I typically haven't worried about trying to get women to flake less often, because I figured there's nothing I can do about that. Instead, I've just treated it like a numbers game, and figured that if I talk to enough women, 90% could flake and the remaining 10% would still be enough to be getting somewhere.

But lately, I've been feeling like despite chatting up quite a large amount of women and getting a large amount of numbers, I'm still not getting a lot of in-person meetings out of them. So, I figure trying to work on a strategy to reduce flaking is unavoidable at this point.

Any tips for that? I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I totally understand when a girl I didn't get into that interesting a conversation with when I got her number flakes, but the flaking seems totally independent of how interested they seem when I'm talking to them. A girl who seems totally enthusiastic and giddy when I'm talking to them ends up being just as likely to ghost or flake as a girl who seems uninterested or awkward, and sometimes, girls who seem uninterested end up being the ones who actually do end up going on dates with me.

I don't know if the cause could have something to do with how I text. I never text to chat, just to set up dates. I find text-chatting kinda tiresome, because the only way to say anything actually meaningful would require blocks of text much larger than are comfortable to type and read over SMS. I'd rather save actual conversation for being in-person.

I don't know what else it could be. Any pointers?