I’ve had confidence issues for as long as I can remember. I’ve always noticed that I would behave VERY differently around women I was attracted to, which looking back at it now probably means I was adjusting every facet of my personality to please whatever attractive girl who gave me the time of day.

I went through a bad breakup last winter which made me question my self worth harder than I ever had. I eventually found my way on this subreddit. Because of all of this community’s posts and insights, I now have no fear when it comes to talking to a girl I’m attracted to and being 100% genuine and authentic.

A bit of background: I’ve worked as a night club DJ for 4 years now (I’m aware that puts me in a great advantageous position.. I only started taking advantage of it recently). I can spark interest pretty easily and I can usually hook up with around 2-4 girls a night when it’s not my set.

Here’s my problem, I can’t get one to come home with me.. and I can’t figure out why. I know a couple other DJs that can do it with relative ease and I would like to get to that point as well.

The way this social situation is set up is usually the girls have to introduce themselves to me. I’ve become decent at using eye contact, tone of voice, and a confident attitude to spark interest. Then I wait for a good moment to start some kind of physical escalation. Usually I can pick up the signs very well as I haven’t had physical escalation rejected yet.

More often then not, they clearly show signs of wanting to hook up, but I haven’t developed any plans to convince them to finish their night at my place. I usually suggest they come back to my place after a while or physical escalation/hooking up but I keep getting excuses as to why they can’t. So I just get their number or SC instead.

So what can I add, take away, or improve on to get better results when the night is over? Is there any tips you can throw my way? Any help would be appreciated!

TL:DR - can finally get girls’ interest and have had really good success with kino as of late, but I need help accomplishing the final step.. bringing a girl back to my place!