the friends she was hanging out with, and I've never lied to her about anything. I'm fairly certain she doesn'… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:27 PM |
| 7 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Almost everyday. I don't think she was feeling guilty. I think she was missing me. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.No. I'm building a yes-yes relationship. I would be a pushover if she went out and I was waiting on her to come home. In fact, I was asleep when she called, asking to come over. In other words, if she's not on with me, I'm not going to be on with her, but other guys will still be on when the girl is off, like a lap dog. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.That's awesome. Could you explain this further? How did you guys meet? How do you deal with fights and disagreements and other womanly "irrationality"? How did you build a yes-yes relationship? | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. The guy is amazing. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's from one guy who is 68 years old. Take it or leave it, but just as taking advice from Tyler, who has experience to show for what he teaches, this average-looking man has a 30-year old marriage with a super hot wife who still gets the shivers from him. I used to think that it was inevitable that marriages cooled off over time, but it's just that most people don't know how to be a man and keep their women happy till the day they die. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.He not only knows what he's talking about. He also has a lot to show for it. He got married late in life after spending a couple decades figuring life out, and has never been divorced, happy with a family, kids, and a ton of money. If you look at him, he seems pretty average. He just knows the easier way to success, which often goes against instinct. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I have a feeling the women over there wouldn't understand. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Well, the key is to understand that you start any relationship as a yes-no relationship. You have to show the woman that you are capable of being yes-yes, and also that you are seeking a yes-yes woman. Surprisingly, a good number of women really do want to be yes-yes with a yes-yes man, and a lot of men want the same as well. Unfortunately, not many people know how to be yes-yes, especially guys these days. Show her that you like her, but are in control of your emotions and desires. Go one night… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.That's right. All my yes-no relationships have all died after I move away or we lose a common activity/interest. All my yes-yes relationships stand the test of time, even if I haven't spoken to the person in over a year. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I agree. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thank you man. I'm glad I could help. Trust me, it works, at least in my experience. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Yeap. I was completely lost when it came to picking up girls on the street and turned to seddit. I improved. Then when I found a girl I could potentially love, nobody could give me advice. People on seddit didn't have much experience or simply didn't know. People at relationship_advice gave shitty advice. And all my friends told me to do exactly the opposite of what this 68-year-old man told me to do. So far, his advice has worked, and following my friends' advice is what caused the relationship… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.You don't have to understand women. A lot of what this guy has told me he NEVER tells his wife. Because she probably wouldn't understand it all either, coming from a guy's perspective. He's just telling me what to do and what works. Just like approaching straight on is threatening as opposed to approaching from the side. You don't need to know why it's threatening, just that approaching from the side will give you better results. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.You got it. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.The thing is, if you continue to act this way, she will begin to see you as a man, and not a boy. Personally, over the past month of following my 68-year-old friend's advice, she has gotten less childish. She is starting to see that I'm not one of those boys who will give a damn if she tries to play games with me. She'll respect me more, and eventually commit to the stability and security that I'm showing her I can provide. In this month she has told me that I'm better than her friends, that she… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I think it's good to establish independence in a relationship, to a point. She should respect your wish to go out with the guys, and that it's not because you don't want to hang out with her, but that you want to hang out with your friends. It's probably easier to establish this early on in the relationship rather than later. At some point, if she's down to be yes-yes, you'll fall for each other and realize that there is nothing that will stop the love between each of you, as long as you just le… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Case and point: my girl wanted to hang out with her friends a couple nights ago, and asked if it was okay. I told her to go and have fun. She said she'd call me later. She calls and comes over after a couple hours and initiates sex. Awesome. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Yes, I will. I think I've gotten a good chunk of what he's learned, but he has story upon story of how his way of thinking has gotten things to work out in life. Not just with women, but with business, friends, and other people. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I think you are right, and from what I've written, it may sound like my girl is perpetually bitchy. But she usually apologizes for things she's not even responsible for doing wrong. She's overall a fairly easy-going girl and 95% of our interactions are stress-free, fun, flirty, and sexy. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I wouldn't call it confidence. I would call it quality. Low quality girls see the world for its things, but high quality girls want a life full of love, friendship, and awesome experiences. Not every high quality girl has high self-confidence. It could be a series of failures or experiences that make them sensitive to certain things. You can help her in this respect, if you have the patience and believe that she's worthy for you. But it might be easier to go for a girl that has all her shit toge… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 02:48 PM |
| 6 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I'm a regular around here. You can see my first post on seddit, many field reports, and my personal transformation over the past several months. I'm not an expert or even a pickup artist. Most likely, I am an rAFC. Most pickup advice is on everything from inner game to approaching to getting laid. There isn't much advice out there on building a relationship with a woman aside from the romantic comedy, Dr. Phill, AFC stuff. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:01 AM |
| 3 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I think you're on the right track. Regarding the last paragraph about her realizing what she did. I don't think that's the right way of thinking about it. Just let her go out, be happy that she's having a good time, and even encourage her to spend more time going out with her friends. If she had a good night, tell her that you're happy she had a good night. You should also be able to have a good night without her, even if that means sitting at home alone reading a book. If she keeps wanting to g… | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 04:36 AM |
| 23 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.I like that. Every moment with the person you love is an unexpected gift. When you start expecting things, you set yourself up for disappointment. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 04:20 AM |
| 8 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Haha. It's just advice from an old guy. That's what he told me anyway. It's not some proven method or philosophy. It's just what his experience has been. Somehow though, his way of thinking explains a lot very concisely. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 04:20 AM |
| 10 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. Things are definitely different, at least with myself. I can't force her to change in any way, but I can change myself. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 04:18 AM |
| 12 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.It may not be the best, but I also do realize that most of seddit is about everything from inner game to approaching to getting laid. All of this is really good advice, and from many many times in the field, I know it works. However, there isn't much advice for what to do after this if you want something more than this with a girl, or cherish as Tim from RSD calls it. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 04:12 AM |
| 91 | Followup: Advice from a 68-year-old natural whose wife is still dreamy-eyed for him.This is how I've applied what I've learned from this man for the better. I realize that getting back with an ex is futile unless something fundamentally changes. I am fundamentally changing myself in the hopes that round 2 will work out better. So far, it seems to be working. Getting her back: After breaking up, I decided to ignore her for two straight weeks. She periodically sent me Facebook messages starting with mundane, "Hi how are you doing?" to "I think I've made the biggest mistake of my … | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 10:50 PM |
| 2 | How to disagree with othersYou can disagree without getting into an argument. Honestly, it's not worth getting into a discussion about silly small things like the Titanic in 3D. Also, don't open doors for arguments over religion or politics. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 02:49 AM |
| 8 | Approaching girls who always seem to be part of a group/surrounded by friends, that you don't know.One of my favorite lines is, "Hey, I kind of like your friend!". You can followup with, "I hope that's okay with you.". If you've won them over they will help you out, especially her girlfriends. It can be good to say this loud enough so that the girl hears it as well. | /r/seduction | 31/03/12 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Approaching girls who always seem to be part of a group/surrounded by friends, that you don't know.Approach the group, not the girl. Win over everyone. Isolate. Close. The bigger the group, the easier this is. The hardest groups are two and three sets. | /r/seduction | 31/03/12 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's not purposeful, but subconscious. It's in the same vein as a shit test, but at the relationship-level. | /r/seduction | 30/03/12 06:30 AM |
| 2 | Quit Blaming State for Your ProblemsI did not say that. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 07:26 AM |
| 0 | If you would recommend just ONE book/website/guide to a newcomer, what would it be?Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:39 AM |
| 1 | What's the secret to acin' eye contact during coversation with a HB?Imagine your eyes are connected together with taffy. You can wiggle and stretch, but you can't disconnect. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:38 AM |
| 1 | What do you say when she asks "what are you looking for?"Everything. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:37 AM |
| 1 | okay. Can I actually have a platonic female best friend?Yes you can. Oneitis (usually) doesn't last a lifetime. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Quit Blaming State for Your ProblemsI believe this is correct for people who have some experience. However, when you're starting out, it's helpful to project onto yourself a delusional sense of invincibility, i.e. state. It's not necessary, but it helps AFCs realize that it's really not that scary to get a blowout. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:04 AM |
| 5 | Small dickConfidence tells a person that there's something about you that you know that they don't that makes you awesome, and it piques their interest, gets them to try and dig deeper to figure out what it is. Awesome line there. I've found that leading an interesting life and not telling people all about it does wonders for my confidence. | /r/seduction | 27/03/12 05:22 PM |
| 1 | What to do after the opener?I tell people what I'm doing that night, and if they're interested, they'll say something or ask a question. Otherwise I'll ask them what they're up to during the night. | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Solo sarging and DHVI used to lie and say I was waiting for my friends. Now I usually tell the truth: I wanted to drink tonight, none of my friends were free/wanted, and drinking alone at home is pathetic, so I decided to hit the bars and make some new ones. It's not a DLV if you don't care what they say. Usually, they are surprised by the honesty and want to keep talking. Sometimes I'll go to a place with live music or some other distraction, and use that as the reason why I'm out. | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 09:22 AM |
| 1 | How do you talk to a girl when you AREN'T in person?Make it fun, and make her laugh. Some light sexual hints are okay, but not necessary in my opinion. Have 2-3 times available in your schedule with 2-3 options in mind. Tell her what you're thinking, and if she can't do one of the times, she should counteroffer in some way or another. Otherwise, she's just not feeling it. | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 09:19 AM |
| 2 | I have no experience getting women, outside of school.You need to have extra-curricular activities throughout your entire life, not just in school. I recommend getting involved in 3 regular activities: something physical, something artistic, and something for the community. | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 09:14 AM |
| 1 | so shes got a boyfriend. *pokerface*TLDR: You have oneitis. You managed to hide it and invite her out in a fun friendly way. Her hanging out with you for 2-3 hours alone means she's interested. You sound much better than her bf who she's probably trying to get over or break up with. No kino means you are friendzoning yourself. Flirt harder next time or ignore her until she starts wondering why you're not contacting her. She does know you had a crush on her and this will get her juices flowing in the right way. It'll also give her … | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 08:41 AM |
| 2 | I hate everyoneIt's okay to be picky. That's an admirable trait, but you sound like a glass half empty kind of person. Something else might be keeping you fully happy and content with life besides girls. | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 08:32 AM |
| 1 | How many girls do you "blow off"?I "blow off" a bunch. However, I call and try to setup dates with almost every girl I meet, just for practice. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 09:01 PM |
| 5 | [FR] Solo, first time out... Holy shit.You are going to win at life. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Reverse engineer a sedditor's behavior?You girls put on makeup and fancy clothes to present yourself in the best light when out on the town. Guys learn pickup to present themselves in the best light when out on the town. I don't see any difference between learning pickup and learning how to apply makeup. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 06:15 AM |
| 15 | What kind of girls do you like?It's fun to talk about girls. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 05:25 AM |
| 2 | What kind of girls do you like?I actually don't discriminate. I think I'm rare. I like all of them, as long as they're not too thick or too skinny, and have a nice face. I'm short, so I don't like girls being super tall. I look more for an easy, soft personality. I get annoyed with opinionated girls. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 05:24 AM |
| 5 | Is this the correct way to handle an amog?Personally, I usually feign ignorance and pretend they're trying to be my friend. I'd say something, "Oh, cool!" with a slight innocent smile and just keep doing what I was doing and act completely like I'm completely absorbed in my own world. Usually they just get confused and figure I'm not a threat at that point. Honestly, what is with some people though. Why do they have to ruin other people's days like this? | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 05:19 AM |
| 1 | [FR]#3 First #closeWow, this is so smooth man. No pickup lines, and gimmicky conversation. Well done. I've found that there is a big difference between number closing after 5 minutes vs. 10-20 minutes...less flaking. It sounds like she was into you, but keep it up and get more and more numbers. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 08:39 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to compliments? slight [FR]"I know," said in a funny way. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Reddit, how do you get in state without alcohol?Here's a list: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lui5z/getting_into_state_two_kinds_of_approaches/ | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 07:29 AM |
| 1 | I'm married with two kids, and I study Seddit and various PUA material. I thought you might be interested in why...You can control your emotions if you can control your reaction to your thoughts. Could you recommend anywhere to start learning this cognitive behavioral therapy? | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 01:26 AM |
| 4 | What are some things on game you've heard and then later discovered are false?That you need to have your life in order to get women. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Placing this link here, which is related. It's difficult to understand, which means it's either crap or very advanced material: http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/hall300.htm | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 04:42 PM |
| 0 | Am I Right To Be Offended By This?Ahh, I see. I think you need to work on two things: sexual intent and a willingness to walk away. It won't be hard, because you are already self-aware, and want to improve which is awesome. Nice guys always welcome people, want to be nice to them, and everyone to be nice to them. It's good to be a giver to everyone people, but good guys are choosers and have a backbone. I believe tofutofu is going to write a piece on how to have more sexual intent today. As far as walking away, one thing I did t… | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Am I Right To Be Offended By This?Ahhh, I see. You don't want to be pegged as the nice guy? Is this it? | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 03:38 PM |
| 0 | Am I Right To Be Offended By This?Stop being a boy, and be a man: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r381m/advice_from_an_experienced_natural_68_year_old/ . You have the right to be a boy and be offended about it. You could also deal with it differently, just say, "Hmmm. Thanks, but I can't help your friend right now. I was actually wondering who she was here with, because I want to go find my friends right now." Don't be angry when you say it, just say it. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Question: Why is it generally discouraged by Seddit to tell a girl that your into her?Please do write this. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.What is meditation exactly? I've tried to meditate by seeing how long I could not think of anything. That's the only meditation I've tried before. What type of meditation are you talking about? What do you do when you meditate? | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Feeling UnattractiveHonestly, it doesn't matter what kind that much. Just imagine the kind of smile you'd have if you heard something funny. Girls' happiness = sexiness to a guys' mind. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 05:32 AM |
| 2 | I always feel like utter shit the night after going out.Alcohol is a depressant. It also kills your testosterone. Be smart with it. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 05:27 AM |
| 5 | Feeling UnattractiveSeddit, how do I make myself look more attractive and approachable? Smile. eye contact, and laughter. Mascara is awesome. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 05:25 AM |
| 1 | First time pick up of a total stranger, beautiful Columbian girl (8) on the train. #-closeWell done! Keep it up! | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I think that's part of it. But I'm young, and I don't want to wait around and let life beat me up a bit before I'm ready for a relationship. I want to live all the nasty hypothetical situations in my head, know that I'll be okay either way, and be in control of my emotions no matter what. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.You know, progressive people will say that the modern man should wear his emotions on his sleeves. WRONG. This is the reason why many women are unhappy and the ones who are relationship-minded choose to be single. They'd rather be single than in a relationship with a man who doesn't give them the emotional stability they need. It freaks a relationship-woman out when her man does not have this emotional stability. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks, that is a good way of saying it. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Yes, you're right. He said he had a good dad, but his dad was useless when it came to stuff like this. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 03:29 AM |
| 0 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.This kind of thinking is not really correct. If you want to be a man, you shouldn't let your emotions flow, uncontrolled. You need to be in control of your emotions, and definitely have them, but never express them to the point where you are losing control. As some mentioned, just expressing your negative emotions without physically doing it might be just enough. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. It's awesome stuff really, and I know it's true. When he said it, everything just clicked all of a sudden. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.This is precisely what he means, acting as opposed to reacting. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I knew this going into the relationship, and I did notice I started to try and use my other awesome attributes to make up for me reacting to her in an AFC way. I wasn't an AFC going in, which is why she kept telling me stuff like: "OMG, why do I like you so much?". I have to remember what I did right and make sure I can be more in control. It's so easy to fall into AFC mode when there is sex and companionship involved. I want to kill the option of going into AFC mode. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I know. Even my AFC heart-throbs are gone; I'm facebook friends with them, they're in happy relationships and I'm happy for them. This is the most intense relationship I've been in though. It's probably because I never practiced game until about 7 months ago. My 68-year old friend said you might be surprised if you let go of her and she comes knocking back thinking she made a mistake. He told me that I might get her back, but what I needed right now was to work on myself. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.You are so right. Possessing the willingness to walk away and demonstrating it is easy when approaching a set of girls. It's super hard in a relationship, especially as it gets longer and more intense. I've more or less learned the basics of attracting and getting dates. I could learn more. I should learn more, but this is a fundamental problem I have, and I need to fix it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I was raised pretty much entirely by women. My mom, babysitters, friends' moms, etc. I never knew how to be a man, and learning to control your emotions, instead of just "being your true self" (my words), is part of becoming a man. Not that you should be truthful, but you should be able to wrestle them into submission. My friends, even the older ones, all act like boys...some more than others. But they all act on emotion when they're upset instead of acting on what they really want. I think moms… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I was thinking a little bit more today, and it's just that you have to be unreactive. That you either agree or don't agree, and just let her do her emotional thing, calling her out in a non-AFC way if she said she was going to do something and then didn't. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.This was one of the most uplifting comments. Thank you so much! | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Can you explain further on how your ex put his foot down in a way that made you be attracted to him or respect him? Maybe an example or two? | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I think if the man stays the calmest, you both win. It's the man's job to be the calm stable one, full of passion, but never out of control. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.He's an artist. I met him while playing my sax at a indie rock concert a month ago. As someone mentioned to me, he's not exactly a natural. He's someone who went through the pain and suffering of getting to know how women operate and what they want. He's made a lot of mistakes, and I want to learn as much as I can from his mistakes instead of making them myself. Honestly, I saved myself a lot of pain by reading a lot on seduction and pickup, asking for advice here, and watching a ton of videos o… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I'm looking into some buddhist centers in my city to see what they might have for me in terms of controlling my emotions. I know the buddhists have been doing this for centuries, and I want to learn how. Some people my age tell me that it's just who I am, and I think that's garbage. They don't know anything in terms of accomplishing a happy married life. What they really mean is that it's very hard to change who you are...just like losing weight and getting in shape takes time, other things take… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks, and yes, I know. The quote on love is similar to what David DeAngelo says: Attraction isn't a choice. If someone isn't attracted to you, you can't do anything to make them attracted to you. If you're attracted to someone, it's not because you decided to be attracted to that person. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks for the reply. It was good to read your post. I really really don't want to make the same mistake again. It's painful. Approaching a woman and getting rejected is painful, but I can change how a approach. In the same way, I can change how I deal with emotions. If I don't fix this, I know I'm going to make the same mistake again and feel bad again. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 07:50 PM |
| 0 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Most of the best pickup artists don't nearly have the same number of years this guy has. He's literally seen it all, still loving life and his wife. He said that raising a family is not easy, and if you can't be stable and in control of your emotions right now, that you should just forget about even thinking about having a family. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Yes, thank you! | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 06:53 PM |
| 0 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's also "depressing" that women don't come up to you and ask you for your phone number. It's also depressing that women give you shit tests or have bitch shields. I'm convinced that all these things is what keeps us alive, reproducing, and evolving. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 06:08 PM |
| 16 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Because just like men are searching for attractive women, women are searching for attractive men. In the same way that a hot girl turns our heads no matter how much we love a person, a woman will constantly continue to make sure her man is still a man no matter how much she loves him. We have approach anxiety in order to stay alive (i.e. don't walk up to a bunch of strangers because they or their men might kill you). However, if you want to reproduce, you need to get over it and approach. The sa… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 05:18 PM |
| 5 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.You didn't read what I wrote. This guy didn't marry his current woman until he was 38. He used to go to bars by himself and hit on girls. He's been in dozens long-term relationships and had his heart broken many many times for 20 years prior to his marriage. His first and only marriage was at 38, after he said he learned everything, and it's still blazing hot. I don't know many people like this, and he has accomplished what he wanted in life through perseverance. This post isn't related to pseud… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 05:13 PM |
| 16 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.If I wanted advice on law, I go to a lawyer. If wanted advice on how to fix my car, I go to a mechanic. If I want advice on anything, I talk to the people who have already accomplished it. Here is a man who has accomplished what I want, and he is willing to give his advice. I don't need to read anything or talk to other people who haven't accomplished what he has. I don't want to do things the hard way; I want to do things the smart way. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thank you. He mentioned some stuff about human mood. I need to ask him what he read, because I haven't been able to find what he was talking about. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks. The thing he was talking about though was the initial reaction. The knee-jerk response for when something unexpected happens. I have to train myself to no knee-jerk, basically. To stay calm and collected and just say, and be true to myself, not in an asshole over-confident way, not in an enthusiastic way, but in a non-reactive outcome-independent way that has love in the background. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I'd be more inclined to believe you if you also had a sexy marriage that was 28 years old. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:40 PM |
| 4 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.No. When a boy or AFC meets a beautiful woman his brain gets scrambled. A real man doesn't need a woman, and her presence is lovely, but his willingness to let go and not lose control of his state of mind because of her and any strife she might be causing is what reminds her of her attraction for you. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:37 PM |
| 11 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.You are so right. I didn't know that I needed to have this quality as a man. I just didn't know. I just didn't know. I feel like an ignorant little boy, but I never had anyone teach me how to be a man. No real men in my life growing up, and only recently have I begun a process of transforming myself and improving my game to accomplish what I want in life. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I told him, it's like dropping a ball and watching it float up. It's the most bizarre thing, but everything he said wasn't some general wishy-washy stuff. It was very detailed and correct. It might not be everything, but for me, it's exactly the next step I need in improving myself. This is my first field report: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/jpjiy/first_post_on_seddit_intro_and_my_field_report/ . Just the other day I went into a bar, solo and sober, saw a girl, walked up and talked… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:31 PM |
| 5 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.That's not what he said. He said that it's okay to show you are emotional, but never to show that you aren't in control of your emotions. Having passions is a great thing, but just like alcohol, you shouldn't indulge in them to the point where you lose control, not if you want to be a man anyway. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I thought wearing my emotions on my sleeves was a good thing. As much as I got blindsided by my ex-girlfriend, hearing the advice that wearing your emotions on your sleeves as a man, can often ruin everything. I have to ask him again what it means, how much, in what situations, etc. But basically it comes down to being in control of your emotions and never letting a woman see you become weak because of your emotions. Women like passionate men, but they don't want a man whose emotions are not in … | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Now that you mention it, he isn't a natural. He's a person who learned how to fix himself, become a better person, and always be a man. He actually said that he was very much like myself when he was my age. I think I said natural, because he didn't learn stuff from pickup artists. The PUA community didn't even exist when he was learning this stuff. He didn't learn it from anyone except from trial and error. That's why he said he got married so late, because he wanted to figure all this stuff out… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:18 PM |
| 10 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.He is a rare one for sure. A complete character. Some might call him a screwball, but I see that he's accomplished happiness, not perfectly, but pretty damn near perfect. He told me that I was smart for wanting to learn and that nobody ever wants to learn. I thanked him for wanting to impart his knowledge. Unbelievable really. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I completely hear you on the balance thing. I remember becoming kind of stubborn with her once, and that has a similar effect, then I did the opposite and showed her my weakness: She called me afterwards, and I told her that I needed to resolve the conflict otherwise I wouldn't be able to get my work done. THAT is when she started getting doubts about us. I need to not be so freaked out when something unexpected happens, reacting either too firmly or not firmly at all and revealing my true emoti… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I'm going to take him out to lunch. I have a few more questions to ask him, and I know he'll have an answer. I know he knows his shit, because he didn't want to tell me what to do with this one girl, i.e., fan the flames of my oneitis. He told me what to do with women in general, whether it's this girl or not. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:07 PM |
| 5 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Perhaps, but honestly, everything he said to me made sense. It explained everything so clearly, why some of my friends have broken up in the past, how one of my friends has been able to maintain a sexy relationship despite being apart fo 2.5 years. Why one of my friends decided to stick with a guy even though he wasn't sure about her. Why things change all of a sudden when people get married. Etc. His advice was somewhat general, but it was very clear. To be a man you have to learn how to be in … | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:05 PM |
| 10 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Maybe, and I'd be more inclined to believe you if you also had a sexy marriage that was 28 years old. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Could you please explain how you train? I don't think that style is for me, personally, but I could learn a lot from it. Thank you for replying. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thank you. He's says he's just an old guy, but to me he was an old guru who knows so much. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 04:00 PM |
| 6 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Can you give me an example of how you tell/show her your emotions like a man? What do you say? What do you say/do when she does something you disagree with or don't like? My 68-year old friend said to keep your emotions to yourself when something upsets you. That is, to not react or let them control your behavior, because women can sense this weakness and don't like it. I'm going to meet with him again, definitely to get more knowledge. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Could you tell me what you learned, maybe with examples? I need to grow up a lot still. I need to improve myself, and I'm a good learner. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 02:00 PM |
| 0 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's a lot trickier than that, but yeah. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 01:22 PM |
| 4 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.Thanks man. This guy is a find. He might not be correct in everything, but he has accomplished what I want, he's aware of what he does to get this, and he's willing/wanting to teach it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I completely agree with you. I want an independent woman that has good friends. The thing she said was that hanging out with her friends started to make her happier than hanging out with me. Attraction for me started dropping in other words, and the start of this was me giving her emotional threads to pull on. I still need to talk to this man on when it's okay to show emotion, what kinds of emotion, in what situation, and how often. However, I'm sure this is it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 01:21 PM |
| 30 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.It's interesting that you said this. He mentioned a lot about how it's unpopular to think the way he thinks. And that it's easier to be this way with conservative women. He said that progressives don't like thinking like this. However, he said that humans have been this way for millions of years, and 50 years of progressive thinking isn't going to change that root desire. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 01:18 PM |
| 22 | I have no friends. How to I go about finding a girl?A lot of people are giving shitty advice. You don't need friends to get women. I go sarging alone and get girls' phone numbers without her ever needing to see my friends, and many other PUAs can confirm this. One thing though, I think that you mean you don't have any friends at your current college. If by not having friends, you mean no friends at all who don't live elsewhere, then you need to start learning how to make friends, because you'll need the same skills when building rapport with a wo… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:34 AM |
| 2 | how can I help my friends with their inner game?You can't. But you can be a living example. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 08:27 AM |
| 2 | FR[21]: Trying out some social circle game. No closes, just planting some seeds.I can't just stop thinking about her as if it's a light switch. I like her. A lot. What we had was real, at least for some of it. Being sad reflects the fact that I actually do care about her. Anyway, I'm not an AFC, and I'm not going to piss away time chasing a lost cause. I refuse to get jaded about relationships, because I believe relationships are awesome, if you're with the right person. | /r/seduction | 17/03/12 08:19 AM |
| 2 | WARNING to the Newbies! Don't stop after a short success.I can say that I jumped into a relationship right after having a little success. It probably wasn't the right thing to do, but at least I learned a bit about girls. I never had a real girlfriend before. Anyway, my former self would have stayed butthurt for months, but I started sarging right away again. It's strange, but I feel I'm pickup up at just the point where I left off...not quite super-duper, but able to get some phone numbers and possible dates. | /r/seduction | 17/03/12 08:05 AM |
| 1 | How to get past polite and boring conversation?When I'm gaming, all I talk about is boring shit: What are you drinking? How do you like this bar? Do you live here or are you local? How do you know each other? Are you working or students? Boring topics, yes. But I'm not boring. Joke joke joke, be emotional in what you say, and don't be afraid of an awkward pause or two. | /r/seduction | 17/03/12 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Field Report #20. Out of the game for a while. Dealing with GF/oneitis. Zero negative reactions, and one easy peasy number close.She's not with some other guy right now. But I think she's definitely thinking about it. In her mind she has options all of a sudden, which is either her being single again, getting with an ex, or something. Anyway, I'm going to sarge again tonight, more or less sober, like I did yesterday. I want to warm-up for St. Patrick's Day ;-). I'm just happy that I still have an edge and have the skills to at least approach a random girl and get her phone number. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Field Report #20. Out of the game for a while. Dealing with GF/oneitis. Zero negative reactions, and one easy peasy number close.Don't get oneitis. Judging from her past relationships, my GF has had guys chase her after she had cashed out of the relationship. I think she's used to the kind of guy that'll keep wagging his dick around her like a little bitch while she gallivants around with life. She's about to find the cold, hard, reality of dating a (aspiring) pickup artist: I am going to be indifferent to her. I'm not going to get angry at her. The opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference. Right now there is a bunc… | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 02:49 PM |
| 1 | pre-[FR]#9 New way to get in stateHere are my ways, which are an amalgamation of many other sedditors' advice: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lui5z/getting_into_state_two_kinds_of_approaches/ | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 08:58 AM |
| 9 | I was thinking about "Nice Guys" todayI have another suggestion: Be your true self when it comes to values and opinions. If she can't handle your values or opinions, she's not a keeper as far as a relationship goes. If you can't be your true self around her, then it's not worth being around her. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 08:57 AM |
| 3 | My first FR baby steps, baby stepsIt's shit like this that keeps all of us here at /r/seddit going. Your positive energy and willingness to try anything is inspiring. Keep at it, and you will see success. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 08:52 AM |
| 2 | Guys, don't fight being skinny.Play the cards you're dealt. Don't whine about what cards you could/should have had. I'm a fatter guy, and I used to have hangups about not being skinny enough. Self-improvement is honorable, and I'm almost to the point of being dictionary-defined normal weight. However, there are so many women out there that like different things, and many that don't have strong preferences over body type. These two things should help anyone that struggles with body image issues. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 08:49 AM |
| 2 | Field Report #20. Out of the game for a while. Dealing with GF/oneitis. Zero negative reactions, and one easy peasy number close.I'm going to give her three more days. If she can't make up her mind, I'm going to break up with her, with the possibility of her seducing me in the future, if that's what she wants. However, I won't make any promises that I won't be taken at that point in the future. I'm a man of integrity, and I'm going to break up overtly before I attempt to kino again. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 08:38 AM |
| 2 | If she asks you about previous girls...Yes. Generally speaking, it's best to avoid conversation about previous relationships. You can talk about when, how long, and how many, but I never compare girls I'm dating to past relationships. Honestly, I believe my current relationship is dying because my GF is comparing me to her ex boyfriends. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 08:01 AM |
| 4 | How to respond to a pulling away from a kissThis is a really good post OP, and a very good response, 8LegsAWeek. Easy, normal, and unstressful. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 06:43 AM |
| 2 | How do I prevent failure from weighing me down?Before you can bring happiness to others, you have to be happy with yourself. You are alpha. You are good-looking, handsome, and sexy. You don't need others to approve of your life. You are 100% awesome as it is. You don't need a woman to tell you that you're worth something. You already know you are priceless. Fuck anyone who tells you otherwise. They are little pieces of shit. You are awesome. Everyone wants to be your friend. They just don't know it yet. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 08:35 AM |
| 1 | I Have Awful K-Close Anxiety, HalpFace her. Hold her hands, hand for hand. Tell her why you like her (i.e. qualify her). Look into her eyes. Take one hand away, place it on the top of her head and run it through her hair as you bring her close to you. Don't forget to breathe! Close your eyes, and bring her lips to you. Don't french kiss her; just make it short and sweet. Look into her eyes again and smile genuinely. If she is okay with holding your hands for extended periods of time, she is okay/waiting for you to kiss her (at t… | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Post number close anxiety? Getting numbers but never calling, do you do this?How old are you? It seems like you need to get your life in order first before worrying about girls. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 08:27 AM |
| 0 | What to do when you get "I like you, but there is a lot going on in my life" lineHonestly? This person has a tonne of baggage that you don't need. Forget her unless you just want practice at game, but even then, I'd be hesitant to invest so much into a stranger who obviously needs a lot of support. Just because she has a vagina and shows IOIs doesn't mean you should go for her. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 08:24 AM |
| 9 | Amazing opening tip I learned from an experienced PUA. If you tell a girl she's friendly, she will be.I sometimes throw in a, "Hey, you know what? You're pretty friendly!" somewhere after the 1st minute to 5 minutes. It makes things fun and stress-free. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 07:19 AM |
| 2 | AFC Friends are preventing me from ApproachingDude, I had your problem. Go out alone. Do this until you become comfortable with it. When you become so outcome independent that it doesn't matter what the entire bar thinks, then you are ready to game in front of your friends. Make it a point to do this. Let them laugh at you. Laugh with them! Re-build the reputation with them that this is who you are. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to game in bars/clubsThis is a good question. Usually, physical game is the way to go in these venues. Think about the body language you use when you are gaming and show this, but without words. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what is your opinion on wingmen?I've never had the benefit of having a wingman. Solo sarging is most of what I've done, and if you can self-motivate yourself to try it a few times, it's not too bad. A wingman would be nice to have another pair of eyes help to improve my game, but I don't think it's necessary, and in some instances, could become a crutch. | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 03:50 AM |
| 1 | The strangerzone.You forgot to quote the part before "it's MUCH better to..." | /r/seduction | 17/02/12 09:02 PM |
| 3 | The strangerzone.I didn't mean to imply this is something you should do with your friends, but I see how that could be construed after re-reading what I wrote. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 10:55 AM |
| -1 | The strangerzone.You're not contributing anything. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 10:31 AM |
| 2 | The strangerzone.I don't think you're correct. The first two paragraphs of what you wrote will most likely dig you even deeper into the friendzone with even worse oneitis. There is a fair amount written on how to get "that one girl" even if going after a single girl is unorthodox pickup strategy. The first step is to disengage for a good amount of time. Then at some point later (more time for longer friendship), you arrange to meet up with her and turn on your game. Your last paragraph is spot on, and for AFCs s… | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 10:27 AM |
| -2 | The strangerzone.This is nonsense and honestly says a lot about any guy that believes it to be true. If you wanted to insult me, you should just insult me instead of beating around the bush. You don't have to agree with me. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 10:22 AM |
| 2 | What are some other ways to woo a girl when going on dates is temporarily not an option?I see. On that second time, you should have said, "Ahh I see, well, I'm free on (xxxday) in the evening, and on (xxxday). How long is is your family in for? Just till Friday? Oh okay, well let's find a time when we can hang. I'll give you a call on Saturday. Have fun with your family!" Anyway, it sounds like you are sucking energy out of the interaction, trying to get her to come out with you. You need to inject energy into the interaction. Plan a night out, plan a party, go see a show, go to an… | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 08:24 AM |
| 9 | What are some other ways to woo a girl when going on dates is temporarily not an option?If she doesn't counteroffer your invitations about possible times it'll work out to hang out in the future, then she just isn't that into you. When she said she couldn't hang out, did she say anything to the effect of: *"I can't right now, but next weekend will be better." *"Aww, I want to, but I have family in town." *"Thursday evening is good for me." You got her a rose and she liked it. Most girls would. You've conveyed more than enough interest. Now make plans to do something fun and awesome… | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 06:25 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe that pick-up is immoral? Read this.A lot of guys I've met in person from the pick-up community tend to be nice guys that have become assholes. Honestly, I doubt that you have met any guys in person from the pick-up community. All of these bullet points are newb mistakes that are mostly covered in pick-up material that is almost a decade old now. You are describing AFCs. | /r/seduction | 14/02/12 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe that pick-up is immoral? Read this.A lot of guys I've met in person from the pick-up community tend to be nice guys that have become assholes. You haven't met any guys in person from the pick-up community, based on your bullet points that describe what an asshole is. | /r/seduction | 14/02/12 07:12 AM |
| 4 | A drinking question.Try gaming without alcohol. You'll realize that gaming drunk girls while you're sober is like playing dodgeball with preschoolers. You have a lot more time and mental energy to come up with witty banter than the people you're interacting. Then once you realize how stupid approach anxiety is, add a little alcohol and game like a rockstar. | /r/seduction | 13/02/12 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Bad with PhonesFacebook? | /r/seduction | 11/02/12 11:15 PM |
| 5 | Hey seddit, I need some quick advice pleaseWho cares? Just be cordial, fun, and gracious. Don't let this girl get in the way of you checking out all the other girls at whatever venue you're at. Don't let her presence stop you from hitting on other girls. If you are truly 100% okay whether or not she's into you and you are 100% yourself when hitting on other girls, chances are she'll gravitate toward you unless she's into that other guy she's with. However, at that point when you have other girls into you, you'll probably see the light an… | /r/seduction | 11/02/12 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Think I just got the kick in the pants I needed. (long vent, be warned)I'm 25, good looking, smart, funny, and likely have a bright future. I'm even a good salesman, and I'm fine with public speaking, so there's no reason I shouldn't be able to show all this to a cute girl in starbucks. This is your problem. You can be 50, stupid, arrogant, and have your life all a mess, be a introvert, and still get laid like a rockstar. These things make for a good life, but you won't attract a girl just because you have certain attributes. There is nothing wrong with you. There … | /r/seduction | 11/02/12 08:07 PM |
| 3 | 22 years and I'm going on a first date, could use some adviceVin Di Carlo's escalation ladder. Read it! | /r/seduction | 11/02/12 05:38 PM |
| 3 | Does PU need to be complicated? Dating advice in a nutshell.I'm not sure I agree. This has been written after reading a bunch of material and then seeing the big picture. How do you physically go from shaking a girls hand, to kissing her, to having sex with her? Just being honest, and passionate won't teach you how to do this. Vin Di Carlo's escalation ladder teaches you how to do this. I think the best way to learn pickup is to read ALL the material with specific info (Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, etc.) until some of them get lodged in your brain. The… | /r/seduction | 11/02/12 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Let's share tips about Valentine's Day game.Say "Happy Valentine's Day!" Every woman who doesn't have a man is thinking about it this time of year. This isn't a really good opener, but it's great for getting over approach anxiety. In my experience, no lady gets upset by this; they all smile even if they're in a relationship. I would transition it the way I normally do: followup by telling the person what you're doing in the current moment for about 30-60 seconds until she says something or asks a question. If not, ask her a question (e.g.… | /r/seduction | 11/02/12 05:06 PM |
| 4 | How do you reconcile 'outcome independence' with 'attraction isn't a choice'? If I'm overwhelmingly attracted to someone why should I be immune to things going wrong?You are correct. The solution is to get experience. Approach 100s of times. This allows your logical brain to tame your animal brain. You understand that while getting rejected by a girl you like doesn't feel good, it isn't that big of a deal, because it's happened before, and it'll happen again. Ironically, when a girl DOES show interest, it feels good, but it also won't be that big of a deal, because it's happened before, and it'll happen again. This is ironic, because it's this nonchalant att… | /r/seduction | 07/02/12 06:38 PM |
| 5 | Dealing with Approach Apathy?What is your goal in life? For a while, it was to get good with approaching girls. Now that you have that under your belt, what is your goal? This is the source of your apathy. Maybe you want a girlfriend? Or a wife? Or a family? Maybe you want to get with even hotter girls? Maybe your goal isn't related to game at all. Maybe you just really want to be successful, make a lot of money. Maybe you just want to help others less fortunate than yourself? Not being good with girls was something you nee… | /r/seduction | 07/02/12 06:25 PM |
| 0 | First Time Out, Crash and Burn!This is awesome! Keep it up man. | /r/seduction | 07/02/12 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Just when I think I'm doing everything right, she drops the boyfriend wordI'm sorry man, that sucks. Anyway, she is being a bitch and liking the attention, or is completely naive about the whole situation. From what it sounds like, it's the latter, and part of the reason she was naive is that you didn't convey enough sexual intent. The best way to convey sexual intent is through kino. If you aren't touching her and she isn't touching you back, you are just friends. Hanging out with a coworker is completely normal/acceptable when you're in a relationship. Hanging out w… | /r/seduction | 07/02/12 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Very sexually experienced woman, willing to answer ANY questions you have.This might be a /r/sex question, but how do I make you come? Which position works best? | /r/seduction | 18/01/12 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Dealing with girls who brought a guy friendShe cares about her AFC friend. Wing for him, or at least feed him drinks and make him have a good time. She will love you for doing this. Make it you and your girl's "mission" to make sure he keeps up with the ladies. You're now on a team together. | /r/seduction | 15/01/12 12:31 AM |
| 5 | Would you date a woman knowing that they're waiting until marriage to have sex?I'm going to go against popular sentiment here, and say that if this is something YOU also value, then it's perfectly fine. There was a post about a couple months ago by a devout catholic guy who was using game to find and attract a good devout catholic girl. I think it's perfectly fine as long as both people expect and value it. | /r/seduction | 31/12/11 06:54 PM |
| 19 | Guys, Is There A Way To Shut The Switch "Off"?Never switch off! You handled this like a boss. Seriously, you should be flirting and doing light kino with every girl you are with, whether it's your relatives, friends, or whoever. People should be happy/flattered if their girlfriends or wives get hit on. It means they're with a keeper. Only an AFC will get upset when his girl gets hit on, because he's scared that she will leave him. A good man on the other hand will flirt with other women constantly even in front of his girl, which he feels i… | /r/seduction | 30/12/11 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Where did I mess up?If she isn't doing anything, take her hand and place it on your thigh or ass and move her hand around on your body. She'll get the idea as you do the same to her. Start kissing her neck and gently pulling at her hair. Slowly move her hand toward your privates as you do the same to her. Move her hand away. Move it closer than the last time, etc. Just like pickup, a lot of girls won't do anything on their own in bed the first time unless you lead them. | /r/seduction | 30/12/11 07:12 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Re-learning game, first approach tonight. Need advice.It's really whether or not you are boring, not the content of your speech. But perhaps you're right. Some gimmicks and material from magic bullets is good to get started with. It certainly helped me out. I just want people to know that you can attract a girl even if you're talking about mustard. | /r/seduction | 30/12/11 06:39 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Re-learning game, first approach tonight. Need advice.No it doesn't. Being fun without kino is what gets you friendzoned. I've gotten many numbers and a few day 2's by talking about boring college stuff. | /r/seduction | 30/12/11 08:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with political differences that come up while on a date.I spent one year in DC, and politics was definitely a topic of convo when meeting people. Generally, the younger the wonks, the more recalcitrant they are towards people with different political views. As I've grown up, it's not really as big of an issue with people as it once was. It's only an issue if you let it be an issue. | /r/seduction | 30/12/11 08:23 AM |
| 2 | Will it be creepy if I join the company where she works just to get close to her?Either you're really creepy or really good at trolling. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 11:16 PM |
| 3 | Still can't talk...help!Grocery store situational: "What are you looking for?" "What do you think about this cereal?" etc. What discipline, by the way? | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Stop giving a fuck, now in 1920*1080 wallpaper form. (Non-imgur-raped version in comments)I just think to myself what one of those guys would yell at me for being scared about approaching a girl or about her rejecting me. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 10:00 PM |
| 1 | LMR 3 nights in a row...I think you're problem is that you haven't qualified her enough. This usually helps to kill LMR. Tell her why you like her and the reason shouldn't be something about her body. If you want to date her, invite her out on a non-sexual date or meetup with your friends to demonstrate that you don't see her as only a sexual object. Let her see other aspects of your life, and then re-escalate. This worked for me when a girl gave me a similar line a few times in a row. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Interesting thread going on over at TxoXChromosomes about negging.Eh. I think you're wrong. You can pretty much say anything you want as long it's in the right context and everyone has the right energy about them. Negging is pretty much a requisite if you want to get with women on the more beautiful end of the spectrum who generally have really strong bitch shields. You need to get them off their high horse essentially. There's no need to neg a girl who is already being nice to you. These girls, however, are generally uglier. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 06:53 PM |
| 0 | New and trying to learn everyday!KrauserPUA has some good videos, open to close and unedited. A good first step is to forget talking to girls for a second and get used to saying hi to random people with your game mindset turned off. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 06:49 PM |
| 22 | Stop giving a fuck, now in 1920*1080 wallpaper form. (Non-imgur-raped version in comments)Personally, I like this one: Harden the fuck up | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 06:47 PM |
| 1 | [FR] K-close after repeatedly being called an assholeAwesome FR. I learned a lot from reading this. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 08:51 AM |
| 1 | What do you think is the best way to get warmed up and get yourself in a good state before you go out?My list: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lui5z/getting_into_state_two_kinds_of_approaches/ | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 08:29 AM |
| 1 | About to take girl I've had a thing for home tonight...how do I closeIf you are confused about her interest levels, I'd say expecting a kiss might be a bit too much. Have you held her hand before? I assumed you have. If not, you need to make her smile, laugh, and overall ensure she's having fun while also demonstrating that you like her, physically. Touch/squeeze her arm when you say something witty or a playful push when she says something back at you that makes you laugh or smile. Then here's a way to get her to hold your hand: http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit… | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 06:45 AM |
| 2 | What are some of your personal qualification statemetns?Related post in Askseddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/nscqd/what_is_qualifying_somebody/ | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 06:36 AM |
| 1 | I used to be out going, but now I can't even talk to my neighbors.Make a plan to take your dog to a new park. Ask a stranger for directions. It might seem ridiculous, but do this to every single stranger you encounter on your walk to the park. You're the only one who knows you've asked the question 10 times already. This is very similar to when you game in a bar, opening set after set after set. Do this until it doesn't scare you anymore. You can also ask people what time it is. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 06:34 AM |
| 0 | About to take girl I've had a thing for home tonight...how do I closeTake her hand while walking. Stop walking and yank her hand so she stops walking. Smile when she looks at you in a confused way. Take her other hand and qualify her. As you do this, move her hands up around your shoulders. Move your hands around her waist. Keep talking and smiling and go for it when the time seems right. Best if youre outside and in private, but something similar can work in a different context. Here is how I qualify: http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/nscqd/what_is_qual… | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 05:10 AM |
| 1 | I'm confused on how to model my game.From what I remember, RSD instructs you to be fun but also have sexual intent. | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 05:06 AM |
| 2 | There are a thousand posts listing day game openers on seddit. What about transitions?When she tells you where she's from say, "oh no, you know what people say about folks from your town.". "what do they say?". "umm...nevermind. "What are you doing later tonight?" "going to the irish bar across the street. Wait, what do people say about my town??". "youre so funny." "omg youre so weird." Eventually you can just say whatever, even just saying that you were just messing with her. This is an eaxmpe of how you can keep it fun and interesting. Also, spend a few hours coming up with in… | /r/seduction | 28/12/11 07:50 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Wallflower mode.Nights like these still help. You are building up familiarity in an environment that most people would shudder to do: being at a bar alone. At the end of the night nothing happened. Realizing that this is the worst that could happen when you go out is a powerful thing and helps with approach anxiety. Keep it up. | /r/seduction | 28/12/11 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Been on seddit a while and still no luck?My guess is that you suck at building attraction. I say this, because you got 80+ numbers and only had a few day 2's. If you built enough interest, your percentage of day 2's would go up. If a girl is flirting and has daisy eyes for you, the interaction will never be dull. | /r/seduction | 28/12/11 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Wardrobe: Is it better to mix in my old "meh" clothes with my new "hot damn" clothes or is it better to appear as though I only have a few outfits?Personally, I like having fewer clothes that all are high quality than a bunch of clothes that are mediocre. It means that I look good no matter what I wear. | /r/seduction | 28/12/11 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Honest Question: Why Are You Here?Tell him this. Part of growing up and being a man is admitting when you're wrong and owning it. Don't let your ego get in the way of your success. You can read and watch all the pickup material you want, but you are blessed to have a natural you can learn from, and the fact that he's your dad means he will help you out, even if it means sucking it up and taking his shit. If he cares about you, it'll be for the better even if you don't like it. | /r/seduction | 28/12/11 04:27 AM |
| 2 | MTV's Friend Zone - If there was ever evidence for learning what we know, this is it.Because he isn't fucking attractive. People think that being tall, rich, handsome, etc. will make women horny. Women don't work that way. The women who do go for the tall, rich, handsome guys who have no game spread their legs to get something non-romantic, such as a comfy lifestyle, prestige, fame, etc. These are not happy relationships. These are business relationships. | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Honest Question: Why Are You Here?Dude. You should ask your dad for help. Seriously, he would love to help you out. He's your dad. | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 07:27 PM |
| 42 | Honest Question: Why Are You Here?Every decision in my life has been my choice. I have decided where to live, what to study, what type of job I wanted, what hobbies to do in my free time, what clothes to wear, what friends to hang out with, etc. It seems so insane that people leave finding the person they will marry up to pure chance. Even worse, people time and time again end up marrying the first person that shows them sexual attraction (aka AFCs). I want the skills to be able to choose the person I want to spend time with and… | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 08:02 AM |
| 4 | MTV's Friend Zone - If there was ever evidence for learning what we know, this is it.This is a very advanced observation, and I think it's spot on. | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 07:19 AM |
| 1 | There are a thousand posts listing day game openers on seddit. What about transitions?Boring, mundane interview questions: How do you all know each other? Where are you from? Are you locals or just visiting? Are you in school or working? What are your plans for the rest of the night? Besides drinking, what do you like to do for fun? Protip: Don't be boring or mundane in your conversation. If you're doing it right, they'll ask you questions as well. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 11:05 PM |
| 1 | SimplifyBasically: SARGE SARGE SARGE! | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Epic Speech by James Marshall -- The 3 Pillars of Seduction -- needs more attention, let's front page it!You suck for putting "let's front page it!" in your title. Learn some reddiquite. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 10:58 PM |
| 2 | The Jersey Shore. A good watch for learning today's environment?In my opinion one could learn a lot from how Pauly D carries himself, but not the other douchebags. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 10:22 PM |
| 1 | People come here for "pick-up lines" and such, but I feel it's important to have some "handle-refusal" lines in one's sleeve, too. This one is my favorite.Completely spot on. Bitchy reactions to blowouts is generally AFC behavior. Self-amusement is key. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 10:17 PM |
| 1 | People come here for "pick-up lines" and such, but I feel it's important to have some "handle-refusal" lines in one's sleeve, too. This one is my favorite.Plow plow plow! If nothing after a minute then wish them a great night and move onto the next set. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 10:14 PM |
| 1 | People come here for "pick-up lines" and such, but I feel it's important to have some "handle-refusal" lines in one's sleeve, too. This one is my favorite.This is exactly what I do. Others see you leaving with a smile and that will make the other sets more eager to meet you. It'll also make the bitches regret being mean to you when the realize how awesome you are interacting and giving smiles and laughter to others at the venue. Sometimes reopening the bitch set after warming up the room works really well. I don't get angry at girls who have their bitch shield up. It's there for a good reason. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Hey, guys, I don't have a problem approaching a hot babe, or talking to her, etc... but I have a problem sustaining a conversation. Any advice or point me out to where I can find something useful?Oh cool, I didn't know about that last one. David D. did an interview with her that was really insightful as well. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 09:55 PM |
| 5 | Hey, guys, I don't have a problem approaching a hot babe, or talking to her, etc... but I have a problem sustaining a conversation. Any advice or point me out to where I can find something useful?One is called parroting. Literally repeat the last few words of what someone says to keep a conversation going: You: What did you do today? Her: I went to work, came home, and then hit up a happy hour. You: You hit up a happy hour. Her: Yeah, I went to Smith's on 8th street downtown with some friends. You: Friends. Her: Yeah, Sara, Jason, and Emily. I think you met Jason and Emily from the party last Saturday. You: continue conversation about how much fun you had at the party BOOM! | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, how should I approach you if you are listening to music at the bus stop (or wherever)?As far as pickup, guys need to know what works for women in general. It's only by practice on thousands and thousands of women by master pickup artists that we know what works with women in general. Listening to a woman is generally unhelpful since she is on the receiving end of pickup and a completely unique person with unique preferences and cannot really tell you what you can do to make yourself attractive to women in general. She'd be better, if good at getting guys' attention, at advising o… | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 08:06 AM |
| 2 | One way to Overcome Approach Anxiety (with reasoning and explanation)I'd like to add one thing: Practice talking to old people. Seriously. Old grannies LOVE talking to handsome young men, and they are probably the easiest people to open and have wonderful stories to tell. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 07:53 AM |
| 9 | Hey, guys, I don't have a problem approaching a hot babe, or talking to her, etc... but I have a problem sustaining a conversation. Any advice or point me out to where I can find something useful?It saved my life. Seriously, a quick read only takes 3-4 hours, and each 2-5 page chapter teaches you one quick trick. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Any advice for showing you're not in a relationship when out with friend of opposite sex?Fun Together = Friendship Fun Together + Kino/Sex = Relationship. Don't touch him, and don't let hem kino escalate, and you will put him in the friendzone. It's pretty simple in my opinion. You could be more overt and tell him about other guys you think are cute or want to date, and even suggest girls you think are pretty who might be good for him. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 07:47 AM |
| 12 | Hey, guys, I don't have a problem approaching a hot babe, or talking to her, etc... but I have a problem sustaining a conversation. Any advice or point me out to where I can find something useful?"How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. Quick read with about 100 easy-to-memorize tricks. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 07:45 AM |
| 1 | The Sedditor's ChecklistI don't really know. I do know that re-attraction and re-escalation is often a possibility if things haven't gone too bad. That is, invite her to hang out, tease her, flirt, make her laugh, build comfort, re-introduce kino starting with light touching moving to a quick kiss etc. as if you had just met. The only difference is that the escalation will go quicker and is "guaranteed" since you've already sealed the deal with her. | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Why you shouldn't be trying to get a date off of OKCupid.There are so many more women in real life that will give you the time of day unlike people online. | /r/seduction | 24/12/11 08:07 AM |
| 2 | Texting etiquette!?Funny guy is a great thing. I say wait till tomorrow. Call her and be funny for a few minutes and then invite her to hang out. Don't text. This should be in askseddit. | /r/seduction | 23/12/11 08:51 AM |
| 10 | Protip: Create attraction and intrigue simply by checking your phone.This is a crutch that really works. I've done this in the field a lot especially when solo sarging. Seriously, keep this in your back pocket until you've progressed to the point that you don't need to do this anymore. Imaginary friends who text, "sillymallard you are so fucking awesome" have been some of my best friends and wingmen. | /r/seduction | 23/12/11 08:43 AM |
| 2 | The Sedditor's Checklisthttp://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/nmx6j/the_sedditors_checklist/c3aivfx Keep a log here on seddit by posting field reports. Number them: [FR]1, [FR]2, .... | /r/seduction | 23/12/11 08:35 AM |
| 7 | The Sedditor's ChecklistExercise isn't necessary, but it helps a lot. You seem to have your game together, but for many people, getting in shape is a lot easier than improving one's game to the point that being out of shape doesn't matter. | /r/seduction | 23/12/11 08:33 AM |
| 6 | The Sedditor's ChecklistIf you build enough attraction, girls will answer your phone calls, will return your voicemails, will provide counteroffers when you invite them out and they can't join you, will go out of their way to see you, will make time for you, etc. If you walk up to 20 girls and say, "Hey, I'm in a rush, but I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you. Do you have a phone number?" Chances are a couple might give you their phone number, but the odds that they'll pick up or call you back are pretty l… | /r/seduction | 23/12/11 08:29 AM |
| 1 | The Sedditor's ChecklistAgree. | /r/seduction | 23/12/11 08:23 AM |
| 0 | Porn and Masturbation AbstinenceSocial value and self-esteem don't usually correlate negatively with masturbation. On rare occasions they do, and psychologists have already recognize this to be abnormal behavior if this is the case (i.e. usually preferring to jack off than spend time with friends, or using masturbation to fill a void in your life). Why do you assume I haven't tried it before? 12 days is my record, and no effect for me. If it helps you, go for it, but the evidence is mixed on this topic. The fact that hardly an… | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Porn and Masturbation AbstinenceWe're cool. Have a great day! | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 08:24 PM |
| 4 | Porn and Masturbation AbstinenceOkay, however I'm a little peeved that you assumed I didn't read the OPs links. The first link has been posted numerous times to seddit before, and I've come across the second site a few times in the past. I read a lot. I've listened to hours and hours of dating advice and watched too many videos to count. Part of the reason why I say not masturbating is not proven or fundamental is because the topic of not masturbating hardly ever comes up in pickup advice from the experts. But if it helps you,… | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 07:53 PM |
| 6 | Porn and Masturbation AbstinenceI said fear of rejection, not rejection. Why do some men continue to pursue women while others whimper in a corner? Confidence is a hackneyed term in seduction. I prefer being a bit more specific: abundance mentality, outcome independence, learning to take rejection as a rejection of your approach and not a rejection of yourself, maintaining a strong frame/state, assuming attraction, managing your expectations, making your night's goal to have fun and not to get girls, and good old fashioned exp… | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 07:27 PM |
| 27 | Porn and Masturbation AbstinenceEven this is wrong. The single biggest obstacle for every man, as far as talking to women, is the fear of rejection, that is, how rejection might lower your social value, and how rejection might damage your self-esteem. | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 05:59 PM |
| 155 | Porn and Masturbation AbstinencePORN IS THE SINGLE REASON YOU FIND IT HARD TO TALK TO WOMEN! No it isn't. | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Trying to move farther with the girl I've liked for 2 years.You are so far in the friendzone that you think you're getting out of it. The only real way out of the friendzone is to stop being friends with her for a long time, proportionate to the time you've been in the friendzone (at least a few months if not half a year). That means dropping all communication. Stop wasting your time with her and start spending it on improving your game. I assume you're going to go to college soon so get in shape, learn some style, make some money, etc. | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 06:00 AM |
| 3 | Not sure how /r/seduction feels about comics, but this is a comic on how I interpret on how oneitis -> friend zoned. (Hold mouse over picture for witty comment)Personally, the problem of getting friendzoned and oneitis seems to wane as I get older. Maybe I'm just better at managing expectations these days. | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Whats one small thing a day I can do to improve my game?After introducing it into my workout for a couple months, I notice that I've become leaner (less fat) while maintaining muscle mass. Also, I use it to get into the mood of working out when I'm just not feeling it. | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 08:23 AM |
| 2 | Whats one small thing a day I can do to improve my game?HIIT is where it's at! | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Which reddits on female issues would you suggest?Generally, you shouldn't listen to women if you want help with attracting women. You need to learn from guys who have used game on 1,000's of women and can tell you what works in general. Every woman is unique and different. Each woman's perspective and advice is interesting but most likely unhelpful since they are on the receiving end of male game. As a guy, I can say what in a girl makes me attracted to her, but I would be useless at telling women specifically what to do in order to pique male… | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 08:13 AM |
| 2 | This is what alpha looks like.The first 30 seconds is actually pretty good, the rest is over-the-top. | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Whats one small thing a day I can do to improve my game?Go to the gym or find some other way to sweat everyday. | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Direct approaches and why you should be doing themOpinion and situational openers are indirect. | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 06:50 AM |
| 1 | I'm a natural at everything, except opening. Give me a hand?Since you mentioned it: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/myvwl/a_couple_openers_for_the_holidays_for_you_guys/ | /r/seduction | 20/12/11 12:09 AM |
| 1 | [FR inside] GUYS, I GOT A PHONE NUMBER!!!!Awesome! | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Help me collect canned material for escalation and sexual conversation.Of course man. Just make sure you're having fun the entire time whether or not she takes it. And if she doesn't take it, just make her laugh more and build even more comfort and try it again. | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 08:50 PM |
| 1 | At bars/clubs, is it better to start approaching ASAP or wait until it's late?I'd say it depends on what you want. If you want dates, then going early and sober to number close is a better context. If you want hookups, waiting till later probably makes it easier. | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 08:37 PM |
| 5 | [FR] Newbie FR. Encouraging first night, crushing second.renegon, I just wanted to tell you to keep your chin up and go out again and again and again! This FR is a complete success as far as I'm concerned. | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 05:03 AM |
| 2 | I f*ed it up, Seddit. How do I get it back?Stir the pot a little. Defriend her. | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 04:33 AM |
| 8 | Help me collect canned material for escalation and sexual conversation.Here's how I've gotten girls to hold my hand: If I sense whatever is going on between us is going well (laughter, smiles, light touching), I stop whatever I'm doing, whether it's walking, talking, etc. and hold my hand out palm up and smile at her. If she's down, she'll take it, and I'll squeeze her hand a few times and let go. Repeat. If she doesn't and makes an issue of it, I'll say, "You're so funny." I once read on an internet forum that what drives girls crazy is how a guy looks at them. Af… | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 04:10 AM |
| 7 | I'm a natural at everything, except opening. Give me a hand?Well if you see what I wrote, I give them about three chances to not respond. After a minute of me spewing on about myself and the night I'm having and them not biting on anything, I excuse myself in a friendly, polite way "Well, nice talking to you!" and move on. Get used to girls not responding to you. You have to plow, plow, plow! Just say stuff until she realizes that you don't need her to react in order for you to be having a good time. It's not that bad. It usually only takes 20-60 seconds… | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 03:56 AM |
| 1 | I'm a natural at everything, except opening. Give me a hand?Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 03:47 AM |
| 0 | Kiss close but no number closeWhen you say go for it what should I do? Banter/joke, build comfort, and kino escalate until you close. Get her phone number from your friends or just wait until the next time you see her. | /r/seduction | 19/12/11 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Trying to schedule dates: "Are you free then? How about then? Then? What about then? Hello? Where did you go?"On 4) If she says is busy, I will flat out ask her what days are generally good for her and then tell her that we might be able to work something out and will get back to her about it. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 08:04 PM |
| 6 | What do you do when you get a # from a 3rd partyHey, I got your number from <random friend>. She wants us to get married, but I'm not the kind of guy that marries on the first date. I hope you understand, but she did say really nice things about you, and it'd be fun to hang out sometime. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 07:58 PM |
| 79 | I'm a natural at everything, except opening. Give me a hand?Keep this attitude: http://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/kiwx1/my_son_running_to_the_swingset_dad_theres_new/ Here is one of my standard openers: Approach from the side, drink at the waist, genuine mischievous middle-schooler smile, and say "Hey! How's your night going?" If they respond go with it. If no response, I answer my own question without dropping an ounce of state "I'm just here kicking it with my friends, we're having a blast. How long have you guys been here? Are you from around here… | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Nervous, but time to get out there again....How can I get over my ex more quickly and gain confidence when talking to new girls. Sarge sarge sarge. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Should I buy her drinks? When?If I'm on a Day 2 or more, I test girls by saying, "Hey, let me get the first round." If I'm with a group of people and my drink runs out, I'll usually be courteous and ask if anyone else wants something while I go get another. If they don't reciprocate in any way, it's a big red flag for me. I never would buy a girl a drink as part of a cold approach. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 08:17 AM |
| 6 | [FR] First FR, cock blocked, first cold approach ever, weird night overall.Aww turtle_thunder, you're probably just really cute.... Honestly though, I would say, "Hey, I saw you over there and I wanted to say hi." Usually I just ask people how their night/day is going. I've found that being boring and mundane with a vibe of awesomeness is much better than a cool esoteric pickup line without any personality behind it. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 08:02 AM |
| 21 | [FR] First FR, cock blocked, first cold approach ever, weird night overall.Hey, thought you were cute and wanted to say hi. Awesome man. The first time is the worst/most awkward. Do this 10 more times to 10 different girls and see what happens. This is a successful night, IMO. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 07:58 AM |
| 0 | Kiss close but no number closeI've run into these girls before. They're either not happy with their current relationships and are looking for an out or they are just really slutty. It sounds like she's a combo of the two. If you want to have fun and you're not bothered that she's "taken", go for it. If you want an LTR, she's not mature enough for it yet. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 07:10 AM |
| 4 | Why is it considered socially unacceptable to talk to another person in public?Perhaps in your country/culture, but it isn't unacceptable in many others. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 06:51 AM |
| 2 | Please stop with the inner vs. outer game bullshit; it's a false dichotomy to begin with.I disagree with you. Outer game consists of the clothes we put on, our body posture, physical fitness, etc. Inner game is our self-confidence, state, and how grounded we are with who we are. If you look gross, but you are a well grounded person, you will get somewhere. If you look like a million bucks but are an AFC on the inside, you will get somewhere. If you have both, you will get pretty far. People have spent a lot of time dissecting all the little parts of game that matter, and it's a diss… | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 01:14 AM |
| 3 | What to say to a girl (friend) who is having trouble getting guys to ask her out?Tell her to smile more. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Is it beta to meet women on Okcupid?No, but if it's the only way you can meet women, then maybe it's a sign of a bigger problem. | /r/seduction | 18/12/11 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Guys, I need your help working on confidence.Come from the standpoint of self-amusement and don't worry about girls and closes yet. Come from this frame: You are in the bar, being amused by everything, and the people in the bar are for your entertainment. Don't try to get anything from people, just go up to them and share your fun, funny self-amusement with them. If they don't want to have a part in it, be amused by their rejection. | /r/seduction | 17/12/11 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Techniques working, something still feels wrong.It sounds like you are a relationship man, and not a ONS man. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 08:13 AM |
| 2 | [FR] A Christmas party I shouldn't have been atWhy didn't you go for the phone number? | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 07:14 AM |
| -1 | Guys, we need to talk about this. It's time for some hard reflection.You're not entirely correct. Bitch shields and people who are super selfish are different things. The hotter the girl, the stronger the bitch shield, generally. According to old PUA methods, you neg the shit out of them, lower their value, raise yours, tease them, don't fall for their shit tests, make them qualify themselves, accept their qualification, banter, seduce, and have sex with them. Newer methods aren't as overt about jockeying for value, but rather focus on you being outcome independe… | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 07:01 AM |
| 20 | Guys, we need to talk about this. It's time for some hard reflection.Here's where this starts to be a rant. We have a cancer. It's killing us slowly. We need to burn this tumor out, gentlemen, and the effort starts with YOU. I like your post, but I completely disagree with you. The mantra of the early PUA community went something like: "Women nowadays want everything, they want to be treated like princesses and offer nothing in return. They won't give us the time of day, so what are we going to do about it? We're going to fuck them!" That's much different from mo… | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 04:02 AM |
| 1 | What to do with a hard to pronounce name?I will not say, sorry. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Serious Question: How to kiss her like no other guy ever has?Build mad, mad, attraction first. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Interesting article and it's discussion from r/feminismYou know...when I first started saying hi to people on the street, maybe 20% of the people reacted positively. I think it's because I wanted to get a reaction out of them. When I stopped worrying about the outcome and just wanted to wish them well, (on top of daily practice for a couple months), I'd say that 90% of people react positively. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:14 AM |
| 0 | Interesting article and it's discussion from r/feminismI'd like to add that if you come from the perspective that you are 100% okay with rejected, then you will not do any of the things the author writes about (Yelling, following, approaching in a threatening way, etc.). If you do tonnes of approaches, you'll realize that while you might be able to crack someone who gives you a super blowout, it's probably a better use of your time to forget that girl and go approach someone else who is more amenable to being approached. That being said, the author … | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Havent had any luck dating in 5 years. need helpIt sounds like you haven't made getting good with girls a priority in your life. Finding, attracting, and having sex with women is your number one purpose in life from nature's perspective. Your number one priority is not work, money, or a fun hobby. | /r/seduction | 14/12/11 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Havent had any luck dating in 5 years. need helpHave you thought about why something changed between when you used to be outgoing and now? What stage of life were you in back then, and where are you now? Anyway, my advice is to start talking to people who are paid to talk to you: clothing store people, baristas, any retail store clerk, etc. | /r/seduction | 14/12/11 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Here is an example of what will happen when you don't take your chancesHad to stop at Day 14. This was AFC me in college. Too painful to watch. | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 10:33 PM |
| 0 | What to do with a hard to pronounce name?Yes, but it is surprising how many Indians who don't know English can also pronounce Western names. | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 10:15 PM |
| 1 | What to do with a hard to pronounce name?Yeap. I agree with you (see my other post). However I can't stand people who have no interest in eventually trying to learn how to pronounce my real name. They go in the rubbish bin. My culture is part of who I am, and since I'm gaming for LTRs, anyone that doesn't want to vibe with my culture is a dealbreaker for me. Another thing I do is I look a girl straight in the eye and pronounce my name exactly the way it should be pronounced, she tries and fails, I say it again without dropping a beat, … | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 09:43 PM |
| -5 | What to do with a hard to pronounce name?Indians can pronounce American names fine albeit with an accent. Americans should be able to pronounce Indian names somewhat correctly and stop being ignorant about other cultures. | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Once you get them into the house, how do you close the deal?Steps: Get her to stand up. Start kissing. Put her hands around your shoulders. Put your hands around her waist. Start kissing more. Rub her waist and slide your hands underneath the back of her shirt. Kiss kiss kiss. Move your hands away, then back again and go further up her back. Kiss kiss kiss. Move your hands so far up that her shirt starts coming off. With the shirt off, move your hands behind her pants. Kiss kiss kiss. Slide them around until you get one button undone. She might resist, s… | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 08:30 PM |
| 1 | The looks matter / don’t matter controversy. My 2 cents (from a 6’3 black guy’s perspective)Who cares? Play the cards your dealt. Thinking about the counterfactual might be interesting from an academic standpoint, but unnecessary for improving your game. Anyway, I have a habit of making cold reality guys like this my friends. He and many others don't see the magic of life the way I do. | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Growing attachment, losing attractionI haven't had a serious relationship in a while. I'm trying to be different with my current. I'm trying to periodically disconnect myself from her, to remember abundance mentality and outcome independence. I try bringing my mental state back to the time when we had just gone on a couple dates, and try to imagine myself flirting with her, kino-ing, making her laugh etc. as if I was trying to build attraction from scratch again. Not expecting anything and remembering that I am 100% whole and happy… | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 08:02 PM |
| 0 | Viability of direct day game with Western women?Say good morning, good afternoon, or good evening to people on the street (or simply morning! afternoon! evening!). I've sparked conversation with people just by doing this. You could followup with, "Hey. Nice smile! What are you up to?" or "How's your day going?" I usually do this while walking, so it has to be fairly quick. I met my current girlfriend on the street. Jeremy Soul has videos and a book on how to day game, step by step. | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Question about cultural diferences...[x-post r/askseddit]Can you tell us which cultures and where you live? | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 07:54 PM |
| 4 | What to do with a hard to pronounce name?Hi, I have a similar situation, not Indian, but pretty close to ya. Believe it or not, during the daytime or anywhere conducive to conversation it's a DHV. You're not like the rest of the Johns, Jakes, and Erics out there. You're unique, and your name probably has a cool meaning with a story behind it. Sometimes, when people have a hard time pronouncing my name, I'll pull out my business card to show them how it's spelled, which opens up a new DHV line of conversation (my work is pretty badass).… | /r/seduction | 13/12/11 07:49 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Awesome man! Just give back whenever you learn new things. I'll continue to do so, although I might retire sillymallard | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 09:03 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.The way I see it, if a woman is attracted to me being 100% myself, then to keep her attracted to me, all I have to do is keep being 100% myself. It makes things so much simpler and easy. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 09:02 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thanks man. In my opinion, a few months isn't a long time, but longer than most people would want to wait. It's definitely not been smooth sailing the entire time, but the overall trajectory has been positive. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 09:02 PM |
| 3 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.AFC stands for average frustrated chump. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 06:46 PM |
| 3 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.AFC stands for average frustrated chump. FR stands for field report. You can read what all the acronyms are if you click the links in the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 06:46 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Haha. Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 06:40 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thanks man! | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:58 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.For me, sarging is therapeutic. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:56 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Go sarging. It's therapeutic! Seriously. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:56 PM |
| 3 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.It's incredible how happy you can become by making other people happy. I thank girls for telling me they have boyfriends. They are shocked by this, because usually guys get upset when they hear this. Honestly, they are nice enough to tell me not to waste my time, and they obviously care about their boyfriends. Why try to ruin a good thing or get upset over something great that two people have? Abundance mentality means there are tonnes of other girls out there waiting to be opened by you, and so… | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:51 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Haha! I didn't want to write "F close", because I care about this girl, and saying I got an F close just sounded a little cheap to me. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:47 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.I don't know why you are getting downvoted. My points are from my own experience and are by no means complete nor universal. Many people say assume attraction, and this works based on numerous other field reports. It's just not something I particularly have used to help me improve. Do what works for you and keep on improving! | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:45 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:42 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thanks man. These are all from my experience. It's by no means complete nor universally applicable, but it's all stuff that's made it work for me. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:38 PM |
| 1 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:37 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Yes! This is why "nice guys" suck in my opinion. They're not honest with themselves and think if they act a certain way and do certain things, they'll get the girl they have oneitis for. Disney movies and romantic comedies program bad information into our heads about attracting women. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:34 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thank you for the kind words. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:30 PM |
| 2 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.I think it'll take a while to get over your girlfriend. However, sarging helps, A LOT. To me, sarging is more therapeutic than anything else, whether it's getting over oneitis, relieving stress, having fun, building self-confidence, etc. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:30 PM |
| 5 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Thanks man. You can do it! | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:28 PM |
| 4 | My first full close. Tonnes of advice for new people inside.Hahaha! You know what? I'm actually not THAT afraid of breaking up with her. Of course, it will suck if it happens. I'll be sad. But truth be told, I got LMR'd twice, and was getting frustrated because I either wanted to get laid or start sarging again and not be stuck in limbo. She was giving me a little bad behavior yesterday, so I started ignoring her and started having a good time interacting with her friends. She changed her attitude pretty quick when she realized I didn't need her in order… | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 05:21 PM |
| 6 | I don't like to touch people unless I know preemptively that they are accepting to touching. What should I do?With hugs, don't go all the way. Walk up, stretch your arms out like you're going to give a big bear hug and give a smile. If your frame is strong enough she will reciprocate, and you will hug each other, not just you hugging a passive girl. | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 02:30 AM |
| 2 | I spent almost my entire life ignoring dating, relationships, or even hooking up. Well fuck that! I am ready seddit, make me into thy tool. I am a blank slate.Why haven't you done all of these things? Do some self reflection. Figure this out for yourself. Are you scared of something? Someone? Religion? Conflicting values? Not knowing how to be a man? Figure this out and figure out how everything from this point onward will be different. | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Denying Girls FriendshipsI believe electronPUA just posted an FR where he denied a girl he was interested in friendship, and she realized that he would only spend time with her if she allowed herself to be more than friends, otherwise it was over. She decided to become more than friends. | /r/seduction | 08/12/11 07:37 AM |
| 2 | 5 NumbersAgree, please give more details! | /r/seduction | 08/12/11 07:35 AM |
| 2 | The Rubber band effect. How to beat it in 21 + days.Personally, I've managed to change myself by going in baby steps and not try to do too much at once. | /r/seduction | 08/12/11 12:46 AM |
| 5 | I have a problem picking up womenYou sound too serious. Start becoming fun and funny. | /r/seduction | 07/12/11 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Cheap and dirty trick -- Use Shazam; appear inordinately knowledgeable about music.I don't like this. | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 04:07 PM |
| 1 | I really need to learn how to small talk"How to talk to anyone" by Leil Lowndes. Read it. | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, do you ever worry that you'll come across as like this, if less exaggerated?This reminds me of people who stick by the Mystery method verbatim. | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 09:46 AM |
| 1 | You have 5 minute walk from a building to a parking deck to create attraction, make some plans, get a number and seal the deal. Whats your game plan?If she's into you, she will stop walking at the point where you have to part ways, which means you have more than 5 minutes to chat. Anyway, five minutes is enough for a number close, but a bit more time is better. You don't have to setup a date. Just get her number, figure shit out, and call her with a plan, but don't just ask her out as soon as you call her. Talk to her, connect on something that you have in common or something that you find interesting about here. Tell her you want to continu… | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Proper way to kino?MOVE THEM AROUND. | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Getting a date with Cute BaristaDon't get oneitis. | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 09:12 AM |
| 9 | Lets make a list of kino tactics.How to hold her hand: Stop whatever you are doing be it walking, eating, etc. Smile, and hold your hand out to her palm up. If you've built up enough attraction, she'll take your hand, even if she's a bit nervous about it. Take it, squeeze it a couple times and ask her how she's doing. Let go after a few seconds. Repeat the holding your hand out thing later on and hold her hand for a bit longer, swinging it around or squeezing a little again. Eventually, she'll take your hand whenever you offer … | /r/seduction | 06/12/11 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Equal rights when it comes to children's surnames?I personally think it's wrong for two people to get married and not share the same name. | /r/MensRights | 05/12/11 11:23 PM |
| 0 | In regard to seduction and relationships, you can't give all you have to offer at once. When the glass you have served becomes empty, there is nothing left to drink. And when the thirst kicks in, there are plenty of other full glasses out there ready to quench it, leaving you empty and alone.This is a bunch of keyboard jockey crap. I can't believe people upvote this shit. | /r/seduction | 05/12/11 08:25 AM |
| 5 | A couple openers for the holidays for you guys.Just say, that it's awesome in a positive, matter-of-fact way. Then talk about yours. | /r/seduction | 03/12/11 09:09 PM |
| 2 | General socially awkwardness situationYou should be more independent. | /r/seduction | 03/12/11 06:29 PM |
| 7 | Thank you...I have found an attracted a cool girl(friend) just in time for Christmas due to this subreddit. This was my personal goal. This is after many, many openers, solo sarges, # closes, and dates over the past three months. I've chosen the girl I wanted, and not settled for the first one that would strip naked for me. I know that if she leaves or if I discover something about her I don't like, I don't have to put up with it and can go out and easily find tonnes more. It takes a while to improve, but i… | /r/seduction | 03/12/11 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Can anybody help me improve my "foreveralone"-mode?Baby steps. Forget talking to girls for a second. Get there early and introduce yourself to the bouncers and bartenders. Approach guys and talk em up. Do this until you're comfortable with it. | /r/seduction | 03/12/11 04:13 PM |
| 1 | I'm cockblocking myself right nowCaveman it: turn her around, push her down, face down with you sitting on her legs, then unhook it while kissing the side of her neck. | /r/seduction | 02/12/11 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Remember Oneitis? Here's a short reminder.Love is completely different from oneitis. | /r/seduction | 01/12/11 08:11 AM |
| 1 | I've been reading a lot about the "right mindset" but where I seem to falter is in the detailsDon't smother her. Wait a couple days and call when something you're doing reminds you of her. Wait until she sends a text or calls you. Don't be the only one initiating conversation. | /r/seduction | 01/12/11 04:02 AM |
| 1 | I've been reading a lot about the "right mindset" but where I seem to falter is in the detailsSorry for the unclear sentence. It's good to call a girl to establish a connection. Texting doesn't really establish a connection, and tends to reduce attraction. | /r/seduction | 01/12/11 12:48 AM |
| 2 | I've been reading a lot about the "right mindset" but where I seem to falter is in the detailsFirstly, you don't have a relationship with her. It sounds like this is a rare thing to happen to you, getting a girl attracted and getting her phone number. After you do this many more times, you'll realize it's not such a big deal. Don't get oneitis. To answer your questions: Don't text, call, if you want to develop a connection. Don't worry if she has a boyfriend. That's her problem, not yours. Take her on a tour of your favorite spots to hangout since she's coming to your turf. Pay for the f… | /r/seduction | 30/11/11 11:14 PM |
| 6 | My Personal Approach AnxietyThanks man. I'm sure this isn't my idea; I heard/read it somewhere randomly and tried it one night when I was feeling a little nervous about approaching. Girls are sensitive and will usually go awww if they're not bitches. | /r/seduction | 30/11/11 04:23 PM |
| 1 | kissless noob will try to get at least 2 number closes tomorrowOutcome independence. You should focus on approaching and having a good time. It may be that everyone you approach is married or are in serious relationships, which got me angry several field reports ago. It was stupid to get angry about something I couldn't control. My advice is don't try to get numbers. Try to have fun! The numbers and girls will come. | /r/seduction | 30/11/11 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it okay to walk up to random girls and ask them out?I really doubt this will work. A girl saying hi to you is not an invitation for you to ask you out. It's an invitation to say hi. Don't expect anything else. If she's receptive, continue the conversation for 5-30 minutes, keeping it fun and light, and then ask her out with a purpose, such as you're doing something fun and want her to join, or that you want to continue the conversation, etc. Use kino. Don't admit to eye-stalking her. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 10:21 PM |
| 9 | My Personal Approach AnxietyHave you ever tried to open someone by talking about approach anxiety? It's pretty fun/honest. Go up and ask a girl if she's ever seen a hot guy she wanted to talk to, but was scared because she didn't know what to say or how the guy would react. Then admit that you get approach anxiety too, but that you have to take chances in life, etc. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Bridging the Gap between Guys and Girls: The Cheese CallOkay, thank you for the replies. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Forget Pick Up crap learn to hold interesting conversation it will do wonders for you. Being a conversationalistHow to talk to anyone by Leil Lowndes. Saved my life. It's easy to read and easy to remember the techniques. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 04:22 PM |
| 4 | Watching DVDs with girls - What are your favorites for getting lucky?Hey, I just asked this last week and many people commented. Here you go! http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mn8v9/movie_recommendations_for_transitioning_to_sex/ | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Forget Pick Up crap learn to hold interesting conversation it will do wonders for you. Being a conversationalistThis is exactly why I like cody_au, he's an oldschooler that speaks the truth, even if he writes like an asshole. It needs to be said for crap like this post. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 04:15 PM |
| 10 | Forget Pick Up crap learn to hold interesting conversation it will do wonders for you. Being a conversationalistNO NO NO This is completely false! I've been an excellent conversationalist in business, networking, and socializing in general for the past 10 years. It has not gotten me girls. My success over the past three months has definitely stemmed from my core, which means I use my conversation skills in pickup, but I've had to actively change the nature of my conversation when it comes to game. This post is extremely misleading, especially since it doesn't even talk about the physical aspect of pickup … | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.Yes, I'm definitely a recovering AFC. Thanks for the reply. I've cooled things off with her a bit, and this has helped me start thinking straight. I'm introducing her to more of my friends and life, and I'll try one more time, but if she can't make up her mind, she's gone unless she wants to truly get closer. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.Seriously, thanks for your response. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 08:09 AM |
| 1 | Bridging the Gap between Guys and Girls: The Cheese CallDoes that mean he's a guy they want to hook up with, or that the guy is the type to try and get a ONS? | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Bridging the Gap between Guys and Girls: The Cheese CallIs a cheese call an actual phone call or a synonym for a ONS? | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.I've been seeing her for about 5-6 weeks now, and we've hung out over 10 times. I do believe I established good emotions, trust, and physical attraction. I do want her, sexually, but she's really cool, i.e. she gels really well with all my friends. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.I think you're right. At the very least, having other girls on the side will keep my AFC away from my interactions with this girl. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.Thank you VERY much! | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.No, I think I wrote my post poorly. She stayed and cuddled for about an hour before she left. I don't know if she came or not, and I'm completely inept at pleasing girls down there (no experience really). | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.Ahhh, okay, thank you. I freaked out with ARealSocialRetard's warning. You're right. Anyway, I planned a non-sexual hangout today, and it went well. She drove 30 mins out of her way to hang out for a few hours. I'll re-engage again, and I think I will start talking to the girl I closed today. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:33 AM |
| 2 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.I don't have major oneitis, but did have it while writing this post. Number closing a random girl today helped me re-see the light. Anyway, the reason I like this girl is that we share similar values (non-judgmental), she's fun to go out drinking with, and she gels with my friends well. I've gotten with hotter girls than her, but they were airheads or screwballs. She's also cooked meals for me, and bought me drinks at the bar. I think she's only treating me like a doormat except when it comes to… | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.Thanks. Is this a LMR killer or nexting? I don't have a problem dropping this girl; I have a few old contacts and a new number close from today, but I'd rather kill the LMR, because the girl is pretty cool and I'd like to establish an LTR. Edit: She didn't leave right after. We cuddled and hung out for a good hour after. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Principles when dating and gaming?Thanks frogma, reading your comment put me at ease. Could you comment on my other thread? http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/msf0v/antislut_defense_again_fml_please_help_me_im/ | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Principles when dating and gaming?Unfortunately I've already told her that I cut it off with a couple girls I was seeing. I told her that I went on a couple dates the weekend I went on a date with her as an explanation for why I thought her parents lived in a particular city. I'll keep this in mind when potential LTRs happen with me again. LTR kill count made me lol. | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.I've qualified her a lot with things unique to her personality and outlook on life, all of them brutally honest from my heart, from silly little things to pretty deep/serious things. She's done the same to me. I've told her when I don't like something never feeling the need to change myself or opinion because of her. She's done the same to me. I guess maybe it means I need more patience and to not freak out. I really wanted to call her yesterday to make sure she wasn't losing interest, but I sto… | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 09:50 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] REMINDER: Always check if your post went throughThanks. This happened to me yesterday. | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.Damn, okay. I was just being honest when I said that. I wasn't really thinking about how she might react. What should I say/do in the future when she does this again? I'm almost ready and waiting for it to happen again. | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 09:30 PM |
| 4 | Anti-slut defense again. FML. Please help me. I'm completely lost.I don't want to just hook up with girls. I want a girlfriend. Thanks for your advice. | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 09:28 PM |
| 1 | What's a good way to ask a girl for information you should already know? Something you had a conversation about but can't recall the details...Be honest! Tell her that you think she told you, but you forgot. Ask her to tell you again. | /r/seduction | 28/11/11 02:43 AM |
| 3 | "Talk to everyone" has started hurting meIt's okay to tell your date that you've taken other girls out before. Honesty is awesome. If you come from the vantage point of choosing women rather than settling for the first one that comes to you, the woman you are with will like you more for choosing her (or will try harder to impress you if it's a first date). | /r/seduction | 27/11/11 06:02 PM |
| 3 | How can I make myself more vulnerable?Be honest with yourself and everyone you speak to. | /r/seduction | 27/11/11 02:19 AM |
| 3 | Is this LMR? Need advice.Hey, just wanted to thank you. Kept doing what I was doing, and she literally begged me to fuck. I told her that I knew, and told her we'd have to wait (bad logistics (my brother and sister are visiting me)), and I want it to be special (I'm a fucking romantic and can't help it!), I didn't tell her the second reason, but I'll blow her mind. She's girlfriend material. | /r/seduction | 26/11/11 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Is this LMR? Need advice.I want her to be my girlfriend. She is really into me and very affectionate, physically. She tells me she likes me while making out. This is the only hiccup I've had the entire way. I feel great about it all. I'm the leader in the 50-50 relationship. I've opened sets in front of her (for my friends), and have told her about going on dates with other women (who were all crazy(truth)) as a way of qualifying her. I don't hink I have oneitis, but I do like her (she has similar values as me). I have … | /r/seduction | 25/11/11 04:22 AM |
| 13 | Is this LMR? Need advice.Thanks for your analysis. I'm a recovering AFC, and this is literally the first time I have gotten this far with a girl in my life, so I don't have any experience...only stuff I've read. A bit more info: I've gone on a few dates with this girl and have thoroughly impressed her friends (her words not mine). I've basically done everything right with this girl, from building attraction, comfort, kino escalation, and uniquely qualifying her. You're comment put it in perspective...just don't freak ou… | /r/seduction | 24/11/11 06:49 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever been called out on your game?One person once said, "Hey, you know what's up. I want that girl right there, so help me generate some social value so she notices us." I asked him why he was being so weird, and said if he wanted to talk to the girl, he should just go and talk to her. Without thinking about it, I made an about face and opened the girl and her set with pretty good success. He never mentioned game to me after this. | /r/seduction | 24/11/11 04:10 AM |
| 2 | How to get your hands out of your pocketsAs a baby step away from this habit you can put your thumbs in your pockets and keep your hands out. It doesn't look nearly as bad. | /r/seduction | 21/11/11 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Thanks, Seddit!Completely agree. I had my doubts when I first started. Keep it up (IN REAL LIFE), and change will happen. | /r/seduction | 21/11/11 12:40 AM |
| 35 | Girl here: Things I learned this week in the realm of seduction.Loves mascara and eyeliner. God bless you. | /r/seduction | 20/11/11 07:01 PM |
| 3 | I've never had my life in order or my "shit together" so to speak so I've never been able to get women. Should it matter?It's not necessary to have your life in order, but it can help a lot for many people. | /r/seduction | 20/11/11 05:34 PM |
| 1 | How to become the douchebag?I didn't mean to offend you. But really, it's not the douchebaggery that women find attractive in and of itself. Rather, some of the attitude/actions of douchebags is what women find attractive, which is noticeably lacking with nice guys. Gentlemen are neither douchebags nor nice guys. | /r/seduction | 20/11/11 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Bish get to the back of the line.You did well. You're exactly right about exposure. I challenge you to go out by yourself 5 more times and try to approach. It might not even take you 5 times to realize it's not a big deal to be by yourself and talk to random people. You can expect people to say "Hi" to you, but you can't expect people to like you. Outcome independence! Keep it up man. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 06:12 PM |
| 4 | An epiphany that hit me while talking to some of my friends who are naturals and have never learned any PU materialAhhh, I wasn't clear. Sorries! | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Bish get to the back of the line.Nice. But what happened in the bar? No approaches? | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 09:01 AM |
| 6 | How to become the douchebag?You're completely wrong. There is a lot of good stuff to learn from jerks/douchebags, but that doesn't mean you have to become one to be good with women. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 08:32 AM |
| 2 | Can't do better than HB6 or soThe reason I ask is that if you think you're a 7, you'll act like a 7. If you think you're a 2, you'll act like a 2. Although many people on seddit don't follow this, the HB scale is not absolute. In some contexts a girl is a 10 and in others, she is a 5. I believe if you ratchet up your inner game to the point where you believe you are a 10 and combine this with the gym, good fashion (which you already have), and body language, you'll get better at attracting 10's. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Reference Dependence. Making the high's feel even higher.I believe you are correct. A kid who expects nothing on Christmas and receives a gift is much happier than a kid who expects a give on Christmas and receives a gift. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 07:34 AM |
| 10 | An epiphany that hit me while talking to some of my friends who are naturals and have never learned any PU materialNo they don't. The tried and true PUAs give you step by step instructions on how to be good with women. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Can't do better than HB6 or soOn a scale of 1-10 how attractive would you say you are? | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Some one teach me how to not give a fuck.Actually, it's a large part of why humanity even exists. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 02:13 AM |
| 3 | Some one teach me how to not give a fuck.Harden the fuck up. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 02:12 AM |
| 3 | An epiphany that hit me while talking to some of my friends who are naturals and have never learned any PU materialI would say listening to the people who have gone through it naturally (many early PUAs) is probably easier than trying to figure it out yourself without any guidance. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 01:46 AM |
| 2 | If a women suddenly grabs your junk in a social arena, what is your admitted reaction and how would you play it?As cool as this sounds. This just isn't right. I'd be a bit thrilled and turned on by it, but also a bit creeped out. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 01:39 AM |
| 46 | The world is full of women who want to get laid and can't.And the world is full of guys who want to get laid and can't. | /r/seduction | 18/11/11 05:19 PM |
| 2 | For those with phone flake problemsrealize this will happen with at least 4 out of 5 phone numbers. It's not that simple. The length of the interaction and amount of attraction generated are positively correlated with the girl replying. | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Expanded my comfortzone, made a first phone call to a girl!Exhilarating, right? | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Seduction Advice from the only man to conquer the friend zone, Forrest Gump.Yeap! While I prefer something situational, a simple "Hey! How's your night going?" with the right body language and attitude is fairly "foolproof". | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Over the span of 2+ years studying this material, I have found that...Simplify your life: get rid of all the alter-egos you have in front of different people, and just be one person. Obviously, you must respect decorum with different people, but don't lose your identity. | /r/seduction | 16/11/11 09:03 AM |
| 1 | The No-Fap rule. Really?Personally, I think the causation goes the other way. | /r/seduction | 16/11/11 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Being short/smaller and kino escalation. Easier? Not easier? Not even worth discussing?Where was I whining? | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Well, you've been meeting the wrong kind of men. You need to meet gentlemen. You know, the charming, funny, respectable guys who also have balls of steel, a solid personality, and a great sex drive? Anyway, this is my frame and state when I go out to the bars and clubs: http://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/kiwx1/my_son_running_to_the_swingset_dad_theres_new/ Kids have it right initially. And then they get programmed by bad experiences, adults ('never talk to a stranger!'), etc, that all of this… | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Did you not read what I wrote? Touching people on the arm, elbow, shoulder, and upper back is completely fine. I mean touch, lightly and for no more than two seconds, not grab. This combined simultaneously with a bit of eye contact, a smile, and an opener is completely normal, natural and human. Prolonged touch at the start is super creepy. I'm talking about the type of touch to literally getting someone's attention. If they are down, happy, smiling, and laughing, I'll then start giving them hig… | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Being short/smaller and kino escalation. Easier? Not easier? Not even worth discussing?Hey. Your mom's boobies don't count! | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.It's not rude at all, because many people enjoy it. In fact, most of the 300+ people I have opened over the past two months, have been receptive to it. Like I said earlier, all women are different, and so taking pickup advice from one woman is usually very unhelpful, because you are on the receiving end of it and can only speak from your perspective and values, not how women respond in general. I have no idea if you are one of the rare people that doesn't like it, and you can't fault me for not … | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.She can have whatever standards she wants. It's just when a woman generalizes her experience to every other woman's experience that it becomes a problem. This is why I don't listen to women when I get pickup advice. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Honestly, she has the right to have whatever standards she wants. It's just when a woman generalizes her experience to every other woman's that it becomes a problem. This is why I don't listen to women when I get pickup advice. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.This is exactly why I don't take advice on how to pick up girls from girls. You are generalizing your experience to everyone else's. If you don't like to be touched right away, that is completely acceptable, for you. But for the general population, touching is generally a wonderful thing. Anyway, you have made me realize one thing, and I'm going to write a separate post about it. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what are the BEST open-ended questions to ask on a first date?Do you like to travel? (if she says no, it's a dealbreaker for me) If you could go anywhere, where would you go? Why? Followup with where you'd go, and talk about places you've been. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 07:26 AM |
| 3 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Nope. You are completely wrong. I often open people by touching them first, then catching their eyes, then smiling, and then saying something. You can definitely talk to them first and then start touching, but it's not required. I used to have the same mentality, that it's wrong to touch people without asking or speaking to them, but it's a bunch of garbage. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Completely disagree. This is one hurdle I've had to get over. Touching people on the arm, elbow, shoulder, and upper back is completely fine. I mean touch, lightly and for no more than two seconds, not grab. This combined simultaneously with a bit of eye contact, a smile, and an opener is completely normal, natural and human. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Yeap! This was a couple months ago. No smiling or eye contact on my part. This was awful. | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 06:04 AM |
| 6 | Successful PUAs of Seddit, help me see that rejection doesn't kill you. Share your most embarrassing blowout stories.Once I went up to a girl on the dance floor and gently took her arms. She shoved me away really hard. Another time, I approached two girls and asked how their night was going. One of them said with a complete bitch face, "Who the fuck are you!" | /r/seduction | 15/11/11 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Is there ever a right time to talk rather than do?What do you mean by "fucked up with"? Please give a bit more detail. | /r/seduction | 14/11/11 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Whats the psychology behind pickup?Demonstrating sexual intent in a fun and funny way is what makes women attracted. But you can't control how she reacts. You could do the same exact thing to 100 women and maybe only a few of them would be receptive to it. Pickup helps you ratchet up the probability of women being receptive to your advances compared to the average frustrated chump. It also teaches you how to not let negative reactions phase you and to keep going. | /r/seduction | 13/11/11 10:48 PM |
| 2 | [FR]19: My first kiss close. I am so happy.It doesn't matter at all! And nobody is ugly if they fix themselves up a bit (gym+clothes)! And short girls like short guys! My former AFC self used these as excuses for why girls wouldn't like me. | /r/seduction | 13/11/11 10:04 PM |
| 2 | [FR]19: My first kiss close. I am so happy.Thanks man. She was taken aback initially when I started talking to the other girls, but gave me a big hug when she realized what I was doing. | /r/seduction | 13/11/11 07:36 PM |
| 24 | Best tips on boosting confidence?Remember to amuse yourself first, and everyone else second. | /r/seduction | 13/11/11 03:21 AM |
| 2 | [FR] I claim this room in the name of MarsPU.Haha! I love this. You're fun and funny. | /r/seduction | 13/11/11 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Hear our my theoryI've read a few PUA books.... Do something instead of reading. | /r/seduction | 12/11/11 12:35 AM |
| 3 | Do other websites often repost FR's in the entirety with one small link back to reddit?You have to give credit properly. Looking at the article without clicking the link, one would not get the impression that it was pure copypasta. It's sleazy. | /r/seduction | 12/11/11 12:13 AM |
| 1 | What are some good 'pet' names to use that are cute without being too creepy?Chiquita | /r/seduction | 11/11/11 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Do other websites often repost FR's in the entirety with one small link back to reddit?That's plagiarism. What a dirtbag. | /r/seduction | 11/11/11 07:53 AM |
| 4 | Here's a desktop wallpaper for you all with my life motto. [1920x1080 resolution]Here's one I like: http://www.theipo.org/i/bTyGgp.jpg . | /r/seduction | 10/11/11 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Ethical Pickup Artistry: getting laid without becoming a misogynistic assholeMy point is it doesn't matter what she thinks. | /r/seduction | 10/11/11 04:14 AM |
| 3 | Came across creepy?You answered my question. You're not being creepy. Just keep doing it, and work on getting a higher percentage of positive reactions. | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 11:26 PM |
| 1 | RSD Tyler: Cultivating The Natural Strengths In Your Personality (+How To Take A "Real Man's Blowout")He is always so self-amused, even in soliloquy's. Amazing. | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Came across creepy?How do the people react to you smiling and saying hi? | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Ethical Pickup Artistry: getting laid without becoming a misogynistic assholeWomen are generally bad at giving advice on how to seduce them. This isn't misogynistic, but a matter of fact. Someone on the receiving end of seduction can't hope to give a guy advice on how to be successful with women in general, only herself. A man who demonstrates success with all sorts of different women can. This article is mostly generic and does have some interesting references, but the fact she is a heterosexual woman writing on seduction makes me disregard her opinion. I'm not sexist, … | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 06:28 PM |
| 1 | The alley trickI came here hoping to learn a field tested alley trick.... | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Ask Seddit: What would you have said?"I know." One of my default responses. | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 07:43 AM |
| 3 | A pattern I came up with, field-tested with some success. I would like to hear your opinions.Agree. I converse with boring interview questions, albeit in a fun way. This is a great way to make any question more fun. Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 07:42 AM |
| 80 | "We": The Single Greatest IOI I KnowProtip: Start making "we" statements yourself. Source: Leil Lowndes | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 04:03 AM |
| 9 | Is walking over to a woman when she waves you over a sign of submission?This isn't a shit test. It's flirting. | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 03:52 AM |
| 2 | What the hell is wrong with me?Why does this bother me so much? Because you have oneitis. | /r/seduction | 09/11/11 03:38 AM |
| 1 | You're not my type - racist.Online, people are pickier than in real life, not just about race, but height, age, income, religion, etc. Get offline and get into the real world. If Matador and Jeremy Soul can do it, so can you. Not everyone is 6 feet tall, with a six pack, perfect hair, intelligent, etc. Play the cards your dealt. | /r/seduction | 08/11/11 07:38 AM |
| 4 | How interested, if at all, are you guys in dating or even marriage?I never lie or deceive. NEVER NEVER. All my routines are mostly things I've come up with on my own, and the stuff I've borrowed is so generic, I could have come up with it on my own given enough time. All my stories are my own real life stories. My default opener is usually something situational or a simple "Hey! How's your day going?". My conversational material consists of boring interview questions. | /r/seduction | 08/11/11 07:15 AM |
| 10 | How interested, if at all, are you guys in dating or even marriage?I want to find my soulmate and raise a family, eventually. Seduction is giving me the power to find, choose, and attract that awesome woman. I also believe the things seduction teaches me will help keep this awesome woman (and myself) happy for life. | /r/seduction | 08/11/11 04:16 AM |
| 5 | Get your life in order, having SOLID game only takes you so far.PUAs have been talking about jerks for ages, and some PUAs are jerks. Paraphrasing David D.: Jerks might not be what one should aspire to be, but there are a lot of good things you can learn from them. And yes, jerks incredibly manage to have residual women knocking down their doors. Sorry for the confusion. cody_au's comment was in response to a post that I made a while back. My post was similar to yours. If he sees this, I'm sure he could provide better insight, but the point I believe he was … | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Get your life in order, having SOLID game only takes you so far.I disagree after reading cody_au's comment. Some of the most selfish, broke, vile people on Earth get tonnes of high quality women and even get into long term relationships with them, often many at the same time. Why? I think for the same exact reason good guy Greg's get tonnes of women. I believe there is a dark side and light side of seduction. The light side is definitely the prevalent one on seddit, but I do think there is something deeper beneath the getting-your-life-in-order that makes yo… | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 06:47 PM |
| 1 | A couple realizations: Kino. Smiles & Humor.I completely agree. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 05:38 PM |
| 1 | A couple realizations: Kino. Smiles & Humor.Yep! | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 05:35 PM |
| 2 | A couple realizations: Kino. Smiles & Humor.I speak from my own experience. I am a (recovering) AFC. When I talked to girls, I would smile a lot, usually because I had the attention of a girl, was giddy, and wanted to show agreeableness. Mystery has a great imitation of this on David DeAngelo's body language DVD series, but I can't find a video online. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Rule Checklist for texting or text based communicationYou should bold this in your post. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 05:27 AM |
| 16 | Thanks Seddit! A few tips to help you along the way!Thank you for posting this. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 05:24 AM |
| 20 | Places to go, things to do?Do three things: something artistic, something athletic, and something for the community. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Men of seddit, should I risk friendship for love?Judging from your title/post, I would disagree with your first sentence. Anyway, one of my good buddy's friends does this to me as well, to the point of coming to see me play saxophone without her boyfriend. But I treat her like just another buddy and also DHV her boyfriend when she does interact with me. These two things seem to keep everything in check for me. | /r/seduction | 06/11/11 06:48 PM |
| 1 | I want to give the whole seduction thing a try.This is a great thing to do. Say, hi, (good) morning, (good) afternoon, or (good) evening with people on the street. Baby steps! | /r/seduction | 06/11/11 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Men of seddit, should I risk friendship for love?You are not used to girls flirting with you and showing interest. You think it's a super special event when a girl, any girl, even your friend's girl shows interest. It's not. You're just not used to it. I know, because I am a (recovering) AFC and have definitely been there before. When you realize that tonnes of girls will show interest exactly the same way Lisa is showing it to you, you'll realize it's not that super special, but it's still fun! | /r/seduction | 06/11/11 04:56 PM |
| 12 | Men of seddit, should I risk friendship for love?Go practice your seduction skills on more people, get over your oneitis, and keep the friends you have. Also, going after a buddy's girl is one of the worst sins of bro-code a guy can commit, even if his friend is an AFC and the girl is super hot. | /r/seduction | 06/11/11 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Technical Psychology article on how being "in state" is best for everyone.I think reminding ourselves about it (from a different perspective) may be a better way to put it. | /r/seduction | 04/11/11 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Almost 21, Need some tips!Congrats! Learn how to control your alcohol, or at least be able to control when you want to control your alcohol or not =P. | /r/seduction | 04/11/11 11:13 PM |
| 10 | The Oneitis DilemmaUnfortunately, it may be more imbedded into us than one would hope. Psychologists have a term for oneitis, called limerence. We discussed it a couple months ago: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/k8q3n/til_oneitus_has_actually_been_researched_and/ | /r/seduction | 04/11/11 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Why do women go to bars and clubs? An (American) girl's perspectiveThis article is garbage in my opinion. It's most likely the case that the guys approaching the women weren't interesting or weren't the kind of guys the women wanted to meet. It also seems like the guys approaching them were AFC's who can't take no for an answer, and hence the woman's impetus for writing this article in the first place. It's crap to think that people can turn meeting-new-dates time and friend-time on and off like a light switch. I've heard it too many times that a girl isn't jus… | /r/seduction | 03/11/11 10:30 PM |
| 2 | How do I respond to 'What's in it for me?'Nice username. | /r/seduction | 03/11/11 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Subtle tip when asking questions via text. Don't include a ? mark.The academic in me wants to agree, and your advice is good. I will keep this in mind; however, sometimes it's good to be a little sloppy, at least for me. To me, texting is the new instant messaging. | /r/seduction | 03/11/11 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Subtle tip when asking questions via text. Don't include a ? mark.Thanks for the advice. I will do this. However, the point is the difference between "Would you like to come with me to a party Saturday?" vs "Would you like to come with me to a party Saturday" | /r/seduction | 03/11/11 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Hey Seddit, musician question...Fellow musician here! I asked the same question a while ago: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l8qoe/hey_seddit_what_is_the_best_way_to_accept/c2qq4ym . Maybe you'll find the comments helpful. | /r/seduction | 02/11/11 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Anyone Else Notice this about Girls in Public these Days?Have you used this before? How well does it work? How do you get their attention if they can't hear you? | /r/seduction | 02/11/11 05:41 AM |
| 3 | What are you favourite in the field pick up videos (please post links)?Some of Krauser PUA videos are great for daygame, start to close: http://krauserpua.com/ . Unfortunately, he's in Europe. I'd like the same type of thing, but for the U.S. And please don't suggest simple pickup. They are fun, and I like them a lot, but the highly edited videos leave out a lot of the important content. | /r/seduction | 02/11/11 01:31 AM |
| 1 | How to choose good friends?Your good friends are the ones who help you when you need help. | /r/seduction | 01/11/11 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.Cool! I learned something today. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 01/11/11 06:22 PM |
| 5 | State, caffeine, and depressionFor me, chugging a boatload of caffeine is generally a bad thing. It's artificial and not good for my health. Sure, I'll feel great for a couple hours, but when the crash starts, I feel even shittier than I did without the caffeine. I use a little coffee in the morning to wake up and work out. On occasion I'll drink a little tea before going out, but I don't really recommend using caffeine as a fix for your state. | /r/seduction | 01/11/11 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Anyone Else Notice this about Girls in Public these Days?I still say "Good Morning!", "Afternoon!" or "Evening!" to them. They usually hear me anyway and often will smile and/or reciprocate. | /r/seduction | 01/11/11 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.I don't know. For me, if I need to get my mind out of the past or future and into the present, a cold shower really does the trick. I think it gives you an adrenaline rush. Afterwards everything looks brighter and my mind has stopped thinking about random stuff and is just focused on what I'm doing. | /r/seduction | 01/11/11 06:31 AM |
| 1 | What's the word on telling a girl that she's attracted to you?Oh, well, I guess our styles are different. It seems to work for me. Happy birthday, btw! | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.Added it to the list. Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 04:43 PM |
| 1 | What's the word on telling a girl that she's attracted to you?How do you know that? I've done this tons of times. Do what works for you. | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.This is interesting. I haven't thought about this. Everything I've written comes a little bit from game material, but mostly my own experience. I'll keep this in mind, especially the next time I have unplanned socializing to do where I'm generally not in a talky mood. | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.Thanks man. While I definitely think the second approach is far superior, I'm not against the first approach. They're just different. | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Getting into state. Two kinds of approaches.Ahh, this is good. I'm going to add it to the first list. | /r/seduction | 31/10/11 05:07 AM |
| 2 | Every woman is hot in her own ways. However, some renowned women are known for their hotness all around the world. If you are searching for the list of hottest women in the world then you are right place.What does this have to do with seduction? | /r/seduction | 30/10/11 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Does not fapping help with approaching?I believe the general opinion/evidence is mixed. | /r/seduction | 30/10/11 09:12 PM |
| 2 | [FR] I got AMOG'd HARD at work yesterday with a guy carrying the abundance mentalityThis is poorly written and doesn't really provide any details for people to help you. Add some more detail on how the interaction went down. | /r/seduction | 29/10/11 05:55 PM |
| 5 | What's the word on telling a girl that she's attracted to you?One of my personal default responses is, "Exactly." I think it would be a funny response to, "I don't know..."? | /r/seduction | 29/10/11 01:47 AM |
| 2 | What are the aspects of game you don't believe in, or those you feel are incomplete?Mystery says that happiness comes from survival and replication. I feel this is spot on, but that there is a another source of happiness, which is on a higher plane of existence, but I can't really articulate what I mean at this point. | /r/seduction | 27/10/11 06:55 AM |
| 3 | Curious: is this true for all seddit-ers?wouldn't you try a little harder with someone you're interested in? In my opinion, this is why AFC's get oneitis. | /r/seduction | 27/10/11 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else chat up their checkout girls at the grocery store?Thanks a ton! I think I'm going to try waving first, and keep this in the back of my mind if I get a positive reaction. | /r/seduction | 27/10/11 02:03 AM |
| 2 | [FR] 7 and 8 Frustration Creeping InDont forget to have a good time regardless of the outcome of your interactions! Everything will get better if you keep at it. | /r/seduction | 26/10/11 04:02 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else chat up their checkout girls at the grocery store?Hey, could you describe in further detail this heart shape thing? Do you do it while walking? Do you turn and face them? How long does the whole thing take? I'm totally going to do this. Thank you! | /r/seduction | 26/10/11 02:53 AM |
| 1 | [FR] "Really what is with your date?"I'm a professional musician, and it's pretty lame when people don't want to pay for live music, but it's also lame for musicians to expect to be paid when they agreed to work for free. Think a little bigger though...you could have turned the lead singer into a friend, and recruited him to be your best wingman. Be a giver, to everyone. | /r/seduction | 25/10/11 11:30 PM |
| 4 | [FR] Green EyesThis is awesome. | /r/seduction | 25/10/11 11:07 PM |
| 3 | At a party, game on many girls or focus on just one?I have a related question: What is a good way to number/kiss close multiple girls at a party like this, when everyone sees what everyone else is doing? Just like at a bar? It seems like it'd be a bit more tacky at a party. | /r/seduction | 25/10/11 06:54 AM |
| 2 | How do I not give a fuck?Stop thinking. Your brain is whizzing way too fast. You know how sometimes you are able to idly do things without thinking, such as cleaning the dishes, folding laundry, brushing your teeth, etc? This is where you need to keep your mind, just focused on the task at hand instead of thinking at higher levels of perspective. Do you practice getting into "state"? There are a lot of things you can do, mentally and physically to get your mind and attitude where it ought to be when you go out. | /r/seduction | 25/10/11 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Not giving a fuck - The story of a young man's awakening.Do you write for Cliff's list? | /r/seduction | 24/10/11 07:30 AM |
| 5 | Some advice for all you guys. Especially those who want to stop being "Forever Alone" or are focusing on trying to find LTRs.I really like this. | /r/seduction | 24/10/11 05:26 AM |
| 2 | Heard from a friend for the first time in my life, "How do you know so many girls?"Oneitis is everyone's problem. I think it stems from the fact that many guys aren't used to receiving positive sexual energy from a woman, so that when it does happen, either by luck or as they improve their game, they think it's some special event that doesn't happen all the time and completely change their behavior and outlook on life. I just had a few dates over the past few days, and I'm not satisfied. I want to get more girls! This is a first in my life. | /r/seduction | 24/10/11 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Kino on Day 2's. Need advice/guides.Thanks, but did you not read my post? EDIT: Thank you. This is what I need. Examples and examples. You nailed it with logistics. I had a Day 2 with another girl today, and almost no kino, other than hugging. I tried to sit next to her, but the table was really big. I completely hear you on the dancing. I was dancing with a horny girl yesterday. I could have had my first kiss close, but I did not want to kiss her. In retrospect, I should have kissed her anyway, at least a peck. Ahh well. Kino, da… | /r/seduction | 24/10/11 12:48 AM |
| 2 | it is impossible for me to go out in a groupDo not waste your "new" time! You have a window of about six months to claim you are new. This is the best time not only to open tonnes of random people and pick who will be your friends, but also to reinvent yourself and grow. Solo-sarging can at times awkward when people say, "So are you just here by yourself or what?" Usually, I'll say I'm waiting to see if my friends will show up. Sometimes, I flatly say, that I hit the bars as stress-relief, and none of my friends wanted to come out. But sa… | /r/seduction | 24/10/11 12:46 AM |
| 7 | My game have been descending ever since a girl I occasionally hooked up with committed suicide.Agree. | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Kino on Day 2's. Need advice/guides.Great advice man. Do you know of any videos demonstrating this? | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 04:15 AM |
| 2 | FR 22 & 23So, when are you free?" Her: "The whole weekend." She wants you bad. Great FR. I'm curious...how tall/attractive would you say you are? | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Is it good to talk about getting other girls with a girl you're trying to game?No, that's mean. Alluding to other girls are trying to get you, however, is way different, especially regarding girls in the past. | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 03:07 AM |
| 3 | Went on a run to the park...Just some advice from a person who used to socialize before he had a cell phone (YEARS AGO)...your brain has the ability to remember a sequence of 10 numbers if you try hard enough. In fact, phone numbers are broken into groups of three and four to make them easier to remember. I still remember some of my best friends' phone numbers by memory. | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 03:02 AM |
| 1 | [FR] 6 - Saturday - The Big night! - MANY openers, MANY sets & MANY closes of all varieties except the preferred type."It was really just for fun & we were both having a ball with it. & continued with it walking around outside all the way up to 15. It was very funny for us & was said like they were Missing out on a great inside joke." I feel this explains not just the random counting opener, but your entire night. You were amusing yourselves, not other people. | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 02:31 AM |
| 6 | I spoke with a girl on a bus.This is not a fail. This is a success. Now, keep at it! | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 01:33 AM |
| 1 | [FR]#6 Went out to try to talk to girls, with some successSay hi to people on the street, constantly, no matter who they are. I've been doing this for about 6 weeks now and it's really easy for me to put a smile on people's faces. I don't even consciously think about doing it anymore. This is what I do (from a FR): I've spent literally everyday over the past month saying hi to dozens of people on the street while I walk to and from the gym. At first I was scared, and I'd only get a reaction half the time, and usually not a positive one. Nowadays, I'm p… | /r/seduction | 22/10/11 04:39 PM |
| 1 | [FR]16: Went out. No results. No worries.Yeap. Ideally, it shouldn't matter, but practically speaking, it still does. | /r/seduction | 22/10/11 04:25 PM |
| 5 | Chateau BullshitI hate to say it man, but you sound like someone who hasn't actually gone out very often. And if you have, you haven't actually interacted with girls very often. AKA, Keyboard Jockey. I welcome avoiceformen to post some field reports demonstrating how the three point advice works, or to stop writing this garbage. | /r/MensRights | 20/10/11 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Any other PUA's keep a "diary" or log book about their experiences?I keep a log book right here by posting on seddit. All my comments and posts, easily accessible anywhere I can get online. | /r/seduction | 20/10/11 05:24 AM |
| 10 | Lost Frame, Think I friend zoned Myself, Failed Miserably.I can't offer any advice. I just wanted to say that it's okay, and don't lose heart. Keep learning and working at it man. | /r/seduction | 20/10/11 04:58 AM |
| 6 | This was just posted on a girl's tumblr. Sedditors take note.PLEASE. Someone comment on what he probably did wrong? Talking too much without any kino? No sexual communication? What do you think? | /r/seduction | 19/10/11 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Interesting Take On When Girls Give Brutal Rejections, Thoughts?It's an interesting article dealing with an advanced topic. However, I'm completely with you. For now, I don't really try too much if someone gives me a cold/mean response. | /r/seduction | 19/10/11 07:26 AM |
| 1 | This coming weekend: Seddit StyleAlso, remember to vote up or down depending on whether you think this is a good post to seddit or not. | /r/seduction | 19/10/11 07:22 AM |
| 1 | DAE feel like Miami is a very tough place to hit on women?I remember that Miami was one of Mystery's favorite places to game. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Short [FR] from a (hopefully) recovering AFCAhhhh, at least you GOT the number back. I did the same exact thing a few nights ago, and my one chance for getting the number has failed. Good FR. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 04:59 AM |
| 4 | Number closed a girl....had a lukewarm text chat...what do. SHE IS AN INNOCENT NICE GIRLI believe you know way too little about her to want a LTR with her. I'm going to take a guess, but I really don't think she's your type. What I think is that you got the attention of a hot girl, which isn't as common a thing for you as you'd like, and because of this, you are putting her on a pedestal (SHE IS AN INNOCENT NICE GIRL) and trying to get something from her prematurely. This sounds familiar to me, because I am an AFC, and have done this a few times in the past myself. The more effort … | /r/seduction | 17/10/11 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Number closed a girl....had a lukewarm text chat...what do. SHE IS AN INNOCENT NICE GIRLWhat do you want with her? | /r/seduction | 17/10/11 06:17 AM |
| 2 | Two questions...Hey man. I am an INFP. However, most people that know me today would never call me an introvert. I would like to say that I have changed permanently, although I still have many introvert qualities. For example, socializing drains me. I need to spend time alone after socializing. Sometimes my family thinks something is wrong when I'm in quiet mode, but the reality is that I just don't want to be speaking all the time. Also, I completely suck at talking when the socializing is unplanned (e.g. my f… | /r/seduction | 17/10/11 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Baby StepsThe text to the dog-walker girl seemed a bit stupid. Firstly, no girl gave you her number at the club, and even if a girl did give you her number, what were you trying to accomplish by texting that? Otherwise, awesome FR man. My last FR, I got upset because so many of my friends are married and all I did during the night was run into married people. Reading your FR has inspired me to make the most of each moment whether or not there are single girls around. | /r/seduction | 17/10/11 02:45 AM |
| 7 | [FR] 10+ Approaches, Zero #-closes. Lessons learned, new rules.Yes! It's pretty amazing. Parroting goes like this: Other person: "I just back from the grocery store." You: "You just got back from the grocery store." Other person: "Yeah, I realized I didn't have any onions." You: "Onions." Other person: "I need them for a a new stir fry recipe I read on Food Network." You: "Food Network." Other person: "You don't know what Food Network is? It's a channel on cable, but they also have a website with great recipes." If you don't think this works, just do it wit… | /r/seduction | 17/10/11 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Going out with "non-community" friends... yay or nay?I find solo sarging to almost be easier precisely because of this. Convincing myself to out solo isn't easy compared to when all my friends are asking me to go out. However, once I'm out, it's much easier to game when nobody is watching compared to when my friends are with me. My next sticking point is to game whenever my friends are with me. I feel I'll need an extra-resilient frame to deal with friends watching me and teasing me if I get blown out. Anyway, I've been practicing for about 6 week… | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 09:20 PM |
| 2 | [FR] 10+ Approaches, Zero #-closes. Lessons learned, new rules.It helps anyone with conversational skills. I read it initially when I was a big introvert (I'm an INFP), and usually was a wallflower at social events. It saved my life. Almost all the things in the book apply to pickup and she even has a chapter on how to attract women/men. David DeAngelo interviewed her once as a part of his series on Double your Dating. One tip I often use is called parroting. When you don't know what to say, just repeat the last few words of what someone said to you. 9/10 t… | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 09:10 PM |
| 1 | I just saw a youtube vid of a guy touching a thousand pair of boobs. FML.I never read good info about the backstory. What I believe he did was go around asking random girls in Russia if he could touch their breasts as a part of a video. I don't think this has much to do with seduction. | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 06:43 PM |
| 1 | I just saw a youtube vid of a guy touching a thousand pair of boobs. FML.I never read good info about the backstory. What I believe he did was go around asking random girls in Russia if he could touch their breasts as a part of a video. I don't think this has anything to do with seduction. | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 06:42 PM |
| 2 | [FR] 10+ Approaches, Zero #-closes. Lessons learned, new rules.To improve your conversation skills, I would strongly suggest you read "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. It's a really easy quick read and super effective at improving your conversation skills. | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 06:04 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop fracturing Seddit into multiple subs. UNITY!!There are over 32,000 (and growing) sedditors. I don't think it's necessary to eliminate subseddits. In fact, I would support more sedditors subscribing to the other subseddits rather than locking them up and forcing it all into one place. Reddit is not a zero sum game, it's a buffet. | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 12:28 AM |
| 5 | [FR] Does anybody else notice this about being the on introduced to a group of friends?I think this one is relatively easy to explain. Before you were just another guy at the party who were all probably friends of the host. Later, you were a guy who is clearly good friends with one of the few girls there. Your value went up. | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Using Height to your AdvantageNo, it stands for practicing PUA. I am the first to admit that I am an AFC. Read the sidebar link: http://www.reddit.com/r/sedditupgrade/comments/ldcs9/want_your_flair/ . | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 11:00 PM |
| 1 | I think I might be a douche..Your confidence/cockiness is great. However, it seems like you should work on your humor and general bantering. | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Using Height to your AdvantageI got it because I post field reports. I have posted 15 field reports over the past 6 weeks, and I'm proud of it. Post some yourself and you will get the flair too! | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Tips for Holiday game?A wise man once told me, "If you can be yourself in front of your parents, you can pretty much be yourself in front of anyone." Can you be the same person in front of your parents that you are when you are gaming? | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Just got a girl's number, AND FML.Yeah, I know. This is simply one more mistake that is getting ironed out in this whole learning process. Anyway, I'm going to message the friend soon. | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Rejection is not as bad as you thinkI am talking about sarging.... When I have a piss poor state trying to get outcomes, rejections sting, and I come off feeling like something is wrong with me. When I am exhilarated to the point where nobody can get me down and I just want others to share in my joy, rejections just bounce off of me, and I come off feeling like something is wrong with the other person (maybe they're just not having a good night or something). | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 10:00 PM |
| 10 | Using Height to your AdvantageHey Mr. Tall Man, go for the tall girls. It's hard for them to find a man who's taller than them. They REALLY want you! | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Day game questions: How to game two girls in one place? and response to "I have a boyfriend." (read sidebar but need something clarified.)A few FR's ago when I asked a girl for her number after talking to her for a few minutes, she said, "Hey, I have a boyfriend." Without a pause, I literally said, "Hey, thank you!" She said, "Nice...You joking, right?" And I flat out said, "No, I'm being completely serious right now. It's really nice of you to not let me waste my time. Stuff like that's happened to me in the past with girls not as honest as you. Does your friend have a boyfriend?" She said, "Umm, I don't know. Usually guys get an… | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 09:15 AM |
| 2 | How I Beat the Friend ZoneTime to change the player, not the game. This is an awesome quote. | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 08:49 AM |
| 1 | Rejection is not as bad as you thinkI think rejection can hurt a lot and can hurt very little. If I am trying to qualify myself by getting positive reactions out of people, I know I am setting myself up to fail and hurt badly if things don't work out. However, if I have a solid frame, are completely happy without needing anyone or anything, and go and get rejected, it's more like a "huh?" than a "OMG I suck at life". | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 01:23 AM |
| 3 | NEWBIES READ THIS - IOIs & IODs, Qualification, and more!Yes it has. You just haven't noticed. Which is exciting, right?! Keep your eyes and ears perceptive. | /r/seduction | 14/10/11 05:10 PM |
| 0 | NEWBIES READ THIS - IOIs & IODs, Qualification, and more!I would suggest adding lip curling and smiling without the eyes as IODs. | /r/seduction | 14/10/11 05:09 PM |
| 2 | [FR] From OkCupid to my bed, here's how I did it (with pictures)Dude, not cool. Take her picture down. Now. | /r/seduction | 14/10/11 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Girls touching your ass?Several nights ago, I was shooting the shit with a random dude at a bar. A girl touched his ass as she walked past him. I said, "Dude, go for it!". He said, "No man, she has a boyfriend." I said, "Then she's the one who's going to get into trouble. Tap her ass!" Empowered by my words, she walked by and he tapped her butt. She looked back and smiled flirtily. He said, "Dude, you have changed my world." I don't know if anything more came of it, but to me, a girl touching you like that is as overt … | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 03:44 PM |
| 1 | What are your mental tricks for fighting AA?Outcome independence. Make your goal the approach, not whether or not people react positively to it. Imagine the worst blowout possible and understand that even that is only temporary. | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 06:04 AM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit, what is the best way to accept compliments?Thank you! I know exactly what to say from now on. I really needed this. You rock. | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 06:00 AM |
| 1 | I want to know where YOU go to meet people/women.Not that relevant for college, but here's a go: bars, farmer's markets, grocery stores, and shopping malls. | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Don't let alcohol become your crutch.Bantering with drunk people when you're sober is like playing dodgeball with toddlers. You get an extra 1-3 seconds of reaction time with drunk people. Source: My own experience in the field. | /r/seduction | 13/10/11 03:48 AM |
| 2 | How can I break the ice with a girl in my college class?I can't believe nobody has said this yet. You need to interact with her, but more importantly her friend. Don't ask her out the way you wrote out. That can come across as being creepy as fuck unless maybe you are super hot. Introducing yourself, asking them what they think of the class, and talking about upcoming homework/exams is good stuff to start with. Once you've won her friend over, tell her that you think her friend is cute, and hope that she's okay with it. She will be your best wingwoma… | /r/seduction | 12/10/11 05:03 AM |
| 1 | New in town, 27 years old guy, right next to a college campus. Honestly, how do I meet people without being creepy?Go to bars. Drink water. When you're at a bar, everyone is over 21, and there you go. Also, try going to grocery stores during the mornings on weekends. The people there are usually families and yuppies who have their shit together (i.e. not college kids). | /r/seduction | 12/10/11 04:46 AM |
| 2 | Hey Seddit, what is the best way to accept compliments?Help me please. Her: You're really good at the saxophone (happens all the time). What do I say? | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 11:59 PM |
| 5 | Do you think looking/acting a bit douchey helps?Depends on the context. | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Real Love. How to Always be Happy. Love and Give.I know. It's amazing how simple and correct he is. | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Real Love. How to Always be Happy. Love and Give.Just fixed it, thanks! The second link is personally my favorite. | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 09:18 PM |
| 6 | Real Love. How to Always be Happy. Love and Give.It is a bit confusing, but for me, letting go of outcomes determining my happiness seems to work at keeping more happy and successful. It may not be relevant for everyone. I just wanted to share with everyone else what has helped me. | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 07:10 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I was the Chodiest of ChodesSome say that sarcasn is the lowest form of wit. An eaxample from literally 10 minutes ago: i accidentally sxanned my walgreens discount card when entering the gym. The front desk people said, "Hey yuj accidentally scanned your walgreens card.". I immediately said, "oh, do I get a discount?" this is witty in my opinion because it was a quick reaction, situational. The other day i took a girl out to a great hidden taco shop. I asked her how she liked he tacos and she said, "well they're almost go… | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 06:18 PM |
| 1 | give it another shot?No problem man. Keep it up! When you do call, make sure you have a good reason for not going out, such as realizing you were pretty tired, or forgetting about some work you had to complete, etc. It could even be, "Hey, I really didn't like going out the other night, unless I was going see you. But when you said you said you were at (that club), I was like, ugh, I can't stand that place. I hope you had fun though!" | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Hey Seddit. Can I have some specifics on kino?Vin DiCarlo's escalation ladder has it all mapped out. Google it. | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 06:19 AM |
| 1 | My opinion on Seduction Material.Also try: http://krauserpua.com/ | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 05:07 AM |
| 2 | What to do when being "followed" around a bar by a girl?No, be a bit more gracious. She's your friend's roommate. If you see her, be polite and say hi, introduce her to your friends, but don't act like anything more than friends. If she doesn't clue in, you should take her aside (hey, I want to talk to you for a second) and tell her that you had fun the other night albeit also a bit embarrassed, because you might have had too much to drink. Tell her that you don't like to upset anyone, but you're not really looking for anything more than to be friend… | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 05:00 AM |
| 1 | My opinion on Seduction Material.Well, if you have something better, please post it. I found the blog someone pointed to me a few weeks ago: http://krauserpua.com/ | /r/seduction | 11/10/11 04:55 AM |
| 1 | My opinion on Seduction Material.Simple Pickup: http://www.youtube.com/user/SimplePickup | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 11:10 PM |
| 1 | FR[15]: In a rut. =/Thanks for the positive feedback mate. You are 100% correct. I went out with the attitude of: "Okay Sillymallard, you have gone out 14 times by yourself. Tonight is night 15, so you can do this tonight and get the woman you want." It doesn't work that way. I can't force anything to happen. I have to play the cards I am dealt. I was focused on getting outcomes instead of having a good time and bringing happiness to others. What happens if I end up in a room full of married people, or grannies, or… | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 10:42 PM |
| 1 | My opinion on Seduction Material.In field videos mostly, but also seminar videos. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 07:47 PM |
| 1 | My opinion on Seduction Material.Both, but especially the in field videos. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 07:44 PM |
| 6 | give it another shot?"hi how are you?, i didnt went out at all yesterday. are we going to meet today?" Awful text. I know, because I have done this over and over again before realizing it doesn't work. Bad grammar, and you guys are going to meet??? Why are you meeting, and what are you meeting for? Meeting to share ice cream, to talk about her ex, have sex, or just a fun time? Texting to simply meet can weird a girl out for this reason. Breakdown: You invited her out, she declined. She counteroffered. Awesome. It's … | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 04:46 PM |
| 2 | What to do when being "followed" around a bar by a girl?Avoiding people/problems/situations is generally immature. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 04:30 PM |
| 1 | I understand that kino works wonders. But WHY does it work?Spot on. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 04:25 PM |
| 5 | My opinion on Seduction Material.I disagree with you. With youtube and other video programs out there it's a lot easier to soak up what works and what doesn't and replicate it in the field. I used to read a lot of PUA stuff before youtube existed, and I'll tell you, reading the stuff didn't really help me that much, but watching videos of it have made a much bigger difference and have made it easier for me to go into the field. Of course, there is nothing more productive than being in the field. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 04:20 PM |
| 1 | FR[15]: In a rut. =/Interesting. I'll keep this in mind. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 03:47 PM |
| 2 | What to do if your not White or Black?I thought it was impossible to date white girls because of my ethnic background, not Indian, but close to it. Then I discovered Matador. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 06:27 AM |
| 8 | Shattering Bitch ShieldsPlowing has worked for me, but not as well as I would like it to. That is, start a soliloquy that lasts for 30-60 seconds about anything. If there are other people in the group, direct it to them and ignore her. I usually will just talk about what I'm doing that night, how my day/week has been, etc. At some point she'll realize you aren't phased by her negative vibes and realize that you're a bit different on the inside than many other guys, that you don't need her approval to be 100% happy. She… | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 05:18 AM |
| 2 | Indecisive friend-zoning?I "dealt" with my girl by ignoring her and meeting more women. Here is the post: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ka7ob/day_3_kino_frustration_comment_on_this_please/. You might find the comments to be helpful. I don't really care about what happens with her anymore; she's off my radar. We'll still randomly text/Facebook sometimes, but after taking a step back I really don't know what I want from her, aside from being friends. Honestly, I don't want to play games with anyone for no rea… | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 05:03 AM |
| 2 | [FR] I was the Chodiest of Chodesrepeating back part of what he says Parroting. Great work. Did you try doing this when you couldn't keep the conversation going with the girls? nobody laughed at my jokes. People tend not to get that I’m joking sometimes, but that night was the worst. It sounds like you are using a sarcastic type of humor, which can often be taken the wrong way. Witty humor works a lot better in my experience. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 04:58 AM |
| 5 | I understand that kino works wonders. But WHY does it work?All mammals like to be touched by their own kind in some sense in the right context. Cats, dogs, horses, lions, monkeys, rats, racoons, squirrels, deer, dolphins, elephants, etc. This is especially true regarding mothers and their children. Other types of animals generally don't do as much of the touchy-feely stuff as mammals do. It's good to be a mammal =D | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 04:42 AM |
| 3 | Indecisive friend-zoning?I did something similar with a girl a few weeks ago. It seems like she wants to keep you as an option and is living up to her quote of "being too controlling and stuff". You were letting her call the plays, just like me. Don't waste your time with her until you know what you are doing and don't care about the outcome with this girl. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 03:56 AM |
| 1 | FR[15]: In a rut. =/You're completely right. I was trying to get something last night instead of giving something and being outcome independent. | /r/seduction | 10/10/11 03:50 AM |
| 1 | FR[15]: In a rut. =/Thanks. I needed this. For the record, I didn't really ditch my friends to sarge. They're all married or cohabiting, so getting them to stay out past 10PM is like pulling wisdom teeth. I should have been honest though, and said something like, "Well, I'm going to hit the bars! See you later." However, you're right, and my next sticking point is to game in front of my friends, something I should have done at the bar we were at. What scares me is getting rejected in front of my friends and me losi… | /r/seduction | 09/10/11 09:20 PM |
| 2 | FR[15]: In a rut. =/Thanks man. We will improve with slow incremental progress. | /r/seduction | 09/10/11 09:07 PM |
| 1 | FR[15]: In a rut. =/This is exactly the type of advice I am looking for. Go for easier girls first. So simple and obvious, but not something I would have thought about as an explicit next baby step. I'm good at dancing, but not good at dance game. I think part of my rut is not mixing up the variety of venues for practicing. I'm going to try more daytime game and dance clubs in the future. I'm also going to start taking salsa classes. | /r/seduction | 09/10/11 09:05 PM |
| 1 | FR[14]: A couple easy e-mail closes. Mediocre night.You're 100% correct. I'm an AFC. I will do this. | /r/seduction | 08/10/11 06:19 PM |
| 7 | 19f here. Seddit, how can I be more approachable?Easiest, and most effect thing: SMILE, look happy, and make eye contact. Guys will smile back and many will say hi to you. You are gold. Girls who grew up not looking like a model and later learned to be beautiful and confident by far have the best personalities compared to girls who have been told they were princesses and spoiled from the day they were born. | /r/seduction | 08/10/11 06:16 PM |
| 2 | [FR] My first REAL Field Report: Nothing Amazing but damn proud of myself.Good job. | /r/seduction | 08/10/11 08:08 AM |
| 2 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleAwesome. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 03:23 PM |
| 3 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleHow experienced are you at seducing straight women? Probably not very much. That's my point. I believe your blog would be much more useful if it were targeted to straight women trying to attract straight men, because you are clearly an expert at that. Regardless, I think your blog is interesting as far as getting into the mind of a girl that is sexually aware. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 08:08 AM |
| 1 | what do you do when all of your friends are better looking and have more game than you?If they are your friends, have you tried having a one-on-one conversation with one of them? If they are really your friends, they will help you! I told one of my buddies a while back that I wasn't good with women, and needed his help (he's a natural). He was flattered, and said he was going to help me. Since then, he's my go-to person when I don't know what to do next with a girl. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 06:52 AM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Posted: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l2qwp/my_default_face_the_mischievousselfamusing_grin/ | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 06:19 AM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Posted: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l2qwp/my_default_face_the_mischievousselfamusing_grin/ | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 06:18 AM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Posted: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l2qwp/my_default_face_the_mischievousselfamusing_grin/ | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 06:18 AM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Posted: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l2qwp/my_default_face_the_mischievousselfamusing_grin/ | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 06:18 AM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Posted: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l2qwp/my_default_face_the_mischievousselfamusing_grin/ | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 06:18 AM |
| 1 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleWe will not agree on this. We're not umpires. Our opinions and judgement matter jack shit when it comes to pickup. The umpire/judgement in pickup is if what you are doing works or not, in real life. I am saying that I will always doubt a good batter's advice on how to be a good pitcher MUCH MORE than a good pitcher's advice on how to be a good pitcher. You may think it is unfair or bigoted, but I believe and know it to be right and in line with common sense. Now you can have the last word, for r… | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 05:49 AM |
| 2 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleI don't know why he brought it up either. The blog seems to be interesting, and not really a seduction advice column for guys written by a girl. However, I do resent it when people misconstrue seduction principles as sexism. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 05:28 AM |
| 1 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleAre you agreeing or disagreeing with me? I know I said you could have the last word, but this seddit post is relevant to your comment: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/l00tf/i_have_missed_more_than_9000_shots_in_my_career_i/ . | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 05:21 AM |
| 2 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleI'm saying that a professional pitcher with a proven track record can probably give much better advice to a person who also wants to be a better pitcher than a professional batter who doesn't pitch. You might not like it, and I don't think we'll agree on this. You can have the last word. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 05:14 AM |
| 1 | I feel like shit but I've got a plan, reducing AA is one of my first goal, advices may be needed.Turn head (not your body) Say: "Hey! How're you doing today?" This has worked for me an a semi-daily basis of at least getting a smile or a "Hi!". Source: I say hi to people everyday walking to and from the gym, which translates to saying hi to about 300+ random strangers over the past month. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 04:26 AM |
| 3 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleI wasn't refuting anything. I think the blog is interesting. I was clarifying internetbound's statement (which could easily be misconstrued as sexism): That the probability of her advice being good regarding male seduction, given that she is a straight woman on the receiving end of male seduction, is lower than advice coming from men who are good with seducing women in general. In short, it's probably better to spend time on blogs that demonstrate approaches that tend to work with hundreds of al… | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Unexpected advice from a female friendI believe the line is very clear. If she's dating a friend of yours, she is off limits. If she's dating someone you don't know or aren't friends with, it's fair game. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Playing the 'strong, silent, and mysterious' typeThis will generally not work. | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 02:56 AM |
| 7 | A new blog about sex and seduction, written from the perspective of a young femaleNot because she is a woman, but because women are generally on the receiving end of male seduction. Getting advice from women on how to seduce is usually a relatively more unhelpful thing. Notable exceptions are women who seduce other women. I, a man, would hesitate to write a blog for women on how to attract men, because I only know what works for me as a receiver of female seduction. I don't know what works for all different sorts of men in general, because I don't practice seducing men. I wou… | /r/seduction | 06/10/11 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Losing the gameHey 57579, I am in a PhD program, and I know how you feel. School is toxic for my game and anxiety levels...you know, the whole talking to professors thing and them telling you 100 reasons of why it won't work and you feeling like shit for not thinking of those things in the first place. Or what about getting 20/100 on exams, consistently? How about feeling guilty for going out on the weekends instead of studying/researching? Yep. I feel you. It's not just the program, I realized, but the people… | /r/seduction | 05/10/11 03:43 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Sorry, I've been very busy with work, but it IS on my to-do list, I'll make another post when I find some good pics and also post it here. | /r/seduction | 02/10/11 07:38 PM |
| 9 | [FR] First time at a club after being introduced to seddit and seduction.Well done, and props for being safe. | /r/seduction | 01/10/11 09:31 AM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Haha, nice. The guy's face at the end is almost what my default "face" looks like. Maybe a little less overt, and not from the side, but straight on. Then when I see someone, I smile genuinely, but not too quickly. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 08:31 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Hey!!! I was just thinking to myself what to say during the PM hours while I was walking back to the gym. I usually say "Good Morning" in the morning. "Good Day" seems like it'll work. Thanks man. I'll try it out. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 07:49 PM |
| 3 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Thanks man. Sometimes, not last night, but sometimes keep in my head the 2/3-1/3 rule if I catch myself talking too much. That is, keep her talking for 2/3 of the interaction. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 05:53 PM |
| 2 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Thanks man. I like your advice. I am getting to the point that when I get a negative reaction from someone, I just shrug it off as them being weird or they've just been having a bad day/night. I believe you come from the last generation of guys in the U.S. that didn't need pickup, because they just learned it from their dads, uncles or friends, or maybe it's a testament to just having more life experience. Either way, my guy friends who are 40+ are generally naturals when it comes to women, and … | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Two ways to deal with people who have limiting beliefsahhh, I see. Good thinking. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 05:18 PM |
| 5 | /r/AskReddit: [The friendzone is] not even a real thing. It's just a scorned dude trying to blame a girl for not liking him, as if she's the one doing something wrong.I've found it's in a girl's nature to not be overt about saying, "I don't want to have a romantic relationship with you.", because she doesn't want to hurt the guy's feelings, but also because she could keep him around as a friend for other things. I agree it's shitty, because the guy is not interested in any sort of friendship with her unless it involves sex, which girls might find shitty in and of itself. All in all, I think honesty and being true with each others' intentions is the best polic… | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Two ways to deal with people who have limiting beliefsSpot on advice. Now that school has started, I've identified a couple toxic people that have tripped me up in the past, who I am now spending limited time around. I would like to add one more to your bullets: I don't care what you think. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 04:38 PM |
| 5 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Whoa! Not myself...I'm going to post pics from google images. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 04:05 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Thanks for the link, but I disagree that this would be a relevant tactic for the situation. They were engaged 1-1 and were doing some kino gimmicks the whole time, and there were no grandmas or ugly girls to dance with, nor was it really a dance venue, just a live music venue. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:53 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Hahaha! Almost, but I'd say a little less sarcastic-looking. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:51 PM |
| 8 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Haha! Honestly, even if you're joking, you're probably correct. Talking to the slightly unattractive girl earlier and getting her e-mail was practice for when I talk to a slightly attractive girl and go for her contact info. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:46 PM |
| 4 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Thanks man! | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:45 PM |
| 5 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.I'm going to find some pics for you and everyone else later today. Words only go so far. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:44 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Awesome man! It's really refreshing for me, especially in the morning. After doing it to probably hundreds of people at this point, I find it really easy to shrug it off when people ignore me or react weird. I've found 8-10 feet to be the sweet spot as it allows just enough time for people who haven't made eye contact to look at you and smile or say something. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:43 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.That's a really good point. I should have totally bantered with them! Will do next time I notice PUAs. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:34 PM |
| 1 | FR[13]: The power of saying hi and smiling. Okay night.Haha, yeah probably, but I'm a pretty small guy, so I think I can get away with more than many others, since I'm not as physically intimidating as others (maybe a blessing for being short?). I think what I yelled was something along the lines of, "Hey, it's you again! Clarinet, right?" She heard that I said something, but not a lot of reaction, so I walked up closer to her and said the same thing and she looked at me and said, "Oh! Hi! I didn't know who it was." | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 03:33 PM |
| 2 | How did you gain confidence?Don't worry about the outcome of your interaction. | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 08:26 AM |
| 1 | This might not be the best place to ask this and it might seem odd, but just hear me out.....Hey, I didn't mean any of my comment directed at you personally. Part of me just wrote it out to remind myself about how I need to change to get what I strive for in life (I grew up with the Disney based fantasy). My friends are not hicks, but midwesterners who grew up and settled in the midwest. And don't deny that part in you! Be honest with yourself and others. Always remember what your goals are and work towards them. Just the other day a 29-year-old catholic guy posted on how he was using g… | /r/seduction | 29/09/11 07:05 PM |
| 1 | This might not be the best place to ask this and it might seem odd, but just hear me out.....I am here on seddit to get the skills I need to meet the woman of my dreams, have a family, and live happily ever after. It isn't common and it doesn't just happen, as much as Disney would like society to think it is. I've realized it takes hard work, dedication, and unending vigilance. For generation Y, I'd guess that men getting married and having 3 kids by the age of 25 is young. I'd say the normal age to have that as a man would be 30-35 nowadays. The friends I have that do have kids are rel… | /r/seduction | 29/09/11 06:26 AM |
| 1 | From your own experience, is did I fuck this up, or this still salvable?Don't get oneitis man. | /r/seduction | 29/09/11 04:25 AM |
| 3 | 5 minute video on psychological "priming." TL;DW a person makes more positive decisions when they feel warmth.I'm skeptical, not necessarily about the effect but its magnitude. | /r/seduction | 29/09/11 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Need broskis in DCStop being a keyboard jockey and post a fucking field report. You are searching for any reason to not post a FR and have some strong opinions about them, despite NEVER having posted a FR on seddit yourself. No need to tell us everything, just post the stuff you want feedback on. Sorry for the tough love, but I'm trying to help you out. You'll at least be able to track your progress by writing it all down. | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Need broskis in DCI am always the first to admit that I am an AFC. However, ever since I started posting field reports just one month ago, I've seen noticeable improvement. You haven't asked for advice on seddit via a field report yet, so saying that people in real life would help you better than online is a baseless opinion to have. Do you see what I'm saying? Try it out, man. Read my FR[9] and FR[12] for inspiration. While I have yet to get a proper # close or kiss, they are my best nights out yet, which I am u… | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Need broskis in DCYou have all the friends to give you pointers right here on seddit. I don't see any field reports from you in the past 6 months. You will get blown out less if you post what you did to get blown out here and get advice from the pros. I promise to you that by Sunday you will see at least two new field reports from me posted to seddit, however lame they might be, asking for advice. I challenge you to do the same! We'll go out together in spirit! | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what are the songs that go through your head when you're gaming?Good Life by One Republic was what was in my head while I was gaming during my last FR. It might be cheesy and maybe not a pump up song, but it fills me up with vitality, good vibes, and the lyrics really help me put this game stuff into perspective in the grand scheme of things. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZhQOvvV45w | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Need broskis in DCI would recommend going to Adams Morgan. It's literally a buffet of 40 or so bars and clubs there, always packed, and lots of people on the street as well. The environment makes it easy to bounce around really quickly. Try going out solo, and early before it gets to be drunk 'o' clock. | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 04:58 AM |
| 20 | Just wanted to say Thank You!Hey, good job at bouncing back man so quickly. I have a question: I laughed to myself because I had heard this exact story on seddit and kept choosing music until she got a flustered look on her face and sat next to me. What is this exactly? Could you give more detail? I haven't seen this on seddit. | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Is it hard for good looking guys to be creepy?I believe a lot of people on reddit claim that only unattractive people are labeled as creepy, and they are correct in one sense. However, they take this to mean physically attractive, rather than just being attractive and throw hissy fits about it. Examples of why it's not about looks: One girl I know just called a pretty physically attractive acquaintance of ours creepy because of his actions. He is completely ripped and exudes confidence at a surface level. However, in my opinion, he started … | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 04:34 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Abysmal failure at night game. 9 blowouts, and no close.Thank you for the helpful reply! | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Today I cried like a little bitch.I am an AFC, but I am improving. Don't worry about girls. Not yet. Worry about the next step that will ultimately lead you to getting girls. Start out by saying, "Hi!" or "Good morning!" or something similar to people that walk by you on the street. Not just the hot girls, but old ladies with their poodles and homeless guys. Another good first step is to talk to people who are paid to talk to you: salespeople at clothing stores, baristas, bartenders, etc. Don't worry about anything else until yo… | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 06:22 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Abysmal failure at night game. 9 blowouts, and no close.Good to know man. Could you me a bit more detail? What do you say after you say, "I feel you are absolutely stunning." Please give me a little more info about the first 30 seconds of conversation. I really need help with my day game. Much appreciated! | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 06:13 AM |
| 9 | [FR] Abysmal failure at night game. 9 blowouts, and no close.I don't know how experienced you are, but you deserve a lot of credit for approaching for the 9th time after getting blown out 8 times and getting blown out again. QUESTION: You said you daygame a lot; do you find success by being direct in daygame? That is, saying, "You're sexy" or "You're pretty"? I've found the mundane and boring topics to be the best stuff to talk about at the bar as long as you can make it fun/funny. If I can't find something situational, my opener is "Hey! How's your night… | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 05:52 AM |
| 8 | Whoa, I felt cool todayAwesome man! I have one question for you: I just had a warm smile, just walked up without any hesitation whatsoever, and just talked. I know it's not really important, but I'm curious. Can you remember what you said? | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 05:38 AM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man! Maybe it's an overstatement, but I really did feel like I had a superstar in Super Mario Bros. for most of the night. The only points where I felt a little vulnerable was starting out. I was lucky to be aware that the first venue was slowly killing my high and if I hadn't changed venues right away, this FR might have been very different. | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 05:28 AM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks for the kind words. I say I am AFC because I can't be this way consistently yet (e.g. FR[11]), and I am struggling with being more sexual in my interactions, getting numbers, kisses, and dates. But I am improving, and it is definitely noticeable! This was the first night I explicitly asked for a number. I didn't write this in my FR, but when the girl told me she had a bf, I also told her, "That's nice of you." She thought I was joking, but I said, "No I'm being honest with you." And expla… | /r/seduction | 27/09/11 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Trying to figure out what works on an OKC profile. So ar re-wrote first two sections. Any ideas or hints?Perhaps it would be more beneficial for everyone if someone here knew of examples on the internet of good online dating profiles. Does anyone have any sources/examples? | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 11:38 PM |
| 1 | What interesting things can I wear to use as conversation starters?Not something to wear, but as in one of my field reports: If you have play an instrument that is relatively portable, just walk around town carrying it. It's almost guaranteed that people will approach you. | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Am I hopeless? - Introvert w/ AAHi throwaway00m. I am an INFP; I've always been one, and I can understand how you feel. I am also 5'6. However, I know that being introverted doesn't mean you are averse to being social or talking to people. It just means that you prefer a different style of socializing, such as one-on-one conversations with people at the side of the room, rather than being the center of attention in the middle of the bar. You probably are not at 100% with socializing when it's unplanned, but are perfectly fine … | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 07:57 PM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man. I still have problems picking up women, talking to them, and attracting them, but I shall improve. | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 04:09 PM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man. Let's both keep doing it, keep doing it, keep doing it. I must admit that it's still a little scary initially to go out, but once I'm actually out, it IS becoming easier. | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 04:08 PM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man. There is a tradeoff between approach anxiety and wittiness when it comes to drinking. If you can control your nerves and approach, making funny banter is like shooting fish in a barrel. Everyone else you're talking to is temporarily handicapped. I did have a couple drinks at the second bar, but this was to fit in more than to calm myself down. At the third bar and fourth club, all I had was water. I feel like I was almost ripping off the places since there was no cover, I was enjoyin… | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 04:06 PM |
| 1 | On approachesIt might feel a bit rude, but interrupting on a cold approach isn't bad. What's bad is constantly interrupting someone when you are already conversing with them. I've discovered two ways to get around the three second rule: Open a set that you don't care about first, such as a group of guys. Then open up the set you first noticed. The other way is to disappear for a while and go to another part of the bar and get a drink, use the bathroom, or banter with other people. This sort of resets the clo… | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 06:21 AM |
| 2 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man! | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Kind of [FR]ish - Demoralized, help me start from scratch? [x-post, r/uniseddit]This is literally what I have done for many of my openings: I walk chest out, shoulders back, usually drink in hand holding at a level below my belt. Humans are animals, and the one thing you never do is approach an animal head on or rear on. Walk as if you are walking past the group with a slight smile (think of being self-content with life), and slow down/stop, turn your head but not your entire body towards them, look them in the eye, smile a little more (with your eyes), and to one of them s… | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 04:27 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Where did I go wrong?It seems like you followed her lead. I know, because I'm an AFC and did the same thing a few weeks ago and wasn't able to escalate. She also seems a bit nuts. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 10:32 PM |
| 2 | FR[12]: Invincible.Yeah, it could have been complete BS, but they were visiting from out of town for a few days and it was their last night, so it could have been the truth. Either way, it made me feel 10 times better than just leaving the set on a bad vibe. Learning to not take negative reactions personally is a big step for me. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 09:47 PM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.? Are you being sarcastic or honest? It's difficult to tell with typed sentences. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 09:37 PM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.She was acting moody all day. They drank a lot the night before, and she ended up getting completely hammered. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Kind of [FR]ish - Demoralized, help me start from scratch? [x-post, r/uniseddit]Engage the whole group of girls. Win the entire group. If you can tell the girl is compliant, be manly and honest: Tell her friends in front of the girl (and maybe your arm over her shoulder), "Hey, I have to admit, I'm getting a little crush on your friend, is that okay with you all?" Chances are if you have won the group over, and the girl is into you, you'll actually get her friends to cheer YOU on and the girl will not feel embarrassed to go have fun with you since all of her friends approve… | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 08:54 PM |
| 1 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man! | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 08:36 PM |
| 3 | FR[12]: Invincible.Thanks man! I have to admit, I did get some strange looks from people a couple times, and this is when I didn't believe in myself 100% (trying to get a reaction instead of not giving a fuck how people reacted). A bit more detail about how I made it work: I walk with a little pep in my step with a slight self-amusing and curious warm grin, look people in the eyes, clap a couple times, launch my fists into the air as high they'll go and yell, "You're going to kill it tonight!" and never stop my wa… | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Travellers & AA-sufferers! "If you have a problem, find a beautiful woman to help solve it. If you see a beautiful woman, find a problem she can help you solve."Good reports. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 06:25 PM |
| 1 | How to build comfort?I believe simple normal conversation is comfort building. If she asks you about your work or family, reassure her and answer honestly, but don't be boring. My problem is I build comfort before attraction. I am AFC. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 04:13 AM |
| 1 | [FR] - First time solo at bar.Well done. Keep it up! I've noticed that in groups of people, there is usually one or two people who are the happy-go-lucky types and probably the ones that got their friends out in the first place. Acknowledge everyone in the group, but banter with the high-energy ones, befriend them, and everyone else in the group may feel compelled to join in your awesome interaction. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 02:19 AM |
| 5 | Girl sat beside me in class. Does this mean anything? (x-post from r/UniSeddit)You are overthinking this. | /r/seduction | 23/09/11 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Men, you should aspire to be this kind of guy:Most of the OP's replies are childish. Just ignore and focus on something more worthwhile. | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 07:28 AM |
| 3 | Read my worst rejection stories and then realize that rejection doesn't matter, folks.I like that channel a lot to boost my confidence and get a laugh, but it's difficult for me to learn from them, because they do a lot of editing and cutting of the approaches. | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 07:20 AM |
| 4 | Read my worst rejection stories and then realize that rejection doesn't matter, folks.Nice post. While we're on topic. Does anyone have links to videos of pickupartists getting blown? I'd like to see how they react to it. | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 04:19 AM |
| 2 | FR 10 & 11Awesome!!! You inspire me. | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Men, you should aspire to be this kind of guy:Hey, well, let me be clear about one thing. I don't think you're shit; I just think your post is. I don't think we're going to see eye to eye on this. | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 03:20 AM |
| 0 | Men, you should aspire to be this kind of guy:The OP isn't telling you who you should be. OP's title says: Men, you should aspire to be this kind of guy: Anyway, you can have the last word. | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 03:04 AM |
| 0 | Men, you should aspire to be this kind of guy:Sure, be your best self. Be honest, in shape, confident, stylish, sexy, loving, etc. However, I would say a big part of being your best self is NOT allowing anyone, especially women, any say over who you should be. I subscribed to the Disney mentality for 10 years, thinking that if I was a nice guy and did what women said they wanted, it would get me laid. Real life doesn't work that way, and the OP annoys me for trying to bring this inane shit to seduction. I'm an AFC, and am usually polite, bu… | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 02:56 AM |
| 0 | Men, you should aspire to be this kind of guy:I want Jessica Alba. That is the kind of girl I want! You should aspire to be that kind of woman. Seriously though, what is this post about and how does it relate to seduction? | /r/seduction | 22/09/11 12:01 AM |
| 1 | How do I become more comfortable with my sexuality?I'm generalizing here, but if you can swing it, try to go Latin America, preferably for a longer period of time, such as for language immersion, study abroad, volunteering, interning, or even finding work. Latin girls and guys are masters of physical, sexual affection. If that's not possible, try getting in with the Mexican/Latino community in the U.S. | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 04:26 PM |
| 1 | FR[10]: Sunday daytime. Feels good to sarge. I am rusty.These are really good videos! I just watched a few of them, and they are exactly what I need. Thanks!!! | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 06:41 AM |
| 3 | I'm terrible at women. Help?I have no idea what to talk about. Read, "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. That book saved my life. | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 05:24 AM |
| 2 | FR[10]: Sunday daytime. Feels good to sarge. I am rusty.I still have approach anxiety of course, but the idea that I'm going to go out by myself to the bars or wherever doesn't make my stomach turn that much anymore. I can't always be at 100%; sometimes I do feel like shit and have to go through steps to get myself into state. I completely agree with you. Thanks for all your advice. I truly appreciate it. I will keep posting like you said! | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 04:13 PM |
| 13 | How do I get guys like you to approach me?Smile. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 06:22 AM |
| 1 | The Toxic 10-ScaleThis is bullshit. Everyone knows a 10 when they see one, whether it's a girl or a guy. Everyone knows hot girls who have been hit on their entire life react differently than ugly girls. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 06:14 AM |
| 1 | FR[10]: Sunday daytime. Feels good to sarge. I am rusty.Thanks man. Nice to meet you too. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 04:18 AM |
| -1 | Help with a single manDon't make yourself the guy who cold approaches girls. Make yourself the guy who cold approaches everyone. Don't try to jump into conversation right away. Baby steps. Make it easy for yourself. Start with saying, "Hi!" or "Good morning!" or "How's it going?" to everyone. I literally say hi to everyone I cross paths with nowadays. I say hi to at least 20-30 random strangers everyday. A few "regulars" even say hi to me first now. At first, people thought I was weird, but I realize it's because I s… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 01:05 AM |
| 2 | FR[10]: Sunday daytime. Feels good to sarge. I am rusty.Thanks man! I forgot that it had to be cold approaches. To make up, I'm going to shoot for six next time I'm in the field. ;-) Yes, sarging doesn't make me nervous anymore, now it just makes me feel good combined with a little bit of annoyance/frustration. But I shall improve. Thanks for your support. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How do I talk to a girl passing by?Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I did go through with your challenge. I will take your advice for more engaging questions. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 05:50 PM |
| 1 | FR[10]: Sunday daytime. Feels good to sarge. I am rusty.Yes. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Need Some Tips escalating out of LJBF zone..Well, she seems into you to some degree. Just don't get oneitis. The pros will have some good advice for you. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 09:50 AM |
| 1 | I have hairy arms...how can I be cool when girls start shit testing me about it?Just throwing something out there, not necessarily for OP, but I use the Norelco bodygroom all over on a long setting once a week. It keeps a natural look without anything looking too unruly. | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, how do I stop these thoughts?No, I am not, but I have been there a couple times in the past. I'm not going to lie, Hyderabad is rough. I'm not Indian, but close to it. What commitments do you have to your family? | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Getting "In State"Sorry, I meant to say in your car, but not while you're driving just in case you live with roommates who might think you've gone bonkers. | /r/seduction | 18/09/11 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Getting "In State"Haha, thanks man. I write the last point as a disclaimer about my advice: that I'm neither a PUA nor a keyboard jockey, just an AFC working to improve. However, when I go out I certainly believe that I am the coolest guy on Earth. | /r/seduction | 18/09/11 07:33 AM |
| 7 | Getting "In State"Some of my steps: For me, the most important one is to resolve any undone work or other things (e.g. personal conflicts) stressing me out. I try to get everything done and resolved, but often this isn't possible. So I come up with a detailed plan and timeline for how I will finish my work and resolve anything else stressing myself out in life. I also plan my night out: where/when I'm going to go, how many places, whether or not I'm going to drink, and how many sets I want to open. After that, th… | /r/seduction | 18/09/11 05:47 AM |
| 2 | How do I talk to a girl passing by?THIS! This is exactly it. Baby steps. I didn't even think about it! I'm going to ask three girls the time tomorrow. So harmless and so easy. Challenge accepted! Thank you so much. | /r/seduction | 18/09/11 05:28 AM |
| 1 | 15 consecutive days in the field. Some lessons learnedHi. You are awesome. Could you please list the types/variety of venues you've chosen over the past 15 days? | /r/seduction | 18/09/11 05:19 AM |
| 2 | How learning about seduction helped me ace a job interview - and how you can benefit too.to see if their company is good enough for you Golden. | /r/seduction | 16/09/11 10:22 PM |
| 0 | Guys, what the fuck?Don't try to get friends. Try to give your friendship to others. A great way to be a giver is to lead an interesting life, and invite new people to share in your adventures. | /r/seduction | 16/09/11 09:53 PM |
| 27 | [FR] First ever OkCupid date, unexpectedly cute girl, f-close.Dude. Really not cool. I would take down the pics and change some details in your report. | /r/seduction | 16/09/11 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, how do I stop these thoughts?Ooooo. I feel your pain. The only good area around there is with the Gachiboli/Hi-tech city crowd. My suggestion would be to find a way to have a life in Bombers. | /r/seduction | 16/09/11 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, how do I stop these thoughts?Which city in India? | /r/seduction | 16/09/11 02:23 AM |
| 1 | I guess I did something to piss a girl off who I work with, she hasn't spoken to me in two weeks. Won't even make eye contact.Be the mature one, get her attention assertively, and ask her in person why she's ignoring you. If she's mature, she'll say why. If you legitimately did something to cross her, apologize sincerely. Sometimes we are oblivious to how we upset people. But don't apologize automatically, such as in the case she makes up something petty. If on the other hand she chooses to be a brat and not say why, you have the upper hand. Ask your coworkers or HR the same question, "Do you guys know why *** is ignor… | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Are smarter girls harder to game?Hey man, I'm not here to waste time debating. I think you understand my belief that one's education level really doesn't matter as much as other things when gaming girls, smart or stupid, and you don't have to agree with it. | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Are smarter girls harder to game?Yes. Smartness and education are correlated, but some of the most brilliant people I know dropped out of high school. Most programs in education are a signal of smartness albeit not a perfect one, as I know a few morons who are getting PhD's. | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Are smarter girls harder to game?Yes. You are correct that having a PhD will only improve attractiveness. I agree with you. However, I believe the single most important component of quality is to be wanted by many women, which supersedes the importance of wealth and education. I also believe my anecdotes are relevant, because PUAs are outliers compared to the average population. If I wanted to be average and go with the trend, I wouldn't be on seddit. | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 08:25 PM |
| 4 | Are smarter girls harder to game?Absolutely not. I've had this conversation with many girls getting their master's or doctorates. The trend in the U.S. as of last year is that girls are on average more educated than men. One of my friends, HB9.5, who is working on her PhD is on the track to marry a guy who is a chef with only a high school education. Another one of my friends getting a PhD, HB9, was seriously dating a guy with just a bachelor's degree. Finally, another one of my friends who is an M.D./PhD, HB10, told me about h… | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 04:49 PM |
| 2 | HB9 I was going to meet found out I had a picture of her in my office, suggestions please.Dude. OMG. Never again. | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 08:01 AM |
| 3 | AFC or bad luck?I've learned to not say "date" when you invite someone out. In the future, ask the girl to hang out. | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 07:57 AM |
| 2 | [FR] k-closed HB8 viet/american girl within 3 hoursAwesome FR man. Just curious. How old are you and how old is she (approximately)? | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 06:46 AM |
| 1 | My greatest fear as a PUAIs this necessarily a bad thing? | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 06:39 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Faced my AA fear and opened first set in daygame!YES! This is awesome! Keep it up! | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 06:34 AM |
| 18 | Are smarter girls harder to game?I am a PhD student in an extremely competitive program at a prestigious university and interact with many "smarter girls". I feel that many, but not all, of the smarter girls have missed out on the sexual passion that normal girls experience and crave it just as much as anyone else. Some of them might as well be retards when it comes to dating/sex due to their lack of experience. It doesn't matter what you scored on the GRE or how educated you are. From my observations, smarter girls are perfect… | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 06:27 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Great night, venue changed set, #close a modelYou inspire me. Have an upboat. | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 06:05 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Great night, venue changed set, #close a modelNice FR man! I am curious. How tall/attractive are you? | /r/seduction | 15/09/11 12:17 AM |
| 10 | Started Chatting with a girl, she said she wanted to meet up and SNL...but wimped out right at the last second! What did I do wrong?? Here is the chat log.This is exactly the reason for seddit. Cogent analysis so we don't make such mistakes in the future. Props to OP for putting himself out there for criticism. | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 08:27 PM |
| 1 | How do I overcome my fear of meeting girls?My personal AFC steps: Step one: Say hi to everyone on the street. The first few may look at you weird or ignore you, but eventually someone will say hi. Keep doing this until you learn to reduce the number of bad reactions as much as possible. Step two: Have 10-20 second conversations with people who are paid to talk to you such as sales clerks and baristas. Step three: Say hi and start conversations with older people, especially older women. Grandmas and moms love to talk to young lads. Step f… | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 04:56 PM |
| 1 | [FR2] First time in the lower east sideGreat field report. You learned stuff and a got a #. Good job! | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Flaky girl. How to get her to call back?I would disagree with the meeting of friends as the first date. I agree with having "attraction" being the sole reason for meeting up. I'll come up with a better plan! | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Flaky girl. How to get her to call back?I did have a "secret" place for a coffee date setup, and I refused to give her any details about it in a joking way. The last voicemail I left was a simple "call me back when you're free". So, do I call again, or what? I will be more assertive though, thanks. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:44 PM |
| 3 | FR 5-7Awww. You are a good guy. I don't know what to say about #1 other than good job. Maybe you could find her on Facebook and listen to what the pro's here have to say about that? Regarding #2, bus stops are super romantic. Sometimes people don't realize they are wearing sunglasses...I hate talking to people when they wear sunglasses, because I can't really tell what they're saying or relate to them as well. Regarding #3, you could have said, "Hey, well it was fun. We should chat again. What's you'r… | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 05:03 AM |
| 3 | Use this material for good, not evil.From what I have read and heard, the reason is often a result of not qualifying your girl enough before you get down. That is, making her feel special and awesome. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Flaky girl. How to get her to call back?Thanks. Will do, and I just edited this one. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 02:58 AM |
| 10 | Afraid of putting myself in the friendzoneThat was a baller typo. | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Make me make the best of a new life.I've come to realize that the first 3 months are the BEST months. You can literally go up to anyone, introduce yourself, ask them about random stuff around town, be the cool outsider, etc. all because you are new. I am terrible at meeting women, because I am an AFC. However, I've started sarging now, and being new to town is the greatest reason to go out alone. If anyone asks you what your deal is, you say you are new to town, and you are trying to make friends. That's honorable, adorable, and p… | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Is the end-goal of seduction to acquire the best long-term partner?EXACTLY. | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Is the end-goal of seduction to acquire the best long-term partner?It is for me. I want the Disney happily ever after life with the woman of my dreams. The only thing is, I've realized that the way to get this is completely different from anything that mainstream entertainment teaches. It just doesn't "happen". | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 07:49 AM |
| 8 | Make me make the best of a new life.I am expert at building a life from scratch as I've done it 6 times in the past 10 years. Outside of work do three social activities: Something physical, something artistic, and something for the community. When someone invites you to something, never decline it for any reason, because if you do, you might never ever get invited by them again. Go out of your way to accept their friendship. Get the local city paper that lists events happening around town, whether they are talks, dance classes, co… | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 07:29 AM |
| 1 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Thanks man! I think the closes are indispensable for becoming whole, but to get them as if you're winning points in some kind of video game never appealed to me, because whenever I try it from this perspective, I fail. If I like a girl, I want to be 100% honest with myself and her, but in the manly way, not the AFC way. Life is so much simpler when you're honest. I'm here because I want to be able to get her number, kiss her, date her, sleep with her, and above all else "leave her in a better st… | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 01:11 AM |
| 1 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Thanks man! Best of luck to you. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 11:31 PM |
| 5 | Virgin HB6 with heart of goldleave women better than you've found them I like this, a lot. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 08:19 PM |
| 1 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Do whatever works for you man. I chose to go out early and come home before midnight, which is part of the reason why I chose to go out sober. On Friday, I went out and got tipsy, which was a great time too! If you haven't already, I do recommend trying it sober just to see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:35 PM |
| 2 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Thanks man! For me, it takes 20-30 minutes for me to get my mind off of anything that is distracting or worrying me. This is true not just for PUA, but for doing work, exercising, reading, and anything else I need to put my mind to. One thing that has always helped me when I feel kind of down is I say to myself, "Well, let's get ready first and then see how you feel, SillyMallard. If you are still really feeling like shit after getting decked out, you don't have to go." So I get in the shower, b… | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:26 PM |
| 2 | FR[9]: Elated with life.For me it is definitely harder to control my nerves without alcohol, but do you know what is awesome about going out sober? Your banter is guaranteed to be at least twice as quick and witty as anyone who is slightly inebriated. It's almost unfair! Like playing dodge ball with people who can't run. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 05:06 PM |
| 1 | [FR]First TimerImpressive first attempt! | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 07:54 AM |
| 2 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Thanks man! I really appreciate you reading through it and commenting. It keeps me going! | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 07:47 AM |
| 2 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Thanks man! I think we miss a lot of what used to make us happy by living in modern society. This is my 9th field report. I'd never sarged solo in my life until a few weeks ago. I will keep improving. | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 07:33 AM |
| 2 | Best way to leave when you've been shot down by a girl, or group of?Nod "Well, have a great night!" | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 06:12 PM |
| 10 | Thank you all for your help and support, but I've decided to become a recluse.You didn't need to make a post in order to leave. You are not leaving. You just want attention and help improve yourself. I encourage you to stay and keep trying! | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 04:38 PM |
| 4 | Need desperate help. (Don't know how to flirt)You're not being very nice. I am open about being an AFC and am on seddit to improve myself, and there is really no need to attack me directly. If you have a constructive comment on my comment, I would appreciate that. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 04:22 PM |
| 7 | What's your luck with a very direct approach?My opinion is that honesty is the best policy. Life is so much simpler and happier that way. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Here's what a little grooming did for me, sedditors (3 year gap, pre-game vs post-game)FUCK YEAH. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 05:34 AM |
| 5 | Story of bizarre fickleness. What do I do women?? I don't understand!That is not bizarre. She re-kindled a former relationship. Get over your oneitis man. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 04:46 AM |
| 1 | New opener; completely boring and normal, but works.Haha, that's awesome! You should just introduce yourself as that instead of your first name. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 03:44 AM |
| 4 | Need desperate help. (Don't know how to flirt)Flirt: Be funny. Bonus if you can make it about her or the two of you. When she asks you a question, wait 3 seconds and try to come up with a funny answer, or ask her a question back. Touching: Only touch her shoulder, grab her arm, poke her, hug her etc. during or right after she laughs/smiles, and make sure to let go after a couple seconds and it's guaranteed to not be creepy. If she allows you to keep your hand on her arm or elsewhere, make sure you move your hand around and don't just keep i… | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 03:30 AM |
| 24 | Two Revelations: On sunglasses and being too availableI hate talking to people when they're wearing sunglasses, because it blocks out a bunch of their personality in communication. | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 12:38 AM |
| 4 | New opener; completely boring and normal, but works.Now that you mention it, I guess I don't just say, "Hi, my name is Sillymallard." When I have nothing else to say, it usually goes like this: "Hey what's up!" "How's your night going?" 20-30 seconds of what I'm doing currently at the moment (waiting for a friend, celebrating something, etc.). "My name is Sillymallard." Stick hand out for handshake. "What are your names." Yesterday I tapped a girl on the shoulder at a coffee shop yesterday while she was sitting with her family, and did this routi… | /r/seduction | 07/09/11 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Gave a guy my number, he texted, and then nothing.. What now?Once I didn't really get it with a girl that she was into me. She said, "So when are we going on a date!?". And then I asked her out on a date, she said yes, and everything was cool! Sometimes us guys just don't get it and need your help. | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 10:33 PM |
| 2 | I am a beta... Will I ever be able to build my confidence and shine like everyone else?Do you excel at anything? Are you good at math, or reading, a kind of sport, playing a musical instrument, computer games, cards, monopoly, anything?? Chances are that you are good at something in life, and in that environment you ARE alpha. Think about that for a second, and realize that you can become alpha in any other part of your life if you work at it. There is no shortcut for hard work. Some people have inherent talent at certain things than others, but if you work at anything hard enough… | /r/seduction | 06/09/11 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Have you done direct approach game? What do you think of this opener and dialogue?Boring and normal, but it works: Either make eye contact, or if they are facing away from me tap them on the shoulder twice and say, "Hi. What's up! My name is Sillymallard (holds out hand for shake far enough into their space that they have to shake)" Then I unwarrentedly say about 20-30 seconds of what I'm doing currently. If they are interested, they'll ask me some mundane question. Otherwise I'll ask them what they are doing, where they are from, what they are drinking, etc. I come from a fr… | /r/seduction | 05/09/11 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Answers to "What is your major/what do you study?"When she guesses, look at her with a curious smile and say, "Hmmm, interesting." Don't just flat up answer questions factually as if it were an interview. | /r/seduction | 05/09/11 07:36 PM |
| 2 | RSD Tim on vocal tonality; This is crucial for all game.Seriously, just try this on your friends to see how it works. Try the building rapport one, and then try the breaking rapport one, and see the difference. | /r/seduction | 05/09/11 04:56 PM |
| 4 | What the fuck is wrong with me?Nothing is wrong with you. What makes you different is that you are trying to become a part of the top echelon of the male sex, unlike most or all of your guy friends. I am an AFC. I'll let the pros offer you real advice. | /r/seduction | 05/09/11 05:56 AM |
| 10 | I hate "The Game" but (seemingly) have to play it to get what I want. Any advice?I can't really help you, because I am an AFC. However, I am a very emotional person. When I love someone, I love them to death, e.g. especially my mom and siblings. I said somewhere else that I am an INFP, a super dreamy-world emotional kind of personality that craves tonnes of emotion. But let's be honest with ourselves for a second. Do you masturbate to porn? If yes, then you get physically attracted to people before having an emotional connection to them, just like every other guy on the plan… | /r/seduction | 05/09/11 04:54 AM |
| 9 | Sudden Realization - not sure what to call this...Is anyone else utterly confused? I read through the post and comments, and I still don't get it, and I feel like I'm missing out on something really important. Help me please, somebody. | /r/seduction | 05/09/11 03:46 AM |
| 2 | FR[8]: Building an AA Immunity and making bar staff your friends.Thanks! | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 08:16 PM |
| 1 | FR[8]: Building an AA Immunity and making bar staff your friends.Thanks! | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 08:16 PM |
| 2 | FR[8]: Building an AA Immunity and making bar staff your friends.Thank yoU! I'm not quick enough yet. I'm usually 5-10 seconds behind where I should be. I recognized all these missed opportunities just a tad too late. I'm not at the 15 minute conversation #-closing phase yet, but that 's the next step. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 08:15 PM |
| 3 | The importance of frameOkay, gotcha. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 06:26 PM |
| 1 | FR[8]: Building an AA Immunity and making bar staff your friends.I agree with you, and when I was younger, and tried this pua stuff at parties I would follow this advice, sometimes even waiting until girls asked me for my name. However, I always felt it to be unnatural for me. Ive gotten into the habit of asking names at the start and then reintroducing myself after a few minutes, maybe twice and even asking for their names once more before I leave. I know it's even "wrong" to go and get a drink first before approaching. But I'm trying to be a little sloppy, … | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 04:51 PM |
| 1 | The importance of frameI disagree with your opinion. I believe it is good to have a coherent, stable personality, but it is much better to have general knowledge and experience about everything, from celebrity gossip to evolutionary biology, and be a modern renaissance man of some sort. The whole avatar thing is good, but I don't believe the point of it is to pigeonhole yourself to one identity. I believe it's meant to project a coherent one. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 08:04 AM |
| 2 | FR[7]: No prep, no results. I need one question answered please.Hey, I just wanted to thank you. I didn't get to use it explicitly tonight, but hearing from you that it's 100% cool to approach even-balanced sets empowered me to do just that. I will keep this in my back pocket when I need it. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 07:50 AM |
| 5 | How often do you get offered a guys chick friend?Having a good friend is a rare thing. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 03:37 AM |
| 1 | FR[7]: No prep, no results. I need one question answered please.Yes. I know. I know it works, but it doesn't work for me. I just can't genuinely pull off the, "Hey nice nails, are they real?" thing. But I have my own way that works for me. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 02:21 AM |
| 2 | FR[7]: No prep, no results. I need one question answered please.Haha. Yeah, but what I like about your way, is that you're not being overtly mean. I hate negging, amoging, jockeying for value, etc. You are being humorously naive and friendly, and striking when opportunity reveals itself. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 01:45 AM |
| 1 | FR[7]: No prep, no results. I need one question answered please.THANK YOU. This is totally my style after all. THANK YOU. | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 01:37 AM |
| 1 | FR[7]: No prep, no results. I need one question answered please.That's pretty cool. It's not really my style, but I will use this tonight and see what happens. Can you give me some of your standard answers to the possibilities? That is, what do I say if the girl says "Yes, he's mine." "No, he's not." "Uhhh?" . Also what would you say if the guy says "Yes, she's mine." "No, she's not." or "Uhhh?". Not that I need to have a contingent plan for every situation...I don't memorize any lines or use canned material when I go out. I just want to know how you spin th… | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 01:27 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Brought HB6 home and dropped the ball.AFC here, but on the couch I would have started a pillow fight. | /r/seduction | 02/09/11 10:28 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond to date-breakers/cancelers?Assume she's telling you the truth. Call her and tell her to get well soon, at least. That's what any decent person would do. I don't know what to do beyond this, because I'm an AFC. | /r/seduction | 02/09/11 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Balding SedditorsThey are really kind folks over there. They'll fix you up great! | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 08:51 PM |
| 3 | second date, she wants to meet up with her friends and go to a movieI have been here before, and it has gone miserably. Don't be a zoo animal. With me, an AFC, it's always been the girl's friends that say something which instills doubt in the girl whether or not you're good enough, when by herself she would have been enthralled with you. | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Balding SedditorsTry going to /r/malehairadvice . Whatever cards you are dealt in the hair department, you can either make yourself look ugly or make yourself look dapper. If losing hair bothers you THAT much, you can always save up for a hair transplant, which costs a few thousand dollars on average. I am balding, so I just keep my hair shorter, and it works for now. | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Fraternity or no?In college, my non-fraternity friends and I made up our own ridiculous informal fraternity, poking fun at all the other fraternities. Try this out and have fun with it! No house of course, but it was kind of fun to say I was in a secret fraternity that I couldn't talk about, etc., and yet at the same time not be a frat boy. In retrospect, I also feel that fraternities are underrated at the moment. There are some really good ones that have an environment of service, educational excellence, and ma… | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 03:03 PM |
| 1 | I can usually approach anyone on the street but not women i like, Help!Seduction is another ball game. THIS. I am quite deft at striking up conversation with anyone about anything. However, I am quite inept at seduction, but I'm working on it! | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Overweight sedditorsI disagree: looks do matter, and they matter to everyone. I have heard that it is far easier to lose weight than it is to ratchet up one's game to a point where being overweight doesn't is not an obstacle. I am 30 pounds overweight, and I am committed to losing it all by V day next year. | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 12:12 AM |
| 1 | What to do when your values are incompatible with your family values: Be a man and admit it!That's really heartening. Thanks for sharing! | /r/seduction | 01/09/11 12:01 AM |
| 7 | For Newbs: Eye Contact With Everyone Is A Confidence BoostYou know what's even better? Saying "Hi!" "What's up?" "Good morning!" etc. Not aggressive, not shy, but full of fun and energy. Not to every girl, but to EVERYONE! | /r/seduction | 26/08/11 07:27 AM |
| 2 | How do you improve game/seduction skills if you're in a monogamous relationship?From the naturals I've seen, mostly my friends' dads really, is that they never stop flirting, even if they are in a serious relationship, even if they are married. It's okay to look; it's okay to flirt. Also David DeAngelo often has said that many of his raves come from married men who bring game into their failing marriages with great success. | /r/seduction | 26/08/11 05:45 AM |
| 0 | The game blog Roissy In DC was a big influence in my decision to learn game. I'm wondering if anyone else here has read him and would like to hear your thoughts.From what I know, he seemed to be a fringe thinker in terms of seduction. Some of his advice was opposite what most other artists would advise. I have not read his more recent material. | /r/seduction | 26/08/11 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Evaluate your gameSelf motivated - Can you make yourself feel good on demand? I need help with this one. Can anyone point me to some good resources? | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Everyone's probably seen this, but this is still GOLD to me!Thank you! | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 09:28 PM |
| 3 | How do you go out alone?Hey, great work man. Could you import more detail as to how you accomplished this (or post a field report if you haven't already done so). | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 05:39 PM |
| 1 | The biggest thing that helped my gameI am out right now trying to day game and I can't get my shit together. I attribute part of this to lack of sleep last night and no excercise this morning. Ive lost my rage shield dammit. Trying to see if a little beer and coffee can shake me into state.... | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 01:05 AM |
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