The special oneitis.

Whaddup Guys,

I work at a call center for almost 4 years. I really enjoy my job. I get paid really good and I can mix it well with college. A year ago a new girl joined the team. Typical my type of girl. I had so many IOS from her. She was interested in what type of girls I dated and if I dated. Didn't when too much into it. I decided to ask her out 5 months after she started working. She rejected me and told she was not into dating (Ofc I know it was bullshit). After that, I still saw many IOS.

I tried dating other girls but I have invested so much emotionally in this girl that I constantly keep looking for validation in my mind. Posting a picture with a girl (I did get a reaction from her asking me who this girl was etc switched the subject when she started about it). So after every kind of situation like this, my hope would go up.

How can I forget this girl? Dating other girls is almost impossible for me, because I invested so much that I compare the girls I date with her.

TLDR:

Have invested emotionally so much in one girl that I can't even date other girls.

How can I forget her?

[–]smoothmax 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I did the same thing.

I had invested so much, I was living in a dream world of fantasies about our future together. I was trying to figure out the best way to send "secret admirer" roses on Valentines, and did/thought a lot of other cringey things.

I had no idea that the concept of one-itis even existed until I read "The Game". A couple of other really important books were, "No More Mr. Nice Guy", Nathaniel Branden's "The Six Pillars of Self Esteem", Mark Manson's "Models" and more recently, "The Rational Male" which explains plate-spinning better than most other books.

Note: Neil Strauss said on a blog that the most important book on pickup that anyone can read is Branden's "Self Esteem". Because nothing good will happen in your life until you've gotten over the issues it addresses.

Gradually, over a couple of years I started to notice other HB's in my social circle, started to game HB's that I met, and before I knew it I was spinning plates. My old one-itis dream girl is still in my life ... I'm still deep in the friendzone but I enjoy trying to sexualize interactions in subtle ways, DHV by mentioning my other girl/friends, kino-ing other girls in front of her, and generally acting like there are plenty o' fish. Which there are! Believe me. I grieved a bit over my one-itis then I got over it.

Title	The special oneitis.
Author	HltvFanBoy
Upvotes	2
Comments	1
Date	July 10, 2019 9:21 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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