Trying to overcome AA

iamlickzy · 2018-06-28T02:18:13+00:00

I was much the same way. Always scared of blowing it. Always afraid of coming off as creepy. Always afraid of them telling me to fuck off. After thousands (easily) of approaches I will provide you with the one opener that has NEVER failed me, ever.

If you see a target, approach them (from the side or head on) look them in the eye and say “Hey, I noticed you right away and wanted to see if you’re fun to talk to. I’m (insert name)”.

Married chicks. Lesbians. Girls with boyfriends. No one has after told me off or responded poorly to that introduction. It lets them know you noticed them BUT they need to prove themselves to you that they are fun and interesting enough to talk to.

From there, hold a conversation, tell them you’ve only got a few minutes, build some comfort, snag their digits and set something up for later. Conversely, you could tell them about this awesome restaurant, bar, cafe and invite them to join you but again, set timelines and stick to them. Good luck buddy! 18 years old... you’ve come to the right place.

judahman8 · 2018-06-28T08:33:32+00:00

But to trick your brain into allowing yourself to approach you can do a lot of things. Think of it like a dare. If you pretend you were dared to do it then you won't be worried about her reaction because it doesn't matter, it's just harmless fun. All that matters is you not being a pussy and doing the dare.

Think of it as research. "I wonder what will happen if I walk up and say this to a girl". Now you are just trying to see the results but the results of the experiment and you arn't worried about what they will be because it is no reflection on you as a person, it's just an experiment.

Use your imagination. Imagine not talking to her will result in her death or even your death. When you compare talking to a girl to death it won't seem like a big deal. Pretend you have gone back in time after living your life out as a complete failure of a human being and thia is your last chance to get it right. Your memories of your other future have been erased but the root to why you failed at life was you didn't take enough opportunities to talk to more random girls.

Imagine every girl you talk to will sleep with you 100% if you just talk to them because you have pussy super powers. If you get blown out assume that you will still sleep with her bit your powers have no control over when exactly that will happen, only that it will eventually happen no matter what. You can walk away happy no matter how the interaction goes because you are now guaranteed to get with that girl no matter what.

Also you should remember that every single moment of your life will never happen again. There is no second chance and every opportunity that slips by is gone forever. Just remember all the shit you're gonna wish you did in high school and remember that getting rejected by 100 girls is way better thsn never talking to 100 girls in the first place.

Oh and learn how to lead the conversation so you are more confident as to what you are doind whe actually talking to a random girl. Stay away from the Q&A shit

ReighIB · 2018-06-28T08:28:27+00:00

Crash and burn, brotha. Crash and burn. Your lady skill isn't going to change overnight and imho you have to be willing to go through the shitty and embarrassing times and keep going through it regardless of result.

That's what I did when I went to college. I had like zero skill in talking with girls but I tried because I liked chicks.

Made bunch of mistakes and even had a girl text me I straight up suck lol

To me the AA never go away but the more you think about it, the worse it gets. It's like jumping into a ice bath. Thinking about it isn't going to help, just go dive in because you have to at some point if you want to improve.

You're a decent looking guy who's in great shape, that's already a good start!

The trial and error part sucks a big one but it's actually an important experience to have because when something doesn't work out the way you hoped to work out, how you react to that situation will determine your attitude and outlook of yourself and your life.

I wish I can tell you a more encouraging message but that's what I went through. It wasn't fun, it freakin sucked but I did learn a lot.

The shitty times did kind of make me bitter in a way where if some girl is acting up, I'm more than happy to completely cut her out of my life like she never existed and move on to the next girl.

I was just so done with girls with the entitled mentality of 'prove to me that you're worth it' and to that I just respond 'I just literally met you. I have no idea who you are. Im going to talk to someone else. Excuse me.'

Personally I think talking to girls should be fun and exciting and if im not feeling it with some girl I just go on to the next. Took me a while to realize this and meeting some awesome girls made me realize that girls with certain kind of attitude is just classless and I didn't want to be around those people.

Hopefully you won't have as hard time as I did because I was so clueless hahaha but I did end up meeting some AWESOME girls that changed how I look at women in general and taught me to have some standard to upheld for myself. That was big and those girls made such a positive difference in my life that I can't thank them enough for changing my perspective for the better. That alone was worth all the hard times.

Good luck, don't be too hard on yourself and remember to have some fun in the process. It's just a game after all ;)

lions_of_fitness · 2018-06-28T15:18:58+00:00

I like to call to Exposure Theory. You can use it to over come and fear that you have. The more your exposed to something, the more reps that you take, the less scary it becomes. Because it becomes familiar. Pretty self explanatory. Face your fears to overcome them.

Title	Trying to overcome AA
Author	Falon_22
Upvotes	10
Comments	8
Date	June 28, 2018 1:27 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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