Hi there !

My First post on reddit ! (and not a native english speaker so sorry for the spelling mistakes)

I stumbled accross this video on Youtube and I think anyone that struggle in dating need to watch it. This video won't give you a magical answer to the complicated topic that is dating but it greatly helps to be in the best mindset to tackle it. At least I know it did to me.

It's a fairly long video but there are chapters to help breaking it down. I highly recommend to watch the the whole video tho.

Male Dating & Sex Struggle by Macabre Storytelling

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Edit:

Here is my TL;DW summary, as requested:

If you only want the dating advices of this video, just go straight to chapter 6. Chapters 1 to 5 help set up the importance of those advices.

Chapter 1 to 7 is more focus on dating while the rest deal with masculinity issues.

If anyone comes up with a better summary, post it in the comments please:

Chapter 1 (10 minutes long) defends the purpose of "pickup" but warns about the absurd ideas that can be presented inside the seduction community.

Chapter 2 (15 minutes long) is basically a reality check about the difficulty and the expectations of dating and the mindset that you need to have if you don't want it to mess with your head because of how confusing dating can become.

Chapter 3 (7 minutes long) explains the why the pickup community grew up to what it is today and its appeal to those struggling with dating.

Chapter 4 (7 minutes long) explains where the toxic part of the seduction community, that dehumanize women and hold contempt toward them, comes from.

Chapter 5 (6 minutes long) is a continuation of chapter 4 focusing on the role of traditional and social medias on the growth of the ressentement toward women by the toxic side of the seduction community

CHAPTER 6 (17 minutes long) is the chapter which contains the advices to improve yourself in dating. Most of them have been presented in this sub and should be known by everyone but they are explain in a simple and relatable way, which is very appreciable. My personal advice about getting better at dating would be to follow any tips in line with what is presented in this chapter.

Chapter 7 (8 minutes long) explains the limits of advices in explaining your failed attempts but your failures don't mean that you are a failure or that the other person is a b****. Dating is not a war.

Chapter 8 (10 minutes long) is about the current idea of masculinity and how it harms men and leads them to seeking validation through absurd expectations, especially in dating.

Chapter 9 (11 minutes long) continue the discussion of chapter 8 about masculinity, expend on the current issues and suggest some solutions.

Chapter 10 (10 minutes long) is the story of Vili Fualauu and how it shows the scary way society warps our perception of male abuse.

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TL;DR: Video about why dating is the hardest "game" ever made and why struggling with it is normal and doesn't make you a lesser man, how to deal with it without falling in awful misconceptions about women and what are the problems of current society about gender roles and masculinity.