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| 1 | Has anyone actually ever successfully left the friend zone? If so, how?express your desires before she can friend you, eye contact kino etc. From my experience, its very difficult to get out once your in. Move on to a different girl, not worth the energy to get out if you are say 1 year in being a friend. | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 10:40 AM |
| 1 | The most important thing I've learned over the last couple months.Give it time. What helped me with depression was cognitive behavioral therapy. Purchase or download feeling good. Very powerful life changing book :) | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 04:23 AM |
| -4 | [FR] Confirming Hypergamy - Yet another exampleIts not an example. It could of been her brother, a family relative or even a best friend. Don't judge something you don't know | /r/TheRedPill | 21/04/15 10:15 PM |
| 2 | GF left me for another guy, help me make her regret it...You've built situational confidence as a result of your old job. I reccomend doing your best to build CORE confidence so you can feel unstoppable where ever you go. Core confidence comes from eliminating unrealistic beliefs and expectations. Try Cognitive behavioral therapy, feeling good by David D burns. As for your girlfriend, fuck her. Let her go and realize that the damage is done. Why would you even care about someone who did such an awful thing? Focus on yourself, and do this because this … | /r/seduction | 19/02/15 12:55 AM |
| 1 | I am currently reading "The Power of Eye Contact" by Michael Ellsberg. What are you reading for self-improvevent/ pickup?Models, all ya need bud. | /r/seduction | 10/02/15 11:50 PM |
| 4 | Approach anxiety makes me want to barfTry CBT. Write down your thoughts on a piece of paper, the unrealistic ones and replace them with a realistic thought. Also make sure to write any negative forms of thinking occuring. E.G: Unrealistic thought: I feel like I'm unable to achieve my goals with women as I get butterflies and feel overwhelmed when I see one that I find beautiful and want to approach Negative thinking pattern: Emotional reasoning Realistic thought: There's nothing wrong with being embarassed, nervous or feeling when I… | /r/seduction | 09/02/15 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Need Serious Advice. 20 yr old haven't been laid since i was 18, dealing with depression.See a therapist. Or read a book called feeling good, it provides alot of insightful information that can help you :) | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 05:59 AM |
| 66 | Why are many of us afraid of women?You aren't used to doing it. It gets easier over time just like anything else. Its also because you aren't in the moment and aren't enjoying yourself. A common mindset that helps me when I approach women is to think about only them, and that overthinking, being nervous and being shy is a selfish mindset. I make it about them, not me. Rather than thinking about how you feel about that person, think about how awesome you can make them feel. | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 05:48 AM |
| 26 | what are ways that guys show they seek approval and validation?There's a whole bunch of them, but here's a list of things that I feel we guys do when we want someone's approval of validation We give in order to recieve. Gifts should be given from a place of abundance, love, happiness not from a place of neediness. A gift is one that is given without wanting anything back. For example, if you pay for someone's meal, its not for sex, validation, a kiss or anything that you hope they'll give you, its because you wanted to. Compliments. When doing cold approach… | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Any good books about female sexuality?sex god method | /r/seduction | 06/02/15 03:47 AM |
| 2 | How do I deal with girls getting insulted by my dry sense of humour?become an attractive man, women will find anything that you say funny | /r/seduction | 23/01/15 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Mystery's insight into the three second ruleI honestly find that when i make an INSTANT DECISION to approach the women, rather than say wait a few seconds is better. Approach her the instant you see her and find her attractive. Waiting even 3 seconds makes you nervous. | /r/seduction | 23/01/15 05:06 AM |
| 3 | I am so far behind. I feel completely hopeless, I do not know what to do whatsoever.Focus all your efforts on finding a job, take workshops on resume building, mock interviews and such. Look on youtube. | /r/seduction | 17/01/15 09:13 PM |
| 3 | I am so far behind. I feel completely hopeless, I do not know what to do whatsoever.Work on yourself. Start doing things that make you feel good and proud, try a new musical instrument, work out, read. Do things that make you feel happy and fulfilled, find other things on the e-net. In your case with women, you need to be up front with your intentions tell them how you feel about them. Best of luck | /r/seduction | 17/01/15 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Tips for the ACTUAL DATE itselfDo you ask them on a date using the word date or just say you are meeting up with them | /r/seduction | 16/01/15 02:37 AM |
| 5 | Best learning material other than Models?No point in reading anything after models honestly you get the experience from approaching. Besides, didn't manson tell you that its about improving yourself and attracting quality women, fuck PUA its a dumb art. Honestly I would incorporate manson's teachings and push yourself until you achieve success. no regrets | /r/seduction | 13/01/15 07:38 AM |
| 3 | Best way to respond to a girl saying she is busy/rejecting you via text?I'm sorry to say this, but if she was really interested she would find time for you. Don't make time for people who won't do the same. Not worth it. | /r/seduction | 09/01/15 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Tinder Game number closingnice. | /r/seduction | 06/01/15 05:59 AM |
| 11 | [Discussion] "Models" by Mark Manson is revered on this subreddit to be a key learning tool. I tend to agree. With that said, are there any areas where Manson's framework falls apart?I guess Manson's framework isn't the best when it comes to talking to groups, since his focus on the book seems to be creating strong 1 on 1 connections with a women. But you can still apply his methods, and achieve success in groups just that he dosen't really talk about how to approach women in groups mostly just solo. | /r/seduction | 04/01/15 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Something happened to me that now makes me look at woman differentlyDon't be too hard on yourself, but best of luck next time, i hope you are successful. | /r/seduction | 30/12/14 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Something happened to me that now makes me look at woman differentlyIt dosen't matter, you're making excuses. Always close if you feel attraction and or if you like the girl. | /r/seduction | 30/12/14 09:54 PM |
| 12 | Something happened to me that now makes me look at woman differentlyABC. ALWAYS BE CLOSING. This is such a rare thing to happen, but always close and maybe scheudle a date next time with the girl. you never know the impact someone can have on your life | /r/seduction | 29/12/14 10:24 PM |
| 11 | Do you guys ever see a girl and she just puts a pit in your stomach? What is that?You're just experiencing sexual attraction towards that girl, She's so beautiful she makes you nervous. This is exatcly the reason why you should approach her. | /r/seduction | 26/12/14 03:34 AM |
| 2 | I arranged a meeting and now we've kinda run out of conversation subjects... should I worry about it?OSA. Observe, share and answer. Find something from her life, and make conversation out of that. If all else fails, ask them what their passions/dreams are and go from there. | /r/seduction | 23/12/14 02:52 AM |
| 1 | What should i do folks?Ask her on a date. If she says no forget about her, if yes then keep escalating. Right now its casual between the two of you since you haven't really established a relationship | /r/seduction | 23/12/14 02:52 AM |
| 10 | When a cute girls asks "why do you wanna go out with me?"I'm attracted to you, and I want to learn more about you. | /r/seduction | 21/12/14 04:44 AM |
| 1 | I don't know how to relate to a woman. Im 22 and lost in this aspect of life. Where do I start?Again, you first need to be honest with yourself and acknoledge the fact that you will mess up every now and then before achieving success. When you feel awkward/clumsy/nervous, remind yourself that these feelings make you feel alive. Symptoms of being nervous are EXTREMELY simialir to excitement. think about that. | /r/seduction | 20/12/14 08:11 AM |
| 1 | I don't know how to relate to a woman. Im 22 and lost in this aspect of life. Where do I start?Well first off congratulate yourself for making the step to wanting to prove yourself, it all starts with the belief that you want it first. :). Anyway back to business, feeling fear and being nervous/awkward when you start doing something after a long time or not having done it is COMPLETELY NORMAL. get that straight. Embrace your emotions, and allow yourself to go through rejection as its a natural part of becoming a better man. Rejection and sexual interest go hand in hand with one another, b… | /r/seduction | 20/12/14 07:35 AM |
| 1 | How to MAINTAIN Confidence? Mine constantly fluctuatesBase your happiness off yourself, not off other people. Although life will sometimes get to you at times, always seek approval from within not from out. Write down the advantages/disadvantages of seeking approval from within rather than without if you want to see why its better. | /r/seduction | 20/12/14 12:34 AM |
| 2 | I just had an epiphany todayThat's true to an extent. We all have our own social location at birth. (ethnicity, race, physical characteristics, wealth etc). As we get older, more things get taken away from us and we have to work harder to get the thing we want. E.G: you lose family, friends, parents stop supporting you and you have to work to become a better man. | /r/seduction | 17/12/14 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Book Recommendations for helping me get better at life!!! Pls Need help [20 M]Feeling good by David D burns and No More Mr nice guy. check out models as well, these books are all gold for you. | /r/seduction | 17/12/14 05:53 AM |
| 2 | Competing over girlI find you attractive. Let's go on a date. Tell this to her when you meet her face to face. Show through your actions, not through words. | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Is it better to listen to a girl's actions or her words?Actions. Learn to read people's body language, words can often contradict what women may actually want. Women are socialized to go for certain things, they may sometimes accuse you of being a player while touching you and smiling at you with dilated pupils. Society and biology often conflict one another, we may desire one thing but society tells us its wrong. | /r/seduction | 13/12/14 03:20 AM |
| 11 | I recently read this quote. It basically changed the way I converse with people.I included it because the system of capitalism has really taken a toll on people's happiness. By capitalism, I mean corporations exploiting workers for the sole purpose of money. People have less control of their work, hours, as well as increased stress from more and more competition. Haven't you noticed the depression levels skyrocketing recently? Capitalism is one of the reasons for this, not to say that it isn't possible to find a career that you love and want to work, just for the majority t… | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Field report HB7 first date!That's true that she may friend zone you, but I highly doubt she will she seems to like you :), go for a date and see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Make It Simple: You Are Not Creepy and She Is Not Cruel. Get out of your head by forgetting about your "needs". See and live in the larger social world -- a world that also includes desirable women.First off, guys who are called creepy are usually not straightforward with their intentions, and being called creepy is something we sometimes have no control over. Second of all, I never said pickup wasn't important but the way you talk about some topics is just downright degrading and horrible to read. I am not a women by the way, im a guy. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Make It Simple: You Are Not Creepy and She Is Not Cruel. Get out of your head by forgetting about your "needs". See and live in the larger social world -- a world that also includes desirable women.I have a very mixed view on this article, I'll point out the valid and negative points I find about your article Valid - Women want to have sex with a guy who other find attractive (women want what other women want) - Women have sex with other guy who has something such as him being physically attractive, higher status, or maybe he has something that makes her feel good around him (behavior) - Attractive women are in demand as men feel attraction around them, just as men who behave attractively … | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 06:49 PM |
| 116 | I recently read this quote. It basically changed the way I converse with people.That quote. is very true. People will remember you for how you made them feel when you're gone or dead. Notice how people don't really talk about the job, hobbies a person does when they pass away, they talk about how they've impacted them personally. In my opinion, this quote basically says to keep a strong vibe and make every person you meet feel special. Because everyone wants to feel special, especially in a capitalist world. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 06:54 AM |
| 6 | Field report HB7 first date!That's fine if you didn't kiss her the first time around, She seemed to have a good time and so did you :). Cut that HB7 crap though, women are human beings not goddess that you put a pedestal on. Use a scale of either 1(dateable) or 0(not dateable) from now on, it'll do alot for your confidence. Go on another date, make sure to clarify its a date between two people. Focus on having fun, and kiss her next time when she least expects it :). All the best. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 06:52 AM |
| 5 | Fix my way of thinking please... What the hell did I do wrong this time.Well based on what you wrote, I'd like to give my two cents on this situation, you may not like what you hear from me but I believe being honest is more important than making a person happy. What you think is sensitive may actually be you being passive-aggressive. You're hiding your emotions from this girl and not telling her how you feel. You're not acting sensitive, you're behavior is that of a typical "nice guy". You're criticizing this guy and laughing at him, you're not being manly. What ca… | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 06:44 AM |
| 0 | Models & The ManualThe Manual and Models are very similar and different with regards to the concepts, ideas and method they preach. Manual believes that a masculine man should NOT show vulnerability while Models believes the opposite. Both believe strongly in creating a physical connection with a women in order to attract them. I believe Manual is better for theory, while Models is much better for practical use. Both are a good read :) | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 05:40 AM |
| 12 | What It’s Like to Be a 58-Year-Old VirginThis was very depressing and sad to read. This person dosen't realize that he has everything in him to become an attractive man, but his inner game is lacking. If only he had access to this sub or learned to change his inner dialogue. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Activities that give similar rush as approaching?Anything that makes you scared and feel fear. Roller coasters, sky diving, travelling somewhere new, skiing, snowboarding etc.. | /r/seduction | 08/12/14 05:28 PM |
| 24 | I'm 23 years old and have zero experience with women. Is there any hope for me?Well First off lets just say that there's never a age where you stop improving so you can definitely do things that will help make you a more attractive man. Here is a comprehensive list of things you can do to improve your current situation. I will focus on lifestyle, emotion and communication. Lifestyle find hobbies (instrument, dance class, etc.) find friends that you enjoy being with Start dressing well (/r/fashion) make FEMALE FRIENDS and get some experience with being comfortable around at… | /r/seduction | 08/12/14 06:06 AM |
| 42 | How do I escalate my kino properly and non-creepilyWell first off, if you haven't ever touched a girl before or made physical contact( i mean the girl/girls you are seeing now), then start slowly by touching her arms and then work your way up. Small gestures such as high fives/hugs/touching her shoulder briefly after you make a point is first. Second, you start escalating more and more, by incorporating more intimate touches such as holding your arm around her and holding her hand. basically here is the list shoulder touch, hug, high five, pat o… | /r/seduction | 08/12/14 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Got to the point where girls are checking me out, now i'm older and have a kidYou don't need lines, they're a temporary solution to a permanent problem. The only long-term solution is to honestly be vulnerable and push interactions furthur even if you feel fear and anxiety. It won't magically go away, it seems as if you do have the foundation covered when it comes to attraction. Here is my advice to you, next time when you're on break or start approaching women in the day time. Start with asking them the time, and move on to asking them open ended questions, and than tell… | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Can i have some tips bout a date?It seems like you're afraid of being vulnerable. Be honest with her, tell her you want to go on a date with her, not hang out. Friends hang out, people who have sexual relationships date. | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Stupid hangup despite experience and success with womenFind a few hobbies that you love to occupy your time so you aren't left thinking about these girls. It seems as if you make girls the centre of your world, find something else to center the world around as girls come and go. | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Can i have some tips bout a date?did you explicitly say its a date(2 people interested in one another) or are you just hanging ouT? | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 06:16 PM |
| 9 | Pretend that today is the most attractive that you'll ever be.How about, pretend that everyday you're the most attractive you'll ever be. | /r/seduction | 02/12/14 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Should I just go for the kiss even if I don't know if a girl's single?ask her on a date. Don't think too much of the kiss, if there's chemistry it will happen sometime during the date or the end, if not try again, if you try 2-3 dates and nothing. Call it quits. | /r/seduction | 30/11/14 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Kino is difficult because of sweaty hands. Advice?As long as you don't treat your sweaty hands as an issue, she won't either. If she does, tell her you're sorry and be honest about your problems. Honesty is the solution. | /r/seduction | 28/11/14 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Reasons why you should avoid Pick up ArtistsI do believe that you need to act confident in order to be confident. Fake it till you make it, the feeling will catch up and the your body language will change if you constantly correct it over time. | /r/seduction | 27/11/14 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Need advise on how to handle a complex situation with exI would take this time from your break up to do something you've always loved to do but haven't had the time for. Take up a new hobby, try a new instrument, work out if you havent. The best way to get over a break up is to spend time investing in yourself. | /r/seduction | 24/11/14 04:28 AM |
| 2 | I'm in a relationship now, what next?Keep being the person the girl you love is attracted to. In my experience, opposite sex relationships are highly conditional, meaning once you lose the thing she was attracted to (money, fame, personality etc) you lose her for the most part. Enjoy, have fun and do your best :) | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 09:33 PM |
| 3 | How appropriate is kissing on the first date for a relationship seeker? Good way to expedite things or big no-no?Kissing on a first date is absolutely fine if the two of you are connecting with one another. In my experience they may be a bit shy or hesitant if they like you. If your looking for relationships I would avood sex on first dates as alot of girls feel used if theyre the relationship type | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 08:47 AM |
| 8 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?Exatcly. This paragraph i wrote relates to everything in life including working out, hobbies and any form of relationship. Don't be friends with someone so you can be more popular, do it because you like who they are. Don't pick up a hobby to get a person to like you, do it for your own personal enjoyment. Same holds true for stuff like working out and school. Do what you love, and do it because it gives you personal fulfillment, not to get someone else to love you. | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 07:27 AM |
| 61 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?The biggest difference is whatever you do these things to get something or whatever you do these things because you want to do them. A fake man opens a door to a women in order to get her to like him or get something from her such as affection/sex/love. A true man opens a door for a women because he wants to and its part of who he is. Same holds true for anything you do in life, do it because its part of who you are not to get something. | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 06:15 AM |
| 2 | "I have a boyfriend" responseShe see's you as a friend, Best to just assume she has a boyfriend and be her friend. She probably had the idea that you thought of her as more than a friend when you got her number. If you want to push it furthur, feel free to but its not worth being with a girl who would cheat on her boyfriend with you. | /r/seduction | 20/11/14 08:12 PM |
| 3 | i keep getting rejected and I'm getting frustrated about it. what am i doing wrong?As Mark manson said, if you're constantly rejected there's a problem you have with your lifestyle, emotions, or communication. You're being dishonest and trying to either act like someone your not or just approaching women with the goal of sex. Approach women with the goal of getting to know who they are, and enjoying their presence. Just my two cents. | /r/seduction | 17/11/14 06:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm [21/M] not confident on how I go about approaching women, but have some idea of what to to. Need someone else's perspective here.You are confident. You are amazing, you can approach these women. Change your beliefs, and your behavior will follow. | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 07:17 AM |
| 7 | Anyone here who *didn't* grow up being social and mingling with girls (i.e. hard-mode seduction)?Me. Luckily we can change our behavior, this forum is one place to thank for that. | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 07:16 AM |
| 1 | Confidence is a result of experience not wishfull thinking.A combination of theory and experience=confidence. Knowing something ahead of time will make you more certain that it'll go your way. Such as understanding the signals women give will help you when you go for the kiss :) | /r/seduction | 08/11/14 09:53 PM |
| 5 | How to prevent or get out of being in the friendzone?ofc, I meant a mango drink ;) | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 12:42 AM |
| 4 | How to prevent or get out of being in the friendzone?Escalate physically, try to establish a physical connection immedaitely upon meeting her. State your intentions, ask them out. "Hey, I'd like to have a drink with you at X time." | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 12:15 AM |
| 8 | Something a Female Friend Told MeLooks are VERY important man. Women are willing to look over your bad stuff if you're attractive. Why make it harder for yourself? if you become good looking, women will give you more attention and will be more receptive to you. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 10:53 PM |
| 3 | What was your breakthrough with women?Go all out. Don't let your emotions define you. Realize that the experience is worth more than an emotion. Each approach is a win, never a loss. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 02:11 AM |
| 3 | Finally approachedCongrats :) | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble getting laid... In college :(It seems like you've caught oneitis for this one girl. Honestly, you're defining who you are by the amount of women you sleep with which is really unhealthy and not worth it. I suggest you either tell the girl that you find her attractive and want to date her, or you cut all contact and search for other women who will make you happy. In University, it shouldn't be too difficult as theres prob women in your class, try to strike up a conversation about the teacher or something and move from there.… | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 05:50 PM |
| 9 | How to get rid of nerves when approaching tens?Look at them not as an HB10, HB7, or HB6 but rather as a human being that has insecurities, flaws, and most likely more anxiety than other women who aren't as attractive. Mark manson said something along the lines of these women being treated as sex toys by men, as men try to manipulate them into having sex. Be the different person here, try to connect with them genuinely and talk to them as if they were anybody else. Best of luck :) | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 05:44 PM |
| 10 | What was your breakthrough with women?My breakthrough was my very first approach. I realized that I can walk up to a stranger and talk to them and get to know them. This moment was big for me, especially when I first got into seduction. The idea of being able to approach a women and think of her as a friend/lover who you didn't know is quite something. Very happy I stumbled upon seddit/models/pickup :). It has grown into quite something. | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Im reading "The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want", is this a good book in your experience?The title itself is rather misleading, It takes effort and work to build a lifestyle, personality and be the person you want to be in order to attract women. The stuff is pretty much what you can get if you read the sidebar in this seddit. I prefer models personally, it goes over not only how to attract women but a guideline to developing yourself and fixing issues that can turn you into a better person. | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 07:38 AM |
| 1 | I keep acting like a friend and getting friendzoned. What the hell should I change?A friend is someone you have an emotional connection. A lover is someone you have a physical connection with. Start touching and using kino. A slight shoulder touch, strong hugs are examples of this | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 01:50 AM |
| 12 | Pissed, jelly and off my game.For the most part, girls have it easier in attracting guys if they're physically attractive. Just because she gets with guys, dosen't mean those guys are of quality or any good. Focus on yourself, this life is about you not her. I think you're focusing more on trying to "beat" her than on actually becoming the best person you can be. If you haven't already, cut ALL contact with her (facebook, email,phone W/e). Give it time, its better to be single and emotionally happy than to be in toxic relati… | /r/seduction | 01/11/14 06:07 AM |
| 2 | When you're not feeling it, do you still go out and socialise?thats the point. Youll feel happier once you immerse yourself in something else | /r/seduction | 01/11/14 02:06 AM |
| 2 | When you're not feeling it, do you still go out and socialise?The motivation and enjoyment comes after you go out and socialize not before. When you go out and do anything, your brain will reward you for such (dopamine). | /r/seduction | 01/11/14 12:13 AM |
| 8 | [FR] "You're different..."Good job, it dosen't stop here. There are many challenges that still await you in the future. Keep it up, don't let your emotions cloud reality. Continue to be the person you are with this women. Never stop improving. :) | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 04:44 AM |
| 2 | Mental health. :(You are not your emotions my friend! I understand completely how you feel, I honestly have been that guy in many situations and it really hurts when these demons paralyze you. The truth is, we all suffer from them and the only way to tackle emotions, is to face them head on. That confident guy you see who's able to fluently talk to women wasn't born that way, he had to face the same obstacles you're facing now. Realize that no guy who is good with women from birth. You are still young so you def… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 04:21 AM |
| 1 | I'm a shy guy. Any help?You aren't a "shy" guy my friend. You feel shy. Everybody feels shy because our brain sees approaching a women as a fear due to evolutionary purposes. You need to persist despite your anxiety, and you need to condition your brain to realize that approaching women is not only not dangerous, but fun! Start at the beginning, get used to being comfortable around women aka saying hi to them. Work your way up, don't try to have sex with a girl when you aren't comfortable being around one for 5 minutes… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Drop out college without jobFuck PUA. You need to realize that you are an awesome man becuase you simply are, you don't need to "prove" anything to women. Approach with the goal of creating a connection and meeting a new friend. If by chance you see any chemistry, ask the girls you meet out. You can still sleep with beautiful women, but I would suggest making some friends and getting comfortable around women again. It should come back. PUA is just immature honestly, having sex with beautiful women will only make you feel m… | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Long Time Lurker - Goes from Pussy to PredatorGood job on improving. Just make sure to remove that HB terminology. Honestly, its easier to refer to her as either 1 (dateable) or 0 (not dateable). It helps give you a realistic image of the person. | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 04:10 AM |
| 18 | what are some way's to increase your value? let's create a comprehensive list and brainstorm possible waysFind a hobby you love/like Put yourself first, and other second Do things because you want to, not because you feel it will give you validation from others Don't put girls of pedestals Own what you say Enjoy life Do what makes you happy, not what others want you to do Be the best you can possibly be in everything Stop making excuses, the excuse syndrome is everywhere Stop complaining, no one wants to be around a shit magnet Help others for the sake of helping them Dress nicely Find a job you lov… | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Funny vs coolIf She is attracted to you, everything youll say will be funny. Go with being the genuiene honest guy, not the too cool for school guy | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 05:15 PM |
| 8 | For the guys: What are the top 3 things that hinder you from being successful with women?My doubts 2. My insecurities 3. Myself. | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 05:12 PM |
| 3 | **Actual** Texting Case Study: From 1st Text to 1st Date. Screenshots + Analysis of the conversations.You simply ask the girl with a simple statement such as "I really enjoyed talking to you the other day, lets grab a drink at X location". The connection you have with the girl is what gets her to meet you again for the 2nd time, not a amazing one liner. Next time, when you meet her just say that, it'll save you alot less time. | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 04:42 PM |
| 7 | **Actual** Texting Case Study: From 1st Text to 1st Date. Screenshots + Analysis of the conversations.oh god, that was dreadful to read through. You ask way too many questions. Its so much easier to just use texting as a way of meeting someone in real life. Texting people in general is shallow, face to face conversation is just so much better. | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 04:18 PM |
| 3 | I'm friendzoned and very good friends with a girl, and i fell inlove...First off, you are not REALLY SHY. You feel shy, but that dosen't necessarily mean that you are shy. A feeling is just that, a feeling. The only way through those painful things is to push through and do what must be done. Seperate the emotion from reality. Get rid of the "how can I make her like me attitude" and transform it into the mindset of whatever she's an interesting person to you. Be the buyer not the seller. If you wish to turn the conversation more sexual, give her a direct compliment… | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 07:10 PM |
| 16 | How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER NumberJust a heads up, Girls sometimes give numbers even if they don't like you. This is because rejection is hella awkward, and guys might get violent when girls reject them. Focus on the girl, not the number | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Trubble with girls while clubbingIf you have the mentality of freezing up, you'll constantly freeze up. Start slowly, I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. Start small and build up. Generate a few minutes of small talk with the girl, touch her when you make a point. High five her when something cool happens, hug her and get her phone number after she leaves. If you feel everything's going good and she's into you alot, kiss her. Regret truly does hurt more then rejection. | /r/seduction | 12/10/14 06:29 PM |
| 6 | How did you get over oneitis? Are there any tricks to help speed it up?You go out, you put your balls on the line and embrace rejection and talk to other women you find attractive. Honestly, the best thing to do is to just move on from that girl, and do your best to improve ourself and meet other women. Read models by mark manson | /r/seduction | 12/10/14 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Do you think it is easier to attract women in todays time, compared to in the 1970's/80's?touche. the rate of depression has skyrocked in first world countries today, and people are becoming obssessed with superficial gains. Yea, most likely | /r/seduction | 11/10/14 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Do you think it is easier to attract women in todays time, compared to in the 1970's/80's?I think its sooooooooooooo much easier. We have way more access to resources today than ever before on how to make ourselves attractive to women, in the past they didn't. We even have technology to help us communicate. I can't imagine what we'd do without cell phones. lol | /r/seduction | 11/10/14 12:24 AM |
| 1 | 18 year old goodlooking virginDon't let women be the only reason you're happy/sad. Some guys latch too hard onto one women, and what the women feels they feel. Basically, don't let women dictate your happiness. | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 09:10 PM |
| 4 | Sedditors, please answer these few questions i have.Honestly ,this question is subjective. You can ask her whenever you want. You can go up to a women and say you found her beautiful and want to go on a date with her immmedatiely. 5-10 minutes of getting to know her and asking her out is ideal. For the girlfriend thing, ask her for a date. On the first date, build up to the kiss and go for it. go on a few more dates, and then make her your girlfriend. Or you can have sex with her right away on the first date, and make her your girlfriend | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 03:26 AM |
| 22 | 18 year old goodlooking virginFirst off change your mentality. You're linking your confidence and masculinity to your virgin status, remove this now. Realize that having sex with a women can only do so much to make you genuinely happy. Putting that aside, I'll give you a list of things you need to do to better improve yourself and increase your success with women. 1: Create an attractive lifestyle you personally enjoy (NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WANT YOU TO DO) Find hobbies you enjoy, preferably a social hobby (E.G: dance/swim cl… | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 01:24 AM |
| 0 | If you don't show your intentions from the start, you already lost.At least try one final time before you tell her you can't talk more. Tell her that you are interested in her and would love to try a date with her. It's not over yet. Maybe she's interested, who knows? ask. | /r/seduction | 05/10/14 01:40 AM |
| 2 | How to Get Rid of FLAKES and Deal with Bitchy Girls at the BarHonestly, just excuse yourself and leave. These people are hardly worth the time. Find people who are mature, and make you feel good. Not the other way around. | /r/seduction | 04/10/14 06:19 AM |
| 1 | How do I get a girl out my head?Find something to occupy your mind, study go to the gym, build a social circle, watch the RSD video on oneitis | /r/seduction | 04/10/14 05:27 AM |
| 1 | I went for itGood job man! I hope you keep this attitude with you for your entire life, don't give up and give in to your fears :) | /r/seduction | 03/10/14 02:25 AM |
| 7 | how big of a factor is sleep?Sleep is HUGE. sleeping makes you more aware, helps with memory, and without it your health will decline. Either sleep or watch your game die. | /r/seduction | 02/10/14 11:10 PM |
| 1 | How to Get Her to Crave YOU By Using Her EmotionsEverything this guys says, mark manson explains better and in more detail. He just talks about basic flirting strategies such as push-pull (positive/negative emotions), and storytelling/being interested in her. Better off reading models, but nice information none the less | /r/seduction | 02/10/14 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Get a girl that I've known for a couple yearsAsk for a date when you two are having a good time. Say something along the lines of "I really enjoy being with you and I'd like to take it further, let's go on a date together this week (insert time)." | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Is tiredness a good reason not to game?Its honestly your call. If you don't feel good, tell the girl you're not feeling well and schedule to talk to her for another day. Most girls will be ok with this :) | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Need some help on this situation I'm in. Never been in something like this.She's the one doing the work for you, I wouldn't worry much. Get her number at the end, and go on a date after the hookup if it happens. | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Gaming after a break upAsk her for a date. Stop wasting time, if she says no move on. | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 03:02 AM |
| 5 | I turned 21 and still haven't been laid, getting frustrated with my lack of game. I need a bit of help.You have to confront your fears man its the only way, there is NO MAGIC PILL. No amount of information you read will help you if you can't approach a women and risk rejection. You can do it. | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 01:32 AM |
| 4 | I turned 21 and still haven't been laid, getting frustrated with my lack of game. I need a bit of help.I too suffered from this, honestly just tell yourself that you have no control over what girls say/think. They may have had a shitty day or bad experience with guys in the past. Besides, at the end of the day its about you. Put yourself first, the girl second and everyone else after that. | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 01:26 AM |
| 6 | I turned 21 and still haven't been laid, getting frustrated with my lack of game. I need a bit of help.I can completely understand where you're coming from being that I was in a similar position to you. I know this may be hard for you to hear, but you have to push yourself to approach and become comfortable talking with women in general right now. The reason you're shy is because you believe you're shy. Learn to change your body language as it'll change your mood greatly. Being funny is a result of being an attractive man, as women will laugh at everything you say if they're aroused by you. Life … | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 12:28 AM |
| 1 | What to do if you said something stupid by an accident?Just continue the conversation and act as if it didn't happen, you can always come back if you make mistakes. Don't make a big deal out of it. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Approaching random peopleThe only pointer I'm going to give you is that if you see a women you're attracted to approach her. Of course, avoid the obvious scenario's such as if she's with her boyfriend. You can still approach women if they're with their friends. Just make sure to be honest about why you're approaching them, and try to engage her friend as well. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 08:41 PM |
| 2 | I need to get out of this mindset. Can you give me some tough love?The best way to confront a belief is to challenge it. Challenge yourself, and constantly try to be a better version of yourself. Start small and go big. Good luck man. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Personality isn't the be all end all. Something I've learned recently.You're right. As Mark Manson said, at the core behavior is what women use to distinguish high status and low status men. Looks, money, and popularity allow a person to more attract the women they want. Do everything you can to make yourself more beautiful on the outside. Find a career you're passionate about/study something and try to earn the most money you can. Keep making new friends, constantly expanding your interests and demographics. You should always use your personality to win the girl … | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 08:21 PM |
| 9 | Approaching random peopleFirst off, be honest when you approach women. If you see a beautiful women, tell her you thought she was cute and you wanted to meet her. Introduce yourself, make sure to give her a strong handshake to show her you're a dominant man and proceed to make her comfortable. Talk about the city, your passions, her passions. Make the conversation interesting, don't talk about superficial topics such as the weather. Make it about you and her only. Good luck and whatever happens don't let mistakes get to… | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 08:19 PM |
| 15 | What's the theory behind the "wait 3 days" theory???What 3 day theory?!?!?! If you meet a girl and want to text her or meet up, do it whenever the fuck you want. Fuck the 3 day theory. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 05:11 AM |
| 2 | How often do you go out? And how many hours per night on average?Try diversifying! The quality of people you meet at clubs may not be as high as say the quality of women in the day time. It never hurts to try and see what the rest of the world other then clubs are :D | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 05:07 AM |
| 5 | How often do you go out? And how many hours per night on average?You don't have to only hit clubs. You can talk/meet and approach women virtually anywhere. Subways. sideways, malls, any venue where women gather you can meet them. Don't limit yourself to clubs only! You're missing out! | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 04:28 AM |
| 9 | I am apparently guilty of being one of these "nice guy" idiots who seemingly had girls taken from him by an "asshole". How do I flip the bill here?You're mindset is lacking my friend. Life is about doing things you dont feel like it. Now''s the chance to read this and potentially have your life changed. you can do it! :D i believe. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 04:14 AM |
| 6 | I am apparently guilty of being one of these "nice guy" idiots who seemingly had girls taken from him by an "asshole". How do I flip the bill here?Models. You need this book. Now. It will save your life and help you sort out through these problems you're having right now. It will be your guide. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Shy with "friends" and OK with "foreign girls", is that normal?It seems like you need to change your mindset. You become dependant on the outcome when your with girls you don't care about. Try to retain that mindset around everyone, you'll be more respected as a person. | /r/seduction | 27/09/14 07:33 PM |
| 1 | More advice from 4chanThere is some concrete advice here and it does support mark manson's theory of women being attracted to men who are less invested in them then they are in themselves. BUT, I believe this guy has a misogynistic view of women and see's them only as objects to have sex with. Take what you can from this , but remember that making yourself vulnerable and enjoying women is the whole point of dating and seduction. | /r/seduction | 21/09/14 01:17 AM |
| 1 | How to hook up with girls/obtain fwb in college?You have some work to do on your mentality dbie22. People are what you expect them to be. As Mark manson quoted: "Its your job to find the good inside everyone you meet, its not their job to show it to you." | /r/seduction | 12/09/14 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Help! Does she like me?The best thing to do is to ask her out. You'll know where you stand with her immedatiely. The longer you wait, the higher a chance she has of not only friend zoning. Start up a conversation with her, and ask her out to lunch or for a date sometime in the future. | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 02:20 AM |
| 3 | How to talk to someone you really like?Remove the "I dont want to mess it up" mentality, it will make you so worried about doing even the smallest of actions when you escalate. Honestly, just focus on having fun and enjoying both yourself and your time with her. Find some fun activities, and talk share yourself with her. Share your hobbies, passions, life goals, etc.... Good luck :) | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 12:02 AM |
| 2 | I know everything I'm 'supposed' to do in my head, but can't actually DO itI think for now focus on making friends only. Just practice being social in general. Now if you really like a girl and genuienly enjoy being around her, ask her out for a date later after class. Ask her if shes free for lunch or free to grab a drink after with you. Just make sure not to get overly attached to the first pretty girl you met. You'll be heartbroken and jealous when she's around other guys and it aint pretty. Learn to be comfortable speaking to women in general | /r/seduction | 03/09/14 08:21 PM |
| 11 | I know everything I'm 'supposed' to do in my head, but can't actually DO itThe problem with you right now is your mentality. You are putting these women on a pedestal and treating them like goddesses. Just talk to them like their your 13 year old niece. Start slow, start making some female friends and stop seeing every women as a potential girlfriend. It'll relieve alot of pressure off of you. Hope I helped! Good luck :). P.S: Just say Hi, and go from there, maybe talk about something class related | /r/seduction | 03/09/14 02:29 AM |
| 1 | How does one cut ties?Treat others the way you want to be treated. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 06:05 PM |
| 17 | I'm attractive, but my game sucksThere is no such thing as what to say to a girl, it is about your intentions that women look at. You need to work on your mindset first and foremost. Beliefs govern behavior. Create a list of affirmations, start visualizing them and make them your reality. I suggest you buy models to start off | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Crippled by a need for validationStart Investing in yourself. Do everything possible. Make new friends, approach women everywhere, take on new activities. The more invested you are in yourself, the more you start to validate yourself as an awesome person! PUT YOURSELF FIRST AS WELL :) | /r/seduction | 01/07/14 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Is being good looking the most important thing in seduction?There is a difference between being attractive and being good looking. Being attractive means having a well-balanced personality, a character with depth and substance and understanding both fashion and fitness. Good looking means having a pretty face. Its about being attractive, not being good looking | /r/seduction | 19/06/14 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Why is it better to stay low-effort in a relationship?The most successful relationships are those where both parties contribute equally or the male controls the relationship. Communicataion is key. Communicate with your parnter and find new ways to please them | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 01:19 AM |
| 24 | Stop seeking validationThe reason why you seek validation from others is because you don't give it to yourself. The key to stop this type of behavior is to reinforce your good qualities and tell yourself that despite what happens you like yourself and you'll be ok. Try meditation, or read a book on how to keep yourself in the present moment. Here's a good video for 5 tips on how to boost your self worth so you stop seeking vadliation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDgyzWRHLNQ | /r/seduction | 15/06/14 06:57 PM |
| 1 | What do you do immediately after a rejection?I smile, and see it as a learning experience . i try to see if I did anything wrong and what I can improve the next time | /r/seduction | 15/06/14 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Unbalanced Social Life, Inexperienced, Need AdviceFirst off, stop comparing yourself to others and change your mentality. There are people who are 40+ and have never kissed a girl or even held a girl's hand. It's not as bad as you think it is. For online dating, try looking around this subreddit. It has alot of good advice you can use. Try meditation, it helps and try daygaming. Use mark manson's exposure therapy technique. search that on google. | /r/seduction | 15/06/14 12:11 AM |
| 2 | How do you work up the courage for day approach?Try meditation, helps with nervousness. Imagine the situation beforehand and imagine getting rejected by these girls. Rejection is a learning experience, see it this way. | /r/seduction | 13/06/14 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Need help for this summerStudy russian culture. The world cup is currently taking place, why not learn a bit about that? maybe you can talk about it with the girls. Just remember to share your life with them. Everything you say has value because it comes from you. With a good attitude, you can say whatever you want. Keep that in mind. GOOD LUCK :) | /r/seduction | 13/06/14 01:50 AM |
| 2 | What are you currently working on in terms of your game?Try working out, it really helps :) and use the alexander technique. Meditation helps too! | /r/seduction | 12/06/14 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Does it matter whether you ask a girl out in person vs. Facebook, text, etc.Preferably in person. If you met them in a club/party/bar and you got their number, do it by phone. Give them a text saying Hey, It was nice meeting you lets go out sometime this week if you're free :). Women will most likely say yes if you ask them in person as it takes more courage as you can ask them out using strong body language/tonality which creates attraction. | /r/seduction | 10/06/14 11:16 PM |
| 1 | I just finished chapter two of Models. I've been a Jim my whole life - how can I change my mindset and become a Jeff? And how did you former "Jim's" do it ?Finish the rest of the book. Don't expect to become an attractive genuiene man when you finish it though. Except to do alot of working improving your lifestyle/looks, communication and control over your emotions. | /r/seduction | 08/06/14 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Sexually frustrated and need advice.I feel as if you're overthinking alot of things and its making you needy/unattractive to others. Stop looking at other people to make you happy, you're comparing yourself to others way tooooo much when it only hurts you. You need some inner game work, I think thats the problem here. Read Feeling good/models by mark manson, meditate or read some stuff here on seddit on inner game | /r/seduction | 08/06/14 10:01 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a one-itis with common classes/friend groups? (Long story inside)You need some self-awareness. This so called "love" you have for this girl is not real. You are mind-fucking yourself and deluding yourself from reality. Look at what this girl has done to you, she's made you absolutely miserable. The question I want you to ask yourself is: Is this one girl really worth sacrificing my dignity, honor and self respect for. It dosen't matter how hot she is, you aren't happy with her. Move on please, this is harmful to you, and its harming your future relationships.… | /r/seduction | 08/06/14 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Getting lot's of flakes, need advice on how to get the first date after number closing.Create an emotional connection with the women before number closing. Go one step furthur with your conversations. Talk about your past, stories about yourself that are embarassing or awkward midway throughout the conversation. This will encourage her to do the same. | /r/seduction | 07/06/14 05:48 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when a girl completely flakes on your date plans?Tell her how you feel, and reschedule if she replies with a honest answer | /r/seduction | 07/06/14 01:18 AM |
| -2 | Approached todayCongratulations for having gone for it, but you weren't rejected in my opinion, she didn't say no. | /r/seduction | 06/06/14 05:10 AM |
| 1 | A Note To This CommunityWhy leave? Seddit is really unique as the people here give multiple perspectives of women and life in general. | /r/seduction | 06/06/14 05:08 AM |
| 1 | [Noob Question] How do you initiate conversation with a women while shopping?Compliment them on their clothing or tell them how you think what they've bought would suit (insert accessory or clothing piece) | /r/seduction | 06/06/14 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Just got out of a relationship of 11 months. Looking to get back into the game. Details inside.My suggestion is to read Models by Mark Manson. It'll help lots. Why don't you chat with the people you work with and go out some place with them? It seems like you could use some work on your internal talk. Stop telling yourself you're too shy and too nervous. and start looking at all the good things that can happen if you do chat them up. Make it a goal to just befriend the people at the salsa class, then go from there or greet them with a hey, and slowly build up. One step at a time :), I bel… | /r/seduction | 06/06/14 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Walking awayMeet up with her. During the meet up, tell her how she made you feel over the following days. Be honest, and be vulnerable. She may have had a horrible weekend and god knows what could have been happening. The key here is communication. Communicate and find out whats going on. | /r/seduction | 05/06/14 07:37 PM |
| 26 | When I woke up this morning, I was a 28 year old virgin...What hobbies do you reccomend? How did you go about improving yourself ? What did you do to your lifestyle | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 04:10 AM |
| 1 | How to Not be Soooooo Picky?Try actually dating these women and finding more about them. Somtimes it can take time to find someone you genuienly like | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 07:41 PM |
| -2 | How do you cross the line between professionalism and personal relationship with a co-worker?Attraction is controversial, it requires one to take risks and go beyond your comfort zone. I would just ask her on a date, say this: "Hey, I enjoy working with you and I'd love to try a date out." | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 03:52 PM |
| 26 | I was at a party tonight and saw a cute girl dancing by herselfStop this type of thinking right now. For now, focus on internal change rather than results. The fact that you went out there and took a risk shows confidence by itself. Maybe you didn't get what you want, but being vulnerable and doing what you did is a good first step. Keep it going :) | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Should I be giving 50 shades of grey a read? To help my gameThe main character Christian Grey is a very good example of some qualities an attractive man should embody. What you can take from the book is to be assertive, dominant and always in control of your actions. | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 03:49 PM |
| 1 | 6 Reasons Why a Direct Approach is BestNot only that, It'll make you more confident as women will be less likely to reject you. It'll help for your mindset as well | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 03:45 PM |
| 23 | 6 Reasons Why a Direct Approach is BestAlot of guys who start off tend to come off needy when they say the women is absolutely gorgeous. I think starting with low investment complements is better, and then transitioning to these more heavy compliments | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Is this a creepy way to approach a girl I likeYou're overthinking your approach. The words you say literally are like 5% of what you're actually saying to her. Its your intentions. If you really think she's a nice girl, the women will know. So if you really think she's a nice girl and you really want to meet up with her. She will know A women's first evaluation of you is based on your presentation (fashion, body language) and your level of anxiety | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Can you guys give me some tips?.Try a new activity ( yoga, workout, run) .Approach and meet guy friends who are good with women and ask to hang out with them Try mark manson's exposure therapy technique. If you google it, you'll find it on his website. Meditate, and create a self affirmation list. E.G: I am an amazing fun guy, and imagine yourself doing amazing fun things. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself! Don't think of every women as girlfriend, think of them as just friends for now. It'll help in the future as wom… | /r/seduction | 19/05/14 04:46 AM |
| 3 | Suddenly become needy because of an LTR?The more you invest in yourself (lifestyle, courage, how well you communicate) the less needy you'll appear. If you continue being as needy as you say you are, the attraction will go away. Try something new or fun.Honestly, make some male friends as well, they'll be there for you when you need them | /r/seduction | 19/05/14 04:42 AM |
| 6 | It has to be perfect.Focus on one thing at a time. Right now your education seems to be what makes you happiest and what you enjoy the most. Just meet some female friends right now, thats it. If you're comfortable with something, so will the girl. | /r/seduction | 18/05/14 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Rejection was the best thing that ever happened to me to improve my abilities.I think its the mindset behind rejection thats more important. As OP stated, you took as a good thing, something to learn and grow from. I think rejection helps you with anxiety only if you think of it as something that makes you stronger, not something that makes you feel as if you're flawed or not good enough. Congrats none the less :) | /r/seduction | 17/05/14 10:07 PM |
| 1 | I often come out as socially awkwardWho cares how much facebook friends she has, she probably dosent even talk to 9/10 of them. Change your mindset. Beliefs>Values>Change. | /r/seduction | 17/05/14 09:35 PM |
| 2 | What book would your suggest for a 13 year old boy getting ready to start high school?Join a club | /r/seduction | 17/05/14 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Can't find this old saying about pretty women. Help needed.If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Gaming a MILF and need some pointersIf sex is all your looking for, I say go for it. try to flirt with her in person? and see where it goes from there | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 10:44 PM |
| 1 | At a Loss For WordsFirst off , change your mindset/menality. Try meditation or create a list of affirmations and tell them to yourself everyday. I think the main issue with you is your lifestyle. Find a hobby or two you can share with women, take up a yoga class or go to some interesting class. Once you have your lifestyle set, you have tons to speak about with women | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 10:05 PM |
| 1 | #-Closed a cute girl in schoolText her whenever you want honestly, it dosen't matter when you text her as long as you aren't needy in your texts. Use texting as a logistical tool to set up dates, or hang out sessions with others. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Gaming a MILF and need some pointersReally? If she has a husband, she'll most likely be rock bottem invested in you. Honestly, I think she's just having fun. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 10:01 PM |
| 14 | Stop looking at your damn feetBut... my feet are so sexy | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Should I lower my standards just to get laid?Try to see what she's like, if you like her see how far you can push it | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 09:59 PM |
| 1 | I hate committments. Lose my shit the day before a date. Mind hacks needed.Just have fun. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 09:28 PM |
| 1 | When I get a girl's number, I guess I should take her to a coffee date. What should we talk about during the date?Talk to her about your passions/interests. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 03:38 AM |
| 1 | What is your purpose for seddit?Happiness. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Is there such thing as a nice alpha?Balance is the key. Balance masculine/feminime traits. E.G: Tell a women she's beautiful and you find her attractive. Do this with strong body language/eye contact | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Been practicing seduction for 3 years....starting to lose confidence.When in doubt, check your intentions. ( Why do you do what you do ) | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 03:36 AM |
| 1 | F-closingOr just ask her out on a date.... and see where it goes. Express interest and hell know whatever she friend zoned him or not | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Seddit. What's the worst that's happened to you? Ridiculous mindsets.Overinvesting in a women, buying her gifts lavishing praise when i first meet her. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 03:32 AM |
| 1 | It appears I have hit another wall.Create connection stories or try to build rapport with her, you have to make yourself stand out from the other guys. Be vulnerable towards her, open up and create an emotional connection so they dont flake and so they call you | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 04:58 PM |
| 1 | I've lost it! Help!Build an attractive lifestyle, you'll have tons to talk about. Find a hobby or two that you can share with women. Or go join a yoga group or something and than chat with women there. Find your demographic | /r/seduction | 13/05/14 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT Say This Popular Word To WomenThis article though... Honestly its not the words, its the actions behind the words. | /r/seduction | 13/05/14 10:04 PM |
| 6 | CockblockedAcknowledge the person, and continue talking. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 05:41 PM |
| 3 | A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating.Genuine= being real with yourself, your thoughts/actions relate to how you feel. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Girl I've been seeing for 8 months says there's nothing I can do to piss her offShe likes you? how did she say it, was she happy when she said it? Remember that women live in the emotion of the moment, they act according to their emotions. Ive had multiple girls say that to me, and than one day they tell me im an asshole. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 05:40 PM |
| 1 | I experienced the power of vulnerability first hand tonight.Good work, the key thing to take here is that you should never allow a women's emotions to affect you more than your own. Props. :) | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 05:39 PM |
| 1 | A Thank You NoteThis sub helped lay out the foundation, but you've done the work. Good work job! :) | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 03:22 AM |
| 1 | How to shake the feeling of losingMy advice to you is change your menality. Get the book Feeling good by David burns, it'll help change your menality and how you communicate with yourself. Honestly, being 22 and not having a girlfriend is really no big deal. There are 40 year olds that have never dated women, so you aren't at a bad spot. If you want a girlfriend, find a women you like and start using boyfriend type communication. Communicate with women on a deep level, be there for her when she needs it, gift giving, dates. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Forgot "the zone" and AA is back in me... let's make list on breaking it.Acknowledge your problem, learn to find the root cause behind you comparing yourself to everyone. I used to have this problem, and it was fixed by me genuienly making an effort to improve my life | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 03:18 AM |
| 1 | I get women, lots of one nighters, but...Change your behavior and mannerisms. If you want a relationship ,you need to communicate your intentions to the women you like. Typically, relationship behavior is going on dates with each other, being there with one another, connecting on a deep level, gift giving... stuff like that. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 03:17 AM |
| 2 | When am I doing enough?- venting and advice seekingMan you are overthinking this. You have your lifestyle laid out for you quite well judging by what you wrote on your post. I think the real problem is communcation/anxiety. You need to approach women you find attractive ( Could be anywhere, bars w/e), and share your life with them. Sharing= vulnerability= true confidence. Go out and approach women and share your life with them. I'm 100% sure you'll attract at least one that you'll enjoy. :) | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 05:31 PM |
| 3 | You're in a new city. You have no friends and there are no women at your workplace. How do you get a girlfriend?Leave the house. 2. Find a hobby. 3. Find venues close to you such as bars, single meet ups, or any other social gathering. 4. Connect with, and meet as many women as you'd like. | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 05:29 PM |
| 2 | I have no AA, no fear of rejection, no inhibition, but just no success. Where am I failing?its about being vulnerable. Maybe the women feel like you aren't a real person. They may feel you're fake or just not genuiene. Try opening up more, and talking about odd ball topics that people don't usually talk about such as your passion. | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Comparing YourselfHonestly the best way to get over this is to work on your three fundamentals. Lifestyle, courage and communication. Develop each of these as much as possible and try to invest in yourself as much as you can. Instead of comparing yourself to them, compare yourself to where you are. Thoughts create feelings/emotion, instead of overly comparing yourself to others. Just realize how amazing you truly are | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Can someone explain how one smiles with one's eyes without necessarily smiling with one's mouth? ..please.Think of a experience in your life that made you genuienly happy, and see how you smile. Now use that smile when you meet people :) | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Get friendly with awkward. Appproach strangers.Instead of thinking how awkward it can go, think of the emotional connection you may possibly be able to create with a women. The only way to overcome one feeling is to create another stronger more positive one. Next time, before you approach her think about if that little sting of rejection is worth the possible connection/sex/make out that you may get. | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 01:04 AM |
| 1 | I get invited to 'chill' with women all the time. But that's the problem, 'chilling' is exactly what we end up doing. Help?There is truth to that. But he's not polarizing, and thus these women who are neutral/receptive become unreceptive. | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 01:00 AM |
| 6 | Get friendly with awkward. Appproach strangers.99% of approaches are awkward if you think they're awkward. | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 05:11 PM |
| 8 | How does one 'flirt'Flirting is basically showing any kind of sexual interest in another person. There are different ways we flirt. The way you dress is one way to flirt. By dressing nicely, being well-groomed and taking care of your physical appearence. The most common is teasing. Teasing basically means making fun of someone's insecurity in a playful way. Next time though, I want you to try to cold approach a women. Find something you like about her, and give her a sincere compliment. If you see a beautiful women… | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Cologne!I would go to the store and try out multiple ones, and find the one you like. Usually you can try a sample. | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 03:59 PM |
| 9 | I get invited to 'chill' with women all the time. But that's the problem, 'chilling' is exactly what we end up doing. Help?You are friend zoned by these women. These are obvious friend zone signs. If you want to be their lover, you need to get yourself out of that zone. "I don't want to risk our work relationship." Attraction is controversial, it is polarizing as quoted by mark manson's models book. If you want to create attraction, you need to take RISKS! Next time they you chill with them, ask them to spend time with you, but make sure they know its a date. "Hey, i really enjoy spending time with you. Lets try a d… | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Help please, AFC hereWell if she's apologizing it means she cares. If she didn't contact you at all she's disinterested. Call her again, and make a move on the next date if u get one. Polarize. Kiss her, touch her on her shoulder. Make a move any move | /r/seduction | 04/05/14 07:08 AM |
| 2 | Finally Happyread no more mr nice guy, the key thing to change your ways as a nice guy is to be assertive in all area's of your life. By this I mean take actions and do whatever possible to improve yourself in all aspects. | /r/seduction | 03/05/14 02:30 AM |
| 2 | How to be charming? Like actual physical things you can do?Dress well, anything that gives people good feelings can be viewed as charming. | /r/seduction | 30/04/14 05:38 AM |
| 3 | best book/resource for day game ?Models by mark manson | /r/seduction | 30/04/14 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Does saying these things make me look needy or confident?Depends on your intentions, if you're intentions are to genuienly share something with someone. You can say what you want. If you come across as nervous/scared or if they feel you're bragging. Than they'll feel that and look at you negatively. | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 10:31 PM |
| 4 | College Pickup (Help/tips)Change your intentions, just talk to women for fun :). No outcome, just pure enjoyment | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 10:13 PM |
| 3 | I am 25 and I have NEVER asked a girl out...do I have any hope?Buy the book Models by Mark Manson Now, apply his advice and I'm 100% sure that if you use it, you will change :) | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 03:43 AM |
| 9 | A note on confidence(Tip 4 for confidence: if you get rejected, it’s probably because of your game. Fix what you did wrong, and get back out there) I disagree with tip 4, sometimes rejection is not even your fault even if you have really strong game. Sometimes women may be very picky about your physical appearence, or may be racist and not even give you a chance because you are say chinease or indian. So I say rejection is a good thing my friend, it helps weed out the bad people and let in the ones that make you ha… | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Greeting people etiquetteFor the men/women I find a handshake is the best. Make sure its a tight handshake so they know you're a masculine man not a weak one! | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 05:10 AM |
| 2 | How to get young girls to come home?if you're comfortable with it, they'll be as well. if confidence isn't a problem do it. Confidence is about prioritizing your own beliefs as well as others. go for it man | /r/seduction | 20/04/14 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Beta gets the girl, not the alpha?Good luck man! Start slow is my suggestion. as I said go for light taps, than hugs, and high fives/props when she does something good. Change your attitude, if you're comfortable so is she! :) and np Im glad i helped! | /r/seduction | 20/04/14 04:54 AM |
| 11 | Beta gets the girl, not the alpha?Why are you approaching these girls? for validation? to prove something to yourself? These men are showing desire for these girls which attracts them. The next women you meet, just have fun with her. tease her, and try to get physical as fast/comfortably as possible. The #1 reason why men get friend zoned is because they aren't physical with women, a light shoulder tap when you meet her, than escalate from there would increase your success substantially. | /r/seduction | 20/04/14 01:58 AM |
| 8 | Beta gets the girl, not the alpha?When it doubt, check your intentions | /r/seduction | 19/04/14 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Does inviting a girl over for dinner as a first meet-up come off too clingy?I would just go for coffee | /r/seduction | 14/04/14 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Difference between Friend and date?IMO, the reason why guys get friendzoned is because they don't get physical with women quick/comfortably. | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Leading an interesting life when Im revising?Volunteer!, its only needy to tell a girl you're going to a gym if you brag about it, sharing isnt needy. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Put myself out there, got shot down.No change comes without pain brother. | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Full time student wondering about effective hobbies and what to learn more aboutSome good hobbies are yoga, playing an instrument, reading books, working out, dance classes, any activitiy where you can socialize with others is a good hobby imo. | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 04:35 PM |
| 1 | I either become a nice guy or an arrogant one when trying to seduction. How to avoid this?Well what helped me become confident was focusing on different aspects of life rather than just one (lifestyle, looks, fear). Confidence comes from how much you invest yourself, so find new ways to invest in yourself. I reccomend finding a few good hobbies, good social group, and increase your physical attractiveness. Hopefully I helped :) | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 04:34 PM |
| 7 | Hanging out with a girl with boyfriendStop pursuing. Girls that have boyfriends are not worth pursuing. | /r/seduction | 06/04/14 03:17 PM |
| 1 | How do you not let external things shape your happiness?Read Feeling good, it'll help you | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Seriously, i can't seem to get it right.. helpThe app is superficial. Everything about it is horrible. For the most part, most girls just want a fling or casual sex which won't translate to anything enjoyable long term. I would just flat out ask them out and meet them in real life instantly | /r/seduction | 02/04/14 05:40 PM |
| 1 | I'm so tired of oneitis.we hooked up, but i've been obsseessed with connecting with her and just hanging out with her, thats not bad is it? | /r/seduction | 02/04/14 04:25 PM |
| 1 | I'm so tired of oneitis.Thank you for this :), is it oneitis if i obsess over a girl that likes me back? | /r/seduction | 02/04/14 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Not sure if in friendzone or not.Try to go for a kiss, and if she rejects, you'll know. | /r/seduction | 01/04/14 06:50 PM |
| 0 | What do you think turns her on?Power. | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:21 PM |
| 0 | Share your advice for picking up the subtle signs women give out when they are interestedJust assume attraction, if you constantly think about whatever she dosen't/does like you it'll only give you a headache | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:21 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys react to girls trying to make you jealous?Wouldn't it be unattractive if i just said why do you think i give a fuck? wouldnt i come across as an asshole | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 07:45 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys react to girls trying to make you jealous?So every time she attempts to make me jealous, i just ignore it and let it go? or should i call her out | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 03:21 AM |
| 7 | Fortune cookies knows the bestrelevant name | /r/seduction | 23/03/14 09:10 PM |
| 6 | How much does being a stutterer ruin your chances?If you're comfortable with it, she will be as well. If she isn't, she's not worth pursuing | /r/seduction | 21/03/14 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Focus on the things that matter and everything will fall into place.What are some ways one can build an attractive life? | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 11:56 PM |
| -1 | Scientific Research on what women really want conducted by several universitiesInteresting indeed. There are alot of factors that come into play when it comes to female sexuality. Age is a big factor too. As older women tend to look for marriage while younger women just want to fucking have some fun. Very good read, thank you :) | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 01:30 AM |
| 1 | 3 months single from ltr, miserableI reccomend the book feeling good by David Burns. In your particular situaiton, you feel as bored and unhappy when you're alone. One of the suggestions from the book was to create a pleasure predicting sheet. Basically you need to get more involved in life! start planning more productive activities such as working out, reading a book, or learning a new instrument .Take a break from this girl as you two seem to not be happy with each other anymore. | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 02:09 AM |
| 5 | What do you guys do when you dont get a reply on the first text you sent? Story in commentsWait a few more days. She may be nervous or a billion other things could be going on in her life. | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 09:27 PM |
| 3 | How to approach a crush on facebook?Approach her in person. I know this is not the answer you were looking for, but its your best option. Do it right away when you see her as the longer the wait, the more excuses/anxiety you have. Simply go up to her and say hi, and follow it up with your name and talk about something going on in the uni. Best of luck to you bro :) | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Never taken a girl home with meAny examples of good social hobbies? | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 04:44 PM |
| 4 | The Interesting LifeHow did you make yourself interesting? I still need some help in the lifestyle department as I have trouble finding interesting hobbies besdies reading and the gym. Any suggestions? | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 04:43 PM |
| 1 | She cancelled first date, how to react?Try once more. Three strikes and she's out. Sometimes instead of women rejecting you, they give you their number and never talk to you again as rejection is quite a embarassing and icky situation for most girls. Reschedule once more, if she dosen't come. Move on. | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 02:17 AM |
| 0 | Help in selecting beginner booksIt'll help guide you, but you are ultimately the one who has to do the work in the end. | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Leave Your Virtual World Behindyes, we met up recently through a friend of mine and my bad I didn't see the moderation part. | /r/seduction | 14/03/14 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Leave Your Virtual World BehindPlaying video games can be a good hobby too. I've met quite a few attractive women playing league of legends. I've even formed a strong emotional connection with one of them. So i disagree with you saying that its pointless to play video games. | /r/seduction | 14/03/14 06:48 PM |
| 2 | I Have Crippling OnetitisMy best advice to you on dealing with oneitis is to find a hobby. Find something you enjoy and have fun doing it. I'm not talking about working out or self-improvement hobby. I'm talking about something like playing the piano or playing basketball. Get really good at it and enjoy doing it :). Doing nothing and thinking about her will only hurt you more in the long run | /r/seduction | 13/03/14 10:00 PM |
| 1 | How to stop seeking approval?Thank you means alot man :) | /r/seduction | 13/03/14 03:34 PM |
| 1 | What are some things that can be done to stimulate a girl's mind of excitement / fun or showing her you're a man and in control?Any bold behavior that polarizes will excite a girl. E.G: ask her out, create sexual tension through teasing, not taking yourself too seriously. | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Just asked and got my first number EVER, now I need advice on what to do?A number don't really mean much, don't read too much into it. Alot of the times girls give numbers instead of rejecting you as they don't want to be seen as a bad person by their friends. There's a very high chance she'll flake as you haven't built a solid connection with her, you're just another guy to her. Next time, try a compliment and than go for the number. I wish you the best of luck tho! | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 04:37 AM |
| 2 | My biggest fear that I'm sure others have as wellInstead of focusing all this energy on sarging women, why not build up your character and than women will come to you. Read models, and try to find a social hobby and get really good at it, one where you can meet women. E.G: Yoga | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 02:50 AM |
| 2 | I'm planning on doing a week of solo nights out. I need all the help I can get, since I'm a fucked up guy.I will heavily reccomend the book feeling good by David burns. I feel it is the perfect read for you, as it really helps people deal with the darker side of their inner game | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 01:51 AM |
| 2 | How to eliminate needinessboth | /r/seduction | 05/03/14 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Jealousy issuesI usually go out 2 times a week, and approach a few sets, but I feel jealous when i connect with a girl and her friend starts talking to her. It shows in my behavior | /r/seduction | 28/02/14 01:58 AM |
| 1 | Jealousy issuesAny suggestions on how to do this???? | /r/seduction | 28/02/14 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Jealousy issuesHow do I get the abundunce mentality? i always fall into the scarce mentality | /r/seduction | 28/02/14 01:47 AM |
| 2 | I have a question about using a dating siteExamples of attractive pictures? | /r/seduction | 28/12/13 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Deleting social media?Would it be alright if I used my HD webcam and took a selfie of myself smiling, or is it better not to smile? | /r/seduction | 28/12/13 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Deleting social media?Any advice for good pictures or enhancing one's facebook profile? | /r/seduction | 28/12/13 02:20 AM |
| 1 | What are some very good books on the topic of self esteem/confidence?pdf's please :) | /r/seduction | 26/12/13 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Good inner game books?Isn't this game more based on outer game? or is it a combination of both? | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 07:02 AM |
| 2 | I'm so sick and tired of people ignoring my messages. Fuck!!You might be acting too needy when it comes to talking with these people, that may repulse them | /r/seduction | 20/12/13 07:02 AM |
| 2 | Game vs. Good LooksThere are so many factors that contribute to who "wins" the girl. Outside factors such as the girl's mood, what the girl currently wants in the relationship and so forth. Looks will always make it easier as it'll grab the girl's attention most of the time. | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Looks Might Not Equal True Love — the Pros and Cons of Tinderhow do i log into a different fb account, my tinder has my old fb account and i cant change its age :( | /r/seduction | 18/12/13 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Had to write this for those who are strugglingThank you, i needed this :) | /r/seduction | 17/12/13 03:12 AM |
| 1 | I'm 19 and in Canada for a few days. Never been to a bar and am really excited. Anything I should know before going to a bar for the first time?Build social proof IMMEDIATELY! Make sure to be friendly to everyone, introduce yourself to the staff. Say hello to everyone, than walk away and come back. Be the fun, outgoing guy that adds value to everyone. The most important reason why you are there is to have FUN! Don't take anything personally! | /r/seduction | 15/12/13 12:30 AM |
| 1 | FR: Tinder Date. First time meet up. F close.I tried that but it just auto logins into my facebook account when i try to sign it. I logged out and deleted my account and than tried to again. It still shows my age as 28 when i changed my fb to 18 :( | /r/seduction | 13/12/13 04:31 PM |
| 1 | FR: Tinder Date. First time meet up. F close.How do i change my age on tinder :o, i changed my facebook profile age but it still shows im 28. I changed my fb profile age today realizing it was way beyond my age, but tinder didnt update | /r/seduction | 13/12/13 05:36 AM |
| 1 | How to stop caring what other people think, and be the person I want to be?Focus on yourself, invest in yourself. When you become an amazing person, you won't need validation. Validation comes from the feeling that you aren't good enough and don't meet society's needs | /r/seduction | 10/12/13 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Dates that aren't so expensive?Don't exaggurate the first date. Make it simple, fun and enjoyable. Go on a coffee date, and tell her you're going to buy her your favorite drink, than ask her to guess what drink it is. Make it unpredictable and fun. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 02:52 AM |
| 14 | Boring Human BeingHave you tried working out? have you tried yoga? have you tried taking karate classes? Keep trying new things, you'll find something that peaks your interest eventually. If all else fails, go online and take a personality test, than find out what hobbies match your personality. Shy/quiet people tend to enjoy reading more than outgoing loud ones. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 02:50 AM |
| 9 | [Inner Game/Conversation Skills] How to learn about someone without sounding like you're interviewing them.I used to be an "interviewer", it turned alot of girls off and I came off as needy and desperate. I changed this by asking a question than creating a statement. Something like this: Hey, I saw you from over there and i had to come tell you, you have an amazing sense of style I think that necklace is beautiful, tell me how you got it! I know lots of famous PUA's reccomend making statements instead of questions as you can generate endless hours of conversation with it. PUA's such as mystery and da… | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Ty for the first steps in the right directionCongratulations! I have a question for you, have you noticed a drop in your neediness the more you invested in yourself? | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 01:41 AM |
| 2 | I AMA former sex addict, who initially didn't get too much action. AMAWhat are your techniques for continuing the conversation? What do you talk about post approach to get her into beD? | /r/seduction | 06/12/13 08:59 PM |
| 3 | I AMA former sex addict, who initially didn't get too much action. AMAHow did you show interest in a women>? | /r/seduction | 06/12/13 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Self respect and cutting off girlsHow do you stop girls from taking control of situations? This girl keeps telling me to chill, and when i told her to stop, she said it was a habit.. | /r/seduction | 06/12/13 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Never stop gaming, even when in a relationship: personal storyWhat are ways you coped with the breakout? I have trouble with jealousy issues as well as over-investing in a girl? Any tips? | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 03:59 AM |
| 13 | Another reason to just approach and stop thinkingI think seeing the girl as just another person who makes mistakes, has insecurities, has fears and probably experiences similair emotions such as anxiety when they like a guy is how i like to think about it | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 03:58 AM |
| 2 | I think I got over my AAGood job mate! :D | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 03:55 AM |
| 10 | I'm asking a girl out for the first time in my life tomorrow.Before you ask her out, engage her in a fun conversation and make sure she's feeling good around you. Don't just awkwardly say want to go out with me. Women live in the emotion of the moment. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 04:34 PM |
| 3 | She agreed to lunch but my "intentions should only be friendly..she has been burned before"She's probably just looking for someone to be vulnerable with and connect with. try being her FWB? | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:21 AM |
| 2 | First approach in 5 years, want expert perspective.You had the right attitude man! You are here to gain a skill, not to get laid or get any results. In my opinion, there were a number of things wrong with your approach: You demonstrated a lack of social intelligence, you forgot to include the guy in the interaction. You demonstrated massive amounts of low value with the throw it out if you want part, not only that it made you sound needy, as if you are begging for her approval. 3.I think you could have opened by asking her about chemistry and wh… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:18 AM |
| 4 | 20 years old and the thrill is already gone...[HELP]You have inner game issues. You need to learn how to forge an emotional connection with a women. Based on what I read, you seem to be able to create massive amounts of attraction but no comfort. I suggest you give models a read. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:09 AM |
| 2 | A note on one-itis, outcome independence, and inner gameThis post should be mandatory to anyone trying to get into game. Beautifully written and a eye opener to those who read it ( including me) :D | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:06 AM |
| 1 | What books would you guys recommend?Models by Mark manson. That's all you need. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Uni library got chatting with a girl, no follow uperr movies was a bit over the top, I think a coffee date would have been better. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Question about "No More Mr Nice Guy". When do you listen to others?you could be reconsidering working on your behavior not should haha :P. Work on saying could instead of should, should is the worst possible word in the english vocabulary. Anyway i think he is trying to get attention as he feels he has to lower someone's else's value in order to gain value. I suggest you just let people fix their own mistakes if they don't appreciate you helping them. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 04:15 AM |
| 4 | Starting a conversation - advice requestedAsk your best friend to introduce you to her! Not only will you meet the girl you're attracted to, you'll build comfort and attraction instantly before talking with her making the conversation less awkward | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Question about "No More Mr Nice Guy". When do you listen to others?First off take off the word "Should", from now on use could. Should causes suffering as you feel you have to change something you did. The truth is you can't change something that's already happened. You could listen to people when they are genuinely trying to help you or give you real life advice on how to change yourself into a better person. You correcting your friends mean you care about them, and want them to be right. There's nothing wrong with that. If you correct someone and they don't l… | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what pains are you willing to go through to get the girl of your dreams?Just to list a few of my massive pains that i had to go through in order to beocme good with women: 1.Oneitis 2.Jealousy/envy/negative feelings 3.Dealing with guy friends( some were complete assholes) 4. Dealing with women who have personality disorders | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 10:45 PM |
| 1 | 18(M) New here and I have a bunch of questionsAction comes before motivation. Force yourself to go through the pain necessary to get good with women. I suggest you fix your inner game, as you have unrealistic beliefs such as you thinking you aren't confident enough to approach these women. I find the statement-question-statement-question is a good way to have a good conversation. E.G: Statement: Hi, i was just standing over there, and i had to come over and tell you that you have a good sense of fashion Typical response- Thank you Question:… | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 04:48 AM |
| 1 | How do i be more desirable to ALL women.Fix your inner game first, the rest will handle itself. Read the sidebars for this. There is no magic pill when it comes to anything in life, if you want something you have to constantly get out of your comfort zone, try new things and experiment. Expect pain. | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 04:40 AM |
| 4 | Any tips on how to be a good wingwoman ?Encourage himself to push himself beyond his comfort zone, be there for him if he's having a mental breakdown and force him to approach women, and have some fun! ( thats the whole point :P) | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 12:05 AM |
| 8 | I can't even look at a girl for 2-3 seconds.The reason why you can't look at women for 2-3 seconds is because you aren't comfortable with yourself. Go check out the book the power of eye contact by michael ellsburg, that book will save your life. | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 12:01 AM |
| 1 | From a non talker to a person who is thrown into bars and clubs, my throat feels strained at the end of the day. Is this normal?I suggest you start working out, or drink plenty or water or juice | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Don't you have an impression that the whole jerks vs. nice guys thing is just a matter of being interesting or boring?Jerks give emotions, they make women feel attracted to them based on their qualities. They are dominant, confident in themselves, independant, and escaulate physically with women. Nice guys are the opposite. They don't escaluate with women, needy, need others to tell them what to do, and agree with everything a women says | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Confidence issues.I think the mindset of you desiring sex, but not acting needy about it is the perfect one. I think you could try doing things outside your comfort zone and experiment. Take two steps forward, one step back is one of david deangelo's quotes on flirting. Look up cocky/funny methods. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Confidence issues.When you flirt do you think of just having a fun time and making the girl feel good, or do you want sex, or do you want to just get something the girl. The mindset is extremely important | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Confidence issues.You aren't building enough attraction, you also seem to take rejection as something heavy. Rejection is a learning experience, something to reflect on and improve. Never dwell on a rejection no matter how bad it is. Try to improve your body language, learn about fashion, get a cool hairstyle. I also think that women can see you want a response ( reaction-seeking), this is probably why they don't flirt back or friend zone you. You need to be completely in the moment and honest with your intention… | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 02:45 AM |
| 1 | How to join a conversation without being "that guy"?What kind of environement are we talkinga about? School? mall? club? You need to find a way to add value to the conversation. People want value givers not takers. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 12:05 AM |
| 1 | "There was never again a lover in my life who made me feel what he made me feel."It goes to show you that personality, looks, fame are not what women are after. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 02:51 AM |
| 3 | How do I make the most out of learning seduction in a retail job?Banter with women, give them suggestions on what they can wear that you feel fits them. Don't go overboard, other workers may see you and report you to your boss | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?Did you forget to build rapport, usually girls won't call a guy if you've built no rapport and only attraction. She may feel guilty for kissing you | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 01:00 AM |
| 1 | How do you move "forward" if there are no girls that are interested in you?Have you tried online dating? try it | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:38 PM |
| 0 | Dated a girl a few times and only talks about herself!she might possibly be narcisstic, i'd avoid her lol | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 08:54 AM |
| 9 | Struggling to talk to girls :(First of all, I suggest you start working on your inner game. You need to change your beliefs/attitude/behavior toward women and life in general. I suggest you check the inner game tabs in this site. Pick up Models as well that book will help you loads. Grab a gym membership and start working out. Working out will give you confidence as you can track your progress and watch yourself grow and improve. Go to a mall, and say hi to every single girl you see. Create small goals such as saying hi to 1… | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 11:56 PM |
| 1 | How do I change the mind set of "she's out of my league"?Stop puttign her on a pedestal, treat her like a normal person. You'll be amazed at the results | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Suave Lover podcast: Winter Holiday Relationships - get ready for managing relationship expectations for Thanksgivingis this stuff legit? | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 02:28 AM |
| 0 | Why is this happening to me?There is only one way to find out. Ask her out. | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 02:27 AM |
| 18 | Do Girls Know?I don't think they really care as long as they enjoy being around you. You shouldn't even be using formula's routines or techniques. Natural game is a better option nowadays. Inner game is becoming more popular in the PUA community. | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 02:26 AM |
| 1 | how to i start writing to a girl online?Keep it light, fun. Banter with her. Don't talk about logical things such as work, school or anything. Start with off with hi, what are your interests, than create some banter. | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 02:21 AM |
| 1 | How do you talk smoothly?Put your hands below belly level, it'll give you and the people you talk to more confidence | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Currently unemployed and live at home. Should I put off approaching?Well if you aren't going to hit the gym, at least do some cardio in your spare time. High intensity interval training is reccomended check it out. | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 12:28 AM |
| 0 | How do I change the mind set of "she's out of my league"?Think of them as a friend first, stop thinking of every girl as a potential girlfriend or someone you have to have sex with. It'll take away alot of pressure. | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 04:53 PM |
| 7 | AA never goes awayThank you for this | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Eye ContactI understand, you'ev found the treasure in the bay. Keep a secret, dont let other pirates find the treasure at the bay! | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Eye Contactgo to amazon and get the kindle reader on your computer. Download the free sample version of the book. It'll greatly help you before you buy it! :D | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Handling orbiters when they are your friends?The best way in my opinion to handle this is to date other women and have other options. You have the scarcity mindset which is horrible to have when it comes to women. If you show a women you have options and you are willing to walk away from her life at any time, they will most likely start chasing you and become more attracted to you. | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Eye ContactYes, read that immediately and use the techniques and information he gives you, it gives you both theroy + he tells you techniques to help you connect better with others through your eyes. I myself read the book and immediately saw improvements after a few weeks :P. | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 01:48 AM |
| 7 | Eye Contactyou are sending the wrong messages with your eyes. You're eyes should be warm, inviting, and geniune. People can sense when you force eye contact, make it happen naturally. If you don't understand this, look at some politicians such as bill clinton who have god level eye contact. I suggest you read eye contact by michael ellsburg. It'll teach you how to be a pro in eye contact in 2 weeks. | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Going out with a "10" tonight.. Help lolMake sure to edit your post after, i want to see how the date will go. We can give you feedback and help you improve from your mistakes :) | /r/seduction | 21/11/13 11:52 PM |
| 1 | This graph is interesting and disturbing at the same timeWhere did you find this? is this legit? | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Share excuses you've used and why they don't matterExcuse: She is that special person I need, I've created such an amazing connection with her, i will never be able to create something like that again Why it dosen't matter: there are so many women out there who may be smarter/hotter or who I can create something better with | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Hey, it's Rich "Gambler" La Ruina, ask me (pretty much) anything :)What does be more confident mean though, alot of people throw confidence around. Whats the best way or top 3 ways to build confidence overall ? :O | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Hey, it's Rich "Gambler" La Ruina, ask me (pretty much) anything :)What are your most valuable inner game tips? If you could pick any 5 what are they? | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Got the girl. Now what?Be spontaneous, unpredictable and continue creating attraction. As long as there is attraction, the relationship will survive. | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 04:36 AM |
| 0 | How can I become less of a judgmental asshole and relate to people better? (LONG?)I suggest you force yourself to hang out with new different people, see each person as a learning experience. If you act as if you like someone, you actually start liking them. Look at any positive features they may have. E.G: nice style/hair | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 04:31 AM |
| 2 | Is he interested or am I just bring overly optimistic?There is only one way to find out, ask him. If its constantly on your mind, just tell him whats bothering you | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 04:27 AM |
| 2 | Models by Mark Manson. Summarized by each chapter in a nice, short PDFHow is this book different from say Magic bullets or other pua books, why does everyone make such a big deal out of it o_O. | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 04:26 AM |
| 7 | Models by Mark Manson. Summarized by each chapter in a nice, short PDFAwesome man, thanks! :D, is it necessary to buy the real book after reading this? | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 01:26 AM |
| 24 | A thank you to Seddit for helping me overcome One-itis, One-job-itis, and helping me get my life back on trackKeep going man :'), I believe in you! As long as you are taking steps toward improving yourself and making yourself more attractive, it'll count in the long term! Btw read models by mark manson if you haven't, its the best book out there imo for pua | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Daygame - Isn't it a bit odd?wouldnt that come across as dishonest | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Daygame - Isn't it a bit odd?How about in the subway, how should I approach it there :O | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Daygame - Isn't it a bit odd?How do you transition after you compliment a girl, i always had trouble with that in daygame. | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 04:31 AM |
| 2 | I know how stupid I must sound, but can you explain kino to me like I'm five?Check out vin dicarlo's esculation ladder, it gives it in stages. Basically the the higher stage you progress, the closer you are to moving to sex. E.G: The first stage is light touch that builds rapport such as a slight touch on the shoulder or a high-five. The second stage is touching her shoulders with yours. the third stage is a hug. The fourth is a make out. the fifth/six/seven are sex. | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 03:59 AM |
| 2 | How do you tell if a girl's into you?whenever she engages you. Don't read too into it. If she engages you, she's interested if not she's disinterested. | /r/seduction | 18/11/13 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Seduction now compared to 20+ years agoNicely written :P, I think that technology has some benefits too. Online dating is one of the perks. Technology also allows you to communicate with girls when you meet them. I can't imagine how it would be for me if cell phones didnt exist :P | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 02:35 AM |
| 1 | The answer to 50% of the questions on r/asksedditSo in the middle of our conversation, i could say "Hey, how'd you like to come grab a coffee with me, ill treat?", or should i phrase it differently? | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 09:18 PM |
| 1 | The answer to 50% of the questions on r/asksedditWhat ways could i ask her for the date, should i just say lets go for a walk ?? | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 04:49 PM |
| 2 | 6 year LTR ended 3 months ago. Just feeling defeated, alone, and don't know where to start.Make yourself vulnerable, drop your guard around people, laugh at yourself when you mess up. Don't be afraid to let your guard down in front of someone, they'll think more highly of you if you act real rather than fake | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 04:01 AM |
| 1 | so ... i did my first approachBtw, next time a girl says she has a boyfriend, crack a joke :P. My favorite joke is when she says she has a boyfriend I say "Has her ruined your opinion of all men", this will test the girls sense of humour. Its high risk/high reward, but if you pull it off correctly, your value will increase ands he will find you more attractive | /r/seduction | 14/11/13 11:30 PM |
| 3 | so ... i did my first approachGood job mate :), One step closer to finding your dream girl! There is no such thing as failure, only new things to learn/discover | /r/seduction | 14/11/13 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Girls are attracted to multiple people. [Alternative title: flirty girls]Would reading be considered hobby, something attractive to women? | /r/seduction | 14/11/13 11:20 PM |
| 1 | The answer to 50% of the questions on r/asksedditShe enjoys romance heavily lol, she's into kpop and she loves drawing/dancing. The only problem I have is that her parents are strict christian parents, she told her friends that her parents dont let her hang out with guys. Any ideas? :( | /r/seduction | 14/11/13 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Girls are attracted to multiple people. [Alternative title: flirty girls]What were some things you did consciously in order to fix yourself and improve how you act in social situations? | /r/seduction | 14/11/13 09:18 PM |
| 1 | The answer to 50% of the questions on r/asksedditany advice on where to take a girl out the first date, is the movies or a coffee better? | /r/seduction | 14/11/13 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Why why why do men do this??? Please stop itTry to shift the conversation to something less superficial, try asking him about his relationship with his family, friends and his overall outlook on life | /r/seduction | 13/11/13 09:44 PM |
| 1 | [Video] The REAL Secret of Confidence that Nobody Has Told You Yet.I have a question, What if I look outward and people are giving me negative body language? Its hard to not judge someone talking to you when they are giving you negative body language | /r/seduction | 13/11/13 08:52 PM |
| 1 | The answer to 50% of the questions on r/asksedditSo if i ask out a girl ive known for the past few months, and someone who worked with projects with her, would i be seen as creepy in her eyes if i asked her out/ | /r/seduction | 13/11/13 08:36 PM |
| 2 | How does your game change once you begin an exclusive relationship?Same here I would love a copy :D | /r/seduction | 10/11/13 06:17 AM |
| 2 | Re: OneitisThat was a beautifully written post. I also have created a very strong connection with this one beautiful women in my school that I've been talking to for about 6 months. We are both very attracted to each other, but she comes from a very religious family that's christian and doesn't allow her to hang out with guys outside of school. I need your advice though, should I pursue her and try to find a way around her parents not allowing her to hang outside of school or should I drop her and meet oth… | /r/seduction | 09/11/13 03:55 AM |
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