First off, shut the fuck up.. No but seriously, shut up..

So my first time post here long time lurker.. I've been in pickup game for about 7 years. what I'm going to talk about maybe just see if from my prospective..

Wait, you don't know how to see from other people point of view? Better yet, are you even hearing out everything that the other person has to say? Big deal, you understand the "language" but you're not internalizing what they're saying.

7 + years in the game and I gotta say the biggest BIGGEST turn off for girls is when a guy is all about himself and not about her. Now I'm not saying drilling the girl with questions and not even mention one thing about yourself, but you get my point..

Let me ask you something.. You! The one that keeps saying inside yourself "what about me?" Yeah you.. Is your life endangered at this very moment? Is your loved ones endangered at this very moment? Are you about to throw up or shit your pants? Did your appendix burst? (btw I've talked to 2 girls in 3 hours before I was rushed in the hospital when my burst).

Anyways, you get my point.. All you are is this needy dude that wants to get laid and there's nothing wrong with that, but being anxious is. Matter of fact, everyone that you encounter in the pass months, you first TRY to make them see your point of view first oppose to first hearing them out. That's not alpha, alpha is someone that let's his ego sit down and relax.

I want to tell you a little secret, people love to talk! Yup, them. I would throw a number out there and say 85% of the people out there are thinking 95% of the time about themselves, can anyone confirm this? Maybe after, but anyways, people love LOVE <3 times 100 about talking about themselves.

Did you know you could really have a conversation, 2 hour long intellectual conversation with a girl and get this, only saying 10 words the whole time..

Now I know you've read or heard "it's not what you say it's how you say it".. Yes, yes indeed, but WHEN to talk should be re-evaluated.

Okay, let's say you scored a date with this girl and you're really trying to make impression. Let her talk all the way through and what she talked about ask her a question about it, because I bet she's going to start telling you stuff about only her would know. So, be fucking interested. I guarantee if you let her talk all the way through and you start bouncing off interesting question and it could be a little as "how's your day been going", you're going to find yourself into longer, meaningful conversation.

I would only talk about yourself if only she ask you and if anyone is having trouble just listening to your date, meditate for 15 minutes before the date.