Principles when dating and gaming?

frogma · 2011-11-28T20:32:39+00:00

Getting LMR twice doesn't really mean much. I have a fuck buddy who still gives me LMR before every single time we have sex, even when we both know for a fact that it's gonna happen. There's a few other semi-fuck buddies who do the same thing. I have a feeling you're dealing with the same sort of thing.

It's basically your choice of how honest you want to be about it (with both girls). I mean with the first one, you sort of have a history so what I would do is not even mention it to her. With this other girl, you don't really owe her shit and you're still basing your actions on the potential of shit happening. So if shit doesn't end up happening, you've potentially ruined your chances with the first girl- meanwhile, you haven't done much with her anyway, so what do even owe her? It really depends on your morals, but in my mind the fact that you're still questioning that relationship means it's not solid or anything, which means you should be dating around just for your own sake. If this girl for whatever reason thinks it's exclusive, but isn't allowing more intimate shit, that's her problem, not yours. If she was an actual girlfriend (even in an open relationship) I'd say something different, but since she's not, the "rules" are different. On the other hand of course, being brutally honest is sometimes really attractive, and it lets her know you've got preselection. I'd say it's up to you, but I personally wouldn't tell either girl about the situation because you don't have a serious-enough relationship with either of them.

sch3ct3r · 2011-11-29T01:24:53+00:00

1 and 2 sound horrible, as in dont say anything until asked. just my 2 cents.

ge99 · 2011-11-28T22:14:02+00:00

4 . Don't say anything until asked.

I was in the exact same scenario you were a couple of months ago and regret every second I spent farting around with my potential LTR. My LTR's kill count ( girls who seemed interested but I had to cutoff contact ) got up to 4 or 5. That's a lot of potential for a meaningful connection destroyed.

My mindset is now LTR's just happen naturally. You both are attracted and want to see/sex each other often. So busy having a blast with one girl that the rest of the details of exclusivity and girlfriend statuses work themselves out.

I sincerely think that the linking of sex and morality is an outdated concept. If you give your word to somebody and break that promise that's unethical and makes you a liar. However if you have sex with two girls in the same week that just makes you human.

drumdance · 2011-11-28T23:05:01+00:00

I never mention other girls unless asked. Ironically I'm in a similar situation but I finally broke through LTRs LMR last week. That said, though we talked about exclusivity, our only agreement was that we be honest with each other. I'm about to go out of town and she's worried I'll pick up a girl on the road. Which might happen. I didn't say that, but she made me promise I'd tell her if I hooked up with someone else.

Title	Principles when dating and gaming?
Author	sillymallard
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	November 28, 2011 7:56 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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