Going out with a "10" tonight.. Help lol

itsmevichet · 2013-11-21T21:31:47+00:00

You're not going out with a 10, you're going out with a woman. Get her off that pedestal.
Stop trying to win, and just be the fun guy who got the date in the first place.
Women like excitement and anticipation. If you give off the vibe immediately that you're down to bone and would jump through hoops to do it, it kills the mystery. You become an option, instead of a prize. She should be wondering whether YOU think SHE'S good enough.
Relax. Worst that happens is you go on a shitty date.
Smile. Eye contact. Kino. They do wonders.

lifebeckons101 · 2013-11-22T05:28:42+00:00

Remember that she poops. She poops a lot.

ryan099 · 2013-11-21T22:26:12+00:00

Advice: if a girl doesn't show her body, she's fat. End of story.

mkz212 · 2013-11-22T00:01:38+00:00

Dinner is not conducive to successful first dates, but if it's too late, try to get out of the restaurant right after and spend time at a chill bar or lounge
Remember, you are super interesting and super cool, no matter what she looks like, you're doing her the honor of giving her your time
If you're funny, use that to your advantage
Push and pull to draw attraction; poke at her light heartedly but tread carefully with this if you don't have experience with it
Make her buy one round. You're not a chump. If it's uncomfortable for you to ask her, make it a bet that she will lose and loser has to buy a drink. if you can't think of a good thing to bet on just try this: "You seem like a competitive person. Best of 3 thumb war, loser gets winner a drink." Make sure it takes 5 plays before you get your win so that you can maximize kino.
If things are going well, do another bet and loser gives winner a peck on the cheek. You will be able to kiss her 10 minutes after this if you keep it up.
Smile
You're all love. You don't resent your ex. You don't hate your job.
Find confidence from within. Express it in your body language. If it's not there right now, don't fake it, she'll read through it.

asad16 · 2013-11-22T06:00:38+00:00

bro you got out of a 2 year relationship, any girl thats not your ex will be a 10. relax and have fun.

Merica911 · 2013-11-21T21:41:48+00:00

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ithearrow · 2013-11-21T23:52:32+00:00

Make sure to edit your post after, i want to see how the date will go. We can give you feedback and help you improve from your mistakes :)

joshsway · 2013-11-21T21:06:02+00:00

Relax, and stop thinking of her as a 10. Check out this video I made with common dating mistakes... #2 and #3 are especially applicable to your situation: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiWFpTtT2iE

Basically, don't become a big pussy because she is hot and always escalate, don't fear being rejected. Make eye contact, touch her, go for a kiss, ask her back to your place, etc.

HappyJerk · 2013-11-21T21:38:36+00:00

Honestly, I would just go out with the attitude of "this probably isn't going to lead anywhere, I'm just along for the ride."

bigcug · 2013-11-22T09:47:23+00:00

Don't ever give a random girl a perfect 10. That shit is mom status

wooter69 · 2013-11-21T22:00:23+00:00

How do you get matches on that app? its close to impossible and I live in a big city

zombie_loverboy · 2013-11-21T23:41:02+00:00

Everyone has anxiety. What separates the successful ppl from the ones who choke is how they deal with it.

You are awesome. You are funny, smart, and attractive. She is going to like you. You are excited to get to know her and for her to get to know you.

It's that thought process that helps me. :)

stillcole · 2013-11-22T01:03:42+00:00

Your not going to believe me but...it's super easy.

Step one...take her off the pedestal, is just a woman.

Step two. If you are not a pervert devient psycho murderer than that is half the battle. So there ya go free points my friend.

Last step. Shut up and let her talk. Women love not shutting up. You know That feeling where you feel like you need to start talking to alleviate your own anxiety? Women get that times x3. It never fails to amaze me how much ground I make with a women after an hour of sitting there and just let her vomit words all over me. It's easy to feel like you need to go in there and knock it out of the park but thats not necessary. As hard as it sounds, just go in there and relax and enjoy yourself you will be fine.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes

arsenalfan1010 · 2013-11-24T01:44:43+00:00

idk how many 10's use tinder tbh...dont build this up that much

Royale28 · 2013-11-22T00:55:00+00:00

Read the title, won't read the post. I already know you're setting yourself up for failure. When your title reads: "Random Girl on Tinder, don't know anything about her. This should be interesting" you will have a better time.

donit · 2013-11-22T05:55:56+00:00

I don't see how you're not going to fuck it up, but here's hoping you don't. The best thing you can do is try to forget she's a 10. It's like being on a cliff- don't ever look down because you'll lose your cool. And don't ever tell her. She doesn't know and she doesn't see it, so it's best to keep it to yourself. If you tell her, she'll just think you're lame and easily amazed/amused.

Now the hard part: How the hell are you going to feel/display alpha-ness, attraction, confidence and abundance, knowing that she could crush you like a grape just by walking away? That's just not a viable situation. She's going to quickly get the upper hand, and then she'll probably lose all respect for you and her attraction as well.

To save yourself, you're going to need to use her as bait to gather up several more 9s and 10s as women friends/future prospects, so you'll have the strength and leverage to deal with her as an abundant man who has plenty of options and is in demand, and so there's no question as to who wears the pants in the relationship.

Title	Going out with a "10" tonight.. Help lol
Author	Merica911
Upvotes	12
Comments	25
Date	November 21, 2013 8:58 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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