For those who didn't read it, I managed to encounter a very unique person who has superb advice when it comes to women, but also to life in general. This is relationship advice, not pickup advice. I talk about love in this post. However virtually everything this man says is pickup advice applied to relationships, and his advice, at least to me, is spot on. After following his advice, my ex came back to me, apologized and made it up to me in a really big way, and has fallen for me even harder. We literally can't stop laughing, making out, and having a great time whenever we're alone together, 7 months into the relationship. Pretty fucking awesome if you ask me. Some stories of how I've applied his knowledge to improve my relationship are in the comments. Here is the original post: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r381m/advice_from_an_experienced_natural_68_year_old/ . I apologize for the wall of text, but part of this is written for myself so that I don't forget what he told me.

A Yes-Yes Relationship:

If you are lucky, you have a mother, father, or both who are always there for you, and who you are always there for. The relationships you have with your closest family members are some of the most precious things in the world. With your mom, it doesn't matter if she was the one who called you last. It doesn't matter if she paid for dinner. It doesn't matter if you haven't heard from her in a long time. You can pick up the phone and you don't even think about the possibility that she might ditch you. There is no tit-for-tat in the closest, dearest relationships you have in your life. This yes-yes relationship is what you need to build if you want your relationship to be full of fun and love.

A Yes-No Relationship:
Most relationships you have are yes-no relationships. Not just with romantic partners, but with friends, coworkers, etc. Yes-No means you have to give something to get something. You have to give money to get the gardner to mow your lawn. You have to invite people to your party in order to get them to invite you to theirs. You have to sacrifice something in order for them to sacrifice something. You count the number of times she calls you to see if it is equal to or above the number of times you call her. She'll only give you sex if you do XYZ. You have to buy her dinner, take her on dates, etc. to make her happy. You have to be together on every trip all the time, because you get nervous when she's not with you, don't trust her love for you, are co-dependent, etc. The friends and family who would never hesitate to help you in times of need are generally yes-yes friends.

Building a Yes-Yes relationship:

If you got seriously injured, and had to spend a lot of time in the hospital, would your mom drop everything and come to help you? If she was truly an awesome mom, she would. What about your friends? What about your girlfriend? Wife? People who are in Yes-No marriages are the ones who end up unhappy in the long-run and ditch the relationship when things aren't fine and dandy, they find someone better, or aren't willing to put up with it anymore. He told me, that the more experienced a woman is, the better she is at knowing who is capable of being a yes-yes guy. Less experienced younger women need to be shown this in a more gradual way, because they haven't been frustrated enough yet by all the yes-no guys out there.

What you have to do is work on yourself, and show you are a yes-yes capable person. You can't control anyone but yourself. If you want your life and the world to change, change yourself. If it's meant to happen, it will happen, and you have to be okay with things not working out. Love keeps on growing in a yes-yes relationship, but maintaining this let-go attitude gets even harder as the years go by. He said that maintaining this attitude is the hardest thing he's ever had to do and it gets even harder as every year passes by.

Here are a list of things he's said to me in a somewhat random order regarding working on yourself: Be aware of your emotions, and also being in control of them. If someone is angry at you, don't just get angry back at them. Figure out why the person is angry, determine if you did something to cause it, and apologize/make up for it if you're at fault. If the person is just being a bitch, don't react and add fuel to the fire. Stay calm, and let the negativity wear itself out. It takes two people to fight. Know what you want in life and don't allow anyone to stop you from getting it. Enjoy the ride to getting it, otherwise you'll waste your life.

Final Words:

All relationships start out as yes-no. A woman won't trust you yet the way she trusts her parents until a long time. She WILL try to see if she can get stuff out of you and see if you are a yes-no guy. This is part of being a woman, to see if the man she is with, is a man, or just a boy. If you show her that you are willing to be spineless to her wishes, react emotionally when something comes up, etc., she will keep pushing you towards the yes-no relationship. Some women are perfectly happy being in a yes-no relationship, where they act like a bitch calling all the shots, and the guy is a puppy dog. This happens the other way as well, with the woman being pushed around. There are, however, many women who crave pure, unbridled love. The women who want a yes-yes relationship with a yes-yes man. The problem, is that, they're a rare breed. Women want to settle with men, not boys. They end up settling with boys, because they can't find a man, and a lot of them don't live as happily as they wish they could.

TLDR: Advice on how to build a good relationship full of love.