Tip on how to reduce AA

iliketurtlesdurr · 2015-02-21T03:39:34+00:00

I've been having less AA ever since I've been completely sincere in every respect when I open a girl. Whether I walk up and simply say hi, or compliment her on something I notice, I find that sincerity helps me with AA a lot.

mileshigh_26 · 2015-02-21T04:43:48+00:00

Here's what it really comes down to. As long as you have the ultimate underlying goal of impressing a girl so you can taste sweet success and feel good about yourself, you're going to have a lot of AA. If, instead, you adopt the belief that you're approaching with the explicit goal that you're trying to become completely and utterly comfortable with rejection, you'll get at the root problem.

Iloveyou-Iknow · 2015-02-21T09:00:41+00:00

I used this a lot when starting out.

I carried around a blood donor information form in Finnish and asked cute girls for help in filling it (as if I didn't speak Finnish, or forms didn't come in English) , some questions were hilarious and I developed cocky funny responds to questions girls might ask in this conversation. took a girl who helped me back home within 2 hours once.
took every opportunity to talk to a girl whom my friend liked but was too shy to approach (Hey, my friend likes you), I had a "reason" to talk to her and her friends from a confident high status "protector of my friends" "alpha male" pedestal
took projects where we has to prepare gallup questions and ask strangers. (Obviously I prepared all questions using cocky comedy while staying on topic, and asked every hot girl I saw, on the train I got up walking through cars, asking hot girls to help me out with my class project.) I even got a 6 months long relationship.

Will you keep doing this forever and always carry around a Swedish job application form in order to ask girls to help you fill it? No.

But these help you get a lot of experience quickly (Easily getting into conversations with 40 hot girls in a day and using cocky comedy to create attraction is nothing to sneer at. How many sleazy night club girls can you talk to for more than 5 minutes without having to buy her a drink?...) Besides, when she starts asking questions about you; thats an indicator of interest, so you can change the topic, get sexual, get her phone number or even convince her to go donate blood with you. It requires courage so she'll most likely chicken out but respect you for being brave. If she doesn't seem helpful, friendly, and doesn't want to help you: yeah you got rejected, but didn't really get rejected. See?

After years I am now at a different level and don't need "legitimate reasons" to talk to girls; think Mark Manson - Models. I don't advise beginners to go open girls by telling "I thought you were beautiful I had to come talk to you" because you will lack the inner game, confidence, posture, non neediness, conversation skills, leading abilities and internalized instinct and just come off as a creepy shameless pervert. Try it and you'll see. It is okay for me because I know how to bust her balls, flirt, and get sexual without a hint of hitting on her or courting her by now, thanks to a lot of practice. You won't have to memorize "am I in A3 or C1 now? Did I say the correct routines and lines?" ; you will just "feel" how attracted or not she is to you from her body language, responses, eye contact and the general electricity in the air. BUT none of these come from reading this subreddit, books or memorizing lines: YOU HAVE TO GO OUT AND TALK TO 20 GIRLS A DAY. GEt rejected, get the cops called on you, I don't care. Just approach approach approach and internalize the process. Don't ever think that any of the 1000 girls you can approach in the next 50 days may be your "dream girl" and get any rejection affect you in a bad way, same way a random questions asked by the professor when you were dozing off in class doesn't affect your final grade even if you answer wrong. What you will do is: learn why you were wrong, and be better prepared for the exams.

All the information you get from this subreddit, TRP, books, audiobooks, workshops.. they will have ZERO-NULL-NIL-NO help if you don't put them to use by going out and approaching a lot of women and learning how to use them. You will come here and stalk, comment, make posts, but those of us who approached approached and learned will see through the copy paste Mystery points or Neil Strauss quotes. You don't have the privilege of asking how to beat approach anxiety if you have been reading this material for a month and haven't approached 100 girls yet.

So go out, use sneaky questionnaires, forms, enroll in clingy Greenpeace donation collector gangs, LIE in people's face and say you are conducting a gallup for the government, pretend someone you are not; if it's going to make you approach a lot of women and improve your conversational skills and develop the instincts required to avoid uncomfortable silences, awkward, needy, insecure, desperate, leaning behaviour months or years from now when you meet someone you want to live the rest of your life with.

tl:dr approach no matter how or why.

teh_lux · 2015-02-21T13:21:20+00:00

against approach anxiety always assume attraction and act accordingly...... ? how about that. i just wanted to drop the tripletriple a

Superdry_ · 2015-02-21T10:15:59+00:00

What the hell is AA

cudder17 · 2015-02-21T00:16:09+00:00

I like this. I'll try it out.

immrtlsaij · 2015-02-21T04:54:18+00:00

is wanting to hook up with someone not a legitimate reason to ask "do you wanna hook up?"

Cymry_Cymraeg · 2015-02-21T17:32:48+00:00

I legitimately want to stick my dick in you, what's your name?

mghow · 2015-05-02T15:42:03+00:00

I think this guys approach is a good example of a lack of AA. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZSJACvlIr8

Fentrix · 2015-02-21T00:57:00+00:00

I don't understand, why do you need a legit reason? Women love to talk about themselves so by acting interested, you are doing them a favor, like giving a massage.

Title	Tip on how to reduce AA
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Date	February 21, 2015 12:09 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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