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The Real Truth About The No Contact Rule [EXPLAINED]

JinTheUnleashed

March 3, 2019

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Title	The Real Truth About The No Contact Rule [EXPLAINED]
Author	JinTheUnleashed
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	March 3, 2019 4:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/awqe0v/the_real_truth_about_the_no_contact_rule_explained/
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[–]NormalFemale 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

I have to comment on this video. I found it very interesting. I am a woman, but I am a mathematically inclined woman. I don't know how I turned out that way but I am, always have been.

So, here's the thing. I just learned how to deal with my gfs better bc of this video! Funny, right. Actually, no, bc I could never figure out WTF I said that was so wrong. I have lost close gfs bc of my analytical thinking and it has been a LIFETIME problem of mine.

I would pose a very solid analytical argument or simply say NO, then they would freak! And I'm sitting here scratching my head how it went south so quickly. And then to make matters worse, I would contact them the next day or two and the fireworks would still be going on. So, thank you! I know now to strictly not contact them for 7 days.

Although, I don't agree with the closing argument about being unfaithful. Really good monogamous relationships do exist in this world.

[–]JinTheUnleashed[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Now with your girlfriends if their your friends maybe you don't have to be so extreme. BUT I do agree at the end of the day if someone mistreats us or spazzes out in a manner you felt was unnecessary, I definitely think the best option is some space for you to cool off. On both ends. Or if you really want to swallow your pride for the sake of the moment, change their emotions and not their words.

A girl could damn near be ready to kill you but if you start making her laugh or changing her mind to other lighter things that's a great talent.

When my shortie and I both lost our pops around the same time, we leaned on each other for support the whole time. It would be tough as hell, but anytime one of us was upset, the other did a great job at just changing the subject or talking about something funny or something we wanted to look forward to. And I'll always love her for what she did for me in my times of weakness. Regardless of whatever the future held.

Women can be incredible when it comes to that. Only certain women though. Some bitches crazy and selfish as shit and the moment you stub your toe nail their damn near ready to haul ass to the next shiny object LOL. 😂😭💯

Thank you, I really dig your responses to our threads. We try to put our heart and balls on the line because tbh, a lot of coaches play it safe as hell and it makes me want to gag. We need more realness and down to earth on this forum.

Usually some women can give some pretty lame insight (especially involving anything that possibly makes them look less moral) but you actually seem to have an awesome ability to self-ascess situations and put your ego aside. I respect that a lot love. Much respecc 🔥💯

Hell, you're less butt hurt over my "harsh" delivery than most of the men in this thread. It's pretty astonishing actually. Brush ya shoulders off kid.

[–]NormalFemale 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]JinTheUnleashed[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Those aren't the people I want. I respect your opinion love, you have a great mind. 🔥💯

But I know of child molesters that can smile and act nice. What does that even mean?

That means nothing to me as someone who spent 25 years in the streets of NYC and have seen time and time against people with the biggest smiles, hiding the biggest knife behind their back.

I didn't spend my whole life as an Asian kid in the inner city, dealing with bullshit and fighting to prove who I am and my identity every day of my life

Only to come up on camera and act like someone I'm not. What is even the point then love?

Authenticity is the true currency to me. I don't need to act fake to win people over. I'll win in the end on my own merit, and if I fail..

Then I will die letting my son know his father never folded to anybody or to anybody's will on how he should be as a man.

I will never sacrifice my life's work and art to satisfy someone else's comfort levels who never put in a day of struggle in my shoes.

Never.

[P.S. I do like the beeps lol. 😂]

[–]NormalFemale 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]Ultra-Pulse 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

I watched 80% of the video, I have a difficult time looking past 'the bitches' and all the 'fucking motherfuckers' in there. (Edit; I'm no prude, but I am no fucking motherfucker either.)

I get your general point to not lean in to drama, but I also disagree with the 'do not have contact for a week'.

My opinion is that if you are a true alpha male, you don't have to invent 'rules to deal with situations'.

Stay calm, express your stance and keep living your life. Keep involving her, stay who you are. It will be her choice to come along or not. Treat your partner as an equal, not as a child, it is not an healthy dynamic for a relationship.

I am a bit turned off by all the self-proclaimed alpha male behavior and 'acting as alpha-male' preaching going on. True alpha males will not 'act' anything like that. They are who they are and won't be bothered by all PUA-cult like nonsense.

If one 'acts' like an alpha male, he will only attract girls with issues to begin with, or maybe for a short period genuinely alpha females, but they'll see right through it in no time.

P.s.; No idea where that 'I look good in red' comment came from, but good for you.

Edit; some grammar.

[–]JinTheUnleashed[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You claim that because I curse I must not be a pleasant person and you can't handle listening. Which is fair enough, you're free to enjoy whatever content you'd like.

But in my opinion, that is an extremely naive way to go about the world. In my opinion to truly learn and progress you need to learn from people of all backgrounds and creeds. Even if I don't necessarily like how they deliver it.

But even more so, it's extremely naive to think someone is unpleasant as a person because they curse. There are people out there who are pleasant as can be and will smile with everyone, but are actually child molesters. But because they can play fake-nice no one will ever know.

Do you know how vulnerable that makes you to deception?

That may seem like an extreme example but it really isn't, much more evil in this world has been committed under the guise of positive politically correct language. The ramifications of using safe language to deceive and cover evil is at an all time high in this society.

Gary V is a famous business person and cusses a lot when he expresses himself and there are also people who dislike listening to him and feel he's unpleasant because of that.

So what should he do? Abandon being authentic and himself for the sake of middle America?

Ludicrous.

Gary V is from New York City. That's how we talk here. Where I'm from, nice words and fake smiles aren't enough to get you a pass. Your energy/intent and actions play much more of a bigger role here. Appearing nice on paper is just that; on paper.

We just started our channel/podcast this summer and since then, I've already had multiple dating coaches smile in my face, leave nice comments. Then turn around and steal titles/thumbnails and do all kinds of shady shit. And I'm not even a big channel. Yknow what all those coaches have in common?

Their all the ones that act fake nice on camera and don't show the real them.

Also it's funny. I'm so unpleasant yet I don't see any other coach on this reddit responding to you like this, down to earth, on some man to man shit. 🔥💯

They just drop their fake nice videos and dip off into neverneverland. If you disagreed they would probably just suck up to you to prevent any static to their brand. They care more about how they look and their brand then delivering their 100% truth.

They would rather let guys run into the wall instead of warning them about it because they don't want to be the bad guy to bring up something negative and hurt their brand.

Regardless of whether we agree or not one thing you cannot say, is that I'm not 100% putting my heart and balls on the line in everything I do.

Go ahead and prefer whatever fake smiley guy goes up there and plays in the middle safe, so he doesn't ruffle feathers. Trust me their a dime a dozen.

But I guarantee you, do that enough times in life and trust me, you will find a pile of snakes in your backyard by the end of the day.

Meanwhile that guy you thought was "mean" on the exterior could be the most stand up person out of all of them.

I never mentioned "alpha male" Nor do I subscribe to the notion in fact I even have a video called there is no such thing as an alpha male because I think all that shit is goofy as hell.

https://youtu.be/ldsWkMnra9M

Mainly because of the amount of inherent negative shit that is associated with being alpha like eating red meat/drinking/imposing your will onto others/being a dickhead is completely awful and unhealthy to young boys. I particularly take issue on a personal level because I grew up in the hood and I've seen firsthand how that overly-macho conditioning literally gets young men killed.

Meanwhile other aspects of manhood like helping others and being a giver are not seen as the poster child to masculinity; or "being alpha"

That's my biggest problem there. 🔥

Oh yeah it's real alpha eating red steaks and beer until you get prostate cancer at 50 and have to stare your family on your deathbed way too early, because you thought eating vegetables was for "pussies"

Ultimately,

It's not about spitefully ignoring someone for the week to be a bad ass but understanding that when someone hurts you. You need to let them know what's wrong calmly as well as give yourself space not just for her but for yourself

Dating relationships can be some of the easiest to become abused in because of the powerful romantic emotions. Its important to have discipline in what you surround yourself with and level of tolerance you have for negativity.

[–]Ultra-Pulse 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Honestly dude, since I received this message just before bed, I was tired by the wall of text before I even started.

But, I've read it all, and I understand your point of view. I am too tired to make it long, but your reference to Gary V and the fact you got this whole message across without cussing, kind of defeats your own point. I don't mind the occasional bad word, but in your video you came across as disrespectful to the subjects and audience of your video.

I am willing to bet you'll reach even more people if you cut back on the cussing a bit.

The paragraph about alpha males is where you really had me. I've been saying alpha males don't exist for a while now. Since you appear to have a similar train of thoughts I was pleasantly surprised you separate yourself from the majority.

However, over time I am inclined to think there is a social pecking order. Which implies an alpha male. But I also think that what the majority of the PUA-community tries to advocate as alpha male, is a phony shell of what a true alpha male is, or should be. And I also think women that are in sync with themselves will in a subconscious level see through fake personalities.

Anywho, like I said I'm tired, have no idea if I make sense.

Do you, have fun!

Edit; thanks for the effort you put in your post. 👍

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